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Confidence during an FFM

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I love playing with women and so does my fella, we have had a couple of meets and enjoyed them immensely. But I seem to be really lacking any confidence atm! Every time I see a girl we both like or may be interested in all I can imagine is how self conscious I will feel when we all get naked . Any advice? I know once we are in the swing of it I will be fine, it’s just getting to that point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sort your head out before meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You look amazing from your pics, I don't think you have anything to worry about. If it makes you feel better, maybe don't get naked but stay in some nice lingerie? A basque? Or similar?

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By *drenaline rushMan
over a year ago

Burnley

Hey I’m not normally into blowing smoke up anyone's arse but your stunning don’t be obvious just enjoy the moment your fella is there with you and when you’ve had your fun he will be taking you home. Just enjoy your stunning

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I wouldn't get naked infront of you, I'd feel like I looked like and unmade bed with my stretch marks, lumps and bums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love playing with women and so does my fella, we have had a couple of meets and enjoyed them immensely. But I seem to be really lacking any confidence atm! Every time I see a girl we both like or may be interested in all I can imagine is how self conscious I will feel when we all get naked . Any advice? I know once we are in the swing of it I will be fine, it’s just getting to that point"

I get this too op - i just try to remember that the other party is probably also feeling a bit self conscious about something aswell! Fake a bit of confidence then hopefully confidence breeds confidence!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your pictures are great but if you feel this way then my advice is to have a break and return when you feel better within.

x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You look amazing from your pics, I don't think you have anything to worry about. If it makes you feel better, maybe don't get naked but stay in some nice lingerie? A basque? Or similar? "

That’s a really good idea. Thank you xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hey I’m not normally into blowing smoke up anyone's arse but your stunning don’t be obvious just enjoy the moment your fella is there with you and when you’ve had your fun he will be taking you home. Just enjoy your stunning "

thank you. And that is very true x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wouldn't get naked infront of you, I'd feel like I looked like and unmade bed with my stretch marks, lumps and bums.

"

Ohh don’t say that. I have loads of stretch marks, my stomach is like a road map . You look stunning x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I love playing with women and so does my fella, we have had a couple of meets and enjoyed them immensely. But I seem to be really lacking any confidence atm! Every time I see a girl we both like or may be interested in all I can imagine is how self conscious I will feel when we all get naked . Any advice? I know once we are in the swing of it I will be fine, it’s just getting to that point

I get this too op - i just try to remember that the other party is probably also feeling a bit self conscious about something aswell! Fake a bit of confidence then hopefully confidence breeds confidence! "

Thank you that’s good advice! Women just seem so naturally confident on here x

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"I love playing with women and so does my fella, we have had a couple of meets and enjoyed them immensely. But I seem to be really lacking any confidence atm! Every time I see a girl we both like or may be interested in all I can imagine is how self conscious I will feel when we all get naked . Any advice? I know once we are in the swing of it I will be fine, it’s just getting to that point"

Is there an underlying thought?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your pictures are great but if you feel this way then my advice is to have a break and return when you feel better within.

x"

I feel fine when it’s just us two. Maybe sort my anxiety out around it first. Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I love playing with women and so does my fella, we have had a couple of meets and enjoyed them immensely. But I seem to be really lacking any confidence atm! Every time I see a girl we both like or may be interested in all I can imagine is how self conscious I will feel when we all get naked . Any advice? I know once we are in the swing of it I will be fine, it’s just getting to that point

Is there an underlying thought?"

I don’t think so x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

We're all self conscious, I think. I focus on what I'm doing and how I feel about it, not what I think I look like. If the clothes have come off, presumably everyone's attracted to each other.

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester


"We're all self conscious, I think. I focus on what I'm doing and how I feel about it, not what I think I look like. If the clothes have come off, presumably everyone's attracted to each other. "

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"I wouldn't get naked infront of you, I'd feel like I looked like and unmade bed with my stretch marks, lumps and bums.

"

Bumps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love playing with women and so does my fella, we have had a couple of meets and enjoyed them immensely. But I seem to be really lacking any confidence atm! Every time I see a girl we both like or may be interested in all I can imagine is how self conscious I will feel when we all get naked . Any advice? I know once we are in the swing of it I will be fine, it’s just getting to that point

I get this too op - i just try to remember that the other party is probably also feeling a bit self conscious about something aswell! Fake a bit of confidence then hopefully confidence breeds confidence!

Thank you that’s good advice! Women just seem so naturally confident on here x"

Apperanced can be deceptive sometimes! Also i bet when you have been in the heat of the moment you have never noticed any wobbly bits or whatever! And i bet they will be too busy focussing on your assets! Not always but sometimes getting out there can do your confidence the world of good!

Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love playing with women and so does my fella, we have had a couple of meets and enjoyed them immensely. But I seem to be really lacking any confidence atm! Every time I see a girl we both like or may be interested in all I can imagine is how self conscious I will feel when we all get naked . Any advice? I know once we are in the swing of it I will be fine, it’s just getting to that point"

Just imagine how self conscious she will be too.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

As to confidence... I cultivate a confident, take no shit persona on here as a defense mechanism. The way we appear is often how we choose to appear.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I love playing with women and so does my fella, we have had a couple of meets and enjoyed them immensely. But I seem to be really lacking any confidence atm! Every time I see a girl we both like or may be interested in all I can imagine is how self conscious I will feel when we all get naked . Any advice? I know once we are in the swing of it I will be fine, it’s just getting to that point

I get this too op - i just try to remember that the other party is probably also feeling a bit self conscious about something aswell! Fake a bit of confidence then hopefully confidence breeds confidence!

Thank you that’s good advice! Women just seem so naturally confident on here x

Apperanced can be deceptive sometimes! Also i bet when you have been in the heat of the moment you have never noticed any wobbly bits or whatever! And i bet they will be too busy focussing on your assets! Not always but sometimes getting out there can do your confidence the world of good!

Very true! X

Xx"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As to confidence... I cultivate a confident, take no shit persona on here as a defense mechanism. The way we appear is often how we choose to appear. "

Very true. I act confident most of the time but never feel it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously. Any niggles of doubt will mess with you. Sort your head out before meeting anyone!!!!

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