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Why are people so against a how are you message?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So, as above really. I’m unsure of what people expect, and not sure what is wrong with an initial “hi, how are you message”

What do people expect you to send?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because if it's not crude and disgusting.. Chances are it's "how are you"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are flooded. Often by lazy buggers scatter gunning the whole site.

Regrettably, I'm not one of those being bombarded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't show much thought or effort

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"So, as above really. I’m unsure of what people expect, and not sure what is wrong with an initial “hi, how are you message”

What do people expect you to send? "

I hate it as said its lazy and they dont really want to know how I am or what I'm doing they want to know if they can fk me ... so I like to know they are in my interst ...

It's all over my profile about clubs and i get the hi how are you message .. look at their profile see they have swingers clubs in interests only to find they have never been to one

So in a message would prefer to know they have read it with something more along the lines of ...

Hi read your profile we have lot if interests in common I have been to xxx club and also enjoy adult parties like yourself wondered if your interested in chatting ... face puc attached .....

It's not hard xx

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract

Pic not puc lol x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's a lazy scattergun approach. I want to know why me other than other people on Fab have seen my vagina.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, as above really. I’m unsure of what people expect, and not sure what is wrong with an initial “hi, how are you message”

"

When I answer the 50th how are you of the day, it gets a bit tedious.

Guys are advised to stand out from the crowd. "How are you" doesn't stand them out for me

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By *impleSailorMan
over a year ago

the moon

I believe people just want to know

that someone has taken their time to read the profile and can hold a conversation.

Or their just fussy lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm greatly thankful for any message

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I've also occasionally gone "fuck he's hot" and replied to a how are you message. It never gets less lazy on their part

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm happy to receive hi, how are you messages. I prefer that to a message parroting back my profile text.

If I like the look of the man in his pics then I'll reply, regardless of whether he has said hi, how are you, or written a paragraph about himself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get so many hey how are you messages and it's so boring! If I was to send a message to someone I was interested in I would try to be a lot more interesting than just a standard hey you OK?

It's not that difficult to put a bit of effort in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually because they (usually women or couples) expect others (usually men) to read, digest and make an individually crafted message to see if there is some “connection”.They want someone to show they are worth being considered amongst all the other men.

They then look at the profile and because he’s not a buff, handsome man, the message is instantly deleted, no matter how much thought and time went into the message.

The guys that go to this effort after a while give up and write a simple “how are you message” to as many as possible. After all the result is the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How many women here complaining the men are lazy are busy sending out carefully crafted messages?

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

In my experience of both my single and our couples account people who start simply with the likes of Hi have little conversation of intrest down the line. Now a days I don't even reply in depth, after all they've not given you anything to go off. Those conversations soon fizzle out. But if someone has something to say in the first place then they a likely to have more to carry on with, then it's game. Even if they are not for me/us it's well respected and I/We will give a better answer.

So yes, simply just Hi, is annoying. I don't think you step off on the right foot expecting the other person to do all the conversational work.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

we're not against "hi, how are you?" messages and if the profile seems compatible we'll reply. Its the following messages that are important.

People often suggest single guys of having high or incorrect expectations of the site, I think a lot of people have high expectations of messages.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thing is, some of us (me) are rubbish in print, but fun in real life.

So, what do we do?

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By *unningFoxWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I better receive “Hi, how are you?” message than “I’m going to fuck you hard with big cock and make your juices flow everywhere” or in similar lines. I sort of respond better when they ask or notice something about my profile or give me a compliment.

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"How many women here complaining the men are lazy are busy sending out carefully crafted messages?"

I have looked at mens profiles some looked decent in pics but little effort on profile gave me nothing to message them with x so I couldn't craft a message as they have given me little to go on hope I make sense lol tiredness is fuzzling my brain x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"How many women here complaining the men are lazy are busy sending out carefully crafted messages?"

When I message, unless it's banter to a friend or off the back of the forum, I practice what I preach.

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By *irkydirkyMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"So, as above really. I’m unsure of what people expect, and not sure what is wrong with an initial “hi, how are you message”

What do people expect you to send?

I hate it as said its lazy and they dont really want to know how I am or what I'm doing they want to know if they can fk me ... so I like to know they are in my interst ...

It's all over my profile about clubs and i get the hi how are you message .. look at their profile see they have swingers clubs in interests only to find they have never been to one

So in a message would prefer to know they have read it with something more along the lines of ...

Hi read your profile we have lot if interests in common I have been to xxx club and also enjoy adult parties like yourself wondered if your interested in chatting ... face puc attached .....

It's not hard xx

"

I have on occasion sent a similar message and do you know what I got back..... Yes, just one word “Yes”..... like really?? One word reply

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"So, as above really. I’m unsure of what people expect, and not sure what is wrong with an initial “hi, how are you message”

What do people expect you to send?

I hate it as said its lazy and they dont really want to know how I am or what I'm doing they want to know if they can fk me ... so I like to know they are in my interst ...

It's all over my profile about clubs and i get the hi how are you message .. look at their profile see they have swingers clubs in interests only to find they have never been to one

So in a message would prefer to know they have read it with something more along the lines of ...

Hi read your profile we have lot if interests in common I have been to xxx club and also enjoy adult parties like yourself wondered if your interested in chatting ... face puc attached .....

It's not hard xx

I have on occasion sent a similar message and do you know what I got back..... Yes, just one word “Yes”..... like really?? One word reply"

Yes to what lol have you asked ... I would x

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By *ixedMagic1Man
over a year ago

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"So, as above really. I’m unsure of what people expect, and not sure what is wrong with an initial “hi, how are you message”

What do people expect you to send?

I hate it as said its lazy and they dont really want to know how I am or what I'm doing they want to know if they can fk me ... so I like to know they are in my interst ...

It's all over my profile about clubs and i get the hi how are you message .. look at their profile see they have swingers clubs in interests only to find they have never been to one

So in a message would prefer to know they have read it with something more along the lines of ...

Hi read your profile we have lot if interests in common I have been to xxx club and also enjoy adult parties like yourself wondered if your interested in chatting ... face puc attached .....

It's not hard xx

"

That type of message doesn't work all the time. I've seen many women's profiles which are empty, you cant put anything other than a how are you.

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"So, as above really. I’m unsure of what people expect, and not sure what is wrong with an initial “hi, how are you message”

What do people expect you to send?

I hate it as said its lazy and they dont really want to know how I am or what I'm doing they want to know if they can fk me ... so I like to know they are in my interst ...

It's all over my profile about clubs and i get the hi how are you message .. look at their profile see they have swingers clubs in interests only to find they have never been to one

So in a message would prefer to know they have read it with something more along the lines of ...

