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How do single males who refuse to provide face pic and a cock pics expect to meet??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi guys

We have been here for a few months now and chatted to many single guys but none have translated into meets apart from 1 couple who came to our hotel the rest of our fun has been in the clubs so far. This is fine and we have had some incredible experiences in the clubs, gang bang, MFM, MFF and MMMF which considering we only started after getting married at the beginning of March isn't bad going.

There's a few things that baffles us when trying to arrange meets / checking compatibility etc but the main one that sticks out is the amount of single guys (who contacted us) whom when chatting are unable to provide anything but a body picture. We understand the need for privacy totally but so many won't provide a cock picture and / or a face picture when we have asked for them after some rapport is built up. Bear in mind we have usually already sent them a face picture of both of us together and if asked we could send rude pictures in response to there's. So we are only expecting the same in return?

For a range of reason they can't / won't do it but yet they still expect to meet we just don't get it?

Take cocks for example they come in all shapes, sizes and types and are as unique as faces. Size isn't our motivating factor at all the wife's preference is uncircumcised and she says some cocks are visually very appealing whilst other cocks most definitely are not. Considering the female of the couple they are wanting to meet may be putting their cock in her mouth we don't think it's a lot to ask.

At least in the clubs you can see the person's face / cock before deciding on inviting them to play.

I'm interested in hearing from any single guys who don't provide face / cock pictures as to why? Also if this has impacted thier ability to get meets?

J & K

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone contacted me asking for a dick pic, I wouldn't send one. I don't think it's necessary to send one, you can do just fine as a single male on here with all clothed pics as long as you provide a face pic. In fact you can still get a shag without sending any pics just by attending gangbangs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never asked for a dick pic. I have met some, having no idea of their size. A face pic on the other hand, is a must.

Holly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate Cock pics. But its a must if they say Athletic and fit. So show me a up to date pic of the body not Cock and a face pic in one. I always provide pics of both if asked for but insist on seeing theres first.

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By *ifty69Man
over a year ago

north tyneside


"I have never asked for a dick pic. I have met some, having no idea of their size. A face pic on the other hand, is a must.

Holly"
Face pic should be sent as how will you find out compatibility. You may show up and they think you are not attractive to them and its been a waste of time.

Face pic swap is part of the process surely !!

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

If face and cock pics are important to you, insist on them being sent with the first message. Any messages that don't have attachments, delete.

It really is that simple a problem to solve.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Very few women/ couples will meet without a face picture, but that's their problem, not yours. Cock shot is more unusual to ask for, but if it's important, you might have to accept that guys might balk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'd be surprised how many single women refuse to share a face photo, but want to see yours...

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By *arren the doggerMan
over a year ago

willenhall

Anybody wanna see my inch n half ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you insist, I'll decline. I'm a person not a performing seal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the end of the day it's not Facebook... You share what pics you're comfortable with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve never asked anyone for pics on here I’ve always met blind unless they have pics on their profiles but more often than not I don’t even read profiles saying that been a long time since I’ve been meeting

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By *offee with MilkCouple
over a year ago

Over the roundabout and then turn right.


"If face and cock pics are important to you, insist on them being sent with the first message. Any messages that don't have attachments, delete.

It really is that simple a problem to solve."

Agreed. There are many profiles which state "No face pic = no meet". Let the dreamers dream on.

Incidentally, the guys who won't send the face pic are unlikely to show at meets too, despite what they may say. No point in wasting your time with them.

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By *istress CockneyWoman
over a year ago

LONDON


"You'd be surprised how many single women refuse to share a face photo, but want to see yours... "
Really?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You'd be surprised how many single women refuse to share a face photo, but want to see yours... Really?"

Yes really...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You'd be surprised how many single women refuse to share a face photo, but want to see yours... Really?"

If I name and shame I'll get banned.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"You'd be surprised how many single women refuse to share a face photo, but want to see yours... Really?

Yes really..."

The more common scenario I get faced with is this.

My profile: doesn't mention a face picture requirement

Guy: sends face picture. Chicks dig face pictures.

Me: continue conversation or not

Guy: gets upset that I haven't sent my face picture

Me: (if conversing) tell him I do so when I'm comfortable/ the conversation has progressed somewhat, and I never asked him for his

Guy: gets angry with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You'd be surprised how many single women refuse to share a face photo, but want to see yours... Really?"

Yeah really, I have heard some dubious excuses for them not sending a face pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you insist, I'll decline. I'm a person not a performing seal."

Good for you. Likewise. Some will fuck anything. Some have standards. If you just want a fuck and no pics im sure you will have no problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing that gets me is shadow profiles actually getting meets .. no profile pics or decent profile ... most they don't go to clubs but yet they somehow manage to meet.

