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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I know its a site predominately about meeting up for bedroom activities, but when you start chatting to someone, if sex is the only thing they are able to chat about does it put you off?

I like a wee cheeky flirt but when every response you get back is about sex and someone comes across as having literally nothing else interesting to say it doesn't half put me off

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"I know its a site predominately about meeting up for bedroom activities, but when you start chatting to someone, if sex is the only thing they are able to chat about does it put you off?

I like a wee cheeky flirt but when every response you get back is about sex and someone comes across as having literally nothing else interesting to say it doesn't half put me off "

I love chatting about none sex things but worry that a woman won't think I want to meet.

I wait for a signal but think I miss them or they're waiting for me

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

They don't get a choice with me, I talk to people about everything from my periods to the spaghetti shapes I had for lunch, if my random chat scares them off, so be it. I only really talk about sex when I've grown to like them a bit

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"They don't get a choice with me, I talk to people about everything from my periods to the spaghetti shapes I had for lunch, if my random chat scares them off, so be it. I only really talk about sex when I've grown to like them a bit "

Yep. I feel a bit sorry for the poor sods sometimes - I'm one of life's talkers and yes, I do like the sex chat but that's never something I can do off the cuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They don't get a choice with me, I talk to people about everything from my periods to the spaghetti shapes I had for lunch, if my random chat scares them off, so be it. I only really talk about sex when I've grown to like them a bit "

Same. If they talk about sex before we've even met for a coffee I won't meet them at all.

They just want wank chat. Or a fuck and go. They can find someone else who wants that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"They don't get a choice with me, I talk to people about everything from my periods to the spaghetti shapes I had for lunch, if my random chat scares them off, so be it. I only really talk about sex when I've grown to like them a bit

Same. If they talk about sex before we've even met for a coffee I won't meet them at all.

They just want wank chat. Or a fuck and go. They can find someone else who wants that. "

Thats the feeling i get and it’s disappointing... pretty sure if i met them elsewhere they would have more chat ... its like the fab switch is on and the penis takes over the chat lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They don't get a choice with me, I talk to people about everything from my periods to the spaghetti shapes I had for lunch, if my random chat scares them off, so be it. I only really talk about sex when I've grown to like them a bit

Same. If they talk about sex before we've even met for a coffee I won't meet them at all.

They just want wank chat. Or a fuck and go. They can find someone else who wants that. "

Agree with this!! I like to chat about all sorts of things apart from sex!! The chatting is how you get to know someone enough to know whether you even want to talk about sex let alone actually do it!! All sex chat and I would be unlikely to meet them!! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To avoid this turning into a man bashing thread, I think there are just as many women who are quick to steer chat towards sex just to demonstrate how ' nawty ' they are

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By *inker999Woman
over a year ago

Kent

I'm struggling on here if I'm honest. They either talk about nothing other than sex. Or don't want to meet at all. It's boring me now, getting fed up. How do you ladies actually get meets off here??

I'd like a social coffee and see if we click before anything else. But never seem to get to that point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To avoid this turning into a man bashing thread, I think there are just as many women who are quick to steer chat towards sex just to demonstrate how ' nawty ' they are"

Of course, and they can meet the men who just want a fuck and sex chat.

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By *rincessPussycatTV/TS
over a year ago

a world of her own

Same. If I want to chat about all sorts I have friends for that, but if somebody here talks about nothing but sex I find it pretty tedious as I really like to get to know somebody a bit before deciding if I want to meet.

"Hi, how are you today?"

"Horny"

Gets old very quickly.

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By *inker999Woman
over a year ago

Kent


"To avoid this turning into a man bashing thread, I think there are just as many women who are quick to steer chat towards sex just to demonstrate how ' nawty ' they are"

I'd agree with that as well.

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By *Man1263Man
over a year ago

Stockport

I chat even more in person than I do via message.

They won't get a word in

However, as stated, some women don't want long conversation without you saying you want to bend them over the sofa etc

It's a fine line to achieve.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To avoid this turning into a man bashing thread, I think there are just as many women who are quick to steer chat towards sex just to demonstrate how ' nawty ' they are

Of course, and they can meet the men who just want a fuck and sex chat. "

They're often the ones who do the complaining about it

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By *weetandHungMan
over a year ago

liverpool

I like talking about all most everything really, its nice to get to know a person/couple what they are like inside and outside of the bedroom, see if there is some sort of spark abd ghere personalities.

