FabSwingers.com mobile

Join us FREE, we're FREE to use

Web's largest swingers site since 2006.

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to Swingers Chat

expectations of a swinger

Jump to newest
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

so i notice that a woman has viewed me alot and decide to message her...

after a short mail ping pong... she posts the following on her profile "i dont want to meet somebody that has been with people and those people have been with alot as well" which was the context of the emails she sent me and wonder to myself... surely that is the entire nature of swinging so surely this womans on the wrong site... don't get me wrong... being relatively new on here (i moved profiles at christmas time after an incident on here previously but have been on and off the site since august only)... i have had meets with a handful of men who are obviously popular, judging by their verifications (and before anyone says something...this obviously makes me a tart, lol)... and as long as you are safe and careful it shouldnt matter... but i just don't get that judgemental attitude on a site thats whole premise is adult fun... do users really discuss others as well on here?... discuss please?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps she doesn't want anyone that has been with a different guy ie long list of verifications all from someone different and she is only interested in someone who maybe has a fuck buddy?

Kind of difficult given that one can hide verifications? Or perhaps she has a beef with the one's you have met and doesn't want to meet them or anyone that has met them?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i agree about the verification bit we can all pretend to be something we're not... but the site is hardly brimming with virgins and most people will have a history on or off here... but at least is a controlled environment in which to meet like minded people... as opposed to going down the local and just pulling for the sake of it... i just found her whole response interesting i guess...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rica77Couple
over a year ago

Norwich

Have I fallen asleep and Fabs has turned into a dating site for ex nuns or something. I appreciate that people have different boundaries up to which they are comfortable but her response was ridiculous. It is a swinging site for Gods sake. I don't mind if someone has a shed load of verifications, it shows me that they are genuine people and are very unlikely to be time wasters...something that fabs has far too many of.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have I fallen asleep and Fabs has turned into a dating site for ex nuns or something. I appreciate that people have different boundaries up to which they are comfortable but her response was ridiculous. It is a swinging site for Gods sake. I don't mind if someone has a shed load of verifications, it shows me that they are genuine people and are very unlikely to be time wasters...something that fabs has far too many of. "

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

hummm am glad you girls are thinking along the same lines as me ... I guess her killer line to me was "I've been warned by my friends about you" (this is someone who isnt verified or has any friends as far as I can tell from her profile)... what the heck does that mean? well I know what it means... but as I don't tend to meet with anyone within a twenty mile radius of where I live... are there local jungle drums that come into play?... lol she makes me sound like a proper nymph... I wish

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rica77Couple
over a year ago

Norwich

It really does make you wonder if she knows what she's doing. Secondly what on earth does she think that she's up to discussing her interest in Swinging to friends (presumably outside the scene). Personally my friends would not believe that their extremely respectable middle class middle aged friends is a horny old gal...lol....My regular partner says when I arrive at a club I look like a HEadmistress after 5 minutes I become a mistress.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmmm, could be she didnt want to meet in person so you could see her beard, chest hair and, maybe if shes lucky, cock and balls lol.

Never understood all that. Who cares who you have been with... Its what you do with the person you are with that is important...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sounds to me that perhaps she (if indeed she is a she!) is a little jealous of who you have met...possibily some of the guys you have encountered have turned her down and she is childish enough to resort to playground tactics....either that, or its really a guy you have met or turned down...either way, they need to get with the programme! Take no notice honey, and stay sexy!! x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *uby In StockingsTV/TS
over a year ago

Cheadle


"Hmmmm, could be she didnt want to meet in person so you could see her beard, chest hair and, maybe if shes lucky, cock and balls lol.

Never understood all that. Who cares who you have been with... Its what you do with the person you are with that is important..."

I agree with dodge, sounds to me this was a fake profile given the ludicrous things this person said to you. Hope it hasen't upset you too much, hugz n stuff, Ruby, xxx

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I don't think she's on the wrong site, she's just clearly stating her preference. She simply doesn't want to meet what she perceives as hardened swingers. She may simply feel out of her depth with those who have a lot more experience than her.