Hi read your profile we have lot if interests in common I have been to xxx club and also enjoy adult parties like yourself wondered if your interested in chatting ... face puc attached .....

It's not hard xx

That type of message doesn't work all the time. I've seen many women's profiles which are empty, you cant put anything other than a how are you."

Then if they cant make the effort pass em by xx plenty on here who have a decent profile xx

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By *irkydirkyMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"So, as above really. I’m unsure of what people expect, and not sure what is wrong with an initial “hi, how are you message”

What do people expect you to send?

I hate it as said its lazy and they dont really want to know how I am or what I'm doing they want to know if they can fk me ... so I like to know they are in my interst ...

It's all over my profile about clubs and i get the hi how are you message .. look at their profile see they have swingers clubs in interests only to find they have never been to one

So in a message would prefer to know they have read it with something more along the lines of ...

Hi read your profile we have lot if interests in common I have been to xxx club and also enjoy adult parties like yourself wondered if your interested in chatting ... face puc attached .....

It's not hard xx

I have on occasion sent a similar message and do you know what I got back..... Yes, just one word “Yes”..... like really?? One word reply

Yes to what lol have you asked ... I would x

"

Well basically a few questions along with a “would you like to chat more” kinda finish.. and get a simple “yes” in return.. how do you follow up with that lol.... I would too

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By *abrielle247Couple (FF)
over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria

Tideous in the extreme, just like how are you.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Because if i reply i am well then its guaranteed the next message will be asking my plans for the day. I need a message to excite and stimulate me and not bore me. Sorry guys im only being honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, as above really. I’m unsure of what people expect, and not sure what is wrong with an initial “hi, how are you message”

What do people expect you to send? "

We're not against it and will reply if we see compatibility having read their profile. It's the text speak we can't stand.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just put some thought into it from the pictures or the profile that resonates.

Simple as that really

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By *irkydirkyMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Because if i reply i am well then its guaranteed the next message will be asking my plans for the day. I need a message to excite and stimulate me and not bore me. Sorry guys im only being honest."

An “ I am well” reply doesn’t get much more boring..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get fair few

Hi

Hi how are you

Or just ‘message me’. Messages

Even put no inane messages and still get them

As a previous poster said you know convo is dead fairly quickly

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"Because if i reply i am well then its guaranteed the next message will be asking my plans for the day. I need a message to excite and stimulate me and not bore me. Sorry guys im only being honest.

An “ I am well” reply doesn’t get much more boring.. "

Well if someone sends me a boring message i will reply with a boring reply whilst yawning. Dont think you realise i can get 10 messages like this in a couple of hours and i find it tedious

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By *omvampmMan
over a year ago

gillingham


"Usually because they (usually women or couples) expect others (usually men) to read, digest and make an individually crafted message to see if there is some “connection”.They want someone to show they are worth being considered amongst all the other men.

They then look at the profile and because he’s not a buff, handsome man, the message is instantly deleted, no matter how much thought and time went into the message.

The guys that go to this effort after a while give up and write a simple “how are you message” to as many as possible. After all the result is the same."
well put x il be honest I'm never sure best way to write the messages of introduction on here and it does seem no matter what you write or how much effort if you don't tick all the boxes you just get deleted and ignored I guess that's how it is but I will prob start my messages with how are you still because it just seems polite to ask before going on to write whatever else one creates x

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By *irkydirkyMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Because if i reply i am well then its guaranteed the next message will be asking my plans for the day. I need a message to excite and stimulate me and not bore me. Sorry guys im only being honest.

An “ I am well” reply doesn’t get much more boring..

Well if someone sends me a boring message i will reply with a boring reply whilst yawning. Dont think you realise i can get 10 messages like this in a couple of hours and i find it tedious"

Ok I see.. well I guess it’s up to you if you prefer to send a boring message.. personally I wouldn’t and don’t but each to their own..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really don't mind it. As long as they've attached a face pic (as requested in my profile) and don't live bloody miles away.

If I like their pic, I'll check out their profile and see if we've anything in common and message back. Sometimes the conversation picks up, other times it's apparent that I'm just going to get half-arsed replies so it fizzles out pretty quickly.

I don't expect guys to make a major effort with a first message x

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"Because if i reply i am well then its guaranteed the next message will be asking my plans for the day. I need a message to excite and stimulate me and not bore me. Sorry guys im only being honest.

An “ I am well” reply doesn’t get much more boring..

Well if someone sends me a boring message i will reply with a boring reply whilst yawning. Dont think you realise i can get 10 messages like this in a couple of hours and i find it tedious

Ok I see.. well I guess it’s up to you if you prefer to send a boring message.. personally I wouldn’t and don’t but each to their own.. "

I only send boring messages when replying to boring messages othertimes i say quite alot

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By *abrielle247Couple (FF)
over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria

Last message received,

" How are you "

Reply Do you really want to know.

" Why "

Usually just delete but couldn't resist, wish I hadn't bothered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would rather that as an opening message than some of the repugnant twisted sexual messages I have received on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, as above really. I’m unsure of what people expect, and not sure what is wrong with an initial “hi, how are you message”

What do people expect you to send?

I hate it as said its lazy and they dont really want to know how I am or what I'm doing they want to know if they can fk me ... so I like to know they are in my interst ...

It's all over my profile about clubs and i get the hi how are you message .. look at their profile see they have swingers clubs in interests only to find they have never been to one

So in a message would prefer to know they have read it with something more along the lines of ...

Hi read your profile we have lot if interests in common I have been to xxx club and also enjoy adult parties like yourself wondered if your interested in chatting ... face puc attached .....

It's not hard xx

"

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By *abrielle247Couple (FF)
over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria


"So, as above really. I’m unsure of what people expect, and not sure what is wrong with an initial “hi, how are you message”

What do people expect you to send?

I hate it as said its lazy and they dont really want to know how I am or what I'm doing they want to know if they can fk me ... so I like to know they are in my interst ...

It's all over my profile about clubs and i get the hi how are you message .. look at their profile see they have swingers clubs in interests only to find they have never been to one

So in a message would prefer to know they have read it with something more along the lines of ...

Hi read your profile we have lot if interests in common I have been to xxx club and also enjoy adult parties like yourself wondered if your interested in chatting ... face puc attached .....

It's not hard xx

"

Exactly right, spark the interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I consider a “Hi how are you” a polite way of introducing yourself to someone and of course we’re intreated in knowing what your interest are, It is a swinging site after all!

Why can’t we see if there is some interest on either side and see where it leads to?

My gripe is when I see a profile I like, photos and interests etc, I write a message to them and they don’t even say thanks but no thanks. just delete! Personally I think that’s rude. So I’m then thankful they didn’t respond, as there obviously above themselves to talk to the likes of me!