Its not all about sex i feel, even though its great when that happens

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I dont do sex chat. They can wank off to someone else

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By *azkinsWoman
over a year ago

leeds

If someone asks me what im into,i assume they mean sex wise .Instant turn off they probably just want a wank. I usually say something like basket weaving bingo camponolgy trainspotting.Surprise surprise never hear from them again.That kind of tells me my assumption was correct lol.

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Stafford


"I know its a site predominately about meeting up for bedroom activities, but when you start chatting to someone, if sex is the only thing they are able to chat about does it put you off?

I like a wee cheeky flirt but when every response you get back is about sex and someone comes across as having literally nothing else interesting to say it doesn't half put me off "

Yeah

I need more than air between the ears. If you can't engage my mind you certainly can't engage my body!

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By *lim Jim 69Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

I'll talk for England lol..but not about politics thankyou.

its great to have a right old laugh over a cuppa..sex chat can be much later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know its a site predominately about meeting up for bedroom activities, but when you start chatting to someone, if sex is the only thing they are able to chat about does it put you off?

I like a wee cheeky flirt but when every response you get back is about sex and someone comes across as having literally nothing else interesting to say it doesn't half put me off "

Always do a social in a public place first to see if there is conversational chemistry....vital as you eeed something after you have done the deed and are recuperating for part 2 ...lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Click and Chemistry are everything and if you cannot hold a decent conversation what’s the point? Okay the sex still might be knee shaking fuckery but come on!

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By *ugga MannMan
over a year ago

Heathrow


"They don't get a choice with me, I talk to people about everything from my periods to the spaghetti shapes I had for lunch, if my random chat scares them off, so be it. I only really talk about sex when I've grown to like them a bit

Same. If they talk about sex before we've even met for a coffee I won't meet them at all.

They just want wank chat. Or a fuck and go. They can find someone else who wants that.

Agree with this!! I like to chat about all sorts of things apart from sex!! The chatting is how you get to know someone enough to know whether you even want to talk about sex let alone actually do it!! All sex chat and I would be unlikely to meet them!! x"

Completely agree with this! x

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By *ugga MannMan
over a year ago

Heathrow


"I'm struggling on here if I'm honest. They either talk about nothing other than sex. Or don't want to meet at all. It's boring me now, getting fed up. How do you ladies actually get meets off here??

I'd like a social coffee and see if we click before anything else. But never seem to get to that point "

Try chatting on kik for a while. You don’t have to expose your phone number like on WhatsApp and it’s immediate. You can really see if you can click.

I’d happily chat with you, although there’s no chance we’d meet due to the distance !! xx

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham


"To avoid this turning into a man bashing thread, I think there are just as many women who are quick to steer chat towards sex just to demonstrate how ' nawty ' they are"

As has been said, it’s a fine line. We love a good chinwag in a club, including about spahgetti hoops, but we’re also conscious of making it clear we’re there to play if everyone’s willing.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

My problem is the ability to run out of conversation (as anyone who knows me, knows).

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We chat about a lot of stuff but if we're going to meet someone to have sex then sex has to be discussed at some point. If talking about sex, even in general terms is off the agenda I'm not sure how you progress.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally chat shit with them about usual stuff. I never bring up sex, always wait until they do. Even then I don't go mental like it's a green light.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We chat about a lot of stuff but if we're going to meet someone to have sex then sex has to be discussed at some point. If talking about sex, even in general terms is off the agenda I'm not sure how you progress. "

Its definitely not off the table ... i just mean when it seems to be the only thing they have anything to say about

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Anyone going straight if about sex, we’re just bored of and feck them of quick

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"I know its a site predominately about meeting up for bedroom activities, but when you start chatting to someone, if sex is the only thing they are able to chat about does it put you off?

I like a wee cheeky flirt but when every response you get back is about sex and someone comes across as having literally nothing else interesting to say it doesn't half put me off "

Men do like to get to the point, its either sex or football us guys don't really know a lot about shoes and make up and what's happening or the latest reality celeb tv show.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I enjoy chatting but I’m quite boring really so after a few messages conversations come to an end

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By *Man1263Man
over a year ago

Stockport


"I know its a site predominately about meeting up for bedroom activities, but when you start chatting to someone, if sex is the only thing they are able to chat about does it put you off?