Some people on here enjoy very extreme behavior when compared to the 'norm', that behavior might not suit you, wouldn't mean they could justifiably state that you were on the wrong site.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The standard reply to this is, move on...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

she dont wish to be one of a number ...... and feel like meat . Some like to feel like thay are number one it puts them off seeing loads of feed-back here. But truth is if thay only pick ones with 1 or 2 feedbacks to meet, Thay may not look like harden swingers as could be hiding loads and up to them if thay hide feedback. End of the day should be fun. If only looking maybe for that one person dating sites are better maybe.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

she never said she wanted a meet though, all she did was look at your profile a few times.

maybe she's just curious and not ready to take the leap and just tried to think of an excuse to get out the situation

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

[Removed by poster at 14/02/12 10:28:21]

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

the only expectations on the site are the ones that you set yourself... nothing else...

for example.. my expectation is merely friendships and then if anything were to happen from that, then that is a bonus....

some people are just intimidated or just like to cast aspersions on others, because people see things differently....

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Sounds as if they just choose to swing differently to you.

We all have preferences, doesn't make anyone right or wrong.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the only expectations on the site are the ones that you set yourself... nothing else...

for example.. my expectation is merely friendships and then if anything were to happen from that, then that is a bonus....

some people are just intimidated or just like to cast aspersions on others, because people see things differently....

"

Totally true Fabio! Met some great people on here that are just mates, and if things go further its a bonus... But just cos we're swingers doesn't mean we'll shag anything with a pulse... Must be some attraction there...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To the OP

Strangely enough some "swingers" actually think that people who have many sexual encounters are strange

My take on it is they are strange and to be honest they are in the wrong game with their attitude

They however are entiled to think how they want to and I respect that

However most of the ones I come across don't seem to respect the fact that more liberal swingers are entiled to respect for their choice of swinging too xx

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ath-N-DelCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow area

Why was this women interested in a straight female

Did she reply simply to find out about a man you had met?

Sadly others do judge people by the others they have met.....

"If you have fucked him/her you not fucking me"!!

Let them get on with it...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have I fallen asleep and Fabs has turned into a dating site for ex nuns or something. I appreciate that people have different boundaries up to which they are comfortable but her response was ridiculous. It is a swinging site for Gods sake. I don't mind if someone has a shed load of verifications, it shows me that they are genuine people and are very unlikely to be time wasters...something that fabs has far too many of. "

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had something similar on another site. I messaged a guy, who I felt was compatible with me. We pinged a few messages, and found we seemed quite compatible. Then he says that he would rather meet someone who hadn't met before! I said 'you're joking, it aint happening on a site like this'. I told him people would only lie anyway. Needless to say, he'd been on over a year, with no verifications, so guess he doesn't get many meets!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"so i notice that a woman has viewed me alot and decide to message her...

after a short mail ping pong... she posts the following on her profile "i dont want to meet somebody that has been with people and those people have been with alot as well" which was the context of the emails she sent me and wonder to myself... surely that is the entire nature of swinging so surely this womans on the wrong site... don't get me wrong... being relatively new on here (i moved profiles at christmas time after an incident on here previously but have been on and off the site since august only)... i have had meets with a handful of men who are obviously popular, judging by their verifications (and before anyone says something...this obviously makes me a tart, lol)... and as long as you are safe and careful it shouldnt matter... but i just don't get that judgemental attitude on a site thats whole premise is adult fun... do users really discuss others as well on here?... discuss please? "

seriously, ive given up trying to work this one out

I think some on here just want to find regular play mates who do not play with others, in my opinion thats not swinging, swinging means no strings and by telling others they cant meet others if they meet you is not no string there for not swinging....thats only my view tho

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No I don't think she's on the wrong site, she's just clearly stating her preference. She simply doesn't want to meet what she perceives as hardened swingers. She may simply feel out of her depth with those who have a lot more experience than her.

Some people on here enjoy very extreme behavior when compared to the 'norm', that behavior might not suit you, wouldn't mean they could justifiably state that you were on the wrong site.

"

+1

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
Post new Message to Thread
back to top