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By *D04 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leigh

Does anyone actually meet after one message?

It's rare these day to get a a message that isn't words to the effect of 'Wanna meet tonight?'

The idea of meeting someone that thinks that's appropriate makes my skin crawl...

The pure lack of effort to get to know us is disappointing...

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By *averockrockMan
over a year ago

swindon

Not after a message but after 3 or 4 yes, I did and will do again!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Lots of people who go to clubs meet without even one message or getting to know each other.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I've met after 3 exchanges so 6 messages in total.

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

This is the swipe generation so I suppose people think the direct approach is fine, personally I can’t ever see it working with the majority but catch a desperately horny or lonely person at the right time it could be possibly

Not my thing

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By *D04 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leigh


"Lots of people who go to clubs meet without even one message or getting to know each other."

Clubs are a little different. You wouldnt just walk up to someone and start getting down to it without any interaction. So why should an online approach be any different

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By *D04 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leigh


"This is the swipe generation so I suppose people think the direct approach is fine, personally I can’t ever see it working with the majority but catch a desperately horny or lonely person at the right time it could be possibly

Glad we're not the only ones then!

Not my thing "

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I've had people who have sent a million messages and then proved to be no shows or fantasists.

I've had people I've exchanged a handful of messages with ,arranged to meet and had an explosive time.

Horses for courses and if that doesn't work for you that's fine.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Lots of people who go to clubs meet without even one message or getting to know each other.

Clubs are a little different. You wouldnt just walk up to someone and start getting down to it without any interaction. So why should an online approach be any different "

For me it wouldn't be any different but I guess for some people it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had a few meets from only exchanging a couple of messages, nsa fun is what it says on the tin.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Lots of people who go to clubs meet without even one message or getting to know each other.

Clubs are a little different. You wouldnt just walk up to someone and start getting down to it without any interaction. So why should an online approach be any different "

I've actually seen it happen in club a where exactly that took place - for example a couple playing on a bed next to another couple - one reaches out a hand and before you know it they're a foursome.

As someone else said it *is* horses for courses though - some people relish the immediacy and excitement of meeting off a couple of messages, others prefer getting to know each other.

Neither way is wrong, the only right way is the way we each as individuals choose to do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here no. In clubs. Yes .. attraction and feeling relaxed enough to play with whoever makes you feel at ease makes the difference.

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By *.TaylorMan
over a year ago

london


"On here no. In clubs. Yes .. attraction and feeling relaxed enough to play with whoever makes you feel at ease makes the difference.

"

Your profile is wow in a very good way... off topic but thought I’d share my thoughts hahha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve had a few meets from only exchanging a couple of messages, nsa fun is what it says on the tin."

There is a safety aspect to NSA especially for lone females x

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

My last meet was effectively after 'one' message - it was direct invitation from a husband to visit that night to play with his wife...

....the subsequent couple of messages were simply arranging a time and directions to their house...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone actually meet after one message?

It's rare these day to get a a message that isn't words to the effect of 'Wanna meet tonight?'

The idea of meeting someone that thinks that's appropriate makes my skin crawl...

The pure lack of effort to get to know us is disappointing... "

It’s not rare at all we get around 10-15 a day like this, there slowly getting less though as we block the people who send them. Our profile states we can’t do short notice meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone actually meet after one message?

It's rare these day to get a a message that isn't words to the effect of 'Wanna meet tonight?'

The idea of meeting someone that thinks that's appropriate makes my skin crawl...

The pure lack of effort to get to know us is disappointing... "

It has worked for me, why does it make your ‘skin crawl’ are you over sensitive??

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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It’s not my approach at all but clearly some enjoy it that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone actually meet after one message?

It's rare these day to get a a message that isn't words to the effect of 'Wanna meet tonight?'

The idea of meeting someone that thinks that's appropriate makes my skin crawl...

The pure lack of effort to get to know us is disappointing... "

Couldn't agree more with you. We grow tired of them. Shows a complete lack of effort. Does nothing for us especially when its obvious they have not read the profile. Do these guys really think they will arouse interest from a one liner. No it doesn't get us going at all. we just delete them !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone actually meet after one message?

It's rare these day to get a a message that isn't words to the effect of 'Wanna meet tonight?'

The idea of meeting someone that thinks that's appropriate makes my skin crawl...

The pure lack of effort to get to know us is disappointing...

