FabSwingers.com forum: Married men

By *pl- capdagde OP Couple
over a year ago

Cap d agde,France

Ok I have a question and let's have honest answers... With there being so many single males in the scene now how many of theses guys are actually single and how many of you have partners that don't know what you are doing ?

How many would be happy if they found their " wife partner" screwing around behind their back.

Would you be a little upset ?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Ok I have a question and let's have honest answers... With there being so many single males in the scene now how many of theses guys are actually single and how many of you have partners that don't know what you are doing ?

How many would be happy if they found their " wife partner" screwing around behind their back.

Would you be a little upset ?

this is one of those "pandora's box" questions that almost certainly will turn into a bum fight....

me.... absolutely single... my conscience is clear.....

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Is there something you wanted to share OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op, why is the question only directed at Men and not Women?

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By *pl- capdagde OP Couple
over a year ago

Cap d agde,France

"Is there something you wanted to share OP?"

No not really we don't share would be a silly thing to do on a swingers site... Don't you think ?

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

"Op, why is the question only directed at Men and not Women? "

guessing as there are more men than women on the site.

but i agree, the same question should be directed at ladies also as they can be just as bad, if not worse, than any man

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By *pl- capdagde OP Couple
over a year ago

Cap d agde,France

"Op, why is the question only directed at Men and not Women? "

Purely on the basis when you look at the scene there are hundreds more single men than women.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"Op, why is the question only directed at Men and not Women?

Purely on the basis when you look at the scene there are hundreds more single men than women.

But ona % basis, do you think there is a big difference?

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By *pl- capdagde OP Couple
over a year ago

Cap d agde,France

"Op, why is the question only directed at Men and not Women?

guessing as there are more men than women on the site.

but i agree, the same question should be directed at ladies also as they can be just as bad, if not worse, than any man"

Agree maybe women can be bad as well but I recon more in a non swinging environment as oppossed to swinging

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By *pl- capdagde OP Couple
over a year ago

Cap d agde,France

Already this is going to turn into one of thoses where nobody directly answers the question in the thread title.

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

"Already this is going to turn into one of thoses where nobody directly answers the question in the thread title.

people cheating on partners have become adept at avoiding answering any questions directly.

but surely you already realised that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am single.

There you are, 100% of the guys who have posted have answered your question.

(unless that changed while I was typing).

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By *pl- capdagde OP Couple
over a year ago

Cap d agde,France

"Already this is going to turn into one of thoses where nobody directly answers the question in the thread title.

people cheating on partners have become adept at avoiding answering any questions directly.

but surely you already realised that lol"

Yeah instead you get smart arses taking the topic off in a totally diff direction which I've noticed on many threads I've read.

The what about women response was totally expected ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Op, why is the question only directed at Men and not Women?

guessing as there are more men than women on the site.

but i agree, the same question should be directed at ladies also as they can be just as bad, if not worse, than any man

Agree maybe women can be bad as well but I recon more in a non swinging environment as oppossed to swinging"

Is that logical?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Already this is going to turn into one of thoses where nobody directly answers the question in the thread title.

people cheating on partners have become adept at avoiding answering any questions directly.

but surely you already realised that lol"

We (married people playing away) are here for lots of different reasons - I am up front about my situation on my profile and that's as far as I am willing to go into it - it is no ones business why as long as they know up front people are grown up enough to make their own decisions about me based on that

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By *pl- capdagde OP Couple
over a year ago

Cap d agde,France

"Op, why is the question only directed at Men and not Women?

guessing as there are more men than women on the site.

but i agree, the same question should be directed at ladies also as they can be just as bad, if not worse, than any man

Agree maybe women can be bad as well but I recon more in a non swinging environment as oppossed to swinging

Is that logical?"

It is because I'm asking the question on a swingers forum and not In generalisation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Already this is going to turn into one of thoses where nobody directly answers the question in the thread title.

people cheating on partners have become adept at avoiding answering any questions directly.

but surely you already realised that lol

Yeah instead you get smart arses taking the topic off in a totally diff direction which I've noticed on many threads I've read.

The what about women response was totally expected ...

Did you expect it because it's valid?

If you did expect it and it disappoints you, why didn't you cover it off in your Op?