I like a wee cheeky flirt but when every response you get back is about sex and someone comes across as having literally nothing else interesting to say it doesn't half put me off

Men do like to get to the point, its either sex or football us guys don't really know a lot about shoes and make up and what's happening or the latest reality celeb tv show. "

Nope.

Weird and varied conversations.

Mostly on my own it seems

Whilst I agree with the tv, shoes, makeup (well the gist of it), many other things to talk about.

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By *aige CoolTV/TS
over a year ago

north west

I like to converse with someone it's much better sexually I think if its sex chat all the time then it's boring. Intelligent conversation is a turn on for me .I like music and can read it .I like to art .so anything to do with these is a turn on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know its a site predominately about meeting up for bedroom activities, but when you start chatting to someone, if sex is the only thing they are able to chat about does it put you off?

I like a wee cheeky flirt but when every response you get back is about sex and someone comes across as having literally nothing else interesting to say it doesn't half put me off

Men do like to get to the point, its either sex or football us guys don't really know a lot about shoes and make up and what's happening or the latest reality celeb tv show. "

I wouldn't meet anyone that talks about any of that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I generally chat shit with them about usual stuff. I never bring up sex, always wait until they do. Even then I don't go mental like it's a green light. "

Good to know, I’ll remember this...

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"We chat about a lot of stuff but if we're going to meet someone to have sex then sex has to be discussed at some point. If talking about sex, even in general terms is off the agenda I'm not sure how you progress.

Its definitely not off the table ... i just mean when it seems to be the only thing they have anything to say about "

Oh god yes, that gets old very quickly.

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By *Man1263Man
over a year ago

Stockport


"I like to converse with someone it's much better sexually I think if its sex chat all the time then it's boring. Intelligent conversation is a turn on for me .I like music and can read it .I like to art .so anything to do with these is a turn on "

If you can talk to me about your interest in an non-condescending manner (in your case art, of which I know little about) then ideal, we have a conversation and I learn not only something about yourself, but something about which I know little, its a win win for me

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

Got to admit I can't message someone and start going on about sex straight away, much prefer having a general chat a get to know them sort of thing and see if there's anything other than the sex chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know its a site predominately about meeting up for bedroom activities, but when you start chatting to someone, if sex is the only thing they are able to chat about does it put you off?

I like a wee cheeky flirt but when every response you get back is about sex and someone comes across as having literally nothing else interesting to say it doesn't half put me off

Men do like to get to the point, its either sex or football us guys don't really know a lot about shoes and make up and what's happening or the latest reality celeb tv show. "

Is that what you think us women can only talk about. ? I’ve never had a conversation with a man about those things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know its a site predominately about meeting up for bedroom activities, but when you start chatting to someone, if sex is the only thing they are able to chat about does it put you off?

I like a wee cheeky flirt but when every response you get back is about sex and someone comes across as having literally nothing else interesting to say it doesn't half put me off "

We're the same. If we have nothing in common other than swinging the conversation dies out very quickly and there's no way of any other proceedings.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Conversation seems to be a dying art, most people just want everything there and then - there’s nothing wrong with being spontaneous - personally I’d rather chat and see if there’s a non sexual connection before it goes any further. It’s not the same for everyone obviously, but the ability to hold an intelligent conversation is a massive turn on.

Anyone FaF?

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By *Man1263Man
over a year ago

Stockport


"I know its a site predominately about meeting up for bedroom activities, but when you start chatting to someone, if sex is the only thing they are able to chat about does it put you off?

I like a wee cheeky flirt but when every response you get back is about sex and someone comes across as having literally nothing else interesting to say it doesn't half put me off

Men do like to get to the point, its either sex or football us guys don't really know a lot about shoes and make up and what's happening or the latest reality celeb tv show.

Is that what you think us women can only talk about. ? I’ve never had a conversation with a man about those things. "

I think he was just generalising, not actually meaning it.

Well I hope so anyway.

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham


"To avoid this turning into a man bashing thread, I think there are just as many women who are quick to steer chat towards sex just to demonstrate how ' nawty ' they are

As has been said, it’s a fine line. We love a good chinwag in a club, including about spahgetti hoops, but we’re also conscious of making it clear we’re there to play if everyone’s willing. "

Also in our experience if we’re talking to a couple in a club it’s normally been the lady who brings up the sex talk first lol.

Sometimes that happens after a thirty minute chinwag, which then makes us wonder if we talked about vanilla stuff for too long.

