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New to the lifestyle.. tips

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By *dventures2019 OP   Couple
over a year ago

malmesbury

Any tips and guidance... how to take the first adventure

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By * little bit naughtyCouple
over a year ago

Bedford

Go to a club. You can have a look around and you won’t have to play if you don’t want to

If another couple (or guy or gal) doesn’t strike your fancy, it won’t be a wasted evening. And if either of you become uncomfortable it will be easier to leave. On the other hand if you have fun, it will be a great night out!

If there isn’t a club near you, do a weekend break to a city that has a club (or two).

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By *dventures2019 OP   Couple
over a year ago

malmesbury

Great, thank you..

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district


"Go to a club. You can have a look around and you won’t have to play if you don’t want to

If another couple (or guy or gal) doesn’t strike your fancy, it won’t be a wasted evening. And if either of you become uncomfortable it will be easier to leave. On the other hand if you have fun, it will be a great night out!

If there isn’t a club near you, do a weekend break to a city that has a club (or two). "

Totally agree with that, that's how we started. Other tips - talk about what your hopes and feelings are before each swing session and what you liked/didn't like after each one. Keep on talking!

Take things at your own pace, On our first club visit we didn't swap, just fucked together among others doing the same in playrooms. Next visit we swapped for our first soft-swing and did that during the next couple of visits until we had our first full swap and fuck. She took some time to feel ready so he didn't rush her.

Have fun, hope it becomes a regular and very pleasant part of your life, like it is for us!

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

Know your limits and boundries. Always keep talking to your partner, move your boundries/ expectaions as your lifestyle develops.

Most importantly HAVE FUN!

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside


"Go to a club. You can have a look around and you won’t have to play if you don’t want to

If another couple (or guy or gal) doesn’t strike your fancy, it won’t be a wasted evening. And if either of you become uncomfortable it will be easier to leave. On the other hand if you have fun, it will be a great night out!

If there isn’t a club near you, do a weekend break to a city that has a club (or two). "

same goes for meeting a couple from off here first, or a single fella, make it clear its just a social then if your not feeling it you can just leave, going to a club and being in experienced could be too daunting... id say just try meeting up for 1to1 socials first but it all depends and you two

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

If you do go to a club and feel a bit overwhelmed or shy hang out in the hot tub - everyone is always chatty in the hot tub

Only ever do what you are happy to do.....don’t feel pressured or pushed into anything - girls kinda rule the swinging world and what they say goes.

Lastly enjoy yourselves.....it’s so much more fun when you relax into the lifestyle - good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a listen to the “bed hoppers” podcast - they offer good real life advice on there. Also brings up some questions that are good to ask each other before u embark on any adventure! - good luck!

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By *pmsldCouple
over a year ago

kettering


"Have a listen to the “bed hoppers” podcast - they offer good real life advice on there. Also brings up some questions that are good to ask each other before u embark on any adventure! - good luck! "

I recommend bedhoppers to, some good down to earth advice on there and they are honest about the highs and lows from their experiences well worth a listen on the way to work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And don’t write things off without trying them. I was very reluctant to go to socials and clubs for a long time. A good social is excellent fun and it’s good to meet others with shared experiences. Be wary of house parties and check them out carefully - some are money making ventures with paid female company, others are enormous fun.

Above all, decide what you want from swinging and be comfortable with what you do.

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