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I been on here 10 years why so hard to meet these days???

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By *r_Darcy40 OP   Man
over a year ago

huddersfield

Ive noticed fabs has changed big time in last 5 years. Esp with kik shit and snap chat wannabies etc. Ive used them before when they came out. Its not swinging though. Swinging is meeting people socials fun parties etc. Not fake vids wife swap pics who are not even married. How has fabs changed for you??? If ya been on long enough that is?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Things change? Adjust with the times?

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By *r_Darcy40 OP   Man
over a year ago

huddersfield

yeah exactly what im trying to do mate but i know what you mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Things change? Adjust with the times?"

Says the fellow with zero verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand what you’re saying op. The kik crowd are usually fantasists. I guess clubs are where the scene is at now? So much for technology making things easier, eh

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"Ive noticed fabs has changed big time in last 5 years. Esp with kik shit and snap chat wannabies etc. Ive used them before when they came out. Its not swinging though. Swinging is meeting people socials fun parties etc. Not fake vids wife swap pics who are not even married. How has fabs changed for you??? If ya been on long enough that is?"
the quality of people has changed. Swinging has become quite the done thing to say your doing and you get loads of people that just want to say they are swingers but actually aren't.

More and more men are using it as a way to meet just 1 woman and less seem interested in group sex now x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging "for us" has changed lots, we started on the scene 17 years ago and although was a little bit more taboo back then when we did meet more people that was genuine swingers and not someone looking for a quick legover and out the door in 10 minutes.

Anyway, for now at least we changed our profile to not looking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I understand what you’re saying op. The kik crowd are usually fantasists. I guess clubs are where the scene is at now? So much for technology making things easier, eh "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I miss the pre internet days, personals in Loot magazine and free ads, but it meant only genuine people were looking, and you had a high success rate, too many dreamers on here, no intention of meeting, just getting off on pretending to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It has changed a lot, i have been on and off fab for years think it was better years ago.

Guys seem more interested in kik and whatsapp to just pester you for videos and pictures.

The best place to meet is a club these days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Swinging "for us" has changed lots, we started on the scene 17 years ago and although was a little bit more taboo back then when we did meet more people that was genuine swingers and not someone looking for a quick legover and out the door in 10 minutes.

Anyway, for now at least we changed our profile to not looking."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It has changed a lot, i have been on and off fab for years think it was better years ago.

Guys seem more interested in kik and whatsapp to just pester you for videos and pictures.

The best place to meet is a club these days. "

This

We’ve been on and off here for 5 years now and no longer meet anyone off the site. Clubs are much better for meeting people and fab is good for keep in contact with them afterwards. We also use fab to keep an eye out for events we’d like to attend.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Ive noticed fabs has changed big time in last 5 years. Esp with kik shit and snap chat wannabies etc. Ive used them before when they came out. Its not swinging though. Swinging is meeting people socials fun parties etc. Not fake vids wife swap pics who are not even married. How has fabs changed for you??? If ya been on long enough that is?"

If you take the fakes/time wasters out of the equation, you are left with people who are in to the club scene, or people who use Fab to meet. If a profile talks about meeting in clubs, and/or has a raft of veris from club meets, there’s little point in messaging them looking for a potential private meet. Read profiles in their entirety, and your success rate may improve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Things seem a lot more complicated. Less spontaneous meets. Not so many parties. But I've found (after 8 years) that Fab goes through phases.

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By *akie32Man
over a year ago

winchester

I started swinging when part of a couple, we met some great people, mostly over a decade ago, I've been on here as a single for around a year now, never had a meet, find other sights better for that, but love the forums and chat, so stay for that reason, but it's probably because I'm now a single guy but I feel that it's way more difficult to meet people now

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Only been on a few years but the last 12 months it appears there are more people after an ego boost than actually want to meet, a lot of our friends have got tired of it and left, they just go to clubs and parties when there’s a good group of people or friends going. Although saying that we have been to one club in the past which was full of peacocks who were only there to pose and after complimentary they look hot veris, not play veris, so welcome to the new age of look at me crowd of swingers, sure sign of the times, sorry if this offends, each to their own I suppose

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By *itnkatCouple
over a year ago

in lincs between lincoln grantham boston

Remember fab when the few of us had a quiz on general chat got to know lots of great people back then just as phones went tutch screen and then every one could access fab not just swingers changed profile since those days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only been on a few years but the last 12 months it appears there are more people after an ego boost than actually want to meet, a lot of our friends have got tired of it and left, they just go to clubs and parties when there’s a good group of people or friends going. Although saying that we have been to one club in the past which was full of peacocks who were only there to pose and after complimentary they look hot veris, not play veris, so welcome to the new age of look at me crowd of swingers, sure sign of the times, sorry if this offends, each to their own I suppose "

We see that a lot in clubs to .. when we go we go to play BUT the best part of being a couple is we always get to play with each other if there nothing happening

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By *abrielle247Couple (FF)
over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria

Totally agree with you Open, the only way now is for club meets or private parties. But organising private parties is damn hard work and people don't appreciate the hard work that goes into them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've become less interested in meeting men I barely know for sex as I have got older.