Lol

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By *ugmonster73Man
over a year ago

Southampton

That's true I always used to write a lot quoting parts of their profile but they'll check out my profile and delete it with even replying so I started giving up writing a lot

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By *arkbaneMan
over a year ago

East leeds

I totally agree

Even those profiles that say no short messages and you take the time to compose a nice message and not even a reply

Politeness is dead lol

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I’ve had some really original messages that have made me laugh and therefore engage in conversation.

I’ve had blatant cut and paste messages where they don’t bother to add my name or worse forgot to change it from the previous message!

As previously said some single male profiles don’t say much so you can’t send a message with reference to their comments.

Basically if a message catches my attention I’m more likely to read it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I consider a “Hi how are you” a polite way of introducing yourself to someone and of course we’re intreated in knowing what your interest are, It is a swinging site after all!

Why can’t we see if there is some interest on either side and see where it leads to?

My gripe is when I see a profile I like, photos and interests etc, I write a message to them and they don’t even say thanks but no thanks. just delete! Personally I think that’s rude. So I’m then thankful they didn’t respond, as there obviously above themselves to talk to the likes of me!

Lol "

So what if it states on their profile "If I don't reply, please take it as a polite no thanks"? That's not rude. Nor is not replying to a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I totally agree

Even those profiles that say no short messages and you take the time to compose a nice message and not even a reply

Politeness is dead lol

"

Always reply to nice messages even just the love the pics ones

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By *ikeandmollyCouple
over a year ago

swindon


"Thing is, some of us (me) are rubbish in print, but fun in real life.

So, what do we do? "

Very much this for me too ( Molly ) I’m dyslexic and can’t always get things across in the right way, or I can look thick as I will use the wrong word or spelling for something. It’s hard to get my humour online, I’m funny really I am SEE!!!!!!

Molly

XX

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By *omvampmMan
over a year ago

gillingham


"Thing is, some of us (me) are rubbish in print, but fun in real life.

So, what do we do?

Very much this for me too ( Molly ) I’m dyslexic and can’t always get things across in the right way, or I can look thick as I will use the wrong word or spelling for something. It’s hard to get my humour online, I’m funny really I am SEE!!!!!!

Molly

XX"

I know exactly where your coming from there I always struggle knowing what to write and when to add humour I find it easier when talking face to face when I write I babble on much like I am here lol x

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By *pertureTV/TS
over a year ago

New Ferry, wirral in stockings and sussies

it says nothing apart from the sender has no imagination, and wants you to do all the talking, if someone is interested, they should at least try to get you interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people want to others to write an essay...( Don't know on what)

I think ' how are you ' is a good ice breaker message.

We prefer wink first though

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By *TkitkatWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire


"

I hate it as said its lazy and they dont really want to know how I am or what I'm doing they want to know if they can fk me ...

"

THIS. I often think of replying with "actually I'm not great" or "my haemorrhoids are really playing up" or something gross to see if they really care how I am.... but then I think what if that's someones "thing"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The accusation of lazy is such a load of shit.

It’s people wanting an ego boost knowing that they are making others work to try to get their attention. It’s the cyber equivalent of (usually) blokes running round with their hands up like toddlers shouting “Pick me, pick me!”.

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By *he Cheeky GirlsCouple (FF)
over a year ago

Dover Kent

Depends on how many messages you get, usually a sea of cocks and how are you type of messages. Occasionally get a sentence with a name and a introduction and think ok.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"The accusation of lazy is such a load of shit.

It’s people wanting an ego boost knowing that they are making others work to try to get their attention. It’s the cyber equivalent of (usually) blokes running round with their hands up like toddlers shouting “Pick me, pick me!”."

Hardly. I put effort into my profile, I put effort into my messages, it's a way to help vet some of the "any hole is a goal" brigade.

I hope to find people who put in the effort I do. And I do, as it happens.

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By *he Cheeky GirlsCouple (FF)
over a year ago

Dover Kent


"The accusation of lazy is such a load of shit.

It’s people wanting an ego boost knowing that they are making others work to try to get their attention. It’s the cyber equivalent of (usually) blokes running round with their hands up like toddlers shouting “Pick me, pick me!”.

Hardly. I put effort into my profile, I put effort into my messages, it's a way to help vet some of the "any hole is a goal" brigade.

I hope to find people who put in the effort I do. And I do, as it happens. "

Agreed, also we like to be stimulated by the message as the biggest sex organ is the brain not a cock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, as above really. I’m unsure of what people expect, and not sure what is wrong with an initial “hi, how are you message”

What do people expect you to send? "

Because some people feel ‘entitled’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The accusation of lazy is such a load of shit.

It’s people wanting an ego boost knowing that they are making others work to try to get their attention. It’s the cyber equivalent of (usually) blokes running round with their hands up like toddlers shouting “Pick me, pick me!”."

Spot on

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"So, as above really. I’m unsure of what people expect, and not sure what is wrong with an initial “hi, how are you message”

What do people expect you to send? "

Some just don't like messages end of or even a nice message just block. There are lovely people tho who like little natter. We're not rude to general questions and always reply

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"The accusation of lazy is such a load of shit.

It’s people wanting an ego boost knowing that they are making others work to try to get their attention. It’s the cyber equivalent of (usually) blokes running round with their hands up like toddlers shouting “Pick me, pick me!”.

Hardly. I put effort into my profile, I put effort into my messages, it's a way to help vet some of the "any hole is a goal" brigade.

I hope to find people who put in the effort I do. And I do, as it happens.

Agreed, also we like to be stimulated by the message as the biggest sex organ is the brain not a cock."

I need to get a sense of a person before I take a chance on meeting them. One liners or generic blurbs rarely bode well for a conversation where that will happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its fine, it is easy to delete. I personally don't want to chat on here about my current welfare so i don't reply to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The accusation of lazy is such a load of shit.

It’s people wanting an ego boost knowing that they are making others work to try to get their attention. It’s the cyber equivalent of (usually) blokes running round with their hands up like toddlers shouting “Pick me, pick me!”.

Hardly. I put effort into my profile, I put effort into my messages, it's a way to help vet some of the "any hole is a goal" brigade.

I hope to find people who put in the effort I do. And I do, as it happens.

Agreed, also we like to be stimulated by the message as the biggest sex organ is the brain not a cock.

I need to get a sense of a person before I take a chance on meeting them. One liners or generic blurbs rarely bode well for a conversation where that will happen. "

But this is the whole thing. The phrase used before is, “We need to be stimulated”. No hint of it being reciprocal.

The subtext is you need to prove you're good enough. It just comes across as entitled and slightly arrogant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The accusation of lazy is such a load of shit.

