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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I spend a lot of time hating my body... I'm riddled with arthritis and I suffer fibromyalgia both which when bad have an impact on my mental health. And I know I wont be alone in that. And my fab pics always show the best pose and the best bits. Until this week.

Until now I'd rather have had pics of my foof than my belly on my public profile but actually... I dont care. It's my body and it's time I stopped hating it and embraced it. Every fat flabby wobbly bit, every sore and swollen joint, every burning muscle.

To anyone who hasn't tried it....try and embrace your body. It's quite liberating xxx

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

Take up naturism, there are always ladies bigger than you, which makes you feel better.

I took up life modelling to help my body confidence and public speaking fears. You have the artist or photographer looking in detail at every bit of you. Very liberating.

Main thing, is no matter your size or shape, look good. Make up and hair done, some thought into your wardrobe, and a smile. You'll be surprised at the sexy reaction you'll get.

Dawn French for instance, I'm straight, but fuck me a sexy larger lady.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good for you. It's always good to love your body and embrace it.

I was born with a dent in my chest and I never felt conscious about it as it never bothered anyone I've met.

I've always liked my body but there have been times in the past where I didn't feel as confident. Not because of my body but with me having Aspergers Syndrome, I would have social anxieties but with the help of the friends I've made on and off Fab, I do my best to stay confident and not be afraid to approach people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Take up naturism, there are always ladies bigger than you, which makes you feel better.

I took up life modelling to help my body confidence and public speaking fears. You have the artist or photographer looking in detail at every bit of you. Very liberating.

Main thing, is no matter your size or shape, look good. Make up and hair done, some thought into your wardrobe, and a smile. You'll be surprised at the sexy reaction you'll get.

Dawn French for instance, I'm straight, but fuck me a sexy larger lady."

I love your pictures xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep. It's what I do when I'm meeting. No point covering up anything.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Good for you. It's always good to love your body and embrace it.

I was born with a dent in my chest and I never felt conscious about it as it never bothered anyone I've met.

I've always liked my body but there have been times in the past where I didn't feel as confident. Not because of my body but with me having Aspergers Syndrome, I would have social anxieties but with the help of the friends I've made on and off Fab, I do my best to stay confident and not be afraid to approach people."

An excellent way to be xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good for you. It's always good to love your body and embrace it.

I was born with a dent in my chest and I never felt conscious about it as it never bothered anyone I've met.

I've always liked my body but there have been times in the past where I didn't feel as confident. Not because of my body but with me having Aspergers Syndrome, I would have social anxieties but with the help of the friends I've made on and off Fab, I do my best to stay confident and not be afraid to approach people.

An excellent way to be xx"

Yep. My friends certainly helped pull me out of a dark place which I've always been grateful.

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By *TkitkatWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire

It can take a long long time to get over the little bits of us we don't like, we've all been there.... it's a moment to knock the confidence and years ti build!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It can take a long long time to get over the little bits of us we don't like, we've all been there.... it's a moment to knock the confidence and years ti build!

"

So true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is just want I needed to hear today...fabbing those fab body pics by way of thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I spend a lot of time hating my body... I'm riddled with arthritis and I suffer fibromyalgia both which when bad have an impact on my mental health. And I know I wont be alone in that. And my fab pics always show the best pose and the best bits. Until this week.

Until now I'd rather have had pics of my foof than my belly on my public profile but actually... I dont care. It's my body and it's time I stopped hating it and embraced it. Every fat flabby wobbly bit, every sore and swollen joint, every burning muscle.

To anyone who hasn't tried it....try and embrace your body. It's quite liberating xxx"

Good for you Blue...

There's nothing more sexy than a women who is confident in their own skin. I've Fabbed the sexy pics that I like and would suggest you continue to keep on keeping on.

Ps great eyes and sexy lips too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am forever telling my wife how gorgeous she looks but she suffers from body confidence and goes through stages of really hating / detesting her body.

She puts this down to years of being told she was too fat to borrow clothes from her sisters (may I point out she is by far and away the best out of the three of them in looks, body and personality).

