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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Chatting with a long term friend on here and she is struggling to find a decent man for a long term Fwb how with thousands of men on here

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Finding a long term FWB is different to finding a man who will turn up for a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who's your friend ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Who's your friend ? "

I will get her to message you tomorrow the only man to message on here fair play she will definitely message you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Finding a long term FWB is different to finding a man who will turn up for a meet. "

Fwb can be better fun its nice to get comfortable with each other it makes playing so much better especially on a regular basis

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By *hris6Man
over a year ago

Ipswich


"Finding a long term FWB is different to finding a man who will turn up for a meet.

Fwb can be better fun its nice to get comfortable with each other it makes playing so much better especially on a regular basis "

It can be tricky as well as not everybody can control there emotions & feelings might develop over time. Its easier ( emotionally ) to do one or two meets then be in a long term scenario ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I'm interested in getting to know her if she is interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Finding a long term FWB is different to finding a man who will turn up for a meet.

Fwb can be better fun its nice to get comfortable with each other it makes playing so much better especially on a regular basis "

But it is harder to find. There are a lot of women on here struggling to find an FWB. Hopefully she will get lucky enough soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Finding a long term FWB is different to finding a man who will turn up for a meet.

Fwb can be better fun its nice to get comfortable with each other it makes playing so much better especially on a regular basis "

It is difficult to find a fwb and definitely if you keep getting let down but it's better if you can click and be friends and take it from there

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I shall show her my findings two fellas interested lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are all indecent on here....

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By *eriousGuyABCMan
over a year ago

( WEST OF ) Chippenham ish


"Chatting with a long term friend on here and she is struggling to find a decent man for a long term Fwb how with thousands of men on here "

It depends what her criteria is. Finding it hard to believe she's having trouble finding someone. There are loads of us on here

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By *astyEricMan
over a year ago

Hull


"Chatting with a long term friend on here and she is struggling to find a decent man for a long term Fwb how with thousands of men on here

It depends what her criteria is. Finding it hard to believe she's having trouble finding someone. There are loads of us on here "

Same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Finding a man is easy. Finding a man she wants, thats the trouble.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Chatting with a long term friend on here and she is struggling to find a decent man for a long term Fwb how with thousands of men on here "

Who is your friend?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Finding the right fwb is easier said than done

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Stages of difficulty for a single fwm.

Getting guys interested: piss easy

Getting guys who meet your requirements: probably fairly easy

Getting guys who respect you as a person: moderately difficult

Getting guys who show up at the agreed time and behave in the (implied) agreed way: difficult.

Anything more than a one off: quite difficult.

Finding a fwb: extremely difficult.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Stages of difficulty for a single fwm.

Getting guys interested: piss easy

Getting guys who meet your requirements: probably fairly easy

Getting guys who respect you as a person: moderately difficult

Getting guys who show up at the agreed time and behave in the (implied) agreed way: difficult.

Anything more than a one off: quite difficult.

Finding a fwb: extremely difficult. "

Fem. Bollocks.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Finding a man is easy. Finding a man she wants, thats the trouble."

Exactly this

A lot is made of the number imbalance here, and it's assumed that women have it "easy" just because of the number of men on the site - however reality is if you take out the men that have the site totally wrong, and a false sense of expectation and entitlement then the number imbalance virtually disappears - so for anyone, man or woman it comes down to finding someone you connect with and as with "normal" life you can't connect with everyone.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Finding a man is easy. Finding a man she wants, thats the trouble.

Exactly this

A lot is made of the number imbalance here, and it's assumed that women have it "easy" just because of the number of men on the site - however reality is if you take out the men that have the site totally wrong, and a false sense of expectation and entitlement then the number imbalance virtually disappears - so for anyone, man or woman it comes down to finding someone you connect with and as with "normal" life you can't connect with everyone."

It's just a different kind of difficult.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Finding a man is easy. Finding a man she wants, thats the trouble.

Exactly this

A lot is made of the number imbalance here, and it's assumed that women have it "easy" just because of the number of men on the site - however reality is if you take out the men that have the site totally wrong, and a false sense of expectation and entitlement then the number imbalance virtually disappears - so for anyone, man or woman it comes down to finding someone you connect with and as with "normal" life you can't connect with everyone.

It's just a different kind of difficult. "

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I always seem to have regular meets with the same women the sex and banter just gets better

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I always seem to have regular meets with the same women the sex and banter just gets better "

Oh I agree. But the people I like meeting are in high demand, for good reason. Which is OK, they should be! Leaves me slogging through the inbox (mostly mundane, but also disgusting, threatening, and diabolical) hoping to find another gem.

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By *ittleRed18Woman
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"Finding a man is easy. Finding a man she wants, thats the trouble.

Exactly this

A lot is made of the number imbalance here, and it's assumed that women have it "easy" just because of the number of men on the site - however reality is if you take out the men that have the site totally wrong, and a false sense of expectation and entitlement then the number imbalance virtually disappears - so for anyone, man or woman it comes down to finding someone you connect with and as with "normal" life you can't connect with everyone."

You speak the gospel truth Gemini!

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London


"I always seem to have regular meets with the same women the sex and banter just gets better "

Absolutely, it's much better to have fun with a friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It does make me when people think women have it "easy" here. Well yes, if you're merely looking for a hole filler then yes, it's a piece of piss. Very few are looking for nothing more than a penis tho, and many men see themselves as being little more than their penis. There's an obvious imbalance right there.

I don't ever say my time here has been easy finding the people I believe will be good for me, and vice versa. Regardless of the nature of the site, unless you are careful or WANT the feeling of degradation and being used it can easily happen and that could have huge negative impact on your sense of wellbeing.

I consider myself very lucky, and rather privileged to have met the people I have, it has taken time and taken care.

P

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think with some lads on here just get overwhelmed with the sex and don't know how to control their manners maybe it should be compulsory for some to have to knock one out before talking to a woman lol

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"It does make me when people think women have it "easy" here. Well yes, if you're merely looking for a hole filler then yes, it's a piece of piss. Very few are looking for nothing more than a penis tho, and many men see themselves as being little more than their penis. There's an obvious imbalance right there.

I don't ever say my time here has been easy finding the people I believe will be good for me, and vice versa. Regardless of the nature of the site, unless you are careful or WANT the feeling of degradation and being used it can easily happen and that could have huge negative impact on your sense of wellbeing.

I consider myself very lucky, and rather privileged to have met the people I have, it has taken time and taken care.

P"

Quite. If you're looking for an idiot who doesn't regard you as a human being, just a convenient warm hole for his cock... More than I can handle. Sorting out those who respect my humanity, safety, and consent... Jesus it's hard work.

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By *emo169Man
over a year ago

Crawley / Pattaya, Thailand

Whoever you are please get in touch all men are not the same, some of us are actually very nice humans.

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By *ittleRed18Woman
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"It does make me when people think women have it "easy" here. Well yes, if you're merely looking for a hole filler then yes, it's a piece of piss. Very few are looking for nothing more than a penis tho, and many men see themselves as being little more than their penis. There's an obvious imbalance right there.

I don't ever say my time here has been easy finding the people I believe will be good for me, and vice versa. Regardless of the nature of the site, unless you are careful or WANT the feeling of degradation and being used it can easily happen and that could have huge negative impact on your sense of wellbeing.

I consider myself very lucky, and rather privileged to have met the people I have, it has taken time and taken care.

P

Quite. If you're looking for an idiot who doesn't regard you as a human being, just a convenient warm hole for his cock... More than I can handle. Sorting out those who respect my humanity, safety, and consent... Jesus it's hard work. "

That's exactly it and if you do this you are called a "stuck up bitch who doesn't know a good thing when it's in front of her"

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By *ittleRed18Woman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I found one on here 2 years ago in the same situ as me. Struggling to find one local now. Found someone whos fantastic but 1h 40 mins away unfortunately it just wouldnt work

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"It does make me when people think women have it "easy" here. Well yes, if you're merely looking for a hole filler then yes, it's a piece of piss. Very few are looking for nothing more than a penis tho, and many men see themselves as being little more than their penis. There's an obvious imbalance right there.

I don't ever say my time here has been easy finding the people I believe will be good for me, and vice versa. Regardless of the nature of the site, unless you are careful or WANT the feeling of degradation and being used it can easily happen and that could have huge negative impact on your sense of wellbeing.

I consider myself very lucky, and rather privileged to have met the people I have, it has taken time and taken care.

P

Quite. If you're looking for an idiot who doesn't regard you as a human being, just a convenient warm hole for his cock... More than I can handle. Sorting out those who respect my humanity, safety, and consent... Jesus it's hard work.

That's exactly it and if you do this you are called a "stuck up bitch who doesn't know a good thing when it's in front of her" "

I'm so sorry I don't want to get hurt and that I'm not prepared to shave my legs/ doll myself up without some benefit to me. Oh woe. Woe these poor men who can't find utterly selfless women.

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By *uvs2snogMan
over a year ago

crawley

I think it’s the same both ways trying to find someone who has the same interests and wants.

Not everyone is looking to shag half the site lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can appreciate how difficult this is for a woman simply because of how difficult it is for me. I have a good number of online friends who are women, very few of them are really interested in me sexually never mind any of them being interested in an FWB arrangement. But I remain cautiously optimistic

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By *istress CockneyWoman
over a year ago

LONDON


"Stages of difficulty for a single fwm.

Getting guys interested: piss easy

Getting guys who meet your requirements: probably fairly easy

Getting guys who respect you as a person: moderately difficult

Getting guys who show up at the agreed time and behave in the (implied) agreed way: difficult.

Anything more than a one off: quite difficult.

Finding a fwb: extremely difficult. "

100% agree

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By *entileschiWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

Finding a decent FB is harder than you'd think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Finding a man is easy. Finding a man she wants, thats the trouble."