It’s people wanting an ego boost knowing that they are making others work to try to get their attention. It’s the cyber equivalent of (usually) blokes running round with their hands up like toddlers shouting “Pick me, pick me!”.

Hardly. I put effort into my profile, I put effort into my messages, it's a way to help vet some of the "any hole is a goal" brigade.

I hope to find people who put in the effort I do. And I do, as it happens.

Agreed, also we like to be stimulated by the message as the biggest sex organ is the brain not a cock.

I need to get a sense of a person before I take a chance on meeting them. One liners or generic blurbs rarely bode well for a conversation where that will happen.

But this is the whole thing. The phrase used before is, “We need to be stimulated”. No hint of it being reciprocal.

The subtext is you need to prove you're good enough. It just comes across as entitled and slightly arrogant.

"

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over a year ago

There are 2 categories of people.

Those who receive messages, those who write messages.

The former do not need to make any effort because they are in the right demographic. It gets to the head of a lot of them.

The latter have to make themselves visible and put all the efforts in. Many of those efforts will not even be acknowledged.

It’s crap but it’s like that.

I’m in the latter and accepted my fate.

Persistence (and I don’t mean stalkering) brought some nice surprises.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

For me it depends on the profile that's sent the message.

If a decent profile has sent hi how are you? ,I try and reply

If the profile is lazy ie will fill in later/ask,then I would delete it.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want to know why they are messaging, that tells me they want to chat, if I reply expecting chat, they think they are in with a chance of sex, they're not, they don't like it when I tell em that so keep trying or get abusive, as they can now I have responded to them, at least until I block them. I don't particularly want to chat either but get too narked and ask them why they are messaging... I never learn!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"The accusation of lazy is such a load of shit.

It’s people wanting an ego boost knowing that they are making others work to try to get their attention. It’s the cyber equivalent of (usually) blokes running round with their hands up like toddlers shouting “Pick me, pick me!”.

Hardly. I put effort into my profile, I put effort into my messages, it's a way to help vet some of the "any hole is a goal" brigade.

I hope to find people who put in the effort I do. And I do, as it happens.

Agreed, also we like to be stimulated by the message as the biggest sex organ is the brain not a cock.

I need to get a sense of a person before I take a chance on meeting them. One liners or generic blurbs rarely bode well for a conversation where that will happen.

But this is the whole thing. The phrase used before is, “We need to be stimulated”. No hint of it being reciprocal.

The subtext is you need to prove you're good enough. It just comes across as entitled and slightly arrogant.

"

But in a world where I have time to meet x people and 10x message me, that's just facts of life.

I do put the effort in, in my profile, in my approach. I just won't do it pulling teeth over someone who didn't make the effort I would and do.

Just because some ladies sit on their high horse and don't reciprocate, doesn't mean we all do.

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
over a year ago

Didcot


"So, as above really. I’m unsure of what people expect, and not sure what is wrong with an initial “hi, how are you message”

What do people expect you to send? "

Absolutely nothing wrong with a simple "Hi, how are you?" it's respectful and a conversation opener, My pet hate is "Hows you (or) U?" I can't explain why but I just hate it, ignore and delete every time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The accusation of lazy is such a load of shit.

It’s people wanting an ego boost knowing that they are making others work to try to get their attention. It’s the cyber equivalent of (usually) blokes running round with their hands up like toddlers shouting “Pick me, pick me!”.

Hardly. I put effort into my profile, I put effort into my messages, it's a way to help vet some of the "any hole is a goal" brigade.

I hope to find people who put in the effort I do. And I do, as it happens.

Agreed, also we like to be stimulated by the message as the biggest sex organ is the brain not a cock.

I need to get a sense of a person before I take a chance on meeting them. One liners or generic blurbs rarely bode well for a conversation where that will happen.

But this is the whole thing. The phrase used before is, “We need to be stimulated”. No hint of it being reciprocal.

The subtext is you need to prove you're good enough. It just comes across as entitled and slightly arrogant.

But in a world where I have time to meet x people and 10x message me, that's just facts of life.

I do put the effort in, in my profile, in my approach. I just won't do it pulling teeth over someone who didn't make the effort I would and do.

Just because some ladies sit on their high horse and don't reciprocate, doesn't mean we all do. "

Another fact of Fab life is those you’re accusing of being lazy have to send out 10 times more messages than you just to get a response.

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By *anes HubbyCouple
over a year ago

Babbacombe Torquay

Each to their own, we prefer a first message to be more than a couple of words, that's just us and our personal preference.

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By *he Cheeky GirlsCouple (FF)
over a year ago

Dover Kent

Must be so hard to compose a decent opening line and probably too hard to fill in a profile too. So much effort for such little reward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The accusation of lazy is such a load of shit.

It’s people wanting an ego boost knowing that they are making others work to try to get their attention. It’s the cyber equivalent of (usually) blokes running round with their hands up like toddlers shouting “Pick me, pick me!”.

Hardly. I put effort into my profile, I put effort into my messages, it's a way to help vet some of the "any hole is a goal" brigade.

I hope to find people who put in the effort I do. And I do, as it happens.

Agreed, also we like to be stimulated by the message as the biggest sex organ is the brain not a cock.

I need to get a sense of a person before I take a chance on meeting them. One liners or generic blurbs rarely bode well for a conversation where that will happen.

But this is the whole thing. The phrase used before is, “We need to be stimulated”. No hint of it being reciprocal.

The subtext is you need to prove you're good enough. It just comes across as entitled and slightly arrogant.

But in a world where I have time to meet x people and 10x message me, that's just facts of life.

I do put the effort in, in my profile, in my approach. I just won't do it pulling teeth over someone who didn't make the effort I would and do.

Just because some ladies sit on their high horse and don't reciprocate, doesn't mean we all do.

Another fact of Fab life is those you’re accusing of being lazy have to send out 10 times more messages than you just to get a response. "

Maybe not, if they sent better messages in the first place?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The accusation of lazy is such a load of shit.

It’s people wanting an ego boost knowing that they are making others work to try to get their attention. It’s the cyber equivalent of (usually) blokes running round with their hands up like toddlers shouting “Pick me, pick me!”.

Hardly. I put effort into my profile, I put effort into my messages, it's a way to help vet some of the "any hole is a goal" brigade.

I hope to find people who put in the effort I do. And I do, as it happens.

Agreed, also we like to be stimulated by the message as the biggest sex organ is the brain not a cock.

I need to get a sense of a person before I take a chance on meeting them. One liners or generic blurbs rarely bode well for a conversation where that will happen.

But this is the whole thing. The phrase used before is, “We need to be stimulated”. No hint of it being reciprocal.