The site is no different for me than it was 7 years ago.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Only been on a few years but the last 12 months it appears there are more people after an ego boost than actually want to meet, a lot of our friends have got tired of it and left, they just go to clubs and parties when there’s a good group of people or friends going. Although saying that we have been to one club in the past which was full of peacocks who were only there to pose and after complimentary they look hot veris, not play veris, so welcome to the new age of look at me crowd of swingers, sure sign of the times, sorry if this offends, each to their own I suppose

We see that a lot in clubs to .. when we go we go to play BUT the best part of being a couple is we always get to play with each other if there nothing happening "

Yep; I won’t visit a club as a single guy any more, without a pre-arranged meet inside

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I too feel that it’s changed in the 13 years I’ve been around. So much harder to find people who will actually meet rather than just chatting generally and talking about meeting. Worth it when you find the decent ones though but that’s something of a mine field.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv been swinging for approx 15 years and on Fab for most of that time. I dont find either have changed.

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By *estivalMan
over a year ago

borehamwood

been on here since fabs first started and is definatley more bullshit artists on here these days.amount of profiles the go unlos then another will appear days later with the same pics only to dissapear again.defo like to speak on cam or fone sooner rather than later these days.usualy puts of the couples who are really single guys

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By *goodlengthMan
over a year ago

near Trowbridge

Fab isn’t a game, despite what some people think. It a means to a lifestyle and if individuals don’t use the site properly and honour the meets they have made, they should leave it to those of us who are here for genuinely fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I stay on the site now to keep in touch with past meets. Seeing what they are up to.

This site is just a different version of POF now. I'm glad the site owners haven't changed the format because if they do it will definitely become a swipe left/right site. At least now there is a slim chance of meeting someone genuine.

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By *abrielle247Couple (FF)
over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria

For the genuine people it definitely has changed no way about it, most now just talk the talk but can't walk the walk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We first signed up 8 or 9 years ago and our experience hasn't really changed much in that time, other than I've become more aware of what I'm looking for and how to spot time wasters. I suppose there's a larger volume of people, but we never met most of them in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think people are fake.. just think people are shy and shit out last minute .. when you click with right couple or person it flows xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree. That click is important.

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By *ovegames42Man
over a year ago

london

Fabs is a male dominated site, everyone seems to have so much wants and don’t wants on here, feel like I’m going for a job interview.

I wish people would stop being so picky. This is why I much prefer the club scene now, you get to meet, great and chat to people face to face.

“ no bloody block buttons in clubs “.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being teen years older may be another reason?

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria


"I don’t think people are fake.. just think people are shy and shit out last minute .. when you click with right couple or person it flows xxx"

Oh there are plenty of fakes on here, guys using females pics pretending to be female for one, we even had one sending pics on whattsapp in a group chat for a party, lucky for us we didn’t participate in sending pics and vids on there like some did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve been swinging since time began and when Jesus lived next door. We’ve only used fab for a couple of years, but feel it’s used more like a hook up site rather than a swing site.

We’ve always preferred club meets. Like somebody else said earlier if nobody is there that takes your fancy play with each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are many new young studs and rival hookup/dating sites that have become mainstream.

Think first time on here there were never more than 25k online mnow it can go to 37k so it's just a numbers thing.

You just have to raise your game with better pics and imaginative replies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been on nearly ten years on and off, it does seem to have changed drastically. The amount of fake profiles has risen massively and the ratio of members to meets seems to have died right down.

There are people that still meet but you seem to have to work harder to find them and compete more when you do. I’m not sure I can be arsed to try that hard most of the time, clubs are a much better way of meeting genuine people these days I find

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By *ightLeeCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

While we haven't been swinging for very long we have learnt quite quickly to use fab to find events and clubs so we can go to them and meet with people.

It means that no one is disappointed if there's a no show or no chemistry.

For us we kind of approach it like dating, we would like to find people we can talk and meet more than once for 10 minutes.

If we click with people here and chat then brilliant, however that's not Fabs primary focus for us. We certainly don't give out numbers without a meet first.

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