And a 'decent' one at that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I wonder what she says when she reads a whole thread on her lol i can't wait to message her

Here goes lol

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London


"I wonder what she says when she reads a whole thread on her lol i can't wait to message her

Here goes lol"

So long as she remains in the background she can peruse at her leisure and not be overwhelmed with messages proclaiming that they are genuine and not like the rest. With the obligatory deluge of cock pics naturally

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I have a friend in a similar position, and no... I'm not going to offer to put men in contact with her.

Finding a good, medium to long term fwb is very difficult. Tens of thousands of men here but most are just looking for a quick shag, or promise the best sex ever only to be done after 15 minutes fumbling. Or they get bored with "swinging", find a relationship and disappear from the scene.

Finding a suitable guy who wants to have "affectionate non relationship sex" isn't easy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who's your friend ? "

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By *adtaffladMan
over a year ago

Rhyl

That's nuts the men must be mad fwb is a lot better than a notch in the headboard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think with some lads on here just get overwhelmed with the sex and don't know how to control their manners maybe it should be compulsory for some to have to knock one out before talking to a woman lol"

There is no need to be rude oh here some guys are bang out off order which does not help the nice ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder what she says when she reads a whole thread on her lol i can't wait to message her

Here goes lol"

You will have to come back and let us know her response

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Finding a meet on here is getting nigh on impossible seems there are more dreaming of meeting than actually meeting on here these days.

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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago

North Oxfordshire

Over all the years I've been swinging I've found it next to impossible to actually meet men who respect me and the fun I want to have, and who don't just see me as a receptacle for their penis.

I can well believe she has not managed to meet anyone. I've pretty much given up meeting people online, preferring now just to go to clubs and use online profiles to stay in touch with those I've met in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally depends on what she is looking for.

Is she looking for to much for a site like this?

Maybe she needs to lower her expectations.

Most men in my experience will tell you what they think you wanna hear and then change there minds.

Took me 3 years to find mind.

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By *entileschiWoman
over a year ago

Norwich


"I have a friend in a similar position, and no... I'm not going to offer to put men in contact with her.

Finding a good, medium to long term fwb is very difficult. Tens of thousands of men here but most are just looking for a quick shag, or promise the best sex ever only to be done after 15 minutes fumbling. Or they get bored with "swinging", find a relationship and disappear from the scene.

Finding a suitable guy who wants to have "affectionate non relationship sex" isn't easy. "

All this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stages of difficulty for a single fwm.

Getting guys interested: piss easy

Getting guys who meet your requirements: probably fairly easy

Getting guys who respect you as a person: moderately difficult

Getting guys who show up at the agreed time and behave in the (implied) agreed way: difficult.

Anything more than a one off: quite difficult.

Finding a fwb: extremely difficult. "

HAHAH totally agree. its the same for blokes in fairness.

I have no problem getting meets but then it gets more vague as things progress. I'm quite lucky and have a FB, I also have a number of people Ive known now for years who i meet, have good friendship and sometimes we have sex too.

What i would say to the blokes reading this is be yourself, dont "be nice". just be yourself.

respect yourself and others

and wear a condom

brush your teeth

dont be pissed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love to find a woman for long term in the north east but just never happens

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By *ittleRed18Woman
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"Stages of difficulty for a single fwm.

Getting guys interested: piss easy

Getting guys who meet your requirements: probably fairly easy

Getting guys who respect you as a person: moderately difficult

Getting guys who show up at the agreed time and behave in the (implied) agreed way: difficult.

Anything more than a one off: quite difficult.

Finding a fwb: extremely difficult.

HAHAH totally agree. its the same for blokes in fairness.

I have no problem getting meets but then it gets more vague as things progress. I'm quite lucky and have a FB, I also have a number of people Ive known now for years who i meet, have good friendship and sometimes we have sex too.

What i would say to the blokes reading this is be yourself, dont "be nice". just be yourself.

respect yourself and others

and wear a condom

brush your teeth

dont be pissed

"

Best advice! So many don't realise this.

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By *ow ability pornstarMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"Finding a long term FWB is different to finding a man who will turn up for a meet.

Fwb can be better fun its nice to get comfortable with each other it makes playing so much better especially on a regular basis

But it is harder to find. There are a lot of women on here struggling to find an FWB. Hopefully she will get lucky enough soon

"

Hi!!! Any women following this. I’m very interested in long term fwb

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the men effectively posting "pick me, pick me" when they have no idea about this woman is a new low in desperatoon. Still who cares about little details like what she looks like or how old she is or what her preferences are when there's a chance of a shag?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

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"I think the men effectively posting "pick me, pick me" when they have no idea about this woman is a new low in desperatoon. Still who cares about little details like what she looks like or how old she is or what her preferences are when there's a chance of a shag?

"

Beat me to it BM, beat me to it - was just about to say pretty much the same thing and it pretty much proves the point various others have made about how it's not easy for women in the slightest

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I think with some lads on here just get overwhelmed with the sex and don't know how to control their manners maybe it should be compulsory for some to have to knock one out before talking to a woman lol

There is no need to be rude oh here some guys are bang out off order which does not help the nice ones "

How was it rude?

And how do the bang out of order guys not help the nice ones? The *only* ones they spoil it for is themselves and it could actually be argued that their actions help the decent guys shine through

Personally the only person who is accountable for my enjoyment of the site is me - no-one else affects my enjoyment of it and the way I behave and/or interact.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton


"I think the men effectively posting "pick me, pick me" when they have no idea about this woman is a new low in desperatoon. Still who cares about little details like what she looks like or how old she is or what her preferences are when there's a chance of a shag?

"

It demonstrates one of the reasons why finding a male fwb is so difficult. As one lady has said, finding a man who actually respects the ladies and treats them like individual human beings is like the proverbial needle in the haystack.

Woman puts head above parapet.... Chorus of men saying "me! Me! me!"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Here goes she is just about to read her thread lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's really hard to find a regular local fwb FB believe me!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not as easy as you think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in the same position. Haven't found a regular FWB in the four years I've been on here. It's just a question of luck with who you meet I think (or more appropriately for the OP's friend and myself, bad luck)!

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By *urple-roseWoman
over a year ago

Stoke

I just can’t get them to stick to meets, they arrange a meet & then don’t turn up, no contact, nothing. It’s why I stopped meeting outside of clubs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I just can’t get them to stick to meets, they arrange a meet & then don’t turn up, no contact, nothing. It’s why I stopped meeting outside of clubs "

That is what she is suffering why would you arrange a meet you are not turning up to madness if you want a wank go on a porn site

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By *anny_jMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

I don't think this issue is new as the same problem occurs on other dating sites with a lot of people with there own expectations or/and chemistry.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton


"I just can’t get them to stick to meets, they arrange a meet & then don’t turn up, no contact, nothing. It’s why I stopped meeting outside of clubs

That is what she is suffering why would you arrange a meet you are not turning up to madness if you want a wank go on a porn site "

There do seem to be a lot of guys who chat about sex, collect a few photos, arrange a meet and then disappear. Either cold feet or they got the materials for their wank bank and moved on.

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By *urple-roseWoman
over a year ago

Stoke

My free time is very limited & I have to make arrangements of childcare etc, so to make all the effort for a no show is soul destroying

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton


"My free time is very limited & I have to make arrangements of childcare etc, so to make all the effort for a no show is soul destroying "

It's a shitty thing to do to someone. I have friends who have been let down multiple times by different men and it really does begin to claw away at them.

It's not just men, years ago I was stood up four times by the same woman... But mostly it is men... Probably never with any intention of meeting. Guys, remember it's a human being you are talking with.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

The problem often is, that 2 people's idea of what an fwb actually is rarely match.

Women tend to view it as an actual friend, someone they can chat with, have a bit of craic with, and occasionally fuck... A bit like a perpetual 'third date', where you get to keep those giddy excited butterflies and can't keep your hands off each other, but without the progression into an actual public relationship and the inevitable hassle of friends and family becoming involved... You get to stay in that 'early days' bubble of just 2 people

Men tend to have more of a fuck-buddy view... Someone you find physically attractive enough to shag regularly, but don't have anything else in common with to chat about, so you just drop them a text when you feel horny and pretty much forget about afterwards until you feel horny again.

While there are 1000s of members who say they would love an fwb, they don't all have the same ideal of how it will work, and that sometimes becomes quite obvious in conversation before having even met. It can be disheartening for some when this happens over and over. Then, on top of this, you may meet someone who seems ideal on paper, but the sex isn't as exciting as you'd hoped, and although you're both looking for an fwb, the idea of repeat performance just doesn't get your motor running. This can actually be quite disheartening for both parties!

The fwb thing can't be forced. I think the best way to find an fwb who matches you, is not to look for one, but just be happy when it happens anyway

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By *urple-roseWoman
over a year ago

Stoke


"My free time is very limited & I have to make arrangements of childcare etc, so to make all the effort for a no show is soul destroying

It's a shitty thing to do to someone. I have friends who have been let down multiple times by different men and it really does begin to claw away at them.

It's not just men, years ago I was stood up four times by the same woman... But mostly it is men... Probably never with any intention of meeting. Guys, remember it's a human being you are talking with. "

I’ve had more no shows than actually meets, it does affect you & you are less likely to make any more arrangements with others for fear of it all happening again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fwb means different things to different people. I have had long-term fwb, but didn't go out socially with them. We would watch a movie, eat together at each others homes and go to clubs together. But that was it. The line can blur. So I guess it depends what fwb is wanted. Regular sex, without it morphing into a relationship is what a lot of guys want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would be very interested

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By *otwife for useCouple
over a year ago

manchester

80% of guys on here, just want to wank on there phone, obvious from there messages

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Chatting with a long term friend on here and she is struggling to find a decent man for a long term Fwb how with thousands of men on here "

Were you overlooked?!

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By *adtaffladMan
over a year ago

Rhyl


"Over all the years I've been swinging I've found it next to impossible to actually meet men who respect me and the fun I want to have, and who don't just see me as a receptacle for their penis.that is sad and tars all of us decent guys with the same brush. I find there has to be a spark and respect to make it worth while. If you just want a receptical go and pay for it.