A strange thing indeed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You'd be surprised how many single women refuse to share a face photo, but want to see yours... "

True, yet they moan.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they've pm'd me. I expect them to send theirs first. Some couples just think you should just automatically send one because they showed an interest.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

Both my former partner of 2 years and my fwb of 3 years are men whom I met for coffee without having ever seen a face pic or dick pic, and they turned out to be the best decisions I ever made. Two absolutely gorgeous men who exceeded my every expectation and became huge parts of my life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You only get to see mine if you've added me as a friend. that way, I get to see yours too.

If something is demanded of me, I'll just block, no matter how attractive you claim to be or how long we've conversed for.

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By *utsidenakedMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

I never send a pic with first message they can see my profile photo

If then they ask for a face pic I'll send a full nude including face so now you know what your going to get. If asked then can customs a pic to their request

And for the women that refuse to send a pic of them in return well it's not a couple just a bloke being a twat

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If face and cock pics are important to you, insist on them being sent with the first message. Any messages that don't have attachments, delete.

It really is that simple a problem to solve.

Agreed. There are many profiles which state "No face pic = no meet". Let the dreamers dream on.

Incidentally, the guys who won't send the face pic are unlikely to show at meets too, despite what they may say. No point in wasting your time with them.

"

Agreed before we got wise the ones who don't share or have face pictures tended to be flaky / back out / disappear when the reality of a meet was on the table.

Plus for every 1 guy who doesn't have pictures / won't share them there are 5 guys ready who will.

J & K

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You'd be surprised how many single women refuse to share a face photo, but want to see yours... Really?

Yes really..."

That's not really fair.

When we are ask for pictures our pictures are attached to the same message request. So there's no double standard.

J & K x

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"If you insist, I'll decline. I'm a person not a performing seal."

No one can insist you do anything, you either agree to their terms of contact or not, if you don't agree to their terms simply don't message them, block them and move on - that way everyone's happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You'd be surprised how many single women refuse to share a face photo, but want to see yours... Really?

Yes really...

That's not really fair.

When we are ask for pictures our pictures are attached to the same message request. So there's no double standard.

J & K x"

Well it's not really fair on us is it !!!

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By *anejohnkent6263Couple
over a year ago

canterbury

We just don't do face pics ....simple as that ...We don't ask for face pics either....chance we all take ...choices ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The thing that gets me is shadow profiles actually getting meets .. no profile pics or decent profile ... most they don't go to clubs but yet they somehow manage to meet.

A strange thing indeed.

"

Normally mines a shadow but only have a pic on at the moment because I’m organising a social

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

What if your arranging a glory hole meet at home? Half the point is its annon.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You'd be surprised how many single women refuse to share a face photo, but want to see yours... Really?

Yes really...

That's not really fair.

When we are ask for pictures our pictures are attached to the same message request. So there's no double standard.

J & K x

Well it's not really fair on us is it !!! "

We were agreeing with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You'd be surprised how many single women refuse to share a face photo, but want to see yours... "

I never send a face pic but won't meet without seeing theirs.

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By *aige CoolTV/TS
over a year ago

north west

I never understand why they send them to me as I have one .I know what a cock looks like

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By *haverMan
over a year ago

bracknell

Dogging actualy resolves this problem, you can see the goods there and then

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

If someone won't send a face pic after we have sent ours ,we just move on and stop the chat.

Everybody takes a risk sending one,but some people think you should meet blind,not happening.

I don't know about the cock pic but ,as we never ask to see one.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You'd be surprised how many single women refuse to share a face photo, but want to see yours...

I never send a face pic but won't meet without seeing theirs. "

Surprise, surprise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, I don't provide a face pic on fab and have rarely ever done that off it either and yes I've managed a couple meets.

I've had 6 or 7 blindfolded meets too where the other hasn't seen me until well into playing when blindfold is removed.

So there are many who do.

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By *urvy Girl 79Woman
over a year ago

Near Bourne

I got this too. If a guy is unwilling to provide a face pic then I tell him that I wont chat any further. Like your wife I also like to have an idea of their cock too. I've never had a guy refuse to show me a duck pic though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got this too. If a guy is unwilling to provide a face pic then I tell him that I wont chat any further. Like your wife I also like to have an idea of their cock too. I've never had a guy refuse to show me a duck pic though.

"

Quack

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By *lay 4 uMan
over a year ago

bolton

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By *lay 4 uMan
over a year ago

bolton

Really you have no face pics on show but you want someone else to show there's ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If asked politely and after a build up I’d share my cock picked if asked. I send the face pic with every first message so that they can chose straight away if I’m the right person for them or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

“You won’t be disappointed”

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By *urvy Girl 79Woman
over a year ago

Near Bourne


"I got this too. If a guy is unwilling to provide a face pic then I tell him that I wont chat any further. Like your wife I also like to have an idea of their cock too. I've never had a guy refuse to show me a duck pic though.