I love every bit of her and I know I drive her mad grabbing her boobs when she is in the middle of something but I wouldn't have her any other way.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Sadly body-confidence is an issue for many women. We have learned that ALL women are beautiful. Having looked at your profile, ElectricBabyBlues, that goes for you too.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

For me there's nothing more attractive than confidence...someone who is happy in their own skin. I'm sure many of us have stuff we'd like to change. It's important to like who we are and accept the things that we cannot change and work towards changing those we can.

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire

I felt the same way and took a picture of me and hubs fucking, belly on full show. Spent 3 days having it on here but set to private wondering if I should post it public. Will the people interested still be interested and then I just thought fuck it. They'd see it anyway.

But if they don't like it then it's their loss. This is me

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I felt the same way and took a picture of me and hubs fucking, belly on full show. Spent 3 days having it on here but set to private wondering if I should post it public. Will the people interested still be interested and then I just thought fuck it. They'd see it anyway.

But if they don't like it then it's their loss. This is me "

Totally

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"It can take a long long time to get over the little bits of us we don't like, we've all been there.... it's a moment to knock the confidence and years ti build!

"

That's very true

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"It can take a long long time to get over the little bits of us we don't like, we've all been there.... it's a moment to knock the confidence and years ti build!

That's very true "

I know...why do we care so much what others think anyway!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"It can take a long long time to get over the little bits of us we don't like, we've all been there.... it's a moment to knock the confidence and years ti build!

That's very true

I know...why do we care so much what others think anyway!"

I don't know the answer to that. I'm one of those annoying people who genuinely doesn't care what anyone thinks about me as long as the people I care about think I'm ok. I wonder if it starts with thinking bad about yourself and having that reinforced by believing negative comments. I have noticed that people with low body confidence tend to ignore or deflect 100 good comments and concentrate on one bad one.

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By *irty workmanMan
over a year ago

lincolnshire

I tend to think I am what I am and happy with my body

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

When ever we get talking to a women the wife always asks "she has seen my fat pics hasn't she" like she's obese or something,it's upsets me knowing she feels like that,she's beautiful and isn't that big

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By *irty workmanMan
over a year ago

lincolnshire


"When ever we get talking to a women the wife always asks "she has seen my fat pics hasn't she" like she's obese or something,it's upsets me knowing she feels like that,she's beautiful and isn't that big "

Beautiful within no mater how people look

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wasn't going to post but hey it's a bank holiday. My wonderful oh has spent a good 2 years absolutely trashing my confidence to the point now where it doesnt matter what anyone says, I see disgusting and that's the end of it. I thought fab would help and it does in the most part.

To the OP I really hope you find your find your confidence and can love who you are and when you do you can help me Haha x

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Wasn't going to post but hey it's a bank holiday. My wonderful oh has spent a good 2 years absolutely trashing my confidence to the point now where it doesnt matter what anyone says, I see disgusting and that's the end of it. I thought fab would help and it does in the most part.

To the OP I really hope you find your find your confidence and can love who you are and when you do you can help me Haha x"

But your very beautiful and have great curves

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Wasn't going to post but hey it's a bank holiday. My wonderful oh has spent a good 2 years absolutely trashing my confidence to the point now where it doesnt matter what anyone says, I see disgusting and that's the end of it. I thought fab would help and it does in the most part.

To the OP I really hope you find your find your confidence and can love who you are and when you do you can help me Haha x"

Why oh why do people who are supposed to be closest to us feel the need to do this..they are ass holes in my humble opinion and it says more about him... xx

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By *irty workmanMan
over a year ago

lincolnshire


"Wasn't going to post but hey it's a bank holiday. My wonderful oh has spent a good 2 years absolutely trashing my confidence to the point now where it doesnt matter what anyone says, I see disgusting and that's the end of it. I thought fab would help and it does in the most part.

To the OP I really hope you find your find your confidence and can love who you are and when you do you can help me Haha x

Why oh why do people who are supposed to be closest to us feel the need to do this..they are ass holes in my humble opinion and it says more about him... xx"

I think your very sexy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wasn't going to post but hey it's a bank holiday. My wonderful oh has spent a good 2 years absolutely trashing my confidence to the point now where it doesnt matter what anyone says, I see disgusting and that's the end of it. I thought fab would help and it does in the most part.