I can well believe she has not managed to meet anyone. I've pretty much given up meeting people online, preferring now just to go to clubs and use online profiles to stay in touch with those I've met in person."

I hate this as it tars all the decent men with the same brush there needs to be a spark and respect to make it enjoyable if they just want a receptical they should go and pay for ir

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By *ig daddy 1969Man
over a year ago

manchester


"I just can’t get them to stick to meets, they arrange a meet & then don’t turn up, no contact, nothing. It’s why I stopped meeting outside of clubs "

I always turn up

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Chatting with a long term friend on here and she is struggling to find a decent man for a long term Fwb how with thousands of men on here

Were you overlooked?! "

We had great fun for quite while great sex and social times together and my circumstances have changed otherwise this post wouldn't be up here for sure

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"It does make me when people think women have it "easy" here. Well yes, if you're merely looking for a hole filler then yes, it's a piece of piss. Very few are looking for nothing more than a penis tho, and many men see themselves as being little more than their penis. There's an obvious imbalance right there.

I don't ever say my time here has been easy finding the people I believe will be good for me, and vice versa. Regardless of the nature of the site, unless you are careful or WANT the feeling of degradation and being used it can easily happen and that could have huge negative impact on your sense of wellbeing.

I consider myself very lucky, and rather privileged to have met the people I have, it has taken time and taken care.

P"

Obviously I'm included in that you lucky little minx

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

What surprises me is the number of people on this thread that have said they would meet with this anonymous woman, but haven't a clue where she is, what she wants, or what she looks like

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton


"What surprises me is the number of people on this thread that have said they would meet with this anonymous woman, but haven't a clue where she is, what she wants, or what she looks like "

A few months ago someone posted about how they tried an experiment. A female profile was created, 30s, no text other than "fill in later", no pictures just the silhouette.

And unsurprisingly scores of men offered this anonymous silhouette meets.

Sadly that's how many mem treat women here.... Like anonymous silhouettes... As a hole for their convenience.

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By *aling69Man
over a year ago

London


"The problem often is, that 2 people's idea of what an fwb actually is rarely match.

Women tend to view it as an actual friend, someone they can chat with, have a bit of craic with, and occasionally fuck... A bit like a perpetual 'third date', where you get to keep those giddy excited butterflies and can't keep your hands off each other, but without the progression into an actual public relationship and the inevitable hassle of friends and family becoming involved... You get to stay in that 'early days' bubble of just 2 people

Men tend to have more of a fuck-buddy view... Someone you find physically attractive enough to shag regularly, but don't have anything else in common with to chat about, so you just drop them a text when you feel horny and pretty much forget about afterwards until you feel horny again.

While there are 1000s of members who say they would love an fwb, they don't all have the same ideal of how it will work, and that sometimes becomes quite obvious in conversation before having even met. It can be disheartening for some when this happens over and over. Then, on top of this, you may meet someone who seems ideal on paper, but the sex isn't as exciting as you'd hoped, and although you're both looking for an fwb, the idea of repeat performance just doesn't get your motor running. This can actually be quite disheartening for both parties!

The fwb thing can't be forced. I think the best way to find an fwb who matches you, is not to look for one, but just be happy when it happens anyway "

Well said you, a lot of truth in your reply, however, some of us men also look for some craic and lots of chat not just to fuck someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont mean this rudely but some of you say you have taste and need to get to know someone be4 meeting but by the looks of some of your verifies you dont look that fussy to me

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Dont mean this rudely but some of you say you have taste and need to get to know someone be4 meeting but by the looks of some of your verifies you dont look that fussy to me "

Just because someone's veris don't meet your specifications doesn't mean that they don't meet that person's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yh maybe I guess lol xxx

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By *anny_jMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"80% of guys on here, just want to wank on there phone, obvious from there messages "

Why would they, when men can look at porn, men are here for meets just as much as women, if not more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont mean this rudely but some of you say you have taste and need to get to know someone be4 meeting but by the looks of some of your verifies you dont look that fussy to me "

Really, so people can't have different taste and still both be right for them?

Having taste can cover way more areas than solely looks. It can also he about the way a person treats you.

P

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Dont mean this rudely but some of you say you have taste and need to get to know someone be4 meeting but by the looks of some of your verifies you dont look that fussy to me

Just because someone's veris don't meet your specifications doesn't mean that they don't meet that person's. "

Just said something similar on a thread on the Ireland Forum earlier about dropping standards. There is no 'standard', one person just finds other things attractive to another.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Dont mean this rudely but some of you say you have taste and need to get to know someone be4 meeting but by the looks of some of your verifies you dont look that fussy to me

Just because someone's veris don't meet your specifications doesn't mean that they don't meet that person's.

Just said something similar on a thread on the Ireland Forum earlier about dropping standards. There is no 'standard', one person just finds other things attractive to another. "

I have standards. Just because other people don't understand them doesn't mean I don't. (not disagreeing with you. More, I do get messages telling me that I need to fuck them because I fucked X. X meets my standards. They - if nothing else, because of the whining - don't. End of)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the men effectively posting "pick me, pick me" when they have no idea about this woman is a new low in desperatoon. Still who cares about little details like what she looks like or how old she is or what her preferences are when there's a chance of a shag?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont mean this rudely but some of you say you have taste and need to get to know someone be4 meeting but by the looks of some of your verifies you dont look that fussy to me

Just because someone's veris don't meet your specifications doesn't mean that they don't meet that person's. "

But their verifications don’t match up with what they claim to be looking for

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Dont mean this rudely but some of you say you have taste and need to get to know someone be4 meeting but by the looks of some of your verifies you dont look that fussy to me

Just because someone's veris don't meet your specifications doesn't mean that they don't meet that person's.

But their verifications don’t match up with what they claim to be looking for "

That's none of your business to be fair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont mean this rudely but some of you say you have taste and need to get to know someone be4 meeting but by the looks of some of your verifies you dont look that fussy to me

Just because someone's veris don't meet your specifications doesn't mean that they don't meet that person's.

But their verifications don’t match up with what they claim to be looking for

That's none of your business to be fair."

I haven’t named these profiles , and as I am paying member I am entitled to read any profile I like (unless I have been blocked)

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Dont mean this rudely but some of you say you have taste and need to get to know someone be4 meeting but by the looks of some of your verifies you dont look that fussy to me

Just because someone's veris don't meet your specifications doesn't mean that they don't meet that person's.

But their verifications don’t match up with what they claim to be looking for "

Maybe they were from another time before they re-assessed what they were looking for, maybe they hold some things back in their profile because they don't want people making assumptions, maybe the sky was green that day, or maybe they're just running their profile how they want to

Either way I really don't get why people spend so much time here worrying about other people's profiles or how people thag don't meet their criteria act - wouldn't it be better to focus on our own individual experiences?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shame, im looking for bessie mate lover etc

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Maybe their preferences have changed in their time on fab? Perhaps they were verified by people they met at clubs and didn't play with? Perhaps it's their business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont mean this rudely but some of you say you have taste and need to get to know someone be4 meeting but by the looks of some of your verifies you dont look that fussy to me

Just because someone's veris don't meet your specifications doesn't mean that they don't meet that person's.

But their verifications don’t match up with what they claim to be looking for

Maybe they were from another time before they re-assessed what they were looking for, maybe they hold some things back in their profile because they don't want people making assumptions, maybe the sky was green that day, or maybe they're just running their profile how they want to

Either way I really don't get why people spend so much time here worrying about other people's profiles or how people thag don't meet their criteria act - wouldn't it be better to focus on our own individual experiences?"

Do you only read your own profile??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont mean this rudely but some of you say you have taste and need to get to know someone be4 meeting but by the looks of some of your verifies you dont look that fussy to me

Just because someone's veris don't meet your specifications doesn't mean that they don't meet that person's.

But their verifications don’t match up with what they claim to be looking for "

They should be banned from the site for false advertising.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Dont mean this rudely but some of you say you have taste and need to get to know someone be4 meeting but by the looks of some of your verifies you dont look that fussy to me

Just because someone's veris don't meet your specifications doesn't mean that they don't meet that person's.

But their verifications don’t match up with what they claim to be looking for

That's none of your business to be fair.

I haven’t named these profiles , and as I am paying member I am entitled to read any profile I like (unless I have been blocked) "

Yes, you can read anyone's profile but it's none of your business to question who they have met and why. It's absolutely nothing to do with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont mean this rudely but some of you say you have taste and need to get to know someone be4 meeting but by the looks of some of your verifies you dont look that fussy to me

Just because someone's veris don't meet your specifications doesn't mean that they don't meet that person's.

But their verifications don’t match up with what they claim to be looking for

They should be banned from the site for false advertising."

Your missing the point, some people who claim to be ‘fussy’ and only meet ‘certain types’ clearly aren’t and don’t. They can do as they please , like all of us can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm looking for a FWB hard to find on here. Wheres the Northeast women looking for a FWB..get in touch.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Dont mean this rudely but some of you say you have taste and need to get to know someone be4 meeting but by the looks of some of your verifies you dont look that fussy to me

Just because someone's veris don't meet your specifications doesn't mean that they don't meet that person's.

But their verifications don’t match up with what they claim to be looking for

They should be banned from the site for false advertising.

Your missing the point, some people who claim to be ‘fussy’ and only meet ‘certain types’ clearly aren’t and don’t. They can do as they please , like all of us can "

Why are you bitching about it then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont mean this rudely but some of you say you have taste and need to get to know someone be4 meeting but by the looks of some of your verifies you dont look that fussy to me

Just because someone's veris don't meet your specifications doesn't mean that they don't meet that person's.

But their verifications don’t match up with what they claim to be looking for

That's none of your business to be fair.

