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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No strings attached to me is, you meet, you feel a bit of a click, you take it further, enjoy each other's bodies, then that's it. You might meet again, you might not.

I know its sometimes hard for guys to meet girls. I get that. But when i am getting ready to meet a guy, they seem to become clingy and desperate. Its very off putting x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a woman just wants sex then brilliant, I don't want a relationship / friendship yes over time, but pure sexual adventure is what is should be about.

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By *arkmanMan
over a year ago

hounslow

I think this works both ways, but I agree. If a profile says ‘no strings attached’ it’s very clear what the arrangement is, and anyone responding should understand that and be of the same mindset.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If a woman just wants sex then brilliant, I don't want a relationship / friendship yes over time, but pure sexual adventure is what is should be about."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Maybe i need to be clearer on my profile x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No strings attached to me is, you meet, you feel a bit of a click, you take it further, enjoy each other's bodies, then that's it. You might meet again, you might not.

I know its sometimes hard for guys to meet girls. I get that. But when i am getting ready to meet a guy, they seem to become clingy and desperate. Its very off putting x"

Providing both parties know the rules then I see nothing wrong with it. It's all about having a bit of fun at the end of the day ??

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By *agmanMan
over a year ago

Cockermouth

NSA - to us means contact - or physical meets - but with no expectations, attachments or demands. (Unless 'demanding' is part of the pre-agreed arrangement lol)

It doesn't mean 'fuck and go' - which is different completely.

It means we can chat, we can meet, we might even have sex together - we might even have a 'relationship' out of the bedroom, but please don't expect exclusivity in that relationship. But, it will only work if everyone is equally on the same wavelength.

It should not be a surprise to anyone in that kind of situation, that sometimes the NSA component is not fully understood by everyone, until a discussion on just exactly what strings can - and cannot - be pulled, has taken place.

Is the sudden rush of 'clinginess' just before the meet-up maybe a sign of excitement and a 'need' from them to know that you are not going to back out at the last minute?

My thoughts on the subject lol....maybe not everybody elses thoughts, though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Nsa means fuck and go to me. Anything else is strings x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nsa means fuck and go to me. Anything else is strings x "

Yeah I agree with that

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By *arkmanMan
over a year ago

hounslow

SS5 and DD..... im with you guys

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By *ustme34Man
over a year ago

Bingley

"Nsa means fuck and go to me. Anything else is strings x "

Yep agree

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By *orwegian BlueMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

Isn't that primarily what fab is about?

There are those that don't understand the concept and do a bit of "lampost pissing" once they have met you for the first time (and thats not just guys, there are women that do the same), but those types seem to come and go pretty regularly...

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By *ananas57Couple
over a year ago

lake ariel

I like NSA, I have a husband to talk about the weather with

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

I like this thread. So many times of late have I said its a swinging site not a dating site. We are a fuck and go, couple. Sometimes we have repeate meets with some. But we're here for the lust.

We're in our own relationship, and want nsa sex with others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like NSA, I have a husband to talk about the weather with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I completely get what you mean. I'm very explicit about what I want in my messages. Yet when I have met someone recently they've become very clingy afterwards.

I was also planning a meet with a guy the other day who started throwing around the term 'girlfriend' so I had to nip that in the bud very quickly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nsa means fuck and go to me. Anything else is strings x

Yeah I agree with that

Agreed...if it becomes regular/ more than once then its FWB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nsa means fuck and go to me. Anything else is strings x "

Exactly what NSA means

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"NSA - to us means contact - or physical meets - but with no expectations, attachments or demands. (Unless 'demanding' is part of the pre-agreed arrangement lol)

It doesn't mean 'fuck and go' - which is different completely.

Is the sudden rush of 'clinginess' just before the meet-up maybe a sign of excitement and a 'need' from them to know that you are not going to back out at the last minute?

My thoughts on the subject lol....maybe not everybody elses thoughts, though.

I think you have summed it up perfectly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me nsa is like a one night stand - just that.

Meet, see if we all get on, have fun, then go our separate ways. There's a connection at the time, but that is it. No hanging on, no looking for a life partner, just fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

NSA works best when there is rarely any contact between meets. Or as a one off. I've always liked strings personally, but each to their own

Looking at your profile OP, you seem very clear on what you are looking for. If people then develop a slight attachement, that is on them, not you. Not everyone is able to pull off NSA. Hopefully you will find those are able to do it with ease

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By *r and Mrs SexploitCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd

Some people here are on the wrong website. Many single people here use other dating apps also. There's nothing wrong with that as long as they remember that Fab is Fab. I think most members are here for nsa fun, it may be repeated but probably not.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"Nsa means fuck and go to me. Anything else is strings x "

Agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe i need to be clearer on my profile x"

I think your profile and the stories you quote make it pretty clear the type of sex you’re after. Guys getting clingy is more to do with where they are psychologically than anything you write on your profile or even make clear in messages.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

" I think this works both ways, but I agree. If a profile says ‘no strings attached’ it’s very clear what the arrangement is, and anyone responding should understand that and be of the same mindset."

