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By *ast_jj OP   Man
over a year ago

Dublin and London

I think it would be great if the bi / bi cur option was broken down into top, bottom or flexible?

I think it would be a great addition? What do people think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are too many labels already. Why not just ask in a first message?

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By *ast_jj OP   Man
over a year ago

Dublin and London

I just think it makes it easier. I know I have sent messages to people and the response back has been sorry only my wife is bi or sorry I am bi top only.

Some people will distinguish what bi play they like on their profile but in my experience not that many.

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By *iReyWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

I think this would be great for women too, as in "Genuinely bi" and a "pillow princess" option too lol

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think this is a thing to sort out in a message. Where would it end? Spanking - hand/ implement/ sharp implement; degree of bruising or bleeding permissible; amount of injury caused as defined by the criminal law.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I think this would be great for women too, as in "Genuinely bi" and a "pillow princess" option too lol "

That would require honesty

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By *ast_jj OP   Man
over a year ago

Dublin and London


"I think this is a thing to sort out in a message. Where would it end? Spanking - hand/ implement/ sharp implement; degree of bruising or bleeding permissible; amount of injury caused as defined by the criminal law. "
I can see it doesn't cover all tastes but I believe it's a good start and would help.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"I think this would be great for women too, as in "Genuinely bi" and a "pillow princess" option too lol

That would require honesty "

bloody hell!!!! we cannot allow any honestly to creep into Fab!!!! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it would be great if the bi / bi cur option was broken down into top, bottom or flexible?

I think it would be a great addition? What do people think? "

It is a status option on the fabguys site, not really needed here imo

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By *errysMan
over a year ago

milton keynes and kent

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I think this is a thing to sort out in a message. Where would it end? Spanking - hand/ implement/ sharp implement; degree of bruising or bleeding permissible; amount of injury caused as defined by the criminal law. I can see it doesn't cover all tastes but I believe it's a good start and would help. "

I believe in talking to people you want to bone...

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By *ast_jj OP   Man
over a year ago

Dublin and London


"I think this is a thing to sort out in a message. Where would it end? Spanking - hand/ implement/ sharp implement; degree of bruising or bleeding permissible; amount of injury caused as defined by the criminal law. I can see it doesn't cover all tastes but I believe it's a good start and would help.

I believe in talking to people you want to bone... "
I understand that but it can get frustrating messaging when they are outside of your preferences and you out of theirs in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then think of every bi guy as versatile, then talk to them about what they might like to do and wait for consent.

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By *ast_jj OP   Man
over a year ago

Dublin and London


"Then think of every bi guy as versatile, then talk to them about what they might like to do and wait for consent. "
I do take that approach but I'm wasting their time and mine sending messages when they are not what I want nor me them. I just it makes life easier and I'm all for not wasting people's time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Then think of every bi guy as versatile, then talk to them about what they might like to do and wait for consent. I do take that approach but I'm wasting their time and mine sending messages when they are not what I want nor me them. I just it makes life easier and I'm all for not wasting people's time. "

Its hardly a waste of time typing a simple

"Hi. My name is Gary. I love your photos, especially (this one) because (why). After I read your profile and l love the idea of doing (this) with you. It might not be your thing, so is you have a look at my profile and can think of something you might like to do please let me know. Happy fabbing, Gary. X"

Simples x

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By *oppy and Rugby BoyCouple
over a year ago

Herts


"There are too many labels already. Why not just ask in a first message? "

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By *ast_jj OP   Man
over a year ago

Dublin and London


"Then think of every bi guy as versatile, then talk to them about what they might like to do and wait for consent. I do take that approach but I'm wasting their time and mine sending messages when they are not what I want nor me them. I just it makes life easier and I'm all for not wasting people's time.

Its hardly a waste of time typing a simple

"Hi. My name is Gary. I love your photos, especially (this one) because (why). After I read your profile and l love the idea of doing (this) with you. It might not be your thing, so is you have a look at my profile and can think of something you might like to do please let me know. Happy fabbing, Gary. X"

Simples x"
My name is John..joke! Ok. Bad joke!

I get what you're saying but if you apply that logic, then there is no need for the not looking for single guys function either? As like you say a simple message works instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Male here is bisexual but not into anal either way so do we need another option? Oral only? How far do we go?