I haven’t named these profiles , and as I am paying member I am entitled to read any profile I like (unless I have been blocked)

Yes, you can read anyone's profile but it's none of your business to question who they have met and why. It's absolutely nothing to do with you. "

I haven’t named any profiles and I am talking in general terms .So unless I am missing something I can comment , and it has absolutely nothing to do with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont mean this rudely but some of you say you have taste and need to get to know someone be4 meeting but by the looks of some of your verifies you dont look that fussy to me

Just because someone's veris don't meet your specifications doesn't mean that they don't meet that person's.

But their verifications don’t match up with what they claim to be looking for

They should be banned from the site for false advertising.

Your missing the point, some people who claim to be ‘fussy’ and only meet ‘certain types’ clearly aren’t and don’t. They can do as they please , like all of us can

Why are you bitching about it then?"

I am not bitching , I am stating on observation, why are you so bothered about what I think ?

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Dont mean this rudely but some of you say you have taste and need to get to know someone be4 meeting but by the looks of some of your verifies you dont look that fussy to me

Just because someone's veris don't meet your specifications doesn't mean that they don't meet that person's.

But their verifications don’t match up with what they claim to be looking for

That's none of your business to be fair.

I haven’t named these profiles , and as I am paying member I am entitled to read any profile I like (unless I have been blocked)

Yes, you can read anyone's profile but it's none of your business to question who they have met and why. It's absolutely nothing to do with you.

I haven’t named any profiles and I am talking in general terms .So unless I am missing something I can comment , and it has absolutely nothing to do with you "

Except your posting in a public forum, complaining about people's profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont mean this rudely but some of you say you have taste and need to get to know someone be4 meeting but by the looks of some of your verifies you dont look that fussy to me

Just because someone's veris don't meet your specifications doesn't mean that they don't meet that person's.

But their verifications don’t match up with what they claim to be looking for

They should be banned from the site for false advertising.

Your missing the point, some people who claim to be ‘fussy’ and only meet ‘certain types’ clearly aren’t and don’t. They can do as they please , like all of us can "

What certain types? Hung 6 pack types?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Dont mean this rudely but some of you say you have taste and need to get to know someone be4 meeting but by the looks of some of your verifies you dont look that fussy to me

Just because someone's veris don't meet your specifications doesn't mean that they don't meet that person's.

But their verifications don’t match up with what they claim to be looking for

Maybe they were from another time before they re-assessed what they were looking for, maybe they hold some things back in their profile because they don't want people making assumptions, maybe the sky was green that day, or maybe they're just running their profile how they want to

Either way I really don't get why people spend so much time here worrying about other people's profiles or how people thag don't meet their criteria act - wouldn't it be better to focus on our own individual experiences?

Do you only read your own profile?? "

No but I also don't concern myself with how other people *choose* to manage theirs, especially if they don't match what I am looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont mean this rudely but some of you say you have taste and need to get to know someone be4 meeting but by the looks of some of your verifies you dont look that fussy to me

Just because someone's veris don't meet your specifications doesn't mean that they don't meet that person's.

But their verifications don’t match up with what they claim to be looking for

That's none of your business to be fair.

I haven’t named these profiles , and as I am paying member I am entitled to read any profile I like (unless I have been blocked)

Yes, you can read anyone's profile but it's none of your business to question who they have met and why. It's absolutely nothing to do with you.

I haven’t named any profiles and I am talking in general terms .So unless I am missing something I can comment , and it has absolutely nothing to do with you

Except your posting in a public forum, complaining about people's profiles "

Complaining? and this isn’t public? You need to be a member, if I have broken any rules then I will stop, if not, it is none of your business what I post

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Dont mean this rudely but some of you say you have taste and need to get to know someone be4 meeting but by the looks of some of your verifies you dont look that fussy to me

Just because someone's veris don't meet your specifications doesn't mean that they don't meet that person's.

But their verifications don’t match up with what they claim to be looking for

That's none of your business to be fair.

I haven’t named these profiles , and as I am paying member I am entitled to read any profile I like (unless I have been blocked)

Yes, you can read anyone's profile but it's none of your business to question who they have met and why. It's absolutely nothing to do with you.

I haven’t named any profiles and I am talking in general terms .So unless I am missing something I can comment , and it has absolutely nothing to do with you

Except your posting in a public forum, complaining about people's profiles

Complaining? and this isn’t public? You need to be a member, if I have broken any rules then I will stop, if not, it is none of your business what I post "

You just don't get it do you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont mean this rudely but some of you say you have taste and need to get to know someone be4 meeting but by the looks of some of your verifies you dont look that fussy to me

Just because someone's veris don't meet your specifications doesn't mean that they don't meet that person's.

But their verifications don’t match up with what they claim to be looking for

They should be banned from the site for false advertising.

Your missing the point, some people who claim to be ‘fussy’ and only meet ‘certain types’ clearly aren’t and don’t. They can do as they please , like all of us can

Why are you bitching about it then?

I am not bitching , I am stating on observation, why are you so bothered about what I think ?"

So what point are you making with this observation? Because it's not a constructive one and does come across bitchy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont mean this rudely but some of you say you have taste and need to get to know someone be4 meeting but by the looks of some of your verifies you dont look that fussy to me

Just because someone's veris don't meet your specifications doesn't mean that they don't meet that person's.

But their verifications don’t match up with what they claim to be looking for

Maybe they were from another time before they re-assessed what they were looking for, maybe they hold some things back in their profile because they don't want people making assumptions, maybe the sky was green that day, or maybe they're just running their profile how they want to

Either way I really don't get why people spend so much time here worrying about other people's profiles or how people thag don't meet their criteria act - wouldn't it be better to focus on our own individual experiences?

Do you only read your own profile??

No but I also don't concern myself with how other people *choose* to manage theirs, especially if they don't match what I am looking for "

I have observed that some people have contradictory profiles and verifications . Why are you concerned about why I am concerned,

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By *hazziebeeMan
over a year ago

Middlesex

I would always turn up for a meet, not turning up says alot about the person who doesn't show up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She can message me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont mean this rudely but some of you say you have taste and need to get to know someone be4 meeting but by the looks of some of your verifies you dont look that fussy to me

Just because someone's veris don't meet your specifications doesn't mean that they don't meet that person's.

But their verifications don’t match up with what they claim to be looking for

That's none of your business to be fair.

I haven’t named these profiles , and as I am paying member I am entitled to read any profile I like (unless I have been blocked)

Yes, you can read anyone's profile but it's none of your business to question who they have met and why. It's absolutely nothing to do with you.

I haven’t named any profiles and I am talking in general terms .So unless I am missing something I can comment , and it has absolutely nothing to do with you

Except your posting in a public forum, complaining about people's profiles

Complaining? and this isn’t public? You need to be a member, if I have broken any rules then I will stop, if not, it is none of your business what I post

You just don't get it do you? "

Obviously not,

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Dont mean this rudely but some of you say you have taste and need to get to know someone be4 meeting but by the looks of some of your verifies you dont look that fussy to me

Just because someone's veris don't meet your specifications doesn't mean that they don't meet that person's.

But their verifications don’t match up with what they claim to be looking for

That's none of your business to be fair.

I haven’t named these profiles , and as I am paying member I am entitled to read any profile I like (unless I have been blocked)

Yes, you can read anyone's profile but it's none of your business to question who they have met and why. It's absolutely nothing to do with you.

I haven’t named any profiles and I am talking in general terms .So unless I am missing something I can comment , and it has absolutely nothing to do with you

Except your posting in a public forum, complaining about people's profiles

Complaining? and this isn’t public? You need to be a member, if I have broken any rules then I will stop, if not, it is none of your business what I post

You just don't get it do you?

Obviously not, "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont mean this rudely but some of you say you have taste and need to get to know someone be4 meeting but by the looks of some of your verifies you dont look that fussy to me

Just because someone's veris don't meet your specifications doesn't mean that they don't meet that person's.

But their verifications don’t match up with what they claim to be looking for

That's none of your business to be fair.

I haven’t named these profiles , and as I am paying member I am entitled to read any profile I like (unless I have been blocked)

Yes, you can read anyone's profile but it's none of your business to question who they have met and why. It's absolutely nothing to do with you.

I haven’t named any profiles and I am talking in general terms .So unless I am missing something I can comment , and it has absolutely nothing to do with you

Except your posting in a public forum, complaining about people's profiles

Complaining? and this isn’t public? You need to be a member, if I have broken any rules then I will stop, if not, it is none of your business what I post "

The forums are public, anyone can see them. Although I don't think that was the explicit point being made. More that you are bitching about people because you perceive their meets unsuitable for tgem

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By *hazziebeeMan
over a year ago

Middlesex

I would always turn up for a meet, not turning up says alot about the person who doesn't show up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont mean this rudely but some of you say you have taste and need to get to know someone be4 meeting but by the looks of some of your verifies you dont look that fussy to me

Just because someone's veris don't meet your specifications doesn't mean that they don't meet that person's.

But their verifications don’t match up with what they claim to be looking for

They should be banned from the site for false advertising.

Your missing the point, some people who claim to be ‘fussy’ and only meet ‘certain types’ clearly aren’t and don’t. They can do as they please , like all of us can

Why are you bitching about it then?

I am not bitching , I am stating on observation, why are you so bothered about what I think ?

So what point are you making with this observation? Because it's not a constructive one and does come across bitchy."

It wasn’t meant to be bitchy,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont mean this rudely but some of you say you have taste and need to get to know someone be4 meeting but by the looks of some of your verifies you dont look that fussy to me

Just because someone's veris don't meet your specifications doesn't mean that they don't meet that person's.

But their verifications don’t match up with what they claim to be looking for

That's none of your business to be fair.

I haven’t named these profiles , and as I am paying member I am entitled to read any profile I like (unless I have been blocked)

Yes, you can read anyone's profile but it's none of your business to question who they have met and why. It's absolutely nothing to do with you.