What he said Simple as that really

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"No strings attached to me is, you meet, you feel a bit of a click, you take it further, enjoy each other's bodies, then that's it. You might meet again, you might not.

I know its sometimes hard for guys to meet girls. I get that. But when i am getting ready to meet a guy, they seem to become clingy and desperate. Its very off putting x"
I have the same issue. It's why I now say club meets only and I only after to saying hi.. anything else is just if it goes that way.

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By *hemainintainMan
over a year ago

govan

I totally believe in NSA sex. Love fuck and go and the sensation of fucking a stranger. Knowing literally nothing about them as they let themselves go.

Nothing hotter. Take away the need for the small talk and cup of tea and taste and suck each other till

satisfied!

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

"Nsa means fuck and go to me. Anything else is strings x "

Same here and I totally know the one. I'm not one to send a massive amount of texts anyway, but they day before and the morningeading into can get pretty for on and a bit much. When I know its "game on" I like a build up to the main event, but when they are constantly messaging about anything and everything every 5 minutes then panic if you don't respond in whatever they see as a reasonable amount of time and ask are you ok? Still ok for out meet?

I try to he tactful and say im just busy with " mum and home stuff" I get that some blokes may have been messed around but I find the constant reassurance a bit frustrating. I get that can apply to women just as much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tried it and can see the attraction wasn't for me. I certainly don't want to be skipping off into the sunset with anyone but for me good sex comes with familiarity

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

"Nsa means fuck and go to me. Anything else is strings x

Replied to the wrong bit but yeah...NSA...fuck n go...sometimes that's just all you want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nsa means fuck and go to me. Anything else is strings x

You have summed it up perfectly and sometimes those in certain circumstances just want nsa p

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"No strings attached to me is, you meet, you feel a bit of a click, you take it further, enjoy each other's bodies, then that's it. You might meet again, you might not.

I know its sometimes hard for guys to meet girls. I get that. But when i am getting ready to meet a guy, they seem to become clingy and desperate. Its very off putting x"

I think you'll find this is one of the pitfalls when you have sex with other humans instead of sex toys. I've seen it the other way with women many times. I suspect many other guys on here have too. I think despite the theory and other person saying they only want the same as you in practise it doesn't work out that way. All cool if you both grow into each other but often its only one sided. Why? Well is guess because we're all human and despite the logic and theory sometimes our instincts, nature and emotions gets in the way. It's call part of the course in this game.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No strings attached to me is, you meet, you feel a bit of a click, you take it further, enjoy each other's bodies, then that's it. You might meet again, you might not.

I know its sometimes hard for guys to meet girls. I get that. But when i am getting ready to meet a guy, they seem to become clingy and desperate. Its very off putting x"

Go girl. Clingy folks are insecure folks. You enjoy what you like. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No strings attached to me is, you meet, you feel a bit of a click, you take it further, enjoy each other's bodies, then that's it. You might meet again, you might not.

I know its sometimes hard for guys to meet girls. I get that. But when i am getting ready to meet a guy, they seem to become clingy and desperate. Its very off putting x

I think that's what puts me off meeting again. If they know its a one off then they may not get attached. I don't want a relationship, think that's why attached men are more attractive to me x this feels like therapy, thanks xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hear you OP. I've had this problem myself even though we stated clearly at the start it was NSA. It just gets too complicated otherwise.

I think its a case where anymore, it may be a one off meet just in case "feels" develop.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I hear you OP. I've had this problem myself even though we stated clearly at the start it was NSA. It just gets too complicated otherwise.

I think its a case where anymore, it may be a one off meet just in case "feels" develop.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hear you OP. I've had this problem myself even though we stated clearly at the start it was NSA. It just gets too complicated otherwise.

I think its a case where anymore, it may be a one off meet just in case "feels" develop.

I guess they went to meet thinking the same as you but then surprised themselves by feeling like that. But yeah, even with dating-major turn off if someone is too much & mentioning marriage, houses etc on a first date (true story) haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I hear you OP. I've had this problem myself even though we stated clearly at the start it was NSA. It just gets too complicated otherwise.