Female isn't all that bi and will play with women in a group scenario so what do you call that?

Over complication if you ask us

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Then think of every bi guy as versatile, then talk to them about what they might like to do and wait for consent. I do take that approach but I'm wasting their time and mine sending messages when they are not what I want nor me them. I just it makes life easier and I'm all for not wasting people's time. "

I can't fathom thinking of introductory messages as a waste of time. I just can't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Simples x My name is John..joke! Ok. Bad joke!

I get what you're saying but if you apply that logic, then there is no need for the not looking for single guys function either? As like you say a simple message works instead. "

Ello John It would in an honest and civilised world. Some indicators simplify the search but if we reduce the process to such specific criteria we will miss out on the humanising element. There's so many guys on fab who already think it's as simple as ordering what they want. We need to connect then maybe one day all our fantasies come true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I can't fathom thinking of introductory messages as a waste of time. I just can't. "

Without that initial effort, what's the point? There are some people who are not very good at messages and spelling and such, but when you meet them they are engaging to talk to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I enjoy the journey of discovery to find out if someone who caught my eye can establish a connection, rather than filtering everyone out based on tick boxes.

Seems a bit like instashag where you can whittle down people based on a few preferences rather than learning if you can interact on a human level before getting to the sexy time.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


" I can't fathom thinking of introductory messages as a waste of time. I just can't.

Without that initial effort, what's the point? There are some people who are not very good at messages and spelling and such, but when you meet them they are engaging to talk to."

Sure. But unfortunately this is a text based medium, and I can't differentiate between "can't write" and "can't be bothered to write/ negotiate".

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

If it's significant for you, can't you put it in your profile text? I understand it doesn't fix the searchability issue but it would make it clear to anybody you are communicating with and knock time-wasting on the head.

I notice you haven't included it so why would anybody think it matters to you?

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

It would make more sense to me to include it in Interests, but I wouldn't want it in Sexuality. It's just too detailed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Sure. But unfortunately this is a text based medium, and I can't differentiate between "can't write" and "can't be bothered to write/ negotiate". "

Maybe we need a "Grammar School" filter as well j/k. We definitely agree communication is key.

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By *ast_jj OP   Man
over a year ago

Dublin and London


" I can't fathom thinking of introductory messages as a waste of time. I just can't.

Without that initial effort, what's the point? There are some people who are not very good at messages and spelling and such, but when you meet them they are engaging to talk to."
I completely agree. I just feel it would make that initial effort more successful for all concerned. But I understand your points on how far do you take it.

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By *ast_jj OP   Man
over a year ago

Dublin and London


"If it's significant for you, can't you put it in your profile text? I understand it doesn't fix the searchability issue but it would make it clear to anybody you are communicating with and knock time-wasting on the head.

I notice you haven't included it so why would anybody think it matters to you?"
My profile says open to most bi fun....maybe I need to be more specific...

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By *ast_jj OP   Man
over a year ago

Dublin and London


"It would make more sense to me to include it in Interests, but I wouldn't want it in Sexuality. It's just too detailed. "
That's a good idea...

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole


"I think this would be great for women too, as in "Genuinely bi" and a "pillow princess" option too lol "

lol, Not heard of a pillow princess. I'm Pansexaul Fem.

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By *irl1234xxxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

What’s a pillow princess? Sounds like something I’d be interested in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In one sense I see the point in having more choices and information to peruse, but I think I come down on the side of 'less information generates more conversation. x

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"What’s a pillow princess? Sounds like something I’d be interested in "

It's not a compliment. It's a woman who lies back and does nothing expecting the man to do all the work. Aka crap in bed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sack of spuds

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By *irl1234xxxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"What’s a pillow princess? Sounds like something I’d be interested in

It's not a compliment. It's a woman who lies back and does nothing expecting the man to do all the work. Aka crap in bed. "

Oh haha ok then, maybe not then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why not a tab so people who are just dreaming and have no intention to meet.

so Straight, Bi Curious, bi, time waster, dreamer, look at me, bunny boiler, bat crazy, only here to chat, not meeting, not my real profile pictures, fake....

I could go on lol

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