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" What's changed I wonder? Is it something he's said, or done that has made you feel disposable? Respect is the key thing here. There's a world of difference between being NSA FBs and being made to feel like a handy hole. " It’s not that. He’s very respectful (apart from when he’s naked with his cock in me, in a totally consensual and for me very sexy way). If I was made to feel like that I’d be out of there like a rat OUT of a drainpipe. | |||
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"Maybe it's simply about being desired. That the relationship is disposable as you put it, doesn't leave you feeling like you would if there was deeper meaning to it. " This feels closest to it. Ultimately all swinging relationships are very superficial. Maybe it’s just my struggle with that aspect of swinging, rather than him. | |||
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"If you are starting to feel this way but neither of you wants to be in a relationship with each other maybe it's time to pull the ripcord and drop this one" But by God the sex is good! | |||
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"If you are starting to feel this way but neither of you wants to be in a relationship with each other maybe it's time to pull the ripcord and drop this one But by God the sex is good! " Good sex isn't unique to this guy. Maybe put him on hold for a couple of months. You don't have to ditch him completely, you have no commitment to each other, just have a "holiday"! You can then both have a chance to examine how you feel. | |||
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"I think very many people struggle with the disposable aspect of swinging. I think also that a fuck buddy or friends with benefits situation can magnify that feeling. Lets face it nobody really wants to feel as if they are entirely insignificant in the life of someone they are regularly having sex with do they. " Nail on the head I think. It doesn’t matter for a short period, but after several months it does feel a bit odd. | |||
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"I think very many people struggle with the disposable aspect of swinging. I think also that a fuck buddy or friends with benefits situation can magnify that feeling. Lets face it nobody really wants to feel as if they are entirely insignificant in the life of someone they are regularly having sex with do they. Nail on the head I think. It doesn’t matter for a short period, but after several months it does feel a bit odd." yeah I couldn't ever be in a fuck buddy or fwb relationship I'm not wired that way | |||
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"Maybe you want more (not necessarily from him). If you arent careful that line of thinking can lead you to feel cheap and/or used. " ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I don't think feeling that being disposable is unpleasant is weird. Even if a vanilla friend/workmate etc. suddenly doesn't seem to want/need you any more it can feel crap. It's how you handle the feeling of being disposable that matters I'd say ![]() ![]() | |||
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"From a man's perspective, he has a great thing going, regular great NSA sex. He may not want anything more, is a private person and may value discretion due to work or small community. I have given minimal information to fuck buddies in the past, if things go sour, would you want some one posting on Facebook or turning up at your work etc. Maybe having more than one regular fuck buddy would help. ***Good luck with it all, you are not disposable, you are a person ![]() *** This! ![]() | |||
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"I think very many people struggle with the disposable aspect of swinging. I think also that a fuck buddy or friends with benefits situation can magnify that feeling. Lets face it nobody really wants to feel as if they are entirely insignificant in the life of someone they are regularly having sex with do they. " yes.. This would suit me perfectly.. Just answer each others booty calls... But it never happens. I'm quite happy that it's just sex. I don't need to know what they do for jobs.. What they do for anything... I fall out with fb all the time as they start wanting to know more and more about my personal life. Like I will normally tell people the county I live in and that's as close as they get. | |||
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"I have a regular guy. We’ve been meeting about once every 2/3 weeks for the last 8 months or so. The sex is always amazing. Full on, kinky, absorbing and a huge release for both of us. It’s a very boundaried arrangement. I know very little about him, his life, who else he meets. He’s a nice guy but I don’t want to be with him and I don’t want to expand the boundaries of our arrangement. So why, after 8 months, am I starting to feel weirded out about the fact that I’m completely disposable to him? I’m hoping to provoke some thoughtful posts with this thread, so please keep away from the ‘oh you must have feelings for him’ judgements. Beyond a genuine respect and mild friendship, I don’t." Here's another angle, because the sex is so amazing and you really enjoy it and you know you will enjoy it each time, may be you are subconsciously thinking how you may have to replace such a good arrangement if it were to end so the feeling of being disposable may be playing on your mind because you have such a good arrangement. | |||
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"I have a regular guy. We’ve been meeting about once every 2/3 weeks for the last 8 months or so. The sex is always amazing. Full on, kinky, absorbing and a huge release for both of us. It’s a very boundaried arrangement. I know very little about him, his life, who else he meets. He’s a nice guy but I don’t want to be with him and I don’t want to expand the boundaries of our arrangement. So why, after 8 months, am I starting to feel weirded out about the fact that I’m completely disposable to him? I’m hoping to provoke some thoughtful posts with this thread, so please keep away from the ‘oh you must have feelings for him’ judgements. Beyond a genuine respect and mild friendship, I don’t. Here's another angle, because the sex is so amazing and you really enjoy it and you know you will enjoy it each time, may be you are subconsciously thinking how you may have to replace such a good arrangement if it were to end so the feeling of being disposable may be playing on your mind because you have such a good arrangement. " Well all of that is certainly true too. He’s reliable, can plan ahead and is laid back about my not great time keeping. All of those qualities I find very rare on fab. | |||
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