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By *pl- capdagde OP Couple
over a year ago

Cap d agde,France

"I am single.

There you are, 100% of the guys who have posted have answered your question.

(unless that changed while I was typing). "

Yep and the other 99 % on he site will prob not answer unless single like yourself ..

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By *pl- capdagde OP Couple
over a year ago

Cap d agde,France

"Already this is going to turn into one of thoses where nobody directly answers the question in the thread title.

people cheating on partners have become adept at avoiding answering any questions directly.

but surely you already realised that lol

Yeah instead you get smart arses taking the topic off in a totally diff direction which I've noticed on many threads I've read.

The what about women response was totally expected ...

Did you expect it because it's valid?

If you did expect it and it disappoints you, why didn't you cover it off in your Op?"

I expected it because I knew the straight away guys would accuse women of being worse it's obvious...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree maybe women can be bad as well but I recon more in a non swinging environment as oppossed to swinging

Is that logical?

It is because I'm asking the question on a swingers forum and not In generalisation.

You seem to be saying that women who cheat are less likely to cheat in an environment that most suggest it's easier to cheat in.

How can that be logical?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Already this is going to turn into one of thoses where nobody directly answers the question in the thread title.

people cheating on partners have become adept at avoiding answering any questions directly.

but surely you already realised that lol

Yeah instead you get smart arses taking the topic off in a totally diff direction which I've noticed on many threads I've read.

The what about women response was totally expected ...

Did you expect it because it's valid?

If you did expect it and it disappoints you, why didn't you cover it off in your Op?

I expected it because I knew the straight away guys would accuse women of being worse it's obvious...

OK I think that 50% of the single guys on this site are actualy married and are playing away.

Also 93.76% of statistics are made up on the spot.....

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By *pl- capdagde OP Couple
over a year ago

Cap d agde,France

Agree maybe women can be bad as well but I recon more in a non swinging environment as oppossed to swinging

Is that logical?

It is because I'm asking the question on a swingers forum and not In generalisation.

You seem to be saying that women who cheat are less likely to cheat in an environment that most suggest it's easier to cheat in.

How can that be logical?"

It's logical on the basis their are thousands more single guys than women in the swinging scene.

A women if she wants to cheat could just go on a normal girls night out and cheat,less likely for most single men even at a swingers club to some extent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Already this is going to turn into one of thoses where nobody directly answers the question in the thread title.

people cheating on partners have become adept at avoiding answering any questions directly.

but surely you already realised that lol

Yeah instead you get smart arses taking the topic off in a totally diff direction which I've noticed on many threads I've read.

The what about women response was totally expected ...

Did you expect it because it's valid?

If you did expect it and it disappoints you, why didn't you cover it off in your Op?

I expected it because I knew the straight away guys would accuse women of being worse it's obvious...

I don't believe women are worse and unless I'm mistaken nobody has said that. I don't think I've ever seen that said anywhere on this forum.

Obvious may just have been the wrong choice of word, did you mean in your opinion?

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By *pl- capdagde OP Couple
over a year ago

Cap d agde,France

"Already this is going to turn into one of thoses where nobody directly answers the question in the thread title.

people cheating on partners have become adept at avoiding answering any questions directly.

but surely you already realised that lol

Yeah instead you get smart arses taking the topic off in a totally diff direction which I've noticed on many threads I've read.

The what about women response was totally expected ...

Did you expect it because it's valid?

If you did expect it and it disappoints you, why didn't you cover it off in your Op?

I expected it because I knew the straight away guys would accuse women of being worse it's obvious...

I don't believe women are worse and unless I'm mistaken nobody has said that. I don't think I've ever seen that said anywhere on this forum.

Obvious may just have been the wrong choice of word, did you mean in your opinion?"

Yes i stand corrected. It was obvious in my opinion..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some woman/couples find it a turn on to fuck someone elses fella behind their backs

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

It's logical on the basis their are thousands more single guys than women in the swinging scene.

A women if she wants to cheat could just go on a normal girls night out and cheat,less likely for most single men even at a swingers club to some extent"

Wouldn't it make more sense for the men to go where the cheating women go?