I haven’t named any profiles and I am talking in general terms .So unless I am missing something I can comment , and it has absolutely nothing to do with you

Except your posting in a public forum, complaining about people's profiles

Complaining? and this isn’t public? You need to be a member, if I have broken any rules then I will stop, if not, it is none of your business what I post

The forums are public, anyone can see them. Although I don't think that was the explicit point being made. More that you are bitching about people because you perceive their meets unsuitable for tgem"

Unsuitable? Can you show me where I said that? I stated that some people’s verifications don’t match with what they claim to be looking for ?

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

We have verifications and we haven't played with anyone of them the two we have played with aren't on here so judgement on veri's is a bit naughty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My free time is very limited & I have to make arrangements of childcare etc, so to make all the effort for a no show is soul destroying

It's a shitty thing to do to someone. I have friends who have been let down multiple times by different men and it really does begin to claw away at them.

It's not just men, years ago I was stood up four times by the same woman... But mostly it is men... Probably never with any intention of meeting. Guys, remember it's a human being you are talking with.

I’ve had more no shows than actually meets, it does affect you & you are less likely to make any more arrangements with others for fear of it all happening again "

It would be great if fab had a star system. A person who genuinely intends to go for a meet would be able to click on a button in the profile of the person they are going to meet and once the meet the person they met can verify show or no show. A person with a lot of no shows would have no stars and a person who shows up punctually every time would have 5.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My free time is very limited & I have to make arrangements of childcare etc, so to make all the effort for a no show is soul destroying

It's a shitty thing to do to someone. I have friends who have been let down multiple times by different men and it really does begin to claw away at them.

It's not just men, years ago I was stood up four times by the same woman... But mostly it is men... Probably never with any intention of meeting. Guys, remember it's a human being you are talking with.

I’ve had more no shows than actually meets, it does affect you & you are less likely to make any more arrangements with others for fear of it all happening again

It would be great if fab had a star system. A person who genuinely intends to go for a meet would be able to click on a button in the profile of the person they are going to meet and once the meet the person they met can verify show or no show. A person with a lot of no shows would have no stars and a person who shows up punctually every time would have 5."

That is a great idea, also I think they should have a slightly different system where you can have an icon on your profile that shows if your actively looking to meet, want to meet that day, or not looking to meet at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have verifications and we haven't played with anyone of them the two we have played with aren't on here so judgement on veri's is a bit naughty "

When you look at a persons profile who you are thinking of meeting do you ever asses their verifications??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My free time is very limited & I have to make arrangements of childcare etc, so to make all the effort for a no show is soul destroying

It's a shitty thing to do to someone. I have friends who have been let down multiple times by different men and it really does begin to claw away at them.

It's not just men, years ago I was stood up four times by the same woman... But mostly it is men... Probably never with any intention of meeting. Guys, remember it's a human being you are talking with.

I’ve had more no shows than actually meets, it does affect you & you are less likely to make any more arrangements with others for fear of it all happening again

It would be great if fab had a star system. A person who genuinely intends to go for a meet would be able to click on a button in the profile of the person they are going to meet and once the meet the person they met can verify show or no show. A person with a lot of no shows would have no stars and a person who shows up punctually every time would have 5.

That is a great idea, also I think they should have a slightly different system where you can have an icon on your profile that shows if your actively looking to meet, want to meet that day, or not looking to meet at all "

I think that's a great idea, especially the last one. Too many people still have their 'Looking for list with ticks, yet say they're not meeting. They show up on searches and it wastes people's time looking at their profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont mean this rudely but some of you say you have taste and need to get to know someone be4 meeting but by the looks of some of your verifies you dont look that fussy to me

Just because someone's veris don't meet your specifications doesn't mean that they don't meet that person's.

But their verifications don’t match up with what they claim to be looking for

That's none of your business to be fair.

I haven’t named these profiles , and as I am paying member I am entitled to read any profile I like (unless I have been blocked)

Yes, you can read anyone's profile but it's none of your business to question who they have met and why. It's absolutely nothing to do with you.

I haven’t named any profiles and I am talking in general terms .So unless I am missing something I can comment , and it has absolutely nothing to do with you

Except your posting in a public forum, complaining about people's profiles

Complaining? and this isn’t public? You need to be a member, if I have broken any rules then I will stop, if not, it is none of your business what I post

The forums are public, anyone can see them. Although I don't think that was the explicit point being made. More that you are bitching about people because you perceive their meets unsuitable for tgem

Unsuitable? Can you show me where I said that? I stated that some people’s verifications don’t match with what they claim to be looking for ? "

I was paraphrasing you are criticising women for having verifications from men that don't match their verications? You are effectively saying that they shouldn't state preferences if they don't strictly adhere to them or that they shouldn't meet these men fir not matching them?

And if you aren't saying this why have you 3ven mentioned it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My free time is very limited & I have to make arrangements of childcare etc, so to make all the effort for a no show is soul destroying

It's a shitty thing to do to someone. I have friends who have been let down multiple times by different men and it really does begin to claw away at them.

It's not just men, years ago I was stood up four times by the same woman... But mostly it is men... Probably never with any intention of meeting. Guys, remember it's a human being you are talking with.

I’ve had more no shows than actually meets, it does affect you & you are less likely to make any more arrangements with others for fear of it all happening again

It would be great if fab had a star system. A person who genuinely intends to go for a meet would be able to click on a button in the profile of the person they are going to meet and once the meet the person they met can verify show or no show. A person with a lot of no shows would have no stars and a person who shows up punctually every time would have 5.

That is a great idea, also I think they should have a slightly different system where you can have an icon on your profile that shows if your actively looking to meet, want to meet that day, or not looking to meet at all

I think that's a great idea, especially the last one. Too many people still have their 'Looking for list with ticks, yet say they're not meeting. They show up on searches and it wastes people's time looking at their profiles. "

Yeah and hopefully those who don’t want to meet won’t get hassled etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont mean this rudely but some of you say you have taste and need to get to know someone be4 meeting but by the looks of some of your verifies you dont look that fussy to me

Just because someone's veris don't meet your specifications doesn't mean that they don't meet that person's.

But their verifications don’t match up with what they claim to be looking for

That's none of your business to be fair.

I haven’t named these profiles , and as I am paying member I am entitled to read any profile I like (unless I have been blocked)

Yes, you can read anyone's profile but it's none of your business to question who they have met and why. It's absolutely nothing to do with you.

I haven’t named any profiles and I am talking in general terms .So unless I am missing something I can comment , and it has absolutely nothing to do with you

Except your posting in a public forum, complaining about people's profiles

Complaining? and this isn’t public? You need to be a member, if I have broken any rules then I will stop, if not, it is none of your business what I post

The forums are public, anyone can see them. Although I don't think that was the explicit point being made. More that you are bitching about people because you perceive their meets unsuitable for tgem

Unsuitable? Can you show me where I said that? I stated that some people’s verifications don’t match with what they claim to be looking for ?

I was paraphrasing you are criticising women for having verifications from men that don't match their verications? You are effectively saying that they shouldn't state preferences if they don't strictly adhere to them or that they shouldn't meet these men fir not matching them?

And if you aren't saying this why have you 3ven mentioned it?"

Your obviously looking for an angle here to provoke an argument, I won’t be replying to anymore of your posts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My free time is very limited & I have to make arrangements of childcare etc, so to make all the effort for a no show is soul destroying

It's a shitty thing to do to someone. I have friends who have been let down multiple times by different men and it really does begin to claw away at them.

It's not just men, years ago I was stood up four times by the same woman... But mostly it is men... Probably never with any intention of meeting. Guys, remember it's a human being you are talking with.

I’ve had more no shows than actually meets, it does affect you & you are less likely to make any more arrangements with others for fear of it all happening again

It would be great if fab had a star system. A person who genuinely intends to go for a meet would be able to click on a button in the profile of the person they are going to meet and once the meet the person they met can verify show or no show. A person with a lot of no shows would have no stars and a person who shows up punctually every time would have 5.

That is a great idea, also I think they should have a slightly different system where you can have an icon on your profile that shows if your actively looking to meet, want to meet that day, or not looking to meet at all

I think that's a great idea, especially the last one. Too many people still have their 'Looking for list with ticks, yet say they're not meeting. They show up on searches and it wastes people's time looking at their profiles.

Yeah and hopefully those who don’t want to meet won’t get hassled etc "

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Dont mean this rudely but some of you say you have taste and need to get to know someone be4 meeting but by the looks of some of your verifies you dont look that fussy to me

Just because someone's veris don't meet your specifications doesn't mean that they don't meet that person's.

But their verifications don’t match up with what they claim to be looking for

That's none of your business to be fair.

I haven’t named these profiles , and as I am paying member I am entitled to read any profile I like (unless I have been blocked)

Yes, you can read anyone's profile but it's none of your business to question who they have met and why. It's absolutely nothing to do with you.

I haven’t named any profiles and I am talking in general terms .So unless I am missing something I can comment , and it has absolutely nothing to do with you

Except your posting in a public forum, complaining about people's profiles

Complaining? and this isn’t public? You need to be a member, if I have broken any rules then I will stop, if not, it is none of your business what I post

The forums are public, anyone can see them. Although I don't think that was the explicit point being made. More that you are bitching about people because you perceive their meets unsuitable for tgem

Unsuitable? Can you show me where I said that? I stated that some people’s verifications don’t match with what they claim to be looking for ?

I was paraphrasing you are criticising women for having verifications from men that don't match their verications? You are effectively saying that they shouldn't state preferences if they don't strictly adhere to them or that they shouldn't meet these men fir not matching them?

And if you aren't saying this why have you 3ven mentioned it?

Your obviously looking for an angle here to provoke an argument, I won’t be replying to anymore of your posts "

He's got a point though, you're criticising people for not sticking to their preferences, regardless of whether you named the profiles of not. We are telling you it's none of your business if people veer off from their preferences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont mean this rudely but some of you say you have taste and need to get to know someone be4 meeting but by the looks of some of your verifies you dont look that fussy to me

Just because someone's veris don't meet your specifications doesn't mean that they don't meet that person's.