Couldn't agree more with you. We grow tired of them. Shows a complete lack of effort. Does nothing for us especially when its obvious they have not read the profile. Do these guys really think they will arouse interest from a one liner. No it doesn't get us going at all. we just delete them !!"

Fair enough, it does work for some people though, if you are getting these messages then maybe you should change your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone actually meet after one message?

It's rare these day to get a a message that isn't words to the effect of 'Wanna meet tonight?'

The idea of meeting someone that thinks that's appropriate makes my skin crawl...

The pure lack of effort to get to know us is disappointing...

Couldn't agree more with you. We grow tired of them. Shows a complete lack of effort. Does nothing for us especially when its obvious they have not read the profile. Do these guys really think they will arouse interest from a one liner. No it doesn't get us going at all. we just delete them !!

Fair enough, it does work for some people though, if you are getting these messages then maybe you should change your profile "

Or maybe people should read it?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Absolutely not.

And no, I'm not changing my profile because people are lazy, stupid, chancers, or all of the above.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone actually meet after one message?

It's rare these day to get a a message that isn't words to the effect of 'Wanna meet tonight?'

The idea of meeting someone that thinks that's appropriate makes my skin crawl...

The pure lack of effort to get to know us is disappointing...

Couldn't agree more with you. We grow tired of them. Shows a complete lack of effort. Does nothing for us especially when its obvious they have not read the profile. Do these guys really think they will arouse interest from a one liner. No it doesn't get us going at all. we just delete them !!

Fair enough, it does work for some people though, if you are getting these messages then maybe you should change your profile

Or maybe people should read it?"

Some do, some don’t but if you want people to make an effort with a message you need to make an effort with your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely not.

And no, I'm not changing my profile because people are lazy, stupid, chancers, or all of the above. "

Do as you please, just as the people sending you ‘fancy a fuck’ messages are doing as they please

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Absolutely not.

And no, I'm not changing my profile because people are lazy, stupid, chancers, or all of the above.

Do as you please, just as the people sending you ‘fancy a fuck’ messages are doing as they please "

And they'll get precisely nowhere. Consequences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone actually meet after one message?

It's rare these day to get a a message that isn't words to the effect of 'Wanna meet tonight?'

The idea of meeting someone that thinks that's appropriate makes my skin crawl...

The pure lack of effort to get to know us is disappointing...

Couldn't agree more with you. We grow tired of them. Shows a complete lack of effort. Does nothing for us especially when its obvious they have not read the profile. Do these guys really think they will arouse interest from a one liner. No it doesn't get us going at all. we just delete them !!

Fair enough, it does work for some people though, if you are getting these messages then maybe you should change your profile

Or maybe people should read it?

Some do, some don’t but if you want people to make an effort with a message you need to make an effort with your profile "

Pretty sure we have?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely not.

And no, I'm not changing my profile because people are lazy, stupid, chancers, or all of the above.

Do as you please, just as the people sending you ‘fancy a fuck’ messages are doing as they please

And they'll get precisely nowhere. Consequences. "

They don’t care, no consequences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone actually meet after one message?

It's rare these day to get a a message that isn't words to the effect of 'Wanna meet tonight?'

The idea of meeting someone that thinks that's appropriate makes my skin crawl...

The pure lack of effort to get to know us is disappointing...

Couldn't agree more with you. We grow tired of them. Shows a complete lack of effort. Does nothing for us especially when its obvious they have not read the profile. Do these guys really think they will arouse interest from a one liner. No it doesn't get us going at all. we just delete them !!

Fair enough, it does work for some people though, if you are getting these messages then maybe you should change your profile

Or maybe people should read it?

Some do, some don’t but if you want people to make an effort with a message you need to make an effort with your profile

Pretty sure we have?"

I am sure you have, but you can’t please everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sure, as long as things feel natural then there's no issues with it in my opinion. Your instincts aren't often wrong

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By *rNaughtyNickMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

No chance I like to chat and get to know someone first before deciding to meet them and most first meets are socials need that chensitry and spark x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On here no. In clubs. Yes .. attraction and feeling relaxed enough to play with whoever makes you feel at ease makes the difference.

Your profile is wow in a very good way... off topic but thought I’d share my thoughts hahha"

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve met someone before after only a few messages and can honestly say the whole thing felt very stale. Wouldn’t do it again

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