FabSwingers.com forum: Do winks work?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sending someone a wink is an option as a way to show interest but do they work?

I know when I get a wink I check the profile out and make conract, but does everyine? Seen a few profiles saying "don't wink as will ignore", so is winking seen a lazy and if so should it even be an option?

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

I think it is an option, at least as an ice-breaker. However it is not as efficient as sending direct message.

For females and males, I don't think you need winks because you can send message directly.

But personally, for me, as a CD, if I want to initiate contact, I will wink first and see if they respond, as some are offended by our presence/contact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer winks tbh ... they've checked me out so I check them out back! Occasionally will wink back too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people don't mind being winked at and don't consider it lazy. It lets a person know you're interested, without filling up their inbox even more.

Some people prefer messages because they like feeling wanted and a big number on their inbox counter.

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

It all depends on our/my mood! We respond more to messages, but if we like the profile then we wink back especially if I’ve no time to message, other than that I might message to say thanks for the wink and see where it leads. It’s a nice option to have the wink facility

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By *hunkyThighsMan
over a year ago

Gloucester

I like to wink.

As post above said some people say it’s lazy. What’s lazy is sending copy and pasted messages. I’d rather wink, and if I get a wink in reply then I’ll send a personal message. Why waste my time writing messages to ladies of interest for them to go unread most of the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i receive a wink il look at the profile...if im inrerested il wink back.if not I won't.

If I was a guy on here I'd wink more than send messages

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By *osweet69Couple
over a year ago

portsmouth

As I'm/we are looking for single fems we know that these lovely ladies get a high number of messages which can be come a bit of a burden for them. We do not want to add to that burden so we send a wink and just hope they see it.

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

A message is so much better

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If i receive a wink il look at the profile...if im inrerested il wink back.if not I won't.

If I was a guy on here I'd wink more than send messages "

That's what I do, but noticed the "no winks" in profiles more often lately.

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By *rincessPussycatTV/TS
over a year ago

a world of her own

I ignore tham unless the profile really catches my eye for some reason.

So in that sense, I guess they do work yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never look at mine....or friends requests

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wink to show interest and if wink back then send a message.

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By *ilks xXxWoman
over a year ago

East Mids

I like winks. It’s a good way to show interest without being pushy. I liken it to a glance you’d give in a bar to someone you fancy .... testing the water

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By *laymateteeMan
over a year ago

Southampton

They've worked for me and as others have said,it shows you're interested and gives the other person a chance to check out your profile and if they wink back you can start chatting

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By *ittleRed18Woman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"I like winks. It’s a good way to show interest without being pushy. I liken it to a glance you’d give in a bar to someone you fancy .... testing the water

That's exactly how I feel. I have single guys blocked on here so if I find one I like I'll wink to show interest subtly. I like to make the first move just not in a pushy way.

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By *ilks xXxWoman
over a year ago

East Mids

"I like winks. It’s a good way to show interest without being pushy. I liken it to a glance you’d give in a bar to someone you fancy .... testing the water

Would like to add ... they are good as long as there is a profile with pics to see at the other end of one ... otherwise, what’s the point ?

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By *ilks xXxWoman
over a year ago

East Mids

"I like winks. It’s a good way to show interest without being pushy. I liken it to a glance you’d give in a bar to someone you fancy .... testing the water

That's exactly how I feel. I have single guys blocked on here so if I find one I like I'll wink to show interest subtly. I like to make the first move just not in a pushy way. "

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

We usually look at the profile but don't often reply to winks because most tend to come from miles away.

Because of our location we don't see any point in responding to a wink from Aberdeen when the profile says nothing about visiting our area.

The same applies to messages. If someone PM's us saying that they are visiting our area and have read and understood our profile then we will always reply. If not, then not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like winks. It’s a good way to show interest without being pushy. I liken it to a glance you’d give in a bar to someone you fancy .... testing the water

Would like to add ... they are good as long as there is a profile with pics to see at the other end of one ... otherwise, what’s the point ? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just wondering however, those that prefer winks, do you then not mind copy and paste messages, or messages with little to no thought in them? And respond to those?

