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Benefit of the Doubt!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just wondered what folks opinions on this subject i.e how much and for how long!

I've had some great times with those that have been on site for eternity, with well written profiles, numerous pics and endless fantastic verifications. That said - i've also had a couple of belting meets recently with unverified newbies with limited profiles containing few specifics, obviously no veri's and huge 'friends lists' full of people they've no doubt never even messaged let alone met! And it always suprises me (pleasantly!) when I meet the odd person/couple who've been on for months with no meets that actually turn out to be genuinely nice people.

I'm well versed in how to go about life on here, so am not personally seeking advice or assistance - more curious to hear others points of view on the subject. After all, everyone will have their own viewpoint and any suggestions may help others in their pursuits!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I'll meet all sorts. I do use veris to help make up my mind but have met many guys who didn't have one. I don't subscribe to the view that people who have been on here for a long time without veris are fakes - men do find it difficult to meet. Or sometimes people just don't want veris!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why benefit of the doubt though? Isn't it just a matter of seeing something that attracts you and meet on that basis rather than meet someone you have no obvious attraction to.

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

dont quite know what you are asking, tbh.

if you are asking who will meet who, then we usually only meet people that have been on for a while, as Em has some problems with trust. we meet for a no strings drink and find anyone who wont isnt worth our time as they are only aafter a quick fcuk, and its not on offer.

our worst meet was with a couple that have been around the block, so to speak, and our best, to date, has been with a relative newbie couple, so you akes your chances, i suppose,

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

My 2p: Everyone has to start somewhere.

In the main - it's about finding someone that you have a 'connection' with. In reality (as a bloke), it really comes down to a question whether the couple/woman feels you they will have fun meeting you.

Tease the mind and hope the rest will follow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me to start messaging someone I need either an intriguing message or profile. I'll then chat to that person until I feel comfortable enough to meet (or not) so I've ended up meeting a few people who've only just started out on the site or have quite uninformative profiles and had good times.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"dont quite know what you are asking, tbh.

if you are asking who will meet who, then we usually only meet people that have been on for a while, as Em has some problems with trust. we meet for a no strings drink and find anyone who wont isnt worth our time as they are only aafter a quick fcuk, and its not on offer.

our worst meet was with a couple that have been around the block, so to speak, and our best, to date, has been with a relative newbie couple, so you akes your chances, i suppose,"

Sorry - guess I should have been a bit clearer (But it's Friday and it's been a loooooong week!). I was really thinking about it from a point of view of whether the appearance of someones's profile, combined with any lack of verifications and the length of time it had been on site would make it more or less likely that you'd look to get in touch, or respond favorably to any messages recieved.

Had another coffee now so am a little more awake!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My 2p: Everyone has to start somewhere.

In the main - it's about finding someone that you have a 'connection' with. In reality (as a bloke), it really comes down to a question whether the couple/woman feels you they will have fun meeting you.

Tease the mind and hope the rest will follow."

It's 5p now - inflation!

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire


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Sorry - guess I should have been a bit clearer (But it's Friday and it's been a loooooong week!). I was really thinking about it from a point of view of whether the appearance of someones's profile, combined with any lack of verifications and the length of time it had been on site would make it more or less likely that you'd look to get in touch, or respond favorably to any messages recieved.

Had another coffee now so am a little more awake! "

got you, well we wont meet anyone with an empty profile that has just joined, as its just laziness, ioo. we have ourselves had to remove everything off our profile becuase of a stalker couple, so we are very very wary of people now, unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not good! And blocking doesn't always work - I've spotted the same profiles crop up numerous times in the list of newbies - with very few changes in detail!

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By *ath-N-DelCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow area


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got you, well we wont meet anyone with an empty profile that has just joined, as its just laziness, ioo. we have ourselves had to remove everything off our profile becuase of a stalker couple, so we are very very wary of people now, unfortunately"

Understandable when "newbies" haven't filled out their profile...

We avoid those that have been here a while and still have nothing...

Will happily give people the benefit of the doubt soon as they start making an effort

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i've also had a couple of belting meets recently with unverified newbies with limited profiles"
At one point i was one of these profilers, till someone took a chance on me...up until that stage i felt as though i was an unknown quantity..so i can only hope i'm patient with those that are new...i think i'm kind of obliged to be.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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got you, well we wont meet anyone with an empty profile that has just joined, as its just laziness, ioo. we have ourselves had to remove everything off our profile becuase of a stalker couple, so we are very very wary of people now, unfortunately

Understandable when "newbies" haven't filled out their profile...

We avoid those that have been here a while and still have nothing...

Will happily give people the benefit of the doubt soon as they start making an effort "

good point! I guess there's many that if it's their first time on such a site are unsure how to best 'profile' themselves - but IMHO, after a few weeks of browsing others it should be reasonable to expect a more complete description. You can learn a lot from others on site - not saying you should cut and paste huge chunks - but should at least make the effort to update your details regularly. And I guess that kinda goes for everyone - particularly if your tastes and interests evolve!

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