To the OP I really hope you find your find your confidence and can love who you are and when you do you can help me Haha x

Why oh why do people who are supposed to be closest to us feel the need to do this..they are ass holes in my humble opinion and it says more about him... xx"

Indeed and he says he is helping me??? Not sure how lol

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Wasn't going to post but hey it's a bank holiday. My wonderful oh has spent a good 2 years absolutely trashing my confidence to the point now where it doesnt matter what anyone says, I see disgusting and that's the end of it. I thought fab would help and it does in the most part.

To the OP I really hope you find your find your confidence and can love who you are and when you do you can help me Haha x

Why oh why do people who are supposed to be closest to us feel the need to do this..they are ass holes in my humble opinion and it says more about him... xx

Indeed and he says he is helping me??? Not sure how lol"

Maybe he should help himself x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Wasn't going to post but hey it's a bank holiday. My wonderful oh has spent a good 2 years absolutely trashing my confidence to the point now where it doesnt matter what anyone says, I see disgusting and that's the end of it. I thought fab would help and it does in the most part.

To the OP I really hope you find your find your confidence and can love who you are and when you do you can help me Haha x

Why oh why do people who are supposed to be closest to us feel the need to do this..they are ass holes in my humble opinion and it says more about him... xx

Indeed and he says he is helping me??? Not sure how lol"

Oh that old chestnut. "this is for your own good" and "this will hurt me more than it will hurt you" . Perhaps you should repay the favour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wasn't going to post but hey it's a bank holiday. My wonderful oh has spent a good 2 years absolutely trashing my confidence to the point now where it doesnt matter what anyone says, I see disgusting and that's the end of it. I thought fab would help and it does in the most part.

To the OP I really hope you find your find your confidence and can love who you are and when you do you can help me Haha x"

Have you got rid of him?

People like that have deep issues. They need to destroy other people to feel better about themselves. The nastier they are usually means they are jealous of you. So take it as a massive compliment. Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Someone told me this the other way and it's very true for all those who have had people put them down..... Dont take criticism from someone you wouldnt take advice from.

The only opinion that truly matters is your own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wasn't going to post but hey it's a bank holiday. My wonderful oh has spent a good 2 years absolutely trashing my confidence to the point now where it doesnt matter what anyone says, I see disgusting and that's the end of it. I thought fab would help and it does in the most part.

To the OP I really hope you find your find your confidence and can love who you are and when you do you can help me Haha x

Have you got rid of him?

People like that have deep issues. They need to destroy other people to feel better about themselves. The nastier they are usually means they are jealous of you. So take it as a massive compliment. Xx"

No we have little kids and it's just easier to ignore and carry on doing my thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wasn't going to post but hey it's a bank holiday. My wonderful oh has spent a good 2 years absolutely trashing my confidence to the point now where it doesnt matter what anyone says, I see disgusting and that's the end of it. I thought fab would help and it does in the most part.

To the OP I really hope you find your find your confidence and can love who you are and when you do you can help me Haha x

Why oh why do people who are supposed to be closest to us feel the need to do this..they are ass holes in my humble opinion and it says more about him... xx

Indeed and he says he is helping me??? Not sure how lol

Oh that old chestnut. "this is for your own good" and "this will hurt me more than it will hurt you" . Perhaps you should repay the favour "

Yeah that...." I'm telling you I dont find you attractive anymore because I dont want you to die of obesity, it's not fair on the kids'

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Someone told me this the other way and it's very true for all those who have had people put them down..... Dont take criticism from someone you wouldnt take advice from.

The only opinion that truly matters is your own"

This is true but we come back to my earlier point, a lot of people have a very low opinion of themselves so the criticism just confirms how they feel.

My clothes are often commented on, not always favourably , I always think "I'd be long sorry to take fashion advice from you"

Constructive criticism I'll take happily but destructive criticism is nasty.

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By *ohnnw1Man
over a year ago

Bolton


"I spend a lot of time hating my body... I'm riddled with arthritis and I suffer fibromyalgia both which when bad have an impact on my mental health. And I know I wont be alone in that. And my fab pics always show the best pose and the best bits. Until this week.