I only ask, as by the same token they are expressing an interest, and I would propose, whether it be a copy and paste message, or not carefully written or thought out - it’s still taken more effort than clicking the “wink” tab???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like winks. It’s a good way to show interest without being pushy. I liken it to a glance you’d give in a bar to someone you fancy .... testing the water

Would like to add ... they are good as long as there is a profile with pics to see at the other end of one ... otherwise, what’s the point ? "

Agreed! I like the wink system, saves everyone's time writing messages that may well just get deleted. If someone winks and I'm interested I'll wink back and send them myself too sometimes, seeing the man we meet regularly started with me sending a wink

It's completely pointless with a blank profile though, although on previous similar threads I have seen people say they use them as a sign of appreciation of your profile, so perhaps they're doing that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A farmer buys a rooster to service his 200 hens. When he gets the rooster into the barnyard, he tells him, "Randy, I want you to pace yourself now. You've got a lot of chickens to service here, and you cost me a lot of money. Have fun, but take your time."

The farmer points him toward the henhouse and the rooster takes off like a shot.

WHAM! Randy nails every hen in the henhouse, three or four times. Randy runs out and sees a flock of geese down by the lake. WHAM! He nails all the geese. Randy runs to the pigpen, the cow pasture -- soon, he's been on every animal on the farm.

The farmer is distraught, worried that his expensive rooster won't even last the day.

Sure enough, the farmer wakes up the next morning to find Randy laid out flat in the middle of the yard, buzzards circling overhead.

The sad farmer shakes his head and says, "Oh, Randy, I told you to pace yourself."

Randy opens one eye, winks, and nods towards the sky, "Shhh, they're getting closer."

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

Sending a woman a wink I'd say doesn't really work, couples....maybe just have a read of their profile as some say wink if your interested. I've had winks sent to me as an invitation to send a message

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

"A farmer buys a rooster to service his 200 hens. When he gets the rooster into the barnyard, he tells him, "Randy, I want you to pace yourself now. You've got a lot of chickens to service here, and you cost me a lot of money. Have fun, but take your time."

The farmer points him toward the henhouse and the rooster takes off like a shot.

The farmer is distraught, worried that his expensive rooster won't even last the day.

Sure enough, the farmer wakes up the next morning to find Randy laid out flat in the middle of the yard, buzzards circling overhead.

The sad farmer shakes his head and says, "Oh, Randy, I told you to pace yourself."

Randy opens one eye, winks, and nods towards the sky, "Shhh, they're getting closer.""

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer a wink, then I can look to see if my interest is piqued enough to wink back, if that is responded to by anything other than a well thought out message and face pic it's a no from me.

I would rather have that than an unmanageable inbox and no effort.

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By *il73Woman
over a year ago

Hyde

Winks?! Who has time to check them out as well as the all the messages received?! Lol

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

"I prefer winks tbh ... they've checked me out so I check them out back! Occasionally will wink back too! "
This is exactly how I see them working. I have had a meet that started with a simple wink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering however, those that prefer winks, do you then not mind copy and paste messages, or messages with little to no thought in them? And respond to those?

No, 95% of all my messages are a waste of time and I don't even bother looking at their profile! But my winks, mileage dependent, I tend to check out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I prefer winks tbh ... they've checked me out so I check them out back! Occasionally will wink back too! This is exactly how I see them working. I have had a meet that started with a simple wink.

Rushes off to check my winks ...

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By *arly StagesCouple
over a year ago

Penwortham

We are big fans of the wink and don't see them as lazy whatsoever. It's just a nice tactful way of saying "we're interested, are you?" If we get a wink back then conversation can start. It's much better than getting messages that just say "hi" or "How's u?".

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By *ess n BenCouple
over a year ago

Didcot

We don’t mind winks you can have a look at the persons profile if they are not for you then you just leave at that plus it saves a lot of messages in the in box

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for me

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By *terobs6869Man
over a year ago

Llandudno

It's never worked when I have winked at someone, but I think that's just because women get so many messages blokes who can't be bothered to even write a short message have no chance.

However, as a man, I rarely get winks, except from other guys

, so I usually do follow up a wink from a lady or a couple.

But I usually find that they then ignore the message, so what's the point?