I think its a case where anymore, it may be a one off meet just in case "feels" develop.

But that would never happen to me and if i did develop feelings, I'd wind them in and respect that the agreement was sex and if my expectations are higherthen that's my problem.

Omg, that's a game changer lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hear you OP. I've had this problem myself even though we stated clearly at the start it was NSA. It just gets too complicated otherwise.

I think its a case where anymore, it may be a one off meet just in case "feels" develop.

But that would never happen to me and if i did develop feelings, I'd wind them in and respect that the agreement was sex and if my expectations are higherthen that's my problem.

Omg, that's a game changer lol xx"

Yeah I would be the same. The way I see it, fab is for fun and if people want more than that, I'm sure theres other places to accomodate them.

Haha it sure was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In what way do they become clingy and seem desperate?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

They've not even finished fucking me and they're planning the next meet lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They've not even finished fucking me and they're planning the next meet lol"

Haha what an image!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Its a mood killer lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nsa means fuck and go to me. Anything else is strings x

Yeah I agree with that

Agreed...if it becomes regular/ more than once then its FWB"

A friend with benefits is someone you spend time with without any sex, as well as having sex.

I have men I've been seeing for years in no strings sexual relationships. Two have told me they love me. There are still no strings and the sex is still really good.

I think it depends on whether the person can detach themselves from the emotions and not want exclusivity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had that problem on our last profile, very hard to find NSA and reading another guys reply about possible relationship is crazy.

No strings attached is the same as fuck and go surely?

We use Kik as a perfect filter and quite a few guys will try and talk behind hubby's back in a private chat ... About looking into my eyes and lovey dovey crap.

Which is just not what we are looking for. We do tell guys up front what we expect from the start which is no contacting me privately unless it's a cheating wife scenario etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"NSA - to us means contact - or physical meets - but with no expectations, attachments or demands. (Unless 'demanding' is part of the pre-agreed arrangement lol)

It doesn't mean 'fuck and go' - which is different completely.

Is the sudden rush of 'clinginess' just before the meet-up maybe a sign of excitement and a 'need' from them to know that you are not going to back out at the last minute?

My thoughts on the subject lol....maybe not everybody elses thoughts, though.

That's friends with benefits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They've not even finished fucking me and they're planning the next meet lol"

If it's good sex why wouldn't they?

I know some people can enjoy the sex a lot and not want to share the other person. That's when it gets clingy for me.

As long as they don't try to claim me as their own I'm happy to spend a few hours with them on a regular basis.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fully agree, the amount of profiles on here I’ve seen asking for relationships has put me off a lot. Friendship yes but if you’re wanting a full on relationship there are dating sites for that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nsa means fuck and go to me. Anything else is strings x

Yeah I agree with that

Agreed...if it becomes regular/ more than once then its FWB

A friend with benefits is someone you spend time with without any sex, as well as having sex.

I have men I've been seeing for years in no strings sexual relationships. Two have told me they love me. There are still no strings and the sex is still really good.

I think it depends on whether the person can detach themselves from the emotions and not want exclusivity. "

I agree its about what nsa means to individuals. I have fwbs but there are definitely strings. I wouldn't class an FWB as NSA x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"NSA - to us means contact - or physical meets - but with no expectations, attachments or demands. (Unless 'demanding' is part of the pre-agreed arrangement lol)

It doesn't mean 'fuck and go' - which is different completely.

Is the sudden rush of 'clinginess' just before the meet-up maybe a sign of excitement and a 'need' from them to know that you are not going to back out at the last minute?

My thoughts on the subject lol....maybe not everybody elses thoughts, though.

That's friends with benefits "

I call that fuck buddies. I have had a few of those. I don't hang out with them other than when we have sex and I don't know much about their personal lives.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"They've not even finished fucking me and they're planning the next meet lol

If it's good sex why wouldn't they?

I know some people can enjoy the sex a lot and not want to share the other person. That's when it gets clingy for me.

As long as they don't try to claim me as their own I'm happy to spend a few hours with them on a regular basis. "

Stay in the moment, enjoy what's happening?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So people have very different views on the definition of NSA. So i need to be clearer.

It could mean fwb to some people?

Ok lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nsa means fuck and go to me. Anything else is strings x

Yeah I agree with that

Agreed...if it becomes regular/ more than once then its FWB

A friend with benefits is someone you spend time with without any sex, as well as having sex.

I have men I've been seeing for years in no strings sexual relationships. Two have told me they love me. There are still no strings and the sex is still really good.