Oh no... wait a minute, I see a flaw in that logic... they might bump into their wives.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am single.

There you are, 100% of the guys who have posted have answered your question.

(unless that changed while I was typing).

Yep and the other 99 % on he site will prob not answer unless single like yourself ..

Not Single, don't and won't meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% married,but we both play seperately also..100% trust...hence we wont meet anyone who admits to cheat or seems to be cheating..ie the cant accom and can only do daytime brigade

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By *ustyWoman
over a year ago

inverclyde

I am 100% single..... divorced .... and i wont meet a married man as to me no matter what the circumstances its still cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Op, why is the question only directed at Men and not Women?

guessing as there are more men than women on the site.

but i agree, the same question should be directed at ladies also as they can be just as bad, if not worse, than any man"

Well i have been seperated for two years now and going thro a divorce, i class myself as single but i was once told by a couple on here that if my divorce hasnt come thro yet and im still married then im cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i just started seeing someone at the moment just now, so thats why mines hidden as not meeting!

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By *ustyWoman
over a year ago

inverclyde

naughtynymphos good luck with the divorce, i have gone through it and come out the other end happy and getting on with life again, if you are not living together at all then class yourself as single, he may have moved on and got a new female

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i cudnt play on the sly like, i'd just stay single if wanted to have fun when i wanted, new girl has dropped some interesting hints though to say the least lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"naughtynymphos good luck with the divorce, i have gone through it and come out the other end happy and getting on with life again, if you are not living together at all then class yourself as single, he may have moved on and got a new female

lol he has hes been living with her for over a year, we are still friends and get on better now than we did when we was living together

I just think some peoples logic is funny, how can you be cheating on someone you havnt lived with for two years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% never married - 99% will not ever get married (would have to be real good)

Happy hanging out til the one comes along and this I can take it or leave it.

Some would say being married and swinging is wrong even with consent - prudes lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if the OP had bothered to look through the archives, you would seen how venemously men playing away are treated!!

You actualy expect them to answer??

I'f you look at this and other similer sites you'll see the the percentages of both sex's playing away are not that diffirent. It's just that it's easier for a woman whereas men are treated with suspicion, especialy if they are in a certain age bracket

James

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you will find a lot of single females are anything but single........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not here to judge anyones life and why they ae playing behind thier partners back (male and female).....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We (married people playing away) are here for lots of different reasons - I am up front about my situation on my profile and that's as far as I am willing to go into it - it is no ones business why as long as they know up front people are grown up enough to make their own decisions about me based on that"

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Surprised this gets so much attention?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

difference between men and women is because its so hard to find single women most will turn a blind eye to the fact they are playing away, but as single guys are, not being rude but ten a penny they are easier to cast aside and replce with another

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

"if the OP had bothered to look through the archives, you would seen how venemously men playing away are treated!!

You actualy expect them to answer??

James"

disagree on just 1 point.

its not that its easier for married women to get away with cheating, its just people that meet men want to know, whereas men that meet women dont care whats involved as long as they get it wet and thier balls emptied

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

"difference between men and women is because its so hard to find single women most will turn a blind eye to the fact they are playing away, but as single guys are, not being rude but ten a penny they are easier to cast aside and replce with another"

or i could have read the entire threadbefore posting the same thing lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to swing with my ex wife and we BOTH absolutely loved it. As well as screwing the women myself, I used to also get off on seeing my wife with other guys and women who serviced her to the utmost and made her smile !!! It gave me great satisfaction that I was allowing her to get her rocks off and have fun without cheating, because we were both aware of what we both wanted and enjoyed. The trouble is that my current wife is not into this AT ALL, but I have got the taste for it. So in answer to the question, no I wouldn't want her cheating but would be happy if she played with my knowledge. I should imagine many and probably most guys are in the same boat.

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By *uitar_antiheroMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I am single, have been for a few years now. When I start seeing someone I will stop using fab.

To be brutally honest, I wouldn't want to share someone I was with with anyone, male, female or couple. However, if others are ok with doing this and involving me then I will join them. Some may call that hypocritical or selfish or whatever but I'm being honest about it. If I had a fbuddy I would likely do 3somes etc, but not with a gf, fiancee or wife.