I did get one wink from a lady, who responded to my reply, and that led to something special. If anyone is familiar with my 'Bringing my wife...' story on here, that was the real life Chloe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are a waste of time for me. When I used to look at them regularly most of the profiles were blank! Or if I winked back at someone with a good profile nothing would happen. It's used as a great filter for people that haven't read my profile nowadays.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I never look at mine....or friends requests"

Me too

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By *hat The CuckCouple
over a year ago

Croydon Area

"They are a waste of time for me. When I used to look at them regularly most of the profiles were blank! Or if I winked back at someone with a good profile nothing would happen. It's used as a great filter for people that haven't read my profile nowadays. "

Couldn't agree more. I started looking at ours on the weekend, lost interest after 15 minutes as the majority had no photos or information on them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always wink. I'm just kind like that

sometimes I even get a wink back.......exciting times

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I prefer a wink, then I can look to see if my interest is piqued enough to wink back, if that is responded to by anything other than a well thought out message and face pic it's a no from me.

I would rather have that than an unmanageable inbox and no effort. "

*wink*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering however, those that prefer winks, do you then not mind copy and paste messages, or messages with little to no thought in them? And respond to those?

No, 95% of all my messages are a waste of time and I don't even bother looking at their profile! But my winks, mileage dependent, I tend to check out"

But why is a wink any different to a message?

By the very action, the sender has invested more in a message (whatever that message might be) than a wink?

I’m not being critical, just genuinely intrigued as to why folks prefer a wink over a message, why is it different, and better?

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By *rincessPussycatTV/TS
over a year ago

a world of her own

"Just wondering however, those that prefer winks, do you then not mind copy and paste messages, or messages with little to no thought in them? And respond to those?

No, 95% of all my messages are a waste of time and I don't even bother looking at their profile! But my winks, mileage dependent, I tend to check out

But why is a wink any different to a message?

By the very action, the sender has invested more in a message (whatever that message might be) than a wink?

I’m not being critical, just genuinely intrigued as to why folks prefer a wink over a message, why is it different, and better? "

Generic, minimal, badly spelt and crude or dumb messages tend to put me in a bad mood. Especially if I open a message to find a gross photo of some guy's cock.

Winks at least avoid that : )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to wink, cant always think what to put in a message as still finding my feet, always thought a wink lets them know im interested and the ball is in their court. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering however, those that prefer winks, do you then not mind copy and paste messages, or messages with little to no thought in them? And respond to those?

No, 95% of all my messages are a waste of time and I don't even bother looking at their profile! But my winks, mileage dependent, I tend to check out

But why is a wink any different to a message?

By the very action, the sender has invested more in a message (whatever that message might be) than a wink?

I’m not being critical, just genuinely intrigued as to why folks prefer a wink over a message, why is it different, and better?

Generic, minimal, badly spelt and crude or dumb messages tend to put me in a bad mood. Especially if I open a message to find a gross photo of some guy's cock.

Winks at least avoid that : ) "

Fair point

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"If i receive a wink il look at the profile...if im inrerested il wink back.if not I won't.

If I was a guy on here I'd wink more than send messages "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing works on this site. Ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I never look at my winks.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

For men, probably yes. For couples, maybe. For women, probably not. (can't speak to TV/TS)

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Just wondering however, those that prefer winks, do you then not mind copy and paste messages, or messages with little to no thought in them? And respond to those?

No, 95% of all my messages are a waste of time and I don't even bother looking at their profile! But my winks, mileage dependent, I tend to check out

But why is a wink any different to a message?

By the very action, the sender has invested more in a message (whatever that message might be) than a wink?

I’m not being critical, just genuinely intrigued as to why folks prefer a wink over a message, why is it different, and better? "

A wink says "I exist and am interested". A message has a chance to go further.

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By *ade and VanessaCouple
over a year ago

Central Scotland

Depends on the person you're winking at. I don't bother with them. I think if someone is actually interested and serious then they'll send a message

V x

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I think winks are fine by us if they are used respectfully. The problem is many people don't use them that way which I think is why some members just rule them out.

The way they work best for us is if somebody reads our profile and thinks we match what we have said are looking for. We then have a butcher's at their profile and take it further if we're interested. However, we would prefer a message that introduces themselves and shows they have read our profile by saying how we're a good fit and why they like us.

What's not respectful is when a chancer winks who has nothing to do with what we have said we are interested in, particularly if they are an unrealistic distance away, possibly just in with a blanket hit-and-miss strategy. Those are the people who spoil this site for considerate members. If we get too many of those then we will also join the ranks of people who ignore winks.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I think winks are fine by us if they are used respectfully. The problem is many people don't use them that way which I think is why some members just rule them out.