I think it depends on whether the person can detach themselves from the emotions and not want exclusivity.

I agree its about what nsa means to individuals. I have fwbs but there are definitely strings. I wouldn't class an FWB as NSA x"

I like the no strings, but I don't want fuck and go sex with someone I've just met. It's why clubs don't appeal to me.

I know having to talk to me for a while puts men off, as they disappear if we haven't met within a few days of talking, but it's the only way I'll want to have sex with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They've not even finished fucking me and they're planning the next meet lol

If it's good sex why wouldn't they?

I know some people can enjoy the sex a lot and not want to share the other person. That's when it gets clingy for me.

As long as they don't try to claim me as their own I'm happy to spend a few hours with them on a regular basis.

Stay in the moment, enjoy what's happening?"

And when we part ways we don't need to have constant conversations before meeting again.

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

Maybe people get clingy afterwards because they enjoyed the interaction and sex that much they want more of it, for it to maybe become a fuck buddy/friends with benefits situation....just my opinion that's all

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

"Some people here are on the wrong website. Many single people here use other dating apps also. There's nothing wrong with that as long as they remember that Fab is Fab. I think most members are here for nsa fun, it may be repeated but probably not.

Mr "

Perfect!

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By *agmanMan
over a year ago

Cockermouth

In order of 'creation' or first use of the term, as far as i know it :

(remember i'm 61 years old so have been around the scene for quite a while and have seen it 'evolve' into what it has become. And the use of some words or phrases may itself have evolved from their original use.

Roman, Greek and Victorian history:

Communal bathing, Orgies, bath houses, multiple scenarios were people meet to engage in debauchery and deviant sexual practices - what we mustn't forget is that we, here in 2019, did not originate or start this lifestyle - it's been happening for thousands of years (and hopefully will continue for thousands of years yet to come).

Swinger(s) - People who meet together for uninhibited sex with single or multiple partners. Much like what they have read about in historical stories about the Greeks and Romans. (and even during the sexually repressed Victorian era) Doesn't matter if they are married or single (although 'swinging' was originally (in our time) an activity that was undertaken by married couples who swapped partners). See wifeswapping and bowls of keys for more info.

The Sixties - Flower power and free love. Exactly what is says on the tin - but - did lead to a lot of mis-conceptions as to what was expected of partakers. Relationships develop and get a bit confusing as to why you are doing what you are doing and what you wanted to get out of the experience.

NSA - people who meet for a drink or chat and spend time together - and in this context here, usually have sex together - but expect no demands on their 'partner' from a point of view of permanence, or 'coupling up', or time, or 'pulling on the heartstrings' from either party. See 'Romance' for further info. (Of what you are not wanting). Casual sex anyone?

Fuck and go - A meet is arranged - the time comes - the person who is going to be 'fucked' (the fuckee?) is already prepared, ready, willing and able - in a position to 'be fucked' - the 'fucker' lol, comes in to the agreed meeting place - with hardly a word between them the fucking takes place and the 'fucker' leaves - usually after having shot their bolt wherever the 'fuckee' would like to see it depositied, without having really said anything to the 'fuckee'.

Do i really need to explain that one any further?

FWB A modern phrase (last 25 years maybe?) These types of relationships include sexual relationships, friendship, and romantic love. Unlike casual sexual affairs, romantic love is allowed - but it has to be part of a known pre-agreed arrangement. ie........they are a friend - but with the added benefit of some no-strings sex thrown in for good measure.

Remember - a friendship can last years and years - and should really be 'looked after' and maintained. Otherwise, it's not friendship. You are aquaintances.

Fuckbuddy Even more modern than FWB.

A person you see now and again for sharing fun times with - usually with a sexual element running through the scenario. The same as a FWB? But maybe with less strings attached?

Just because you discovered this lifestyle in the last ten years, and you created a word or phrase to cover what you're doing - doesn't mean you created the activity! It's all been done before.

In my opinion - if you are looking for a romance - or some sort of permanence in your 'coupling up' with A. N. Other......then this is not the site for you.

You want a dating site.

If you don't like what you've just read........feel free to swipe left!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nsa means fuck and go to me. Anything else is strings x "

This is my interpretation too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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I use this the same way I would a dating site. I want a swinging relationship. I’m pretty honest about that but I do have fun too with fwb. I don’t see me doing any harm to people who want to just fuck and go. I’m sure one day if I find my partner, we will be wanting just nsa with others. I just don’t meet guys that want just sex and no friendship with it.

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