The subtext is you need to prove you're good enough. It just comes across as entitled and slightly arrogant.

But in a world where I have time to meet x people and 10x message me, that's just facts of life.

I do put the effort in, in my profile, in my approach. I just won't do it pulling teeth over someone who didn't make the effort I would and do.

Just because some ladies sit on their high horse and don't reciprocate, doesn't mean we all do.

Another fact of Fab life is those you’re accusing of being lazy have to send out 10 times more messages than you just to get a response.

Maybe not, if they sent better messages in the first place? "

How often do you send the first message??

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By *anes HubbyCouple
over a year ago

Babbacombe Torquay

We never send the first message, possibly because we've never felt the need to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably one of the very few males here that has never sent a first message or wink. Frequenting the forums and having location turned on seems to work just fine. It's all about patience.

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By *earded GentlemanMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

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By *earded GentlemanMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

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By *earded GentlemanMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

Nothing wrong with a "hey how are you doing?" Sent or received.. its simple and friendly way to approach somone you like the look of an wanna get chatting to. I get if a woman gets 100 of them a day then no wonder she wants more than that in a opening message but still nothing wrong with it , could be 100 messages with no writing an just meet now dick pic type messages with no effort to start a convo with you, should look at it with a half full attitude

No idea why the first two attempt to send this message didnt work Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally in other forums, an open question " how are you" is a way of starting a conversation. Unfortunately it doesn't work on fab due to the high numbers of men to women/couple ratios. I can see how people could get upset if they are receiving 20 of these a day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The accusation of lazy is such a load of shit.

It’s people wanting an ego boost knowing that they are making others work to try to get their attention. It’s the cyber equivalent of (usually) blokes running round with their hands up like toddlers shouting “Pick me, pick me!”.

Hardly. I put effort into my profile, I put effort into my messages, it's a way to help vet some of the "any hole is a goal" brigade.

I hope to find people who put in the effort I do. And I do, as it happens.

Agreed, also we like to be stimulated by the message as the biggest sex organ is the brain not a cock.

I need to get a sense of a person before I take a chance on meeting them. One liners or generic blurbs rarely bode well for a conversation where that will happen.

But this is the whole thing. The phrase used before is, “We need to be stimulated”. No hint of it being reciprocal.

The subtext is you need to prove you're good enough. It just comes across as entitled and slightly arrogant.

But in a world where I have time to meet x people and 10x message me, that's just facts of life.

I do put the effort in, in my profile, in my approach. I just won't do it pulling teeth over someone who didn't make the effort I would and do.

Just because some ladies sit on their high horse and don't reciprocate, doesn't mean we all do.

Another fact of Fab life is those you’re accusing of being lazy have to send out 10 times more messages than you just to get a response.

Maybe not, if they sent better messages in the first place?

How often do you send the first message??"

When I see someone I feel I need to contact about something... It's how I met my fwb. I often message if someone has a nice picture I want to compliment them on, more than just a fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t want to tell a stranger how I am, and 99.9% if the time I doubt they’d be interested anyway.

It’s one of those questions that everyone answers generically, with something like ‘fine thanks’. Just seems pointless when you can send a more personal message x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A message would be nice must be someone intrsted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What’s a message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have learnt that it doesn't matter what your first message says it's still down to the recipiant to reply if they want to. I always read profiles and try to be original but heyho lol

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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago

Currently Faraway


"So, as above really. I’m unsure of what people expect, and not sure what is wrong with an initial “hi, how are you message”

What do people expect you to send? "

I’m glad somebody has asked this question; if I happen to stumble upon a profile that says “if you want us to reply, you’d better show some imagination and originality”, I have a mind to write to them and say “I make a fucking DELICIOUS chicken and mushroom homemade pie!” Surely that’s a tiny bit original, you have to admit?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The accusation of lazy is such a load of shit.

It’s people wanting an ego boost knowing that they are making others work to try to get their attention. It’s the cyber equivalent of (usually) blokes running round with their hands up like toddlers shouting “Pick me, pick me!”.

Hardly. I put effort into my profile, I put effort into my messages, it's a way to help vet some of the "any hole is a goal" brigade.

I hope to find people who put in the effort I do. And I do, as it happens.

Agreed, also we like to be stimulated by the message as the biggest sex organ is the brain not a cock.

I need to get a sense of a person before I take a chance on meeting them. One liners or generic blurbs rarely bode well for a conversation where that will happen.

But this is the whole thing. The phrase used before is, “We need to be stimulated”. No hint of it being reciprocal.

The subtext is you need to prove you're good enough. It just comes across as entitled and slightly arrogant.

But in a world where I have time to meet x people and 10x message me, that's just facts of life.

I do put the effort in, in my profile, in my approach. I just won't do it pulling teeth over someone who didn't make the effort I would and do.

Just because some ladies sit on their high horse and don't reciprocate, doesn't mean we all do.

Another fact of Fab life is those you’re accusing of being lazy have to send out 10 times more messages than you just to get a response.

Maybe not, if they sent better messages in the first place?

How often do you send the first message??

When I see someone I feel I need to contact about something... It's how I met my fwb. I often message if someone has a nice picture I want to compliment them on, more than just a fab"

Fair enough, what do you write ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How I see it is that if someone starts chatting to you in the pub or other social gathering then it's usually a hi or how are you, it's nice here etc so why should it be different on here? Surely this is an excellent way of starting a normal conversation to take it forward?

How they show that they have read my profile is by respecting my wishes on here which I clearly state. Not everyone can write a huge dialogue straight off!

I reply to those messages politely too ... though what happens next is the crunch point.

Who am I to judge someone on a hi how are?

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I don't mind (I've got one in my inbox currently) as I'll look at their profile once I receive their message. If they've written something interesting in their profile and obviously we share similar likes, I'll reply. However if there's no content I'll ignore or delete.

It's the reason I don't mind winks, if there's an interesting profile, I'm an interested person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't mind (I've got one in my inbox currently) as I'll look at their profile once I receive their message. If they've written something interesting in their profile and obviously we share similar likes, I'll reply. However if there's no content I'll ignore or delete.

It's the reason I don't mind winks, if there's an interesting profile, I'm an interested person "

This ^^

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I think asking how people are is fine but it's almost certainly going to be better if it's not the main or only content of a first message. It does suggest that that they may be messaging absolutely anyone, without regard to their preferences, profile stated requests etc and it also ignores the fact that many people get tons of messages and some will be given higher priority than others.

When recipients dish out priority to senders, it won't only be as a result of checking out their profile: they may not even get that, if there are hundreds of messages, some senders appeared to have invested a lot of effort and some just said 'How's you?' etc.

