FabSwingers.com forum: Blocking men

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is their any way I can block men from seeing my pictures and checking my profile? Trying to be discreet

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By *eamgreen30Couple
over a year ago

stroud

Only post your pics for friends to see instead of publicly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can set up message filters to block men from messaging you

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

"Only post your pics for friends to see instead of publicly "

Paul has already done just that.....

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

"You can set up message filters to block men from messaging you"

Paul has done that too....!!!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Is their any way I can block men from seeing my pictures and checking my profile? Trying to be discreet "

No. But you can block from messaging.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

You can block men individually from seeing your profile, or you can block men from messaging you, but otherwise if your pics are public then you will just have to put up with them perving.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But then women won't be able to see my photos if they don't add me back

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By *eamgreen30Couple
over a year ago

stroud

"But then women won't be able to see my photos if they don't add me back "

Then get over it and accept that some men are gonna check you out. If you’re that bothered perhaps this isn’t the right site for you.....

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

"But then women won't be able to see my photos if they don't add me back "

Choices, choices....!!!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"But then women won't be able to see my photos if they don't add me back "

Quote and we know who you're talking to.

If you have public photos on here, anyone on here can see them. Friends photos, friends can see them (but the scattergun invite anyone to be friends thing doesn't work, I don't think).

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Maybe I'll have too put my photos on not for friends only

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's annoying how men can see your photos lol

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

"It's annoying how men can see your photos lol "

In what way annoying, I am puzzled.....??

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By *eamgreen30Couple
over a year ago

stroud

Why is annoying tho? It’s kind of a compliment if a man thinks your worth checking out don’t you think? Doesn’t mean they want to bang you lol

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

"It's annoying how men can see your photos lol "

Not totally sure why you say your trying to be discreet when your face is public? People look at profiles, get over it.

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By *heltenhamBiGuyMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"It's annoying how men can see your photos lol "

Maybe this site isn't for you OP

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Why is it so annoying for you? If they can't message you then there's no problem. You have set your profile to 'not looking for single men' so you shouldn't be able to see if they've looked at you anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Because I was forever getting men message me even tho I'm straight, it's kind of disturbing getting men check my profile lol

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Paul........ I am intrigued. In what does it "disturb" you? They are taking a look at your profile.

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

"Because I was forever getting men message me even tho I'm straight, it's kind of disturbing getting men check my profile lol "

They can't message you....

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

As the ads on the bus say, some people are gay. Get over it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No they can't naw their blocked

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

If you don't want men messaging you, then invoke the appropriate filter.

If it "disturbs" you that some men find you attractive then you're probably in for a difficult life.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Definitely

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Op as has been said you can only stop men from messaging you. Therefore as it stands you have a choice, put all your pictures in friends only or accept that men will look.

Men in couples will be able to look after all

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

"Men in couples will be able to look after all

I am sure Paul will want a block put on that too!! Seems a strange thing to be worrying about. Loads of people look at loads of profiles, it is just what happens here at Fab...

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

I think your expectations of women are a bit wonky!

Do you know what stealth mode is?

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By *heltenhamBiGuyMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"No they can't naw their blocked "

Problem solved then

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Men in couples will be able to look after all

I am sure Paul will want a block put on that too!! Seems a strange thing to be worrying about. Loads of people look at loads of profiles, it is just what happens here at Fab..."

He's entitled to feel discomfort without being patronised or dismissed though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you feel so uncomfortable men checking you out or you're not comfortable with your own sexuality enough for a guy to check you out

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

"He's entitled to feel discomfort without being patronised or dismissed though. "

Not seen anyone patronizing him or dismissing him... well, not on this thread....

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"He's entitled to feel discomfort without being patronised or dismissed though.

Not seen anyone patronizing him or dismissing him... well, not on this thread...."

People are dismissing his discomfort. This happens to women a lot, that's not right, it's not right when it happens to men either.

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men in couples will be able to look after all

I am sure Paul will want a block put on that too!! Seems a strange thing to be worrying about. Loads of people look at loads of profiles, it is just what happens here at Fab...

He's entitled to feel discomfort without being patronised or dismissed though. "

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

"He's entitled to feel discomfort without being patronised or dismissed though.

Not seen anyone patronizing him or dismissing him... well, not on this thread....

People are dismissing his discomfort. This happens to women a lot, that's not right, it's not right when it happens to men either."

No one is dismissing his "discomfort", but where is it coming from? He is not in physical proximity to anyone not can he receive any messages. Some folk have taken a peek at his profile on Fab. So what...!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He's entitled to feel discomfort without being patronised or dismissed though.

Not seen anyone patronizing him or dismissing him... well, not on this thread....

People are dismissing his discomfort. This happens to women a lot, that's not right, it's not right when it happens to men either.