Yeah, I usually just ignore/ bulk delete winks. But repeat winkers who clearly aren't what I'm looking for (usually smokers in my case), I block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if you get a few it’s ok but if you get a lot of winks they just get deleted. I much prefer a good message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering however, those that prefer winks, do you then not mind copy and paste messages, or messages with little to no thought in them? And respond to those?

No, 95% of all my messages are a waste of time and I don't even bother looking at their profile! But my winks, mileage dependent, I tend to check out

But why is a wink any different to a message?

By the very action, the sender has invested more in a message (whatever that message might be) than a wink?

I’m not being critical, just genuinely intrigued as to why folks prefer a wink over a message, why is it different, and better? "

Because messages bore me most of the time and are time consuming I suppose ... I treat them much like a smile across the bar type flirtation! Easy to ignore and easy to take further but my choice without actually bothering me!

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

Yes they do ... if you play it respectful and smart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I check them maybe once a week, and usually just end up mass deleting.Sometimes the odd profile wiill catch my eye, but its quite rare.

I understand that other people do use them, so I don't think they're pointless. The only thing that annoys me is all the profiles stating, 'if I wink it means I'm interested.' Surely, that goes without saying!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only been on here a short while but had several messages and always respond, even if saying sorry to no more contact. But not had any winks yet (that's not my way of seeking winks by the way, as I am content that so far my profile has not attracted anyone) but I would respond simply because its polite to do so. But not sure how or what to say other than "thanks".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only been on here a short while but had several messages and always respond, even if saying sorry to no more contact. But not had any winks yet (that's not my way of seeking winks by the way, as I am content that so far my profile has not attracted anyone) but I would respond simply because its polite to do so. But not sure how or what to say other than "thanks". "

Oops, just looked in the right place and found seven winks in two weeks that I did not see I had - sorry to those who sent them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends who's winking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes because then I look at there profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d love to get a wink , don’t get many

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

It would depend on who has winked us and whether they are what we are looking for.

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By *nowwhitexxx1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

I always forget to check so they don't work for me

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Fans of winks here, had many meets that started with a wink. You can be selective as to whether to wink back or not.

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

I generally only use winks to express interest in profiles which are on the minimalist side but still interest me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks are a one way street. Wink at a woman and you might as well shout into the void, however if a woman winks at a man, he will without doubt either wink back or compose a reply.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Had a couple in four years. Replied, attempting to tick all the boxes, adding photos to both who then didnt respond at all. Reality is probably that most men will respond due to minimal activity other than outgoing, while single females and couples will probably ignore most/all due to the usual numbers game. Thus it will ever be so. Just saying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In summary... winks are of no material use...

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By *zmukMan
over a year ago

doncaster

"I like to wink.

This.

The success rate for most blokes is incredibly low for new contacts, so we get a lot of slaps before we get a kiss.

Combine that with a perfectly reasonable demand for personalised messages with some effort put into them, and it turns our quest into a marathon!

Factor in the numerous complaints about people getting inundated with messages so they just bin hundreds at a time.

So we wink - I like the look of you, but don't know if you would welcome an approach, so I'll wink you, and if you want me to take things further, wink back and I'll send you a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most certainly the large majority of messages are not worth reading, in fact most are a few words, inane and boring.

With a wink I can decide if it is worth striking up dialogue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like to wink.

This.

The success rate for most blokes is incredibly low for new contacts, so we get a lot of slaps before we get a kiss.

Combine that with a perfectly reasonable demand for personalised messages with some effort put into them, and it turns our quest into a marathon!

Factor in the numerous complaints about people getting inundated with messages so they just bin hundreds at a time.

So we wink - I like the look of you, but don't know if you would welcome an approach, so I'll wink you, and if you want me to take things further, wink back and I'll send you a message.

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By *rShinyKnickersMan
over a year ago

BARRY

I had a wink last night...Oh..wait...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After reading through this thread maybe I should think again about winks... save my messages for people that want to talk...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After reading through this thread maybe I should think again about winks... save my messages for people that want to talk...

Now you got it! ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I respond to winks depending on what mood I’m in.

Usually I wink to test the water and see if they respond. And maybe a few weeks later if I happen to come across the profile again, then I’ll try a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It has been the start of some great relationships....but rarely if I initiate the wink

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By *otwife2002Couple
over a year ago

West Midlands

We always use them to break the ice,sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't xx

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I have had some very successful friendships develop from a wink and a wink back.

