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Will a threesome ever happen?!

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By *aramel_and_Ivory OP   Couple
over a year ago

Loughborough

We're new to the swinging scene and in all fairness, we genuinely didn't think it would be this hard! Not like how it is in the movies lol

A lot of the single female profiles have been fake or don't reply and most couples (understandably) don't let their female half play without them..

It's not that we don't want to play with couples at some point just want to rip the band aid off slowly... Are we expecting too much? *sighs*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We're new to the swinging scene and in all fairness, we genuinely didn't think it would be this hard! Not like how it is in the movies lol

A lot of the single female profiles have been fake or don't reply and most couples (understandably) don't let their female half play without them..

It's not that we don't want to play with couples at some point just want to rip the band aid off slowly... Are we expecting too much? *sighs*"

You've been on here 3 weeks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get to a club!

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I would prefer to play with a confident, experienced woman rather than someone experimenting with bi-curiosity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would prefer to play with a confident, experienced woman rather than someone experimenting with bi-curiosity. "
nice spirit level

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Likewise I'd say get to a club. Maybe a night only for single ladies and couples. That way it's highly likely to single women who are looking to play with couples (as aposed to not being into couples per se). After all not all single ladies really want to play solely with a couple as a threesome. Its a difficult dynamic and not always a positive experience for the single lady. So a couples and single ladies night would be my suggestion.

Seems in my experience finding a couple to play with as a couple is harder.

But definitely clubs are an easier, less pressured environment to have encounters in. And maybe find a freind for outside the club too.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

The ffm is one of the hardest things to find on here, and three weeks is nothing.

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By *impleSailorMan
over a year ago

the moon

Three week's is nothing in terms of getting used to this scene.

It'll take a while bit eventually you will get used to the way it is.

Your right it's not like the movies. I can never get a plumber round that quickly

If you do want things to move faster then the club scene is the way forward as others have suggested. If not then patience is the key. Chat in the forums get a feel for how it all works

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By *ittlekinkCouple
over a year ago

Yarm

We’ve been here for a long time and still searching. I do think it will happen... but you’ve got to be choosy too!

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"We're new to the swinging scene and in all fairness, we genuinely didn't think it would be this hard! Not like how it is in the movies lol

A lot of the single female profiles have been fake or don't reply and most couples (understandably) don't let their female half play without them..

It's not that we don't want to play with couples at some point just want to rip the band aid off slowly... Are we expecting too much? *sighs*"

It's not an instant fuck site! Try tinder!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The ffm is one of the hardest things to find on here, and three weeks is nothing. "
Yes having that attraction first then the click and chemistry and all round connection can be sometimes hard to find.

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By *aramel_and_Ivory OP   Couple
over a year ago

Loughborough


"We're new to the swinging scene and in all fairness, we genuinely didn't think it would be this hard! Not like how it is in the movies lol

A lot of the single female profiles have been fake or don't reply and most couples (understandably) don't let their female half play without them..

It's not that we don't want to play with couples at some point just want to rip the band aid off slowly... Are we expecting too much? *sighs*

It's not an instant fuck site! Try tinder! "

At no point did I say it was... Just saying that as complete newbs we didn't know it wasn't an easy thing and that it's hard work

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By *aramel_and_Ivory OP   Couple
over a year ago

Loughborough


"I would prefer to play with a confident, experienced woman rather than someone experimenting with bi-curiosity. "

Ouch... lmao

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

There's nothing wrong with being bicurious, but it will be a factor that might count against you.

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By *aramel_and_Ivory OP   Couple
over a year ago

Loughborough


"Likewise I'd say get to a club. Maybe a night only for single ladies and couples. That way it's highly likely to single women who are looking to play with couples (as aposed to not being into couples per se). After all not all single ladies really want to play solely with a couple as a threesome. Its a difficult dynamic and not always a positive experience for the single lady. So a couples and single ladies night would be my suggestion.

Seems in my experience finding a couple to play with as a couple is harder.

But definitely clubs are an easier, less pressured environment to have encounters in. And maybe find a freind for outside the club too."

Thanks!

