FabSwingers.com forum: When is a no-show a ‘no show’?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

For reporting to fab purposes, what constitutes a no-show in your opinion?

Ghosting 24 hrs before a meet? Cancelling less than an hour before? Or do you actually have to be in the bar holding the drink for an (half) hour for it to count as a no-show?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they don't turn up. Cancelling is inconveniant but at least they told you

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By *astyEricMan
over a year ago

Hull

15 minutes wait, if no contact that's a no show for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think you can report someone for ghosting.

I think it's if they don't show and not explained why

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By *dores blackmenWoman
over a year ago

incognito mode ;-)

Cancellations are reasonable as they have told you,it's up to you if you feel it was genuine and whether to rescedule or block

A no show is when you have gone to the meeting point/they coming to yours,and they haven't turned up at all,I think that warrants a report

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Mine was due to turn up on Saturday night, I’m still at the bar, they should be here anytime soon

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Consistent and fair response thank you.

I hadn’t put myself out but it’s tedious selfish bollocks and there just seems to be more of it going on.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Not turning up to the actual meet. How long you give somebody after the agreed time is up to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was supposed to meet a lady in what turned out to be a right dump of a pub & sat there for over an hour getting bored watching Sky sport & deafened by the juke box.

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By *abrielle247Couple (FF)
over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria

"When I was supposed to meet a lady in what turned out to be a right dump of a pub & sat there for over an hour getting bored watching Sky sport & deafened by the juke box. "

Probably why she didn't turn up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reporting no shows???

Sorry but c'mon, please!

It's not nice, and frustrating and disappointing. However, no one signs a contact on here with a list of commitments or meet agreements.

I think a no show is actually probably a blessing, because someone like that is hardly going to be a spectacular meet.

I think it's ok to be peeved, block them and move on xxx

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By *bcums3Couple
over a year ago

lanarkshire

The problem we have is taking the time to message back and forward arrange a meet then a few days before nothing??? Why waste peoples time, we have to arrange ahead with babysitters and it’s just inconvenient!!..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Consistent and fair response thank you.

I hadn’t put myself out but it’s tedious selfish bollocks and there just seems to be more of it going on."

Same here, getting beyond a joke now, no shows, no messages or cancellation literally when I have set off walking or on the bus. Such a waste of time x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Reporting no shows???

Sorry but c'mon, please!

It's not nice, and frustrating and disappointing. However, no one signs a contact on here with a list of commitments or meet agreements.

I think a no show is actually probably a blessing, because someone like that is hardly going to be a spectacular meet.

I think it's ok to be peeved, block them and move on xxx "

I think it’s more if someone is serially setting up meets and not turning up. I don’t know whether Fab admin follow it up if there are a lot of reports. Anecdotally I’ve heard that they do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Consistent and fair response thank you.

I hadn’t put myself out but it’s tedious selfish bollocks and there just seems to be more of it going on.

Same here, getting beyond a joke now, no shows, no messages or cancellation literally when I have set off walking or on the bus. Such a waste of time x"

Yep. At least if meeting in a club you can stay and socialise and see if anyone catches your eye. It’s rare for me to arrange a non-club social with a guy because of flakey men.

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By *p2norfolkngoodMan
over a year ago

Norwich

"Reporting no shows???

Sorry but c'mon, please!

It's not nice, and frustrating and disappointing. However, no one signs a contact on here with a list of commitments or meet agreements.

I think a no show is actually probably a blessing, because someone like that is hardly going to be a spectacular meet.

I think it's ok to be peeved, block them and move on xxx "

Why shouldn't you report them that's why there's an option to do so and if they get enough reports action will be taken, that way if it's a Joker getting a kick out of not turning up they'll be dealt with, plus block them as well

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

The only possible definition of a no show is in the name, no show. If they don't turn up at the agreed place and time then they are a no show. If they are ghosting or something else then it cannot be considered as a no show, although it is just as annoying.

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By *piritsonfabCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

That would be so annoying.

That's the main reason why we only meet in clubs. At least we'll have a good night regardless of whether the guy shows up or not;)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mine was due to turn up on Saturday night, I’m still at the bar, they should be here anytime soon

Tbh, This sort of a no show wouldn’t be the worst experience I could ever have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I was supposed to meet a lady in what turned out to be a right dump of a pub & sat there for over an hour getting bored watching Sky sport & deafened by the juke box.

Probably why she didn't turn up.

It was her suggestion to meet in that particular pub.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"For reporting to fab purposes, what constitutes a no-show in your opinion?

Ghosting 24 hrs before a meet? Cancelling less than an hour before? Or do you actually have to be in the bar holding the drink for an (half) hour for it to count as a no-show?"

Sitting in the bar by yourself, 30 minutes after the agreed time, is a confirmed no-show.

Ghosting before the meet could be a bad case of nerves.

Cancelling in the run-up to the meet can happen for various reasons, and at least they contacted you to let you know.

Was the person who let you down, well verified OP? If they've met others, it does seem odd they left you hanging with no explanation

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"For reporting to fab purposes, what constitutes a no-show in your opinion?

Ghosting 24 hrs before a meet? Cancelling less than an hour before? Or do you actually have to be in the bar holding the drink for an (half) hour for it to count as a no-show?

Sitting in the bar by yourself, 30 minutes after the agreed time, is a confirmed no-show.

Ghosting before the meet could be a bad case of nerves.

Cancelling in the run-up to the meet can happen for various reasons, and at least they contacted you to let you know.

Was the person who let you down, well verified OP? If they've met others, it does seem odd they left you hanging with no explanation

Even if they had I wouldn’t see anything particularly personal or sinister in it. I’m hardly the first person to have remarked on an increasing number of no shows and ghosters. It’s just irritating and time wasting. Time I would have preferred to spend on someone reliable, fun and willing to drop their pants..

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