He moans about guys viewing him but adds women who says no adding me on their profiles if he doesn't like people doing certianing things like viewing him don't do thing to people they don't like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can set up message filters to block men from messaging you"

Think this also filters then from your ‘who looked at me’ list so that they don’t show up.

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By *r_normal_ishMan
over a year ago

derby

Keep getting offers of a blowjob it’s annoying but deleted and carry on is what I do take it as a compliment even if you are straight that’s what I do

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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago

Swindon

"It's annoying how men can see your photos lol

Maybe this site isn't for you OP"

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By *rs-Naughty_Mr-CuddlesCouple
over a year ago

Nr coleford

We don't get offers of a bj

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We don't get offers of a bj

That’s what happens when you say you’re bi on your profile. The random bj offers all stop.

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By *ame-room-no-swapCouple
over a year ago

Taunton

"He's entitled to feel discomfort without being patronised or dismissed though.

Not seen anyone patronizing him or dismissing him... well, not on this thread....

People are dismissing his discomfort. This happens to women a lot, that's not right, it's not right when it happens to men either.

^This^. I'm confused how the OP can be in public without feeling discomfort if another man should happen to glance at him.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"He's entitled to feel discomfort without being patronised or dismissed though.

Not seen anyone patronizing him or dismissing him... well, not on this thread....

People are dismissing his discomfort. This happens to women a lot, that's not right, it's not right when it happens to men either.

^This^. I'm confused how the OP can be in public without feeling discomfort if another man should happen to glance at him."

OK. The way I read this is that he's uncomfortable with men looking at him in a sexual context and wishes he could stop that happening. That isn't the same as a man glancing at him in public.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"He's entitled to feel discomfort without being patronised or dismissed though.

Not seen anyone patronizing him or dismissing him... well, not on this thread....

People are dismissing his discomfort. This happens to women a lot, that's not right, it's not right when it happens to men either.

We have different opinions in this it seems. Vive la difference!

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

" The way I read this is that he's uncomfortable with men looking at him in a sexual context and wishes he could stop that happening. That isn't the same as a man glancing at him in public. "

How does he know if men are "glancing at him in a sexual way" as opposed to a non-sexual way..?? He comes across as unduly sensitive about men's views of him.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"He's entitled to feel discomfort without being patronised or dismissed though.

Not seen anyone patronizing him or dismissing him... well, not on this thread....

People are dismissing his discomfort. This happens to women a lot, that's not right, it's not right when it happens to men either.

^This^. I'm confused how the OP can be in public without feeling discomfort if another man should happen to glance at him.

OK. The way I read this is that he's uncomfortable with men looking at him in a sexual context and wishes he could stop that happening. That isn't the same as a man glancing at him in public.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Lol what have I caused

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just looked at your profile mate

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I just looked at your profile mate

So did I...

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By *ame-room-no-swapCouple
over a year ago

Taunton

"I just looked at your profile mate

So did I .... male half

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By *tormchasingCouple
over a year ago

Essex

"I just looked at your profile mate

So did I .... male half

Ditto

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Lol what have I caused "

a discussion, its fine we're all adults and can disagree without taking offence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because I was forever getting men message me even tho I'm straight, it's kind of disturbing getting men check my profile lol "

I get old, young, male, female, straight, bi, gay, bicurious, transvestites, fat, skinny, black and white viewing my profile, fabbing my pics, winking etc. Many are not my type but I do not get precious about it. If you can’t handle it you really should not be on here as others have said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is their any way I can block men from seeing my pictures and checking my profile? Trying to be discreet "

Why are you only bothered about men seeing you?

And no, you can’t. You can filter your messages so that they cannot message you, but they can still view your profile.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

As others point out, there are restrictions that Fab offers but not in the full/exact way that you'd like op.

A profile without public pics is likely to be less succesful overall imo. Whilst your public pics can be anything you like, subject to site rules, you don't have to include any of your physical details that may be recognisable by people who know you very intimately. Sometimes we spend so much time with others, that they can easily recognise something that distinguishes us. Obviously there are giveaway physical signs too, such as a mole or birthmark in a prominent specific place.

Trade-offs between getting the benefits of being a site user, when it's already incredibly difficult for you single men, who are amongst thousands of others versus retaining full privacy, so that random profile viewers don't have evidence that you're on a swinging site, that they may scrutinise, share etc. It's your call. Perhaps show your good physical features that wouldn't too easily give you away.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I get straight guys fabbing my pictures and messaging me all of the time. It’s even written on my Profile I’m only interested in Bi people. However it doesn’t bother me and believe me if the thought of guys looking at you on here bothers you, don’t ever go into a gay pub / club as this site is nothing compared to the comments and looks you’d get in those places

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