Until now I'd rather have had pics of my foof than my belly on my public profile but actually... I dont care. It's my body and it's time I stopped hating it and embraced it. Every fat flabby wobbly bit, every sore and swollen joint, every burning muscle.

To anyone who hasn't tried it....try and embrace your body. It's quite liberating xxx"

There’s a few things here:

1. It’s easy to focus on - and give undue weight to - the things that we think make us less than perfect. But life’s too short to worry about things that we may not realistically be able to change so embrace yourself and how you look, you’ll be happier and, in actual fact, more attractive. I worried about losing my hair for ages but realised that the fretting got me nowhere. Obviously, I’m not to everyone’s taste but so what.

2. I love all types of people - beauty doesn’t come in one size or shape. I’ve always preferred the larger curvier ladies but I really do think almost everyone I’ve ever met is beautiful. This isn’t me just saying what I think people want to hear - it’s true. And I actually think more people are if the same mind than admit to being.

3. The women on this post are some of the sexiest, gorgeous women you could wish to meet.

4. Anyone who tries to make you feel bad about how you look is just a fucker and shouldn’t be given the head space.

I probably could have expressed all the above a little better but I hope you all get my point. OP, you are a beautiful woman - the pic of you in the shower is sexy and gorgeous xxx

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By *iscreet UnicornWoman
over a year ago

Windsor-ish

Thank you OP.

Because of this post i am about to set a private photo of me on all fours -taken from the side whilst busy -to public. I only ever send this photo with a message that says;

"I hate this photo but you need to realise how fat i am before you meet me"

I hope i have the confidence to leave it public xx

Claire xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None of us is 100 % confident.

We all have parts of us, we love, hate.

Lots of us battle to overcome our demons constantly

Large, small, scarred, birth marks. It makes no difference.

We can all praise ourselves for becoming more confident to a lesser or greater degree.

Pop culture has a lot to answer For, magazines, film stars, models.....whatever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and as a slight post script to all the people that make us feel bad about ourselves. Intentional or otherwise.

They still have to take a shit and no one is pretty doing that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"None of us is 100 % confident.

We all have parts of us, we love, hate.

Lots of us battle to overcome our demons constantly

Large, small, scarred, birth marks. It makes no difference.

We can all praise ourselves for becoming more confident to a lesser or greater degree.

Pop culture has a lot to answer For, magazines, film stars, models.....whatever."

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By *iscreet UnicornWoman
over a year ago

Windsor-ish


"Oh and as a slight post script to all the people that make us feel bad about ourselves. Intentional or otherwise.

They still have to take a shit and no one is pretty doing that."

Hahahahaaaa brilliant!!!

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By *ltcouple666Couple
over a year ago

cheshire


"I spend a lot of time hating my body... I'm riddled with arthritis and I suffer fibromyalgia both which when bad have an impact on my mental health. And I know I wont be alone in that. And my fab pics always show the best pose and the best bits. Until this week.

Until now I'd rather have had pics of my foof than my belly on my public profile but actually... I dont care. It's my body and it's time I stopped hating it and embraced it. Every fat flabby wobbly bit, every sore and swollen joint, every burning muscle.

To anyone who hasn't tried it....try and embrace your body. It's quite liberating xxx"

Yay for this last OP!! our bodies do the most amazing things every second of our lives..yet we often go around hating them as society has imposed a view on us that it's all about size & shape! Health is what's important, both mental & physical....this post has made me smile

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Oh and as a slight post script to all the people that make us feel bad about ourselves. Intentional or otherwise.

They still have to take a shit and no one is pretty doing that."

I'm not sure about this. Some people compare themselves unfavourably to other people all the time and articulate it as those people making them feel bad. It's not, they're making themselves feel bad.

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By *reenlanerCouple
over a year ago

bournemouth


"Wasn't going to post but hey it's a bank holiday. My wonderful oh has spent a good 2 years absolutely trashing my confidence to the point now where it doesnt matter what anyone says, I see disgusting and that's the end of it. I thought fab would help and it does in the most part.