I suppose it’s because we’re all very British about it, like that scene in A Fish Called Wanda, where Cleese says we’re all so terrified of asking about someone’s mother in case she died last week etc etc

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By *hunderstruckMan
over a year ago

Northampton

I don’t get women sometimes .

I can talk about anything . My work ( boring )

Sport ( most women are not interested )

Fashion and clothing ( wtf would I know )

Do you want to know about my family ?? Or I yours ??

Weather ?

Car you drive

Your pets alive or past

Your ailments , maybe mine

Type of women I like !

Politics

We can chat about the forums I suppose but half the threads are pointless .

Men can’t win with some of you

It is a swinger site after all

So tell me ladies , what would be the first thing that springs to mind that you’d want to talk to someone you don’t know about ??

It might help me get past the first fucking hurdle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t get women sometimes .

I can talk about anything . My work ( boring )

Sport ( most women are not interested )

Fashion and clothing ( wtf would I know )

Do you want to know about my family ?? Or I yours ??

Weather ?

Car you drive

Your pets alive or past

Your ailments , maybe mine

Type of women I like !

Politics

We can chat about the forums I suppose but half the threads are pointless .

Men can’t win with some of you

It is a swinger site after all

So tell me ladies , what would be the first thing that springs to mind that you’d want to talk to someone you don’t know about ??

It might help me get past the first fucking hurdle "

*Watches with interest*

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Too much sex talk makes me cringe and can put me off meeting up with someone.

I was arranging a social once, he asked me what I was going to wear, instantly turned me off. Would of been different if we'd got the social out of the way and were planning a sex meet. Sort of

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By *ig Chris75Man
over a year ago

Sandbach

I absolutely agree - the ability to chat is absolutely critical to me - and genuinely nothing worse than someone who only communicates in text speak. Use English for gods sake…!

Having a personality is a positive - and the ability to show it even better..!

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham


"I don’t get women sometimes .

I can talk about anything . My work ( boring )

Sport ( most women are not interested )

Fashion and clothing ( wtf would I know )

Do you want to know about my family ?? Or I yours ??

Weather ?

Car you drive

Your pets alive or past

Your ailments , maybe mine

Type of women I like !

Politics

We can chat about the forums I suppose but half the threads are pointless .

Men can’t win with some of you

It is a swinger site after all

So tell me ladies , what would be the first thing that springs to mind that you’d want to talk to someone you don’t know about ??

It might help me get past the first fucking hurdle "

You’re asking what do women want?

There have been books written about that.

Roughly speaking, they don’t know, but know when they find it. Hope that helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the spaghetti shapes I had for lunch"

I see you're also a woman of culture.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"the spaghetti shapes I had for lunch

I see you're also a woman of culture. "

It was spongebob squarepants today

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter


"I chat even more in person than I do via message.

They won't get a word in

However, as stated, some women don't want long conversation without you saying you want to bend them over the sofa etc

It's a fine line to achieve. "

^ Exactly. Everyone's an individual, and should be treated as such, but you only get one chance to get it right, or you get blocked! :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the spaghetti shapes I had for lunch

I see you're also a woman of culture.

It was spongebob squarepants today "

Good choice. I'm a Ninja Turtle man myself. Can't beat shapes on toast. I think the toast is much tastier with shapes than beans.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"I know its a site predominately about meeting up for bedroom activities, but when you start chatting to someone, if sex is the only thing they are able to chat about does it put you off?

I like a wee cheeky flirt but when every response you get back is about sex and someone comes across as having literally nothing else interesting to say it doesn't half put me off

Men do like to get to the point, its either sex or football us guys don't really know a lot about shoes and make up and what's happening or the latest reality celeb tv show. "

Is that what you think women talk about? Shoes, makeup and reality tv?!

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter


"Too much sex talk makes me cringe and can put me off meeting up with someone.

I was arranging a social once, he asked me what I was going to wear, instantly turned me off. Would of been different if we'd got the social out of the way and were planning a sex meet. Sort of "

Maybe it was so he could recognise you more easily?

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By *airytaleOfNewPorkMan
over a year ago

Close By

It's a little bit of "Horses for Courses" really..... I've spoken to lots of ladies here, and really tend to go off profile, initial topics and sometimes it leads to sexual chat, other times it doesnt... Doesn't mean I enjoy either form of chin wag any more... Just like to get to know people and what makes them tick

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