Quack "

Ha ha woopsie....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got this too. If a guy is unwilling to provide a face pic then I tell him that I wont chat any further. Like your wife I also like to have an idea of their cock too. I've never had a guy refuse to show me a duck pic though.

"

Try me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Really you have no face pics on show but you want someone else to show there's ?"

We have lots of face pictures for private, messages and friends just not set to public for absolutely anyone to see.

I'm guessing you skipped over the parts where we said we only ask for a face picture after first supplying a face picture of both of us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happy to provide any pics asked for if reciprocated

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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago

Ramsgate

I don’t mind providing pics and would like some in return - we’ve all experienced those who say they’ll swop and then disappear. I’ve had one or two blind meets and have been pleasantly surprised. I can understand some guys being a bit sensitive about face pics

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By *mwirralMan
over a year ago

wirral

Always happy to share or do live pic to prove I'm for real.

I also have face pics on profile

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By *laymateteeMan
over a year ago

Southampton


"You'd be surprised how many single women refuse to share a face photo, but want to see yours... Really?"

Very true

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By *laymateteeMan
over a year ago

Southampton

Some of us have reasons for not showing face pics and sharing them with every person who requests the on the first message due to the nature of work or jobs we do. At the end of the day you'd have sent your face pic to 5 people who have pics but are not showing their faces and we've all seen threads on here where people say thier pics have been used inappropriately.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

We didn't ever swop face pics on any site but then we did show face on cam to see if we get on that way and obviously to see what they looked like. If they didn't want to do that that was fine, but we moved onto someone who did

I ( Mrs ) would look at their cock pics before deciding on whether to chat or not( normally on their profile anyway ) as I liked to see what I could possibly be getting ...we all have our ways of picking someone to play with...but as you have found out, it won't always be your way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont send cock pictures, just personal choice. I prefer to allude to what it looks like rather than send endless pictures. If my face, torso and personality dont do anything for the lady then we probably aren't suited. Not to say I wouldn't send them after we have met, connected and possibly played.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You'd be surprised how many single women refuse to share a face photo, but want to see yours... Really?

Very true"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If one shows everything where is the interest and intrigue gone. Little to look forward to.

An Adonis look a like and sculptured cock has no bearing on how its used. A craftman with even poor tols will always produce better results than the best tools in the hands of incompetence.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

I have never heard of anyone asking for a cock pic to get a meet as that would leave nothing to the imagination

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

So no one looks at anyone before they meet? Blind meets were never our thing

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By *ex-a-frolicsCouple
over a year ago

Brizzle

Well I’ve never heard of people complaining about not being shown a cock pic, normally there are a plethora of unwanted ones on many single males profiles, they’re in your face like it or not.

As for not showing a face pic, then you just don’t meet them, as others have probably said, this isn’t blind date & without mutual attraction we wouldn’t meet. No we’re not shallow or supermodels but our free time is precious & if both of us don’t fancy both of them it ain’t happening & that’s normally communicated from the other party too.

Whether people like it or not, agree or disagree, them’s the rules, there are so many single males on here & couples have the pick of the crop, in our opinion if they’re (single males) not prepared to jump over hoops to stand out then they shouldn’t just be able to jump into bed with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well I’ve never heard of people complaining about not being shown a cock pic, normally there are a plethora of unwanted ones on many single males profiles, they’re in your face like it or not.

As for not showing a face pic, then you just don’t meet them, as others have probably said, this isn’t blind date & without mutual attraction we wouldn’t meet. No we’re not shallow or supermodels but our free time is precious & if both of us don’t fancy both of them it ain’t happening & that’s normally communicated from the other party too.

Whether people like it or not, agree or disagree, them’s the rules, there are so many single males on here & couples have the pick of the crop, in our opinion if they’re (single males) not prepared to jump over hoops to stand out then they shouldn’t just be able to jump into bed with you. "

Lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well I’ve never heard of people complaining about not being shown a cock pic, normally there are a plethora of unwanted ones on many single males profiles, they’re in your face like it or not.

As for not showing a face pic, then you just don’t meet them, as others have probably said, this isn’t blind date & without mutual attraction we wouldn’t meet. No we’re not shallow or supermodels but our free time is precious & if both of us don’t fancy both of them it ain’t happening & that’s normally communicated from the other party too.

Whether people like it or not, agree or disagree, them’s the rules, there are so many single males on here & couples have the pick of the crop, in our opinion if they’re (single males) not prepared to jump over hoops to stand out then they shouldn’t just be able to jump into bed with you. "

And this is why the block button is a good tool

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"

Whether people like it or not, agree or disagree, them’s the rules, there are so many single males on here & couples have the pick of the crop, in our opinion if they’re (single males) not prepared to jump over hoops to stand out then they shouldn’t just be able to jump into bed with you. "

Is this tongue in cheek?

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