To the OP I really hope you find your find your confidence and can love who you are and when you do you can help me Haha x"

You look great

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By *kus2Couple
over a year ago

west malling


"I spend a lot of time hating my body... I'm riddled with arthritis and I suffer fibromyalgia both which when bad have an impact on my mental health. And I know I wont be alone in that. And my fab pics always show the best pose and the best bits. Until this week.

Until now I'd rather have had pics of my foof than my belly on my public profile but actually... I dont care. It's my body and it's time I stopped hating it and embraced it. Every fat flabby wobbly bit, every sore and swollen joint, every burning muscle.

To anyone who hasn't tried it....try and embrace your body. It's quite liberating xxx"

Bloody well done

I (mr) hate my body but have been convinced by others i have a nice cock so i focus on that (yes sad i know). Mrs Uk hates her body but whenever we play both the m and f just pounce on her and say how wonderful she is.

your pics are fantastic and, in my opinion, when you play with someone you play with the person! The mind, the body, the personality. The whole package!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh and as a slight post script to all the people that make us feel bad about ourselves. Intentional or otherwise.

They still have to take a shit and no one is pretty doing that.

I'm not sure about this. Some people compare themselves unfavourably to other people all the time and articulate it as those people making them feel bad. It's not, they're making themselves feel bad."

I wasn't suggesting otherwise.

Of course we are making ourselves feel bad, but there are external factors.

Peer pressure, the media, our own mental health. Just how we believe other people perceive us.

On fab, frankly a lot of people are repulsive to each other.

The messages I've seen, from people, purely because they've been rejected, simply with a "sorry, you arent for me" or "no thank you" are vile. After enough of them, of course you doubt yourself.

But these people are wrong.

I praise literally everyone on this thread that is overcoming and indeed gaining their confidence.

That is down to them.

"They" are doing that!!

As much as they have the ability to make themselves feel bad, "they" are turning it around.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Oh and as a slight post script to all the people that make us feel bad about ourselves. Intentional or otherwise.

They still have to take a shit and no one is pretty doing that.

I'm not sure about this. Some people compare themselves unfavourably to other people all the time and articulate it as those people making them feel bad. It's not, they're making themselves feel bad.

I wasn't suggesting otherwise.

Of course we are making ourselves feel bad, but there are external factors.

Peer pressure, the media, our own mental health. Just how we believe other people perceive us.

On fab, frankly a lot of people are repulsive to each other.

The messages I've seen, from people, purely because they've been rejected, simply with a "sorry, you arent for me" or "no thank you" are vile. After enough of them, of course you doubt yourself.

But these people are wrong.

I praise literally everyone on this thread that is overcoming and indeed gaining their confidence.

That is down to them.

"They" are doing that!!

As much as they have the ability to make themselves feel bad, "they" are turning it around.

"

That's great

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By *rTall89Man
over a year ago

ipswich


"I spend a lot of time hating my body... I'm riddled with arthritis and I suffer fibromyalgia both which when bad have an impact on my mental health. And I know I wont be alone in that. And my fab pics always show the best pose and the best bits. Until this week.

Until now I'd rather have had pics of my foof than my belly on my public profile but actually... I dont care. It's my body and it's time I stopped hating it and embraced it. Every fat flabby wobbly bit, every sore and swollen joint, every burning muscle.

To anyone who hasn't tried it....try and embrace your body. It's quite liberating xxx"

Good on you! You're absolutely gorgeous! So I'm happy you're embracing your beauty ^_^ xx

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By *xpressionistMan
over a year ago

ST. ALBANS


"I spend a lot of time hating my body... I'm riddled with arthritis and I suffer fibromyalgia both which when bad have an impact on my mental health. And I know I wont be alone in that. And my fab pics always show the best pose and the best bits. Until this week.

Until now I'd rather have had pics of my foof than my belly on my public profile but actually... I dont care. It's my body and it's time I stopped hating it and embraced it. Every fat flabby wobbly bit, every sore and swollen joint, every burning muscle.

To anyone who hasn't tried it....try and embrace your body. It's quite liberating xxx"

I need to show my wife this, and your profile. She has exactly the same health issues, and possibly the onset of MS. It's the main reason she decided that we should end our couples profile some while ago.

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