But their verifications don’t match up with what they claim to be looking for

That's none of your business to be fair.

I haven’t named these profiles , and as I am paying member I am entitled to read any profile I like (unless I have been blocked)

Yes, you can read anyone's profile but it's none of your business to question who they have met and why. It's absolutely nothing to do with you.

I haven’t named any profiles and I am talking in general terms .So unless I am missing something I can comment , and it has absolutely nothing to do with you

Except your posting in a public forum, complaining about people's profiles

Complaining? and this isn’t public? You need to be a member, if I have broken any rules then I will stop, if not, it is none of your business what I post

The forums are public, anyone can see them. Although I don't think that was the explicit point being made. More that you are bitching about people because you perceive their meets unsuitable for tgem

Unsuitable? Can you show me where I said that? I stated that some people’s verifications don’t match with what they claim to be looking for ?

I was paraphrasing you are criticising women for having verifications from men that don't match their verications? You are effectively saying that they shouldn't state preferences if they don't strictly adhere to them or that they shouldn't meet these men fir not matching them?

And if you aren't saying this why have you 3ven mentioned it?

Your obviously looking for an angle here to provoke an argument, I won’t be replying to anymore of your posts

He's got a point though, you're criticising people for not sticking to their preferences, regardless of whether you named the profiles of not. We are telling you it's none of your business if people veer off from their preferences. "

Your obviously looking for an angle to provoke an argument I won’t be replying to anymore of your posts either

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Only ever once i didn't show due to my van not starting but i made contact and apologised and got a second chance to meet the same woman funny enough it is the friend i am talking about on here

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over a year ago


"Only ever once i didn't show due to my van not starting but i made contact and apologised and got a second chance to meet the same woman funny enough it is the friend i am talking about on here "

Ah right, why doesn’t your friend create her own profile??

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

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"Dont mean this rudely but some of you say you have taste and need to get to know someone be4 meeting but by the looks of some of your verifies you dont look that fussy to me

Just because someone's veris don't meet your specifications doesn't mean that they don't meet that person's.

But their verifications don’t match up with what they claim to be looking for

Maybe they were from another time before they re-assessed what they were looking for, maybe they hold some things back in their profile because they don't want people making assumptions, maybe the sky was green that day, or maybe they're just running their profile how they want to

Either way I really don't get why people spend so much time here worrying about other people's profiles or how people that don't meet their criteria act - wouldn't it be better to focus on our own individual experiences?

Do you only read your own profile??

No but I also don't concern myself with how other people *choose* to manage theirs, especially if they don't match what I am looking for

I have observed that some people have contradictory profiles and verifications . Why are you concerned about why I am concerned, "

As I showed though - what you are "perceiving" to be contradictory could be for any number of reasons.

My point about people worrying about those that don't match what someone is looking for stands though - daily we see threads picking holes about how others choose to run their profiles when I just see it as pointless even spending time on it or even commenting - if they don't match they don't match - simple as

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it hard to be chosen to be a FWB x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont mean this rudely but some of you say you have taste and need to get to know someone be4 meeting but by the looks of some of your verifies you dont look that fussy to me

Just because someone's veris don't meet your specifications doesn't mean that they don't meet that person's.

But their verifications don’t match up with what they claim to be looking for

Maybe they were from another time before they re-assessed what they were looking for, maybe they hold some things back in their profile because they don't want people making assumptions, maybe the sky was green that day, or maybe they're just running their profile how they want to

Either way I really don't get why people spend so much time here worrying about other people's profiles or how people that don't meet their criteria act - wouldn't it be better to focus on our own individual experiences?

Do you only read your own profile??

No but I also don't concern myself with how other people *choose* to manage theirs, especially if they don't match what I am looking for

I have observed that some people have contradictory profiles and verifications . Why are you concerned about why I am concerned,

As I showed though - what you are "perceiving" to be contradictory could be for any number of reasons.

My point about people worrying about those that don't match what someone is looking for stands though - daily we see threads picking holes about how others choose to run their profiles when I just see it as pointless even spending time on it or even commenting - if they don't match they don't match - simple as "

Fair comment

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Only ever once i didn't show due to my van not starting but i made contact and apologised and got a second chance to meet the same woman funny enough it is the friend i am talking about on here

Ah right, why doesn’t your friend create her own profile??"

She has her own profile and has had for years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only ever once i didn't show due to my van not starting but i made contact and apologised and got a second chance to meet the same woman funny enough it is the friend i am talking about on here

Ah right, why doesn’t your friend create her own profile??

She has her own profile and has had for years"

Ah, sorry , I misread your previous posts

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Only ever once i didn't show due to my van not starting but i made contact and apologised and got a second chance to meet the same woman funny enough it is the friend i am talking about on here

Ah right, why doesn’t your friend create her own profile??

She has her own profile and has had for years

Ah, sorry , I misread your previous posts "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont mean this rudely but some of you say you have taste and need to get to know someone be4 meeting but by the looks of some of your verifies you dont look that fussy to me

Just because someone's veris don't meet your specifications doesn't mean that they don't meet that person's.

But their verifications don’t match up with what they claim to be looking for

That's none of your business to be fair.

I haven’t named these profiles , and as I am paying member I am entitled to read any profile I like (unless I have been blocked)

Yes, you can read anyone's profile but it's none of your business to question who they have met and why. It's absolutely nothing to do with you.

I haven’t named any profiles and I am talking in general terms .So unless I am missing something I can comment , and it has absolutely nothing to do with you

Except your posting in a public forum, complaining about people's profiles

Complaining? and this isn’t public? You need to be a member, if I have broken any rules then I will stop, if not, it is none of your business what I post

The forums are public, anyone can see them. Although I don't think that was the explicit point being made. More that you are bitching about people because you perceive their meets unsuitable for tgem

Unsuitable? Can you show me where I said that? I stated that some people’s verifications don’t match with what they claim to be looking for ?

I was paraphrasing you are criticising women for having verifications from men that don't match their verications? You are effectively saying that they shouldn't state preferences if they don't strictly adhere to them or that they shouldn't meet these men fir not matching them?

And if you aren't saying this why have you 3ven mentioned it?

Your obviously looking for an angle here to provoke an argument, I won’t be replying to anymore of your posts "

Fine by me. Although it does seem that it's less about me trying to start an argument (it's caled a discussion) and more about you not justifying why you were passing judgement on who people meet

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

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"

It would be great if fab had a star system. A person who genuinely intends to go for a meet would be able to click on a button in the profile of the person they are going to meet and once the meet the person they met can verify show or no show. A person with a lot of no shows would have no stars and a person who shows up punctually every time would have 5.

That is a great idea, also I think they should have a slightly different system where you can have an icon on your profile that shows if your actively looking to meet, want to meet that day, or not looking to meet at all "

The first idea would be open to abuse unless a sophisticated system requiring policing etc was put in place and to be honest timewasters and no shows are quite easily avoided with a little due diligence and common sense - whilst it would be a "useful" feature it's not a necessary one, and does beg the question whether the site should be responsible for meets that don't happen.

As for the second idea - it exists already - it's called putting up a meet - you can set them for specific days etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It does make me when people think women have it "easy" here. Well yes, if you're merely looking for a hole filler then yes, it's a piece of piss. Very few are looking for nothing more than a penis tho, and many men see themselves as being little more than their penis. There's an obvious imbalance right there.

I don't ever say my time here has been easy finding the people I believe will be good for me, and vice versa. Regardless of the nature of the site, unless you are careful or WANT the feeling of degradation and being used it can easily happen and that could have huge negative impact on your sense of wellbeing.

I consider myself very lucky, and rather privileged to have met the people I have, it has taken time and taken care.

P

Quite. If you're looking for an idiot who doesn't regard you as a human being, just a convenient warm hole for his cock... More than I can handle. Sorting out those who respect my humanity, safety, and consent... Jesus it's hard work. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

It would be great if fab had a star system. A person who genuinely intends to go for a meet would be able to click on a button in the profile of the person they are going to meet and once the meet the person they met can verify show or no show. A person with a lot of no shows would have no stars and a person who shows up punctually every time would have 5.

That is a great idea, also I think they should have a slightly different system where you can have an icon on your profile that shows if your actively looking to meet, want to meet that day, or not looking to meet at all

The first idea would be open to abuse unless a sophisticated system requiring policing etc was put in place and to be honest timewasters and no shows are quite easily avoided with a little due diligence and common sense - whilst it would be a "useful" feature it's not a necessary one, and does beg the question whether the site should be responsible for meets that don't happen.

As for the second idea - it exists already - it's called putting up a meet - you can set them for specific days etc "

I disagree .

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Dont mean this rudely but some of you say you have taste and need to get to know someone be4 meeting but by the looks of some of your verifies you dont look that fussy to me

Just because someone's veris don't meet your specifications doesn't mean that they don't meet that person's.

But their verifications don’t match up with what they claim to be looking for

That's none of your business to be fair.

I haven’t named these profiles , and as I am paying member I am entitled to read any profile I like (unless I have been blocked)

Yes, you can read anyone's profile but it's none of your business to question who they have met and why. It's absolutely nothing to do with you.

I haven’t named any profiles and I am talking in general terms .So unless I am missing something I can comment , and it has absolutely nothing to do with you

Except your posting in a public forum, complaining about people's profiles

Complaining? and this isn’t public? You need to be a member, if I have broken any rules then I will stop, if not, it is none of your business what I post

The forums are public, anyone can see them. Although I don't think that was the explicit point being made. More that you are bitching about people because you perceive their meets unsuitable for tgem

Unsuitable? Can you show me where I said that? I stated that some people’s verifications don’t match with what they claim to be looking for ?

I was paraphrasing you are criticising women for having verifications from men that don't match their verications? You are effectively saying that they shouldn't state preferences if they don't strictly adhere to them or that they shouldn't meet these men fir not matching them?