Nobody is really interested in meeting many or any very lazy people and especially not meeting others who aren't that motivated by what their partner's needs are. We naturally infer things about others, based upon the available data that we have - so we'll do this, based on scanning an inbox list or checking messages out. We always do this automatically - we're social creatures, so every single time we engage with another, we will infer something about them. At it's most basic level, it will be whether or not we may like or have any interest in them.

Send a tiny message to unknown others and expect - generally - to get a tiny amount of interest returned. There are exceptions but this will generally hold true here, especially for profiles that aren't single male profiles imo.

On the flipside, a 'Hows you' is better than a dick pic, sent without any text.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just another stick to use.

Noone actually uses the "hi how are you" as a metric of whether they will reply. Brad Pitt would not be getting ignored from one, and Brian Blessed would not be getting a reply from a first message worthy of publishing in the finest journals of seduction

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"It's just another stick to use.

Noone actually uses the "hi how are you" as a metric of whether they will reply. Brad Pitt would not be getting ignored from one, and Brian Blessed would not be getting a reply from a first message worthy of publishing in the finest journals of seduction"

If I can read a message without opening it I delete it, Brad Pitt or not.

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"How many women here complaining the men are lazy are busy sending out carefully crafted messages?"

That's a good point that got me thinking and I'd say 90% of my encounters have been initiated by me having read someone's profile and crafted a bespoke message.

Seems logical to me because if a guy has a great profile that excites my interest it's highly likely there will be others competing for his attention!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've also occasionally gone "fuck he's hot" and replied to a how are you message. It never gets less lazy on their part "

You were saying?

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Said before that we have no problem with the hi how are you message it is the follow up messages that decide it for us.

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By *undude2015Man
over a year ago

Southampton

Just because someone send a message say “hi, how are you” doesn’t mean they didn’t read your profile first. This really gets me. What do you say to people you know when you meet up or when you are introduced to someone? Oh is hi, I’m whoever how’s you? Am I mistaken here?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I've also occasionally gone "fuck he's hot" and replied to a how are you message. It never gets less lazy on their part

You were saying?"

I have. Past tense. I've learned better.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Just because someone send a message say “hi, how are you” doesn’t mean they didn’t read your profile first. This really gets me. What do you say to people you know when you meet up or when you are introduced to someone? Oh is hi, I’m whoever how’s you? Am I mistaken here? "

You're mistaken. It's a different medium. Use it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do you say to people you know when you meet up or when you are introduced to someone? Oh is hi, I’m whoever how’s you? Am I mistaken here? "

A strangers profile isn't either of those people/s though ^^^^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If.. And I mean If.. I ever message any beautiful females on fab it's either to ask some specifically written from the forum, profile or to answer one of life mysteries

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

It just what it is, says you’re bored but horny, so it’s bore of and delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its like the just wanted to say hi message

When you reply hi the next message is fancy a fuck

Its easier to put im fine thanks in profile then you know who hasnt read it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just had one

U ok

A total of 3 letters and one word spelt wrong.

Delete without opening

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I wonder if there's a better tactic here.

Why don't I like hi how are you messages?

Personal preference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just because someone send a message say “hi, how are you” doesn’t mean they didn’t read your profile first. This really gets me. What do you say to people you know when you meet up or when you are introduced to someone? Oh is hi, I’m whoever how’s you? Am I mistaken here? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Intelligence and skill with words turns me on. You can look like a god and message ‘Hi how are you?’ and I will delete. You can look like a wart with hair, but if you draft a decent message I’ll respond. I respond to any message over 2 sentences long. That’s at most 25% of what I receive. I have to select somehow and I select on the basis of articulate messages.

And to chicken pie message man, you’d get a warm response here.. When can I come round?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The people whining about "hi" messages are usually the ones who make no effort whatsoever to go looking themselves.

Zero ego boost in the Inbox that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder if there's a better tactic here.

Why don't I like hi how are you messages?

Personal preference. "

Can you fetch the hammer down from the loft please luv

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Intelligence and skill with words turns me on. You can look like a god and message ‘Hi how are you?’ and I will delete. You can look like a wart with hair, but if you draft a decent message I’ll respond. I respond to any message over 2 sentences long. That’s at most 25% of what I receive. I have to select somehow and I select on the basis of articulate messages.

And to chicken pie message man, you’d get a warm response here.. When can I come round?"

They might ‘select’ you rather than you ‘select’ them

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"The people whining about "hi" messages are usually the ones who make no effort whatsoever to go looking themselves.

Zero ego boost in the Inbox that way. "

I'm not here for an ego boost I'm here to have fun I'm quite happy with myself xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Intelligence and skill with words turns me on. You can look like a god and message ‘Hi how are you?’ and I will delete. You can look like a wart with hair, but if you draft a decent message I’ll respond. I respond to any message over 2 sentences long. That’s at most 25% of what I receive. I have to select somehow and I select on the basis of articulate messages.

And to chicken pie message man, you’d get a warm response here.. When can I come round?"

So if you're dyslexic you're out...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just had one

U ok

A total of 3 letters and one word spelt wrong.

Delete without opening "

U ok?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder if there's a better tactic here.

Why don't I like hi how are you messages?

Personal preference.

Can you fetch the hammer down from the loft please luv "

Trust you trim to say that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Intelligence and skill with words turns me on. You can look like a god and message ‘Hi how are you?’ and I will delete. You can look like a wart with hair, but if you draft a decent message I’ll respond. I respond to any message over 2 sentences long. That’s at most 25% of what I receive. I have to select somehow and I select on the basis of articulate messages.

And to chicken pie message man, you’d get a warm response here.. When can I come round?

So if you're dyslexic you're out..."

Must be, to some intelligence seems to be solely based on the ability to write

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

So if you're dyslexic you're out...

Must be, to some intelligence seems to be solely based on the ability to write "

It must be why I'm not lucky as I'm dyslexic

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"Intelligence and skill with words turns me on. You can look like a god and message ‘Hi how are you?’ and I will delete. You can look like a wart with hair, but if you draft a decent message I’ll respond. I respond to any message over 2 sentences long. That’s at most 25% of what I receive. I have to select somehow and I select on the basis of articulate messages.

And to chicken pie message man, you’d get a warm response here.. When can I come round?

So if you're dyslexic you're out..."

I'm sure even dyslexic can put more than hi how are you ?

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?

For me, I look at the profile before opening any messages...if i'm not attracted to the person then I will just delete, no matter what the message says.

If I do find them attractive and they fit with what i'm looking for, then I will generally reply even if it's just a 'how are you' message.