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By *ath-N-DelCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow area

"I am not here to judge anyones life and why they ae playing behind thier partners back (male and female).....

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By *ath-N-DelCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow area

Seriously!!!

You gotta laugh at some people....really!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

from my own experience, id say 50% of the guys ive had dealings with are attached and playing away and i appreciate the small fraction who are up front about it then you can make an informed choice...but the liars who dont tell you are what im sure the OP is referring to...these men are putting their poor partners at risk, and dont behave in the true spirit of swingings openess as i understand it...they are cheaters plain and simple, and if i was to participate i would be as poor a human being as they are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I expected it because I knew the straight away guys would accuse women of being worse it's obvious...

I don't believe women are worse and unless I'm mistaken nobody has said that. I don't think I've ever seen that said anywhere on this forum.

Obvious may just have been the wrong choice of word, did you mean in your opinion?

Yes i stand corrected. It was obvious in my opinion..

No guy has accused women of being worse so your 'opinion' was obviously wrong.

In my opinion there is no difference between female and male cheats inside or outside of swinging. I have seen no evidence to suggest lower percentages or ratios of cheats between the sexes.

I think your question is valid but I don't accept your logic of excluding single women from it based on them being in the minority. I think the reason your excluding them is because you don't want to alienate them. As another poster put it, maybe your 'turning a blind eye'?

I am not defending cheats, what people do in their own life is their concern, just don't like double standards.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Seriously!!!

You gotta laugh at some people....really! "

I think they may have set their criteria a bit high!

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By *ath-N-DelCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow area

"from my own experience, id say 50% of the guys ive had dealings with are attached and playing away and i appreciate the small fraction who are up front about it then you can make an informed choice...but the liars who dont tell you are what im sure the OP is referring to...these men are putting their poor partners at risk, and dont behave in the true spirit of swingings openess as i understand it...they are cheaters plain and simple, and if i was to participate i would be as poor a human being as they are"

I have nothing against married men/women playing behind partners back, nothing to with me!

Are you saying that if they are open about being married on their profile that it makes a difference to you?

Confused...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes it does make a difference as then you have a choice to persue a meet or not (personally i would not) and i would respect their honesty but still not meet...i simply cant abide liars, and dont want to be involved with a cheater

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confused here too as are you implying that cheaters who have it on their profile are different to those who don't?

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By *pl- capdagde OP Couple
over a year ago

Cap d agde,France

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is nobody else's business if someone is married or not - we are here to swing not be Relate counsellors.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

they are still cheaters and i wouldnt go with either, i was simply illustrating that an upfront cheater is better than a liar who hides it...but only just

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By *ath-N-DelCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow area

"yes it does make a difference as then you have a choice to persue a meet or not (personally i would not) and i would respect their honesty but still not meet...i simply cant abide liars, and dont want to be involved with a cheater "

Ok..

Your first post was a bit confusing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is nobody else's business if someone is married or not - we are here to swing not be Relate counsellors. "
but isnt the very nature of swinging openess and honesty?]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is nobody else's business if someone is married or not - we are here to swing not be Relate counsellors. but isnt the very nature of swinging openess and honesty?]"

some people dont want people in thier buisness....thats thier choice....

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By *ath-N-DelCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow area

"Already this is going to turn into one of thoses where nobody directly answers the question in the thread title.

people cheating on partners have become adept at avoiding answering any questions directly.

but surely you already realised that lol

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By *pl- capdagde OP Couple
over a year ago

Cap d agde,France

"I am single, have been for a few years now. When I start seeing someone I will stop using fab.

Yes we know a couple of guys like you and sure there's loads more.

It's ok to be a swinger and shag other mens wifes but as soon as you have something to bring to the party your no longer a swinger ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I single , male , etc etc i think there are the same percantage wise of men and women playing away , its nothing to do with me , their life . In the past i have cheated and been cheated on . I'll hold my hands up to what i did , not sure about the others . Was she happy ? no , was I happy ? no . Would i have been hapy if i had known about it ? probably .

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is nobody else's business if someone is married or not - we are here to swing not be Relate counsellors. but isnt the very nature of swinging openess and honesty?]"

People could do a lot worse than be married!!