And if you aren't saying this why have you 3ven mentioned it?

Your obviously looking for an angle here to provoke an argument, I won’t be replying to anymore of your posts

Fine by me. Although it does seem that it's less about me trying to start an argument (it's caled a discussion) and more about you not justifying why you were passing judgement on who people meet "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

It would be great if fab had a star system. A person who genuinely intends to go for a meet would be able to click on a button in the profile of the person they are going to meet and once the meet the person they met can verify show or no show. A person with a lot of no shows would have no stars and a person who shows up punctually every time would have 5.

That is a great idea, also I think they should have a slightly different system where you can have an icon on your profile that shows if your actively looking to meet, want to meet that day, or not looking to meet at all

The first idea would be open to abuse unless a sophisticated system requiring policing etc was put in place and to be honest timewasters and no shows are quite easily avoided with a little due diligence and common sense - whilst it would be a "useful" feature it's not a necessary one, and does beg the question whether the site should be responsible for meets that don't happen.

As for the second idea - it exists already - it's called putting up a meet - you can set them for specific days etc "

It's a bit like Amazon. It's not a 100% accurate but gives a person a yardstick. Just like the verification system which has it's pitfalls but is still better than nothing.

The more meets one has the more the outliers influence the rating. As a couple my OH and I have only had one meet that we missed due to illness out of over 200 meets. That wouldn't knock one down from 5 stars to 4.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I agree that it would be good if it were possible to implement a rating system purely based on whether a member turned up to an arranged meet. A simple button "yes/no"

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

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"

It would be great if fab had a star system. A person who genuinely intends to go for a meet would be able to click on a button in the profile of the person they are going to meet and once the meet the person they met can verify show or no show. A person with a lot of no shows would have no stars and a person who shows up punctually every time would have 5.

That is a great idea, also I think they should have a slightly different system where you can have an icon on your profile that shows if your actively looking to meet, want to meet that day, or not looking to meet at all

The first idea would be open to abuse unless a sophisticated system requiring policing etc was put in place and to be honest timewasters and no shows are quite easily avoided with a little due diligence and common sense - whilst it would be a "useful" feature it's not a necessary one, and does beg the question whether the site should be responsible for meets that don't happen.

As for the second idea - it exists already - it's called putting up a meet - you can set them for specific days etc

It's a bit like Amazon. It's not a 100% accurate but gives a person a yardstick. Just like the verification system which has it's pitfalls but is still better than nothing.

The more meets one has the more the outliers influence the rating. As a couple my OH and I have only had one meet that we missed due to illness out of over 200 meets. That wouldn't knock one down from 5 stars to 4."

The problem is it is still open to abuse - take the example of Person A approaches Person B for a meet - Person B says no and Person A is affronted at the rejection so decides to leave a "did not turn up" tick in the box - how do you know who's telling the truth?

Yes *if* a system could be devised where both people confirmed the meet somewhere beforehand and then confirmed if the other turned up that might work but would still be open to abuse for example if the meet didn't go to plan or was a disaster - the affronted person could still claim the other didn't turn up.

Which comes back to using due diligence and common sense for ourselves and being as sure as we can be that the other person is genuine, and taking our own responsibility for meets.

I'm not saying the idea is a bad one in principle, just not sure how it could work in practice without a heck of a lot of development and policing which the site haven't got the resources for.

Add to that that I'll wager the percentage of meets that actually result in a no show out of the thousands that are arranged weekly is probably very low and so it would be taking a sledgehammer to crack a nut.

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

If there's any ladies looking for a couple we'd never let you down and aren't to bad looking either local to Weston/Bristol.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"

It would be great if fab had a star system. A person who genuinely intends to go for a meet would be able to click on a button in the profile of the person they are going to meet and once the meet the person they met can verify show or no show. A person with a lot of no shows would have no stars and a person who shows up punctually every time would have 5.

That is a great idea, also I think they should have a slightly different system where you can have an icon on your profile that shows if your actively looking to meet, want to meet that day, or not looking to meet at all

The first idea would be open to abuse unless a sophisticated system requiring policing etc was put in place and to be honest timewasters and no shows are quite easily avoided with a little due diligence and common sense - whilst it would be a "useful" feature it's not a necessary one, and does beg the question whether the site should be responsible for meets that don't happen.

As for the second idea - it exists already - it's called putting up a meet - you can set them for specific days etc

It's a bit like Amazon. It's not a 100% accurate but gives a person a yardstick. Just like the verification system which has it's pitfalls but is still better than nothing.

The more meets one has the more the outliers influence the rating. As a couple my OH and I have only had one meet that we missed due to illness out of over 200 meets. That wouldn't knock one down from 5 stars to 4.

The problem is it is still open to abuse - take the example of Person A approaches Person B for a meet - Person B says no and Person A is affronted at the rejection so decides to leave a "did not turn up" tick in the box - how do you know who's telling the truth?

Yes *if* a system could be devised where both people confirmed the meet somewhere beforehand and then confirmed if the other turned up that might work but would still be open to abuse for example if the meet didn't go to plan or was a disaster - the affronted person could still claim the other didn't turn up.

Which comes back to using due diligence and common sense for ourselves and being as sure as we can be that the other person is genuine, and taking our own responsibility for meets.

I'm not saying the idea is a bad one in principle, just not sure how it could work in practice without a heck of a lot of development and policing which the site haven't got the resources for.

Add to that that I'll wager the percentage of meets that actually result in a no show out of the thousands that are arranged weekly is probably very low and so it would be taking a sledgehammer to crack a nut."

Indeed.

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

I think the only practical way to be reasonably confident of finding reliable folks is talking with those with positive verifications as regards character and reliability. Any system will be a nightmare to police.

I find it mind boggling that guys don't turn up.

Chatting to a lady friend that has a similar age / objectives as myself..basically nsa with substance ..a need for genuine attraction and has been on fab for a similar time ..this lady has managed to filter out the nutters...and had numerous quality meets. My experiences have been pretty different, loads of messages polite ..targeted and with a face pic. Very few responded...let alone meets. I may of course, just be very ugly or have a crap profile...but I modestly suspect it's just the number of mad men on here and the challenges of the numbers game, filtering out the dross and ladies getting cynical ...

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area


"

It would be great if fab had a star system. A person who genuinely intends to go for a meet would be able to click on a button in the profile of the person they are going to meet and once the meet the person they met can verify show or no show. A person with a lot of no shows would have no stars and a person who shows up punctually every time would have 5.

That is a great idea, also I think they should have a slightly different system where you can have an icon on your profile that shows if your actively looking to meet, want to meet that day, or not looking to meet at all

The first idea would be open to abuse unless a sophisticated system requiring policing etc was put in place and to be honest timewasters and no shows are quite easily avoided with a little due diligence and common sense - whilst it would be a "useful" feature it's not a necessary one, and does beg the question whether the site should be responsible for meets that don't happen.

As for the second idea - it exists already - it's called putting up a meet - you can set them for specific days etc

I disagree . "

Not sure how you can disagree. It's a fact. You can put up a meet and say you are available and want to meet that day. It is a feature of the site ! No good arguing about this

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"

It would be great if fab had a star system. A person who genuinely intends to go for a meet would be able to click on a button in the profile of the person they are going to meet and once the meet the person they met can verify show or no show. A person with a lot of no shows would have no stars and a person who shows up punctually every time would have 5.

That is a great idea, also I think they should have a slightly different system where you can have an icon on your profile that shows if your actively looking to meet, want to meet that day, or not looking to meet at all

The first idea would be open to abuse unless a sophisticated system requiring policing etc was put in place and to be honest timewasters and no shows are quite easily avoided with a little due diligence and common sense - whilst it would be a "useful" feature it's not a necessary one, and does beg the question whether the site should be responsible for meets that don't happen.

As for the second idea - it exists already - it's called putting up a meet - you can set them for specific days etc

I disagree .

Not sure how you can disagree. It's a fact. You can put up a meet and say you are available and want to meet that day. It is a feature of the site ! No good arguing about this "

I think he just likes disagreeing to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All I can say is that fab guys must be the unluckiest people on the planet. The extent to which emergencies arise is phenomenal. Their aunts and uncles die every couple of days, they break their legs in a fall twice a month, their long lost family arrives hours before a meet.... unlimited catastrophes on a daily basis.

And when they send you a photo of the broken toe it reverse image searches to a photo 6 months old...

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"All I can say is that fab guys must be the unluckiest people on the planet. The extent to which emergencies arise is phenomenal. Their aunts and uncles die every couple of days, they break their legs in a fall twice a month, their long lost family arrives hours before a meet.... unlimited catastrophes on a daily basis.

And when they send you a photo of the broken toe it reverse image searches to a photo 6 months old..."

I don't even usually get an excuse, they just go silent lol. Then they message 6 months later as if nothing happened.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"All I can say is that fab guys must be the unluckiest people on the planet. The extent to which emergencies arise is phenomenal. Their aunts and uncles die every couple of days, they break their legs in a fall twice a month, their long lost family arrives hours before a meet.... unlimited catastrophes on a daily basis.

And when they send you a photo of the broken toe it reverse image searches to a photo 6 months old...

I don't even usually get an excuse, they just go silent lol. Then they message 6 months later as if nothing happened. "

Why bother talking shit if you are not will to get your rewards and have fun i don't get it

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"All I can say is that fab guys must be the unluckiest people on the planet. The extent to which emergencies arise is phenomenal. Their aunts and uncles die every couple of days, they break their legs in a fall twice a month, their long lost family arrives hours before a meet.... unlimited catastrophes on a daily basis.

And when they send you a photo of the broken toe it reverse image searches to a photo 6 months old...

I don't even usually get an excuse, they just go silent lol. Then they message 6 months later as if nothing happened.