Shallow I know, but i'm not going to meet anyone that i'm not attracted to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Intelligence and skill with words turns me on. You can look like a god and message ‘Hi how are you?’ and I will delete. You can look like a wart with hair, but if you draft a decent message I’ll respond. I respond to any message over 2 sentences long. That’s at most 25% of what I receive. I have to select somehow and I select on the basis of articulate messages.

And to chicken pie message man, you’d get a warm response here.. When can I come round?

So if you're dyslexic you're out...

I'm sure even dyslexic can put more than hi how are you ? "

I'm sure we all do.... You must be very expansive when writing a message ?

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"Intelligence and skill with words turns me on. You can look like a god and message ‘Hi how are you?’ and I will delete. You can look like a wart with hair, but if you draft a decent message I’ll respond. I respond to any message over 2 sentences long. That’s at most 25% of what I receive. I have to select somehow and I select on the basis of articulate messages.

And to chicken pie message man, you’d get a warm response here.. When can I come round?

So if you're dyslexic you're out...

I'm sure even dyslexic can put more than hi how are you ?

I'm sure we all do.... You must be very expansive when writing a message ? "

No not really just be what the lady is looking for xx

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over a year ago


"Intelligence and skill with words turns me on. You can look like a god and message ‘Hi how are you?’ and I will delete. You can look like a wart with hair, but if you draft a decent message I’ll respond. I respond to any message over 2 sentences long. That’s at most 25% of what I receive. I have to select somehow and I select on the basis of articulate messages.

And to chicken pie message man, you’d get a warm response here.. When can I come round?

So if you're dyslexic you're out...

I'm sure even dyslexic can put more than hi how are you ?

I'm sure we all do.... You must be very expansive when writing a message ?

No not really just be what the lady is looking for xx "

Really

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By *ovegames42Man
over a year ago

london

It’s a polite general introduction, what should one say as an ice breaker.

” Get your tits out and sit on my face “.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, as above really. I’m unsure of what people expect, and not sure what is wrong with an initial “hi, how are you message”

What do people expect you to send? "

I agree with that, I will reply to the message if all the other particulars are looking good, what they are into, how far they are away and if their bio reads good. Nothing wrong with a hello how are you. The ones I don't know how to respond to are the messages that say "shall we chat and see where it goes?" I never know what to reply in the following message. My every instinct says to ask what they want to talk about but that feels adolescent. So I just don't reply. Anyone else the same with this? Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do we really give a dam how we actually are?

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By *heEvilWithinWoman
over a year ago

Barnsley

Because if you get 500 "hi or hi how are you" messages a day why the fuck would I choose you?

I want to know what someone is looking for and why they're here and a brief something about them otherwise it's a swift delete. And as you can see I don't find it hard to meet people

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By *ovegames42Man
over a year ago

london

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A hi how are you from someone I know is fine. From hundreds of guys with nothing but cock pics ... Erm not so much.

How many times should I say that before it gets boring.

Ask me a question, give me a whity comment. Have an interesting profile and great pictures that are not of your cock. Then we can perhaps talk

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I love how the question was posed, we answered, and we were told we were wrong or arrogant.

OK, do what you like. I'm still not responding to it.

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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago

Currently Faraway


"Intelligence and skill with words turns me on. You can look like a god and message ‘Hi how are you?’ and I will delete. You can look like a wart with hair, but if you draft a decent message I’ll respond. I respond to any message over 2 sentences long. That’s at most 25% of what I receive. I have to select somehow and I select on the basis of articulate messages.

And to chicken pie message man, you’d get a warm response here.. When can I come round?"

You are welcome to drop by if you wish, and by the way it’s not a figment. I do make a nice homemade chicken & mushroom pie

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By *ovegames42Man
over a year ago

london

It is a male dominated site, females can pick choose and refuse, don’t think it’s the message but as others have said previously, messages accompanied by dicks next to remotes, tape measures, bear cans / bottles or toilet seats.

No wonder no response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, as above really. I’m unsure of what people expect, and not sure what is wrong with an initial “hi, how are you message”

What do people expect you to send?

I hate it as said its lazy and they dont really want to know how I am or what I'm doing they want to know if they can fk me ... so I like to know they are in my interst ...

It's all over my profile about clubs and i get the hi how are you message .. look at their profile see they have swingers clubs in interests only to find they have never been to one

So in a message would prefer to know they have read it with something more along the lines of ...

Hi read your profile we have lot if interests in common I have been to xxx club and also enjoy adult parties like yourself wondered if your interested in chatting ... face puc attached .....

It's not hard xx

"

This lady is exactly right.

At the moment I have got 75 messages to answer and when you get a message that says nothing really it’s frustrating, its fine to start the message with that but then say something else and not things like ‘do you like younger men’ or ‘fancy a meet’ but something a little bit more...

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By *hatterbox 2Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

i would rather have a message like that rather than a hi fancy a fuck

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

We've all got our standards.

Some are only looking for gym fit supermodels with gigantic cocks. Some are looking for relationships. Me, at least at first, I'm looking for someone who I find interesting in the way they've engaged with my profile.

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"We've all got our standards.

Some are only looking for gym fit supermodels with gigantic cocks. Some are looking for relationships. Me, at least at first, I'm looking for someone who I find interesting in the way they've engaged with my profile. "

This maybe the case but at least they can put that in a message instead of .... hi how are you lol xx

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By *ovegames42Man
over a year ago

london


"We've all got our standards.

Some are only looking for gym fit supermodels with gigantic cocks. Some are looking for relationships. Me, at least at first, I'm looking for someone who I find interesting in the way they've engaged with my profile. "

And it seems evident that people who’s messages consist of hi how are you clearly do not read profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've all got our standards.

Some are only looking for gym fit supermodels with gigantic cocks. Some are looking for relationships. Me, at least at first, I'm looking for someone who I find interesting in the way they've engaged with my profile. "

‘Engaged with your profile’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

So if you're dyslexic you're out...

Must be, to some intelligence seems to be solely based on the ability to write

It must be why I'm not lucky as I'm dyslexic "

This is why I won't judge a hi message! Some of the most & seriously intelligent people I know aren't the best socially especially with strangers or dyslexic... I'd much rather enter into a conversation with someone rather than judge them on saying hi!

The fancy a fucks, obviously haven't read my profile or are just ignorant messages I choose to delete wih no reply! A polite hi, how are you gets a reply (unless haven't read my profile and are miles away lol)

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters


"

So if you're dyslexic you're out...

Must be, to some intelligence seems to be solely based on the ability to write

It must be why I'm not lucky as I'm dyslexic

This is why I won't judge a hi message! Some of the most & seriously intelligent people I know aren't the best socially especially with strangers or dyslexic... I'd much rather enter into a conversation with someone rather than judge them on saying hi!