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

*ponders- and thinks how many men/women who are so against cheaters have been fucked by said people in a club and are non the wiser*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"*ponders- and thinks how many men/women who are so against cheaters have been fucked by said people in a club and are non the wiser*"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, that is OK when your garden of shagdom is all rosey. But believe me some wives don't do the sex thing. Once the wedding cake is eaten and presents opened that's it. I have friends from all walks of life who have experienced the this. As someone commented earlier we all have our reasons. I tell people my situation before we ever meet.

Worlds oldest profession? Have a think about that.

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By *ath-N-DelCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow area

"I am single, have been for a few years now. When I start seeing someone I will stop using fab.

Yes we know a couple of guys like you and sure there's loads more.

It's ok to be a swinger and shag other mens wifes but as soon as you have something to bring to the party your no longer a swinger .. "

There is a demand for single men on here, so why shouldn't he enjoy it while he single?

You have a go at him because he would stop swinging if/when he meets someone special to him!!

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn

We would never meet an attached/married person, we are here for fun not get caught up in someone else's life. So yes I would like to be informed if someone we where thinking off going to meet was married. It has nothing to do with relate, its our preference.

I would not like to be the person who breaks anothers heart for a shag, or be named in a divorce petition (you never know it could happen, or maybe already has). Its a complication we dont need or want.

I dont really care if there is people on here married/attached, thats their lives, their choices. I would still talk to them and be friends with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting.....So, is it different if the man is playing with wifes permission?

Its not cheating because the wife is happy for her husband to go and play without her.

I would be very happy if my wife wanted to play, but at this moment in time she doesnt want to. She suggested i play on my own.

However we now recieve messages saying "we dont play with married men". Yet they are happy to play with a "single man" who has lied to them, because he has already lied to his wife.

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over a year ago

By _abio Man 5 hours ago

Newcastle/Gateshead

How many would be happy if they found their " wife partner" screwing around behind their back.

Would you be a little upset ?

this is one of those "pandora's box" questions that almost certainly will turn into a bum fight....

me.... absolutely single... my conscience is clear....."

Bum fight ?

Something you want to tell us, Fabio ?

;0).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is nobody else's business if someone is married or not - we are here to swing not be Relate counsellors. but isnt the very nature of swinging openess and honesty?"

Nail on head.

There's a difference between swinging & just meeting people to have sex.

A big difference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The single most important thing I have learned in many years dipping in and out of the lifestyle is how to be non judgemental..........

Everyone has their own reasons for being here, and I respect that.

This topic will come up again and again and will get the same answers and comments.... It's all about choice....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"*ponders- and thinks how many men/women who are so against cheaters have been fucked by said people in a club and are non the wiser*"
lol your right x

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By *pl- capdagde OP Couple
over a year ago

Cap d agde,France

""It is nobody else's business if someone is married or not - we are here to swing not be Relate counsellors. but isnt the very nature of swinging openess and honesty?"

Nail on head.

There's a difference between swinging & just meeting people to have sex.

A big difference.

Is swinging not about meeting people for sex then ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is swinging not about meeting people for sex then ??"

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over a year ago

""It is nobody else's business if someone is married or not - we are here to swing not be Relate counsellors. but isnt the very nature of swinging openess and honesty?"

Nail on head.

There's a difference between swinging & just meeting people to have sex.

A big difference.

Is swinging not about meeting people for sex then ??"

Perhaps because some people see cheaters as only interested in "a hole is a goal or any cocks a cock" vs some swingers want to see someone regularly maybe, be friends with, stay overnight at either home etc

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"*ponders- and thinks how many men/women who are so against cheaters have been fucked by said people in a club and are non the wiser*"

Probably loads, me included.... but I have every right to be in the club.... and don't have to lie to anyone to be there or when I get back.

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By *uitar_antiheroMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I am single, have been for a few years now. When I start seeing someone I will stop using fab.

Yes we know a couple of guys like you and sure there's loads more.

It's ok to be a swinger and shag other mens wifes but as soon as you have something to bring to the party your no longer a swinger ..

There is a demand for single men on here, so why shouldn't he enjoy it while he single?

You have a go at him because he would stop swinging if/when he meets someone special to him!!