Why bother talking shit if you are not will to get your rewards and have fun i don't get it "

Dunno

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton


"

I don't even usually get an excuse, they just go silent lol. Then they message 6 months later as if nothing happened. "

I have a lot of female friends on fab... They all report this.

As far as I can tell, they broadly fall into two categories.

1...men who talk the talk but get too nervous to actually meet. They'll often go as far as agreeing a time and place before going quiet 12-48 hours before the meet.

2...guys who never intended to neet. They'll exchange fantasies and ask for pictures, but really are just after wank material.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"

I don't even usually get an excuse, they just go silent lol. Then they message 6 months later as if nothing happened.

I have a lot of female friends on fab... They all report this.

As far as I can tell, they broadly fall into two categories.

1...men who talk the talk but get too nervous to actually meet. They'll often go as far as agreeing a time and place before going quiet 12-48 hours before the meet.

2...guys who never intended to neet. They'll exchange fantasies and ask for pictures, but really are just after wank material. "

Yep, that's why I very rarely add people on kik, they just ask for pics, videos or filthy chat. I'm not looking for that at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People (as in verified people) only flake where either:

1: The reasons are genuine, ie something really does come up and cause an issue. But this would usually be resolved politely

Or

2: Where the power dynamic allows them to. Where there is such an abundance of offers that flaking won't impact on them.

I find it highly dubious that single females seeking single males ever find themselves at the sharp end of scenario 2. The only conclusion I can come to is that it's another expression of the Pareto principle as it pertains to sexual marketplace value.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"People (as in verified people) only flake where either:

1: The reasons are genuine, ie something really does come up and cause an issue. But this would usually be resolved politely

Or

2: Where the power dynamic allows them to. Where there is such an abundance of offers that flaking won't impact on them.

I find it highly dubious that single females seeking single males ever find themselves at the sharp end of scenario 2. The only conclusion I can come to is that it's another expression of the Pareto principle as it pertains to sexual marketplace value."

You're still harping on about how single females are the worst people on fab? Give it a rest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People (as in verified people) only flake where either:

1: The reasons are genuine, ie something really does come up and cause an issue. But this would usually be resolved politely

Or

2: Where the power dynamic allows them to. Where there is such an abundance of offers that flaking won't impact on them.

I find it highly dubious that single females seeking single males ever find themselves at the sharp end of scenario 2. The only conclusion I can come to is that it's another expression of the Pareto principle as it pertains to sexual marketplace value.

You're still harping on about how single females are the worst people on fab? Give it a rest. "

Not the worst people, I think all groups have their bad apples.

Just the group with the least to complain about. They still manage to find a way though, they're pioneers in that area

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Suggest that she posts in to this thread too.

Whilst there may be 1000s of men, even for just a 1 off meet, having compatibility can be difficult, especially in more remote areas. Many don't have great availability, so getting a match that way adds complications. Many of us need more than a cock to satisfy us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been looking myself for ages, it’s not just women that struggle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is not getting easy!!

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"People (as in verified people) only flake where either:

1: The reasons are genuine, ie something really does come up and cause an issue. But this would usually be resolved politely

Or

2: Where the power dynamic allows them to. Where there is such an abundance of offers that flaking won't impact on them.

I find it highly dubious that single females seeking single males ever find themselves at the sharp end of scenario 2. The only conclusion I can come to is that it's another expression of the Pareto principle as it pertains to sexual marketplace value.

You're still harping on about how single females are the worst people on fab? Give it a rest.

Not the worst people, I think all groups have their bad apples.

Just the group with the least to complain about. They still manage to find a way though, they're pioneers in that area"

As you're not a single female, you don't know what goes on. You haven't got any idea of the bullshit we put up with, why aren't we allowed to be annoyed when we are stood up?

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames


"Stages of difficulty for a single fwm.

Getting guys interested: piss easy

Getting guys who meet your requirements: probably fairly easy

Getting guys who respect you as a person: moderately difficult

Getting guys who show up at the agreed time and behave in the (implied) agreed way: difficult.

Anything more than a one off: quite difficult.

Finding a fwb: extremely difficult. "

indeed the science and the emotions suggest this is a very very strong framework to operate within ... but there are great guys who have failed the first couple of steps when they should have been a chance to prove their metal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People (as in verified people) only flake where either:

1: The reasons are genuine, ie something really does come up and cause an issue. But this would usually be resolved politely

Or

2: Where the power dynamic allows them to. Where there is such an abundance of offers that flaking won't impact on them.

I find it highly dubious that single females seeking single males ever find themselves at the sharp end of scenario 2. The only conclusion I can come to is that it's another expression of the Pareto principle as it pertains to sexual marketplace value.

You're still harping on about how single females are the worst people on fab? Give it a rest.

Not the worst people, I think all groups have their bad apples.

Just the group with the least to complain about. They still manage to find a way though, they're pioneers in that area

As you're not a single female, you don't know what goes on. You haven't got any idea of the bullshit we put up with, why aren't we allowed to be annoyed when we are stood up? "

Well they can be if they like, but as I alluded to in my first post the only way they are going to get consistently stood up is if they are targeting a minority of the men on the site who have enough offers to be able to stand them up without it mattering.

As the refrain goes for single guys who complain about similar things - Maybe go for different guys

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By *ork10Man
over a year ago

York

She’s welcome to message me

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"Dont mean this rudely but some of you say you have taste and need to get to know someone be4 meeting but by the looks of some of your verifies you dont look that fussy to me

Just because someone's veris don't meet your specifications doesn't mean that they don't meet that person's.

But their verifications don’t match up with what they claim to be looking for

They should be banned from the site for false advertising.

Your missing the point, some people who claim to be ‘fussy’ and only meet ‘certain types’ clearly aren’t and don’t. They can do as they please , like all of us can "

So if someone declares a preference for tall men for example, they must only. Ever. Meet. Tall. Men. No one else. Ever?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Difficult to find a fwb who doesn't just want the b part lol.

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By *uckmefackwardsMan
over a year ago

Swindon


"Finding a long term FWB is different to finding a man who will turn up for a meet. "

I'd turn up for you! ??????

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By *uckmefackwardsMan
over a year ago

Swindon


"Chatting with a long term friend on here and she is struggling to find a decent man for a long term Fwb how with thousands of men on here "

I would gladly chat with her and hope it leads to a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Chatting with a long term friend on here and she is struggling to find a decent man for a long term Fwb how with thousands of men on here

I would gladly chat with her and hope it leads to a meet. "

Wow, seriously?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We can second this, although we are not a single F profile, we would love to find a regular to help with challenges and attend clubs with us, for a future challenge we looking for someone who can come at least 4-5 nights in one week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont mean this rudely but some of you say you have taste and need to get to know someone be4 meeting but by the looks of some of your verifies you dont look that fussy to me

Just because someone's veris don't meet your specifications doesn't mean that they don't meet that person's.

But their verifications don’t match up with what they claim to be looking for

They should be banned from the site for false advertising.

Your missing the point, some people who claim to be ‘fussy’ and only meet ‘certain types’ clearly aren’t and don’t. They can do as they please , like all of us can

So if someone declares a preference for tall men for example, they must only. Ever. Meet. Tall. Men. No one else. Ever? "

No, but. When. They . State . They . Will. Only. Meet . Tall .Men. Then. Get. Verified. By . A. Number . Of. Dwarves . It. Does. Make . Them. Look. Stupid

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I don't know why men or couples don't understand how difficult it is to meet as a single female.

It is just the same as any other gender, as I can sit here and admit, that I haven't met anyone in over 2 years that I have been interested in that weren't married (which I am not looking for)

The more people hide behind their keyboards the less social skills they have, and then don't even try and use 'this is a sex site' on me, as they can just do one!

If you can't have a normal intelligent conversation, you will have no success on sites like this, especially with a lot of single females.

Will I meet someone off here after being here for 10 years and the changes that have devolved? Probably not as I have resigned myself to it.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"Dont mean this rudely but some of you say you have taste and need to get to know someone be4 meeting but by the looks of some of your verifies you dont look that fussy to me

Just because someone's veris don't meet your specifications doesn't mean that they don't meet that person's.

But their verifications don’t match up with what they claim to be looking for

They should be banned from the site for false advertising.

Your missing the point, some people who claim to be ‘fussy’ and only meet ‘certain types’ clearly aren’t and don’t. They can do as they please , like all of us can

So if someone declares a preference for tall men for example, they must only. Ever. Meet. Tall. Men. No one else. Ever?

No, but. When. They . State . They . Will. Only. Meet . Tall .Men. Then. Get. Verified. By . A. Number . Of. Dwarves . It. Does. Make . Them. Look. Stupid "

A bit like writing an entire post like that

I guess the thing is, someone can have a preference but if they get chatting to someone and get on, why shouldn’t they meet? They’re allowed to make exceptions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont mean this rudely but some of you say you have taste and need to get to know someone be4 meeting but by the looks of some of your verifies you dont look that fussy to me

Just because someone's veris don't meet your specifications doesn't mean that they don't meet that person's.

But their verifications don’t match up with what they claim to be looking for

They should be banned from the site for false advertising.

Your missing the point, some people who claim to be ‘fussy’ and only meet ‘certain types’ clearly aren’t and don’t. They can do as they please , like all of us can

So if someone declares a preference for tall men for example, they must only. Ever. Meet. Tall. Men. No one else. Ever?

No, but. When. They . State . They . Will. Only. Meet . Tall .Men. Then. Get. Verified. By . A. Number . Of. Dwarves . It. Does. Make . Them. Look. Stupid

A bit like writing an entire post like that

I guess the thing is, someone can have a preference but if they get chatting to someone and get on, why shouldn’t they meet? They’re allowed to make exceptions. "

Yes, I agree, it still makes them look stupid though especially when they STATE THEIR DEMANDS IN CAPITALS AND THREATEN TO BLOCK ANYONE WHO DOESNT MEET THEIR SPECIFIC REQUIREMENTS

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By *thleticgirthMan
over a year ago

wirral

Tell her im game too!

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