FabSwingers.com forum: Does swinging make your relationship stronger?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Does being able to be open and allowing your partner to play with other people while still in a relationship make your bond stronger rather than couple's who are totally exclusive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends on the couple - many get it right, many get it wrong. As long as two adults are open, honest and doing what they both want, and communicate a lot, that’s probably stronger than a couple who daren’t explore or communicate their needs or wants. Or those with a partner who they feel they can’t leave etc.

Totally individual though isn’t it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's certainly made ours stronger. Not just because of the things we are experiencing together but also because our lines of communication are more open then ever before. We always discuss every new experience and talk about what we liked or in very rare cases didn't like.

It's about exploring new things together for us xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it very much depends on the couple.

There is the need that neither experience sexual jealousy and also a necessity for complete honesty. I think it is quite a rare combination.

I was in a relationship that worked well with swinging in the early days but his mental health issues meant he ended up using it as a means to hurt me or make me feel inadequate. That wasn't about the swinging but rather about his desire to control and he would have just used other methods had we been exclusive.

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By *xcited99Couple
over a year ago

omagh

It made ours even stronger.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

We already had a very strong relationship. Swinging just adds the occasional extra but of fun.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"Does being able to be open and allowing your partner to play with other people while still in a relationship make your bond stronger rather than couple's who are totally exclusive?"

For us, it's brought us even closer together and our sex life is now insane! Constant communication is key - I think that's true of any relationship but all the more so with swinging. X

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By *wansfeetCouple
over a year ago

Guisborough

I think you need to have a strong relationship where you're very open with each other before you enter into swinging together.

You need to have an open mind and discuss your rules and be willing to make adjustments.

It's made our relationship stronger, more open, more exciting. But if we decided to no longer swing, we'd still be happy

Kiki x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Does being able to be open and allowing your partner to play with other people while still in a relationship make your bond stronger rather than couple's who are totally exclusive?"

No. You either have a strong relationship or you don't.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

When I say that. I mean a strong relationship depends on communication and hard work not sex with other people.

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By *wansfeetCouple
over a year ago

Guisborough

"When I say that. I mean a strong relationship depends on communication and hard work not sex with other people."

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been together for over 30 years and playing with others is just an add on to what we already have, it doesn't strengthen it, it's just what it is.

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

"Does being able to be open and allowing your partner to play with other people while still in a relationship make your bond stronger rather than couple's who are totally exclusive?

For us, it's brought us even closer together and our sex life is now insane! Constant communication is key - I think that's true of any relationship but all the more so with swinging. X"
could not agree more ... well said the both of you OP

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

Definitely, in our case. We met in our early 50s and it wasn't long after we started a relationship that we both revealed we'd had quite a bit of extramarital sex when married to our exes. Her husband knew and was OK with that, but my wife didn't know. We both have high sex-drives and need variety.

Our relationship wasn't likely to be a one-on-one one, so we decided to try swinging and it has worked very well for both of us. We started a few weeks after we'd met and have been enjoying the lifestyle for 15 years now. Both of us think it's perfectly natural to play with other people regularly, but instead of sex in pairs as we mostly did with out previous playmates, we usually play with others together. That's an added bonus, we're open enough to enjoy the sight of the other one fucking someone else. Neither of us suffers from jealousy. We bareback with best friends.

Agree, communication is the key. After we've been with other people, even when we've both been there, we always discuss how we felt, what we liked and didn't like, and whether we'd want to play with them again.

Think swinging would help a lot of relationships, but you have to overcome jealousy. Its just sex for fun, not love, but some people can't get over that.

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