If anyone has a problem with my outlook then just don't meet me. Sorted. I'm sure I'm not the only single person who would leave if they found someone they wanted to be with. And thanks for your comments cath n del.

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By *pl- capdagde OP Couple
over a year ago

Cap d agde,France

""It is nobody else's business if someone is married or not - we are here to swing not be Relate counsellors. but isnt the very nature of swinging openess and honesty?"

Nail on head.

There's a difference between swinging & just meeting people to have sex.

A big difference.

Is swinging not about meeting people for sex then ??

If you most swingers clubs you'll see plenty of single guys that think any hole is a goal trust me as also you' ll see many fems that just think a cocks a cock no matter what it's attached too..

Don't see how this is of any relevance.

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By *pl- capdagde OP Couple
over a year ago

Cap d agde,France

""It is nobody else's business if someone is married or not - we are here to swing not be Relate counsellors. but isnt the very nature of swinging openess and honesty?"

Nail on head.

There's a difference between swinging & just meeting people to have sex.

A big difference.

Is swinging not about meeting people for sex then ??

If you most swingers clubs you'll see plenty of single guys that think any hole is a goal trust me as also you' ll see many fems that just think a cocks a cock no matter what it's attached too..

Don't see how this is of any relevance."

Goto *

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""It is nobody else's business if someone is married or not - we are here to swing not be Relate counsellors. but isnt the very nature of swinging openess and honesty?"

Nail on head.

There's a difference between swinging & just meeting people to have sex.

A big difference.

Is swinging not about meeting people for sex then ??

If you most swingers clubs you'll see plenty of single guys that think any hole is a goal trust me as also you' ll see many fems that just think a cocks a cock no matter what it's attached too..

Don't see how this is of any relevance."

True but I was just guessing on why people see swinging different to just meeting people to have sex with

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By *pl- capdagde OP Couple
over a year ago

Cap d agde,France

""It is nobody else's business if someone is married or not - we are here to swing not be Relate counsellors. but isnt the very nature of swinging openess and honesty?"

Nail on head.

There's a difference between swinging & just meeting people to have sex.

A big difference.

Is swinging not about meeting people for sex then ??

If you most swingers clubs you'll see plenty of single guys that think any hole is a goal trust me as also you' ll see many fems that just think a cocks a cock no matter what it's attached too..

Don't see how this is of any relevance.

True but I was just guessing on why people see swinging different to just meeting people to have sex with"

It's not if a guy goes with an escort and is married or attached he's still cheating but an escort doesn't care as she's in it to earn money.

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over a year ago

""It is nobody else's business if someone is married or not - we are here to swing not be Relate counsellors. but isnt the very nature of swinging openess and honesty?"

Nail on head.

There's a difference between swinging & just meeting people to have sex.

A big difference.

Is swinging not about meeting people for sex then ??

If you most swingers clubs you'll see plenty of single guys that think any hole is a goal trust me as also you' ll see many fems that just think a cocks a cock no matter what it's attached too..

Don't see how this is of any relevance.

True but I was just guessing on why people see swinging different to just meeting people to have sex with

It's not if a guy goes with an escort and is married or attached he's still cheating but an escort doesn't care as she's in it to earn money."

Except I wasn't using an escort to base my thoughts on, or anyone that accepts money for sex for that matter

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

Is swinging not about meeting people for sex then ??

if it is then we are doing it wrong.

we have met couples just for a meal/drink

we have also met couples to get involved in sexual behaviour.

but NEVER have we met anyone for sex.

few, we arent classed as swingers.

we must be subswingers or summat.

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By *pl- capdagde OP Couple
over a year ago

Cap d agde,France

Is swinging not about meeting people for sex then ??

if it is then we are doing it wrong.

we have met couples just for a meal/drink

we have also met couples to get involved in sexual behaviour.

but NEVER have we met anyone for sex.

few, we arent classed as swingers.

we must be subswingers or summat.

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

Is swinging not about meeting people for sex then ??

if it is then we are doing it wrong.

we have met couples just for a meal/drink

we have also met couples to get involved in sexual behaviour.

but NEVER have we met anyone for sex.

few, we arent classed as swingers.

we must be subswingers or summat.

whats confusing?

