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How would you go about asking your new partner if they are into swinging

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Genuine answers only please x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This should be a good read when the answers come in looking forward to reading some of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What would you think you would say to ask the question yourself? Any idea?

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By *ohn321300Man
over a year ago

M

Either completely open communication or the moho upgrade quiz.

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By *ikeandmollyCouple
over a year ago

swindon

Hey I’m into swinging are you too? should be a Conversation that would be had well beforehand any relationship had got serious. But I couldn’t really be sure as I’ve only been swinging the last 7 month with hubby who I’ve been with for 22 years so no new partners here sorry.

Molly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe mention a bloke at work was telling me his mate in the pub last weekend him and his mrs had to a swinging club and they loved it but your pal at work was saying how shocked he was as they were the last couple he’d have down to go to one of them, have a little giggle and then drop the big one, have you ever been to one or tried anything else with other couples? Just an idea anyway lol

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

They should already have a clue of the type of person you are by your conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Genuine answers only please x"

It's not as hard as you think, I has a word eventually with the ex partner, turns out hes not as shy as I thought. He seemed more into it than me. What's the worst that can happen you both have different interests. Compromise usually work well talk about boundaries and take it from there. You may be pleasantly surprised. Even bring it up jokingly see how they respond to it! Should tell you everything you need to know

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By *aranelloMan
over a year ago

Sittingbourne

When talking about your past relationships etc, can mention that you used to do a bit of swinging with a past partner, that would open up the conversation into it and you will get a feel for whether she is into it or not

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

If I hadn't discussed it on a first date with the first two or three I would say something like " I have certain sexual tastes and I'd like to discuss those with you". I'd also make it clear that I wanted to discuss their sexual interests.

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

Neither of us were swingers when we met, but we'd both had plenty of extramarital play when married to our exes. One night we were watching a porn video shot in La Chambre, featuring ordinary people. During a scene featuring about 5 couples orgying, I asked her if she'd like to do that. She said "yes!" so we went to La Chambre the next Saturday night. We both loved the scene and went at least once a month after that, then started home meets.

It took us a few club visits to do a full swap, our advice is to discuss everything before and after each visit or meet and take things easy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was upfront from that start. In fact I was on a dating site and on my profule was open about being involved in the kink and swinging scenes.

I have no interest in wasting my time with someone who may have nagatively judged me. And I was also honest in that there was no need or pressure to get involved in either scene and indeed all we ever do is occasionally dabble

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By *anTouchThisCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Start by asking about fantasies and share some of yours. If the fantasy doesn't go down we'll, no need to bring in the reality. If it does get some interest, you can then expand on Fab, clubs etc at least for research if they're new to it and take it from there.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think the main consideration is whether it's a deal breaker if she says no.

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