The fancy a fucks, obviously haven't read my profile or are just ignorant messages I choose to delete wih no reply! A polite hi, how are you gets a reply (unless haven't read my profile and are miles away lol) "

Now that is a refreshing comment thank you

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"

So if you're dyslexic you're out...

Must be, to some intelligence seems to be solely based on the ability to write

It must be why I'm not lucky as I'm dyslexic

This is why I won't judge a hi message! Some of the most & seriously intelligent people I know aren't the best socially especially with strangers or dyslexic... I'd much rather enter into a conversation with someone rather than judge them on saying hi!

The fancy a fucks, obviously haven't read my profile or are just ignorant messages I choose to delete wih no reply! A polite hi, how are you gets a reply (unless haven't read my profile and are miles away lol) "

You are seriously saying you would answer every msg in your inbox that just has hi ... so you had 200+ hi how are you .... you would sit and answer them all ??? Be prepared x lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

So if you're dyslexic you're out...

Must be, to some intelligence seems to be solely based on the ability to write

It must be why I'm not lucky as I'm dyslexic

This is why I won't judge a hi message! Some of the most & seriously intelligent people I know aren't the best socially especially with strangers or dyslexic... I'd much rather enter into a conversation with someone rather than judge them on saying hi!

The fancy a fucks, obviously haven't read my profile or are just ignorant messages I choose to delete wih no reply! A polite hi, how are you gets a reply (unless haven't read my profile and are miles away lol)

You are seriously saying you would answer every msg in your inbox that just has hi ... so you had 200+ hi how are you .... you would sit and answer them all ??? Be prepared x lol"

Lol though most of them will be the not read profile fancy a fuck messages ...

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"

So if you're dyslexic you're out...

Must be, to some intelligence seems to be solely based on the ability to write

It must be why I'm not lucky as I'm dyslexic

This is why I won't judge a hi message! Some of the most & seriously intelligent people I know aren't the best socially especially with strangers or dyslexic... I'd much rather enter into a conversation with someone rather than judge them on saying hi!

The fancy a fucks, obviously haven't read my profile or are just ignorant messages I choose to delete wih no reply! A polite hi, how are you gets a reply (unless haven't read my profile and are miles away lol)

You are seriously saying you would answer every msg in your inbox that just has hi ... so you had 200+ hi how are you .... you would sit and answer them all ??? Be prepared x lol

Lol though most of them will be the not read profile fancy a fuck messages ... "

Lol babe the hi how are you haven't read it either xxx

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By *harliebbwWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

Would rather have a hi how are you. Then a really long winded copy and paste what i would like to do with you. Because I wouldn't walk down the street and jump on the first guy to walk past. I like to know a bit about who I am with, and if you can't chat together in my book there is no way you would fuck together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

So if you're dyslexic you're out...

Must be, to some intelligence seems to be solely based on the ability to write

It must be why I'm not lucky as I'm dyslexic

This is why I won't judge a hi message! Some of the most & seriously intelligent people I know aren't the best socially especially with strangers or dyslexic... I'd much rather enter into a conversation with someone rather than judge them on saying hi!

The fancy a fucks, obviously haven't read my profile or are just ignorant messages I choose to delete wih no reply! A polite hi, how are you gets a reply (unless haven't read my profile and are miles away lol)

You are seriously saying you would answer every msg in your inbox that just has hi ... so you had 200+ hi how are you .... you would sit and answer them all ??? Be prepared x lol

Lol though most of them will be the not read profile fancy a fuck messages ...

Lol babe the hi how are you haven't read it either xxx "

That will show if they are miles away or can't travel or accommodate or just looking for quick shags which would mean I delete them as they won't have and my profile clearly states I will delete them ... but a hi how are you from someone who is within my parameters always gets a hi in return! I have all my filters set to whittle out those that I'm not looking for ... but to be honest I reply to most messages as most people who message me aren't rude and have mainly read my profile!

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

I used to get inundated with messages and I would try to reply to all of them, even if it was to say "no thanks"

However nowadays I just block messages from everyone and only contact people whose profiles I like the look of. I wish I had done this years ago!

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"

So if you're dyslexic you're out...

Must be, to some intelligence seems to be solely based on the ability to write

It must be why I'm not lucky as I'm dyslexic

This is why I won't judge a hi message! Some of the most & seriously intelligent people I know aren't the best socially especially with strangers or dyslexic... I'd much rather enter into a conversation with someone rather than judge them on saying hi!

The fancy a fucks, obviously haven't read my profile or are just ignorant messages I choose to delete wih no reply! A polite hi, how are you gets a reply (unless haven't read my profile and are miles away lol)

You are seriously saying you would answer every msg in your inbox that just has hi ... so you had 200+ hi how are you .... you would sit and answer them all ??? Be prepared x lol

Lol though most of them will be the not read profile fancy a fuck messages ...

Lol babe the hi how are you haven't read it either xxx

That will show if they are miles away or can't travel or accommodate or just looking for quick shags which would mean I delete them as they won't have and my profile clearly states I will delete them ... but a hi how are you from someone who is within my parameters always gets a hi in return! I have all my filters set to whittle out those that I'm not looking for ... but to be honest I reply to most messages as most people who message me aren't rude and have mainly read my profile! "

Same here very high filters but still get the oneabeez who try get past my looking for qualities lol hope that makes sense x getting tired now and think the brain is shutting down Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

So if you're dyslexic you're out...

Must be, to some intelligence seems to be solely based on the ability to write

It must be why I'm not lucky as I'm dyslexic

This is why I won't judge a hi message! Some of the most & seriously intelligent people I know aren't the best socially especially with strangers or dyslexic... I'd much rather enter into a conversation with someone rather than judge them on saying hi!

The fancy a fucks, obviously haven't read my profile or are just ignorant messages I choose to delete wih no reply! A polite hi, how are you gets a reply (unless haven't read my profile and are miles away lol)

You are seriously saying you would answer every msg in your inbox that just has hi ... so you had 200+ hi how are you .... you would sit and answer them all ??? Be prepared x lol

Lol though most of them will be the not read profile fancy a fuck messages ...

Lol babe the hi how are you haven't read it either xxx

That will show if they are miles away or can't travel or accommodate or just looking for quick shags which would mean I delete them as they won't have and my profile clearly states I will delete them ... but a hi how are you from someone who is within my parameters always gets a hi in return! I have all my filters set to whittle out those that I'm not looking for ... but to be honest I reply to most messages as most people who message me aren't rude and have mainly read my profile!

Same here very high filters but still get the oneabeez who try get past my looking for qualities lol hope that makes sense x getting tired now and think the brain is shutting down Haha "

I'm still working brain went hours ago

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