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By *aramel_and_Ivory OP   Couple
over a year ago

Loughborough


"There's nothing wrong with being bicurious, but it will be a factor that might count against you. "

Well, I would rather be honest that say I'm bisexual and they expect me to have experience. I've always been attracted to women just never had the opportunity to explore it further

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"There's nothing wrong with being bicurious, but it will be a factor that might count against you.

Well, I would rather be honest that say I'm bisexual and they expect me to have experience. I've always been attracted to women just never had the opportunity to explore it further "

Oh I agree. I don't want to be insulting because of it, but it is tough for a lot of people.

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By *aramel_and_Ivory OP   Couple
over a year ago

Loughborough


"There's nothing wrong with being bicurious, but it will be a factor that might count against you.

Well, I would rather be honest that say I'm bisexual and they expect me to have experience. I've always been attracted to women just never had the opportunity to explore it further

Oh I agree. I don't want to be insulting because of it, but it is tough for a lot of people. "

Oh no, not at all I just think being upfront is key but quickly learning here that people will only really stick to their preferences and rarely come out of them

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Just another couple wanting a lady. We have met couples, always on an equal standing.

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By *lay2018Couple
over a year ago

westmeath & roscommon.

Just go out on the pull and you'll have a 3sum in a few hours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We're new to the swinging scene and in all fairness, we genuinely didn't think it would be this hard! Not like how it is in the movies lol

A lot of the single female profiles have been fake or don't reply and most couples (understandably) don't let their female half play without them..

It's not that we don't want to play with couples at some point just want to rip the band aid off slowly... Are we expecting too much? *sighs*"

Yes, you are expecting to much. The chances of you finding a genuine woman for a 3 some is very very slim unfortunately

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

You are looking for the hardest type of meet on here it takes time and you need to build up the trust.

As has been said before a lot of woman are not looking to help somebody explore their bi side they want some experience.

Go to a club and get to know people.

All our ffm have actually come from couples we have met and played with as a foursome first, this has been because there is an element of trust already built up first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never have problems getting FFM play meets but never directly from messaging on here, generally come around from parties, clubs or recommendations. So get out and network.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

already mentioned a club is your best bet.

I've had more threesomes than I can count and most of them in clubs with other couples. I'm part of a couple and if I want to play with a couple I will.

Me n trim mostly play separate so it's never been an issue, and the threesome I've had privately are with fellow swingers I've now come to class as my closest friends.

They don't call us unicorns for no reason.

On the choice of night my personal preference is a mixed night with single guys included. I just find them more social and approachable than couples only night and that's been my experience in different clubs over 7 years. Due to this reason it's just easier to break the ice on mixed nights.

Nice ass btw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It takes time. Single women do exist on site and many of them love couples, I know, I was one for years! As has been said above, most would rather play with someone who is experienced in bi play, but some will be happy to go at your pace!

Clubs are so much easier a place to find women and any form of group sex. It's instantaneous, you meet someone you find attractive, chat and often play all in one night (though obviously not guaranteed). If you're desperate to get started, get along to a club.

Otherwise, be patient! The only demographic on fab who find a playmate easily are the single ladies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's nothing wrong with being bicurious, but it will be a factor that might count against you.

Well, I would rather be honest that say I'm bisexual and they expect me to have experience. I've always been attracted to women just never had the opportunity to explore it further "

Totally get this, I have a single profile and also a couples profile...I feel I am bisexual and identify as such but then if talking to anyone, I have to tell them I haven't got much experience....it's like being a nervous teenager again lol ...nothing wrong with being bi curious at all, it's just an honest statement of how you feel xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We're new to the swinging scene and in all fairness, we genuinely didn't think it would be this hard! Not like how it is in the movies lol

A lot of the single female profiles have been fake or don't reply and most couples (understandably) don't let their female half play without them..

It's not that we don't want to play with couples at some point just want to rip the band aid off slowly... Are we expecting too much? *sighs*"

We can help you rip that plaster off slowly x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing is for us finding the right person for a threesome and are we suitable for her too, there’s a lot that goes into it unlike a club where it’s more easier after a quick chat and instant attraction x

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