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By *ethany10Couple
over a year ago

falkirk

I think it's a great turn on trying to persuade a female of. Couple you meet to see you behind their partners back. I'm surprised how many agree ( my wife knows as we share everything) . As a teenager it was always a great turn on pinching my mates girlfriends. Now I will probably get pelters from the judgemental brigade on here but at the end of the day if a woman agrees to meet without the knowledge of their husband/ partner then that is an issue between them.

If you think about it logically a swinging site is more likely to encourage cheating due to the fac tha most are on here for sex ultimately. Thus there is a better opportunity for it to happen or for those 'single' people to arrange to cheat without the hassle of going to a bar etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Obviously we all have different views on what swinging actually means, and none of us are right or wrong...my opinions are my opinions, and yours are yours...but cheating in my book, whatever the reasons, is wrong...if there is a problem in a relationship where you have to seek sex sneakily behind your partners back, then you as a person should look at your relationship and either try to make it work or break it off...you cant possibly truly love a person if you do that. I most certainly would have preferred my ex telling me he was unhappy with our sex life rather than screwing around with many women behind my back...not only did it have a proufound effect on my life and my mental wellbeing at the time, it also had a huge negative effect on my children...and I would never wish that on anyone.

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

"Obviously we all have different views on what swinging actually means, and none of us are right or wrong...my opinions are my opinions, and yours are yours...but cheating in my book, whatever the reasons, is wrong...if there is a problem in a relationship where you have to seek sex sneakily behind your partners back, then you as a person should look at your relationship and either try to make it work or break it off...you cant possibly truly love a person if you do that. I most certainly would have preferred my ex telling me he was unhappy with our sex life rather than screwing around with many women behind my back...not only did it have a proufound effect on my life and my mental wellbeing at the time, it also had a huge negative effect on my children...and I would never wish that on anyone."

i can absolutely agree with where you are coming from, as i was there myself.

almost destroyed me, as a person with very little self confidence in the first place

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By *pl- capdagde OP Couple
over a year ago

Cap d agde,France

"I think it's a great turn on trying to persuade a female of. Couple you meet to see you behind their partners back. I'm surprised how many agree ( my wife knows as we share everything) . As a teenager it was always a great turn on pinching my mates girlfriends. Now I will probably get pelters from the judgemental brigade on here but at the end of the day if a woman agrees to meet without the knowledge of their husband/ partner then that is an issue between them.

Reading your profile you seek couples only and not singles..

So if you found out your wife was meeting single guys on here without you knowing you'd be absolutely fine with it , as in your words above it would be a turn on and being swingers gives better opportunity to cheat ?

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over a year ago

Cap d agde,France

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of talk about the "damage" a single guy playing away can do. Plenty of people that have "been around" the scene for a bit could no doubt tell tales of the what some would say is the most dangerous of swinging individuals......the single female!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes...we are a dangerous breed...acid tongues and flickable hair we could take your eye out with, not to mention the long sharp nails to mess your face up...ROAR!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been meeting other people for a number of years now. My wife is unaware.

I'd not have a problem if she had sex with other guys. In fact I'd like to have other singles and couples join us but that's not going to happen.

Not sure if this makes me a bad person or not. Just love sex and meeting people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What others do is and and never been a concern of mine

The only relationship I care about is my own and that's that

If others play with fire that's there outlook not mine

If I shag someone male or female that's playing away so what?

I'll not judge them if they in turn don't judge me xx

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By *azzaahhWoman
over a year ago

north wales / chester

"Already this is going to turn into one of thoses where nobody directly answers the question in the thread title.

people cheating on partners have become adept at avoiding answering any questions directly.

but surely you already realised that lol

Yeah instead you get smart arses taking the topic off in a totally diff direction which I've noticed on many threads I've read.

The what about women response was totally expected ...

Did you expect it because it's valid?

If you did expect it and it disappoints you, why didn't you cover it off in your Op?

I expected it because I knew the straight away guys would accuse women of being worse it's obvious...

OK I think that 50% of the single guys on this site are actualy married and are playing away.

Also 93.76% of statistics are made up on the spot.....

from my experinece its well more than 50% more like 90%

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