I like a wink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like winks, both sending and receiving. It’s like a little green light of encouragement!

It’s always quite exciting when you get a return wink and if it’s not, it doesn’t feel as bad as when you’ve messaged and been either turned down or ignored. x

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

I think it’s 50-50 I have had messages off winks. But all in all I think is a good thing and it’s a nice polite way to show interest and does save some hassle

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

I received a wink at the start of the year from a young lady who I had noticed on the forums.I had wanted to message her before she winked at me but I was a year outside her age limit.When she winked me it allowed me to message her back.We messaged exchanged numbers and met up so yes I say it can work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on how full your winks and messages are and how your feeling at the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In theory winks are a good idea. As has been stated they allow interest to be expressed without filling the inbox. If it's returned you (in theory) are putting the effort into a first message with at least some hope they the person may climb down from their chaise lounge to read it, and maybe even reply.

Reduces the inefficiency in playing the numbers game which ultimately if you are on this site and not playing the numbers game then you are either stunning, male model material or not getting any meets.

Unfortunately, most profiles consider them lazy because it's far better for them that you write out a well crafted prose to contribute to their ego inflation, which they will then ignore. And if you don't supply them with their daily entitlement of ego boost then you're just lazy

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By *adtaffladMan
over a year ago

Rhyl

"I prefer winks tbh ... they've checked me out so I check them out back! Occasionally will wink back too! "
same here it's showing interest with out being direct

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By *ilks xXxWoman
over a year ago

East Mids

"Just wondering however, those that prefer winks, do you then not mind copy and paste messages, or messages with little to no thought in them? And respond to those?

Winks are slightly different, whether copy and paste message or not, a message of any sort adds an element of expected reply, IMO... a wink doesn’t hold the same expectation, .... it’s a glance in your direction which you either respond to or look away.

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By *ilks xXxWoman
over a year ago

East Mids

"Winks are a one way street. Wink at a woman and you might as well shout into the void, however if a woman winks at a man, he will without doubt either wink back or compose a reply. "

Well I am a woman and if I receive a wink from someone I like the look and sound of I wink back, in fact most of my meets have come from a wink rather than an initial message

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"Just wondering however, those that prefer winks, do you then not mind copy and paste messages, or messages with little to no thought in them? And respond to those?

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This

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"In theory winks are a good idea. As has been stated they allow interest to be expressed without filling the inbox. If it's returned you (in theory) are putting the effort into a first message with at least some hope they the person may climb down from their chaise lounge to read it, and maybe even reply.

Definitely true in some cases! Fab is often a 'no win' zone as a single guy, with some just looking for every way to look down from their castle because they can.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Yes I've had meets off the back of a wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Image had a few meets of the back of winks, me winking and others winking me. I have no problem with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never look at winks . I do forget.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

"Sending someone a wink is an option as a way to show interest but do they work?

If someone winks then we will look at their profile. However, if they couldn't be bothered to write a message in the first place then neither will we.

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

We don't mind a wink,it's an opening and sometimes does work,we check ours and if you'd what we are after then we'd send a message onless yours really fit then we'd go all shy and hide

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's quite nice to get a wink...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a couple we notice winks and return them if we're interested. On my single profile I get so many winks I completely ignore them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We prefer to receive a friend request

We get so many winks hard to acknowledge them all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We delete winks from guys on the spot.

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"We delete winks from guys on the spot. "

Lol sshhhh so do we don't tell them lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only when I'm already looking.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

One of the most interesting threads ever. Having seen so many single guys saying they can't win over the last couple of years, this pretty much proves it, with different folks having very diverse preferences as to their preferred approach.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I like winks as I feel they give a preliminary notification of interest and it can be a tough place here for single men - so it could save a lot of effort writing a message, when the recipient would look at the profile and delete the message plus potentially block.

A few poorly deluded souls get a returned wink and send a friend request

I check winks frequently but I'd definitely not assume that everyone even looks at them. Perhaps users could be allowed to disable them, if they don't want them?

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By *arah_kieran_ukCouple
over a year ago

Greater London

I like a wink if the wink comes from someone or someone’s matching what we are looking for as stated on our profile. A wink from someone that hasn’t read our profile or at least checked what we’re looking for is just ignored.

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By *odjamMan
over a year ago

woodford

I wink to show interest if there is a match. If I then receive a wink back I will send a message.

If I receive a wink then I will check profile and if I like I will wink back.

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