FabSwingers.com forum: Self esteem

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is fab good or bad for your self esteem? Discuss.

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By *ath-N-DelCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow area

Looking at all the complaints...

I feel goooooooooooooooood

Nowt wrong with my self esteem

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Looking at all the complaints...

I feel goooooooooooooooood

Nowt wrong with my self esteem

My hypothesis is that fab is good for ladies self-esteem and bad for men's.

+1 for the hypothesis.

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By *ibrosMan
over a year ago

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I say good for self esteem. I get to express myself freely and the occasional good comment makes it a positive experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends how you look at it

Being a woman yes you get hundreds of messages a week but is that because they like you or because women are so greatly out numbered the guys start lowering their standards?

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

"Depends how you look at it

Being a woman yes you get hundreds of messages a week but is that because they like you or because women are so greatly out numbered the guys start lowering their standards?

Bugger me (not a general invitation, lol) - I don't get gajillions of messages a week/day/hour/minute but tell ya what, my self esteem has shot up the fecking elevator and although I still have "body issues" and will never be happy with my bits....I have a lot more confidence to enjoy life and throw meself right into the lifestyle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on your state of mind when you first joined.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you joined to make your self feel more attractive by having sex with lots of people - Self Esteem Fail

did you join for the attention - Self Esteem Fail

Did you join because you wanted to have some fucking good fun (pun fully intended) and let loose - full of Self Esteem win

You cant be all things to all people - If you believe your own self worth is directly related to how many other people find you attractive or want to fuck you you have problems that cant be solved via casual sex!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

deffo boosts it!

it can be like watching jeremy kyle . . . . especially when your reading the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends how you look at it

Being a woman yes you get hundreds of messages a week but is that because they like you or because women are so greatly out numbered the guys start lowering their standards?

Ive never really had high confidance but thats just me but i am a realist and i know i look no better now than i did before is started doing this, all because i get 50+ messahes a day i do not think ive all of a sudden turned into some sort of super model lol"
well to me you come across as a lovely person ... and that go s along long way in my book .. like you i get alot of mail .. but i know alot do here and like you i dont see myself as no super model just jo its a sex site ..i am one of a number x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if they can get past the picture of my tits, see my face, and still message me, then its self esteem ahoy lol!!

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over a year ago

I think it can depend on your expectations as to whether the place will boost your self esteem or not

If you don't take it too seriously.....

Treat every reply to your messages as a nice bonus and not a requirement

Keep a sense of humour

Stay grounded and remember that not everyone will be attracted to everyone else

Not everyone will have the same ideals or the same attitudes as you

Realise that some people will behave rather oddly (well this is the internet!)

Work out that its not a 24/7 dial a fuck website that owes you a night out on the strength of one message

Some people are really just not nice anyway,but then thats real life

After all that your self esteem should remain intact

Its great fun on here

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"Is fab good or bad for your self esteem? Discuss."

swinging in general has been amazing for my self esteem, after years of kev telling me i am fit and sexy i finally belive him

Being greeted each morning as a gorgeous sub helps too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging is a positive experience for me and certainly has given me a boast.

I was always confident at work and fairly ok about my looks and appearance, ok like everyone I've got flaws, I'm aging, wrinkles, fat tummy etc, but I could live with what I saw in the mirror.

But swinging has given me an arena to display a certain side of my personality in public. I can attend clubs and parties, wear outfits and parade around in them, I can be creative, I can act a diva at times, I can explore sexuality at my own pace and this does give me a boast to have such an outlet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neither, i dont take it that seriously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is fab good or bad for your self esteem? Discuss."

u bliddy discuss!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it can depend on your expectations as to whether the place will boost your self esteem or not

If you don't take it too seriously.....

Treat every reply to your messages as a nice bonus and not a requirement

Keep a sense of humour

Stay grounded and remember that not everyone will be attracted to everyone else

Not everyone will have the same ideals or the same attitudes as you

Realise that some people will behave rather oddly (well this is the internet!)

Work out that its not a 24/7 dial a fuck website that owes you a night out on the strength of one message

Some people are really just not nice anyway,but then thats real life

After all that your self esteem should remain intact

Its great fun on here

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By *ub bbwWoman
over a year ago

oldbury

its been great for mine after being stuck in a loveless realationship that left me feeling unattractive and frumpy i have now started feeling sexy and attractive again and have a great guy who tells me how sexy i am all the time and makes me believe it finally and whats not to like about attention from others while having great sexy fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looking at all the complaints...

I feel goooooooooooooooood

Nowt wrong with my self esteem

My hypothesis is that fab is good for ladies self-esteem and bad for men's.

+1 for the hypothesis.

Entirely disagree. Fab has been great for my self esteem, the people I've met have built me up to feel 100' tall and I feel a lot more confident about chatting to random women at bus stops, on trains, wherever......

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

knowing that someone is generally attracted to you as a person both pysically and character wise is good for the self esteem. Being told a hundred times aday by guys they want to fuck you isnt. When i say isnt i dont mean its bad, its just like water of a ducks back to me, sooner have one or two that want me for me than a hundred that just say anything to get in your knickers.

As for men, guess its the approach you take, yes i guess you get rejected lots more than ladies but its your attitude that makes being on here a positive or negative experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to be honest sometimes things in real life make me feel better about myself than things that happen via swinging

You go to a club and put your sexy undies on and you know that guys are going to be all over you, because as a single female in a sex club thats just what its like so because its what you come to expect it does not really make you feel good when it happens

However when your walking down the street, fully dressed and men you dont know ask you out, that makes me feel much better about myself than any guy in swinging

Because men in swinging talk to you because they want a shag and they know they are more likely to get it from women on here, men in the real world dont know me, they dont know if they are going to get sex out of me, they could take me out for a drink and get bugger all at the end of the night but still have enough interest in me to take that risk...how many guys on here would do that?

Someone liking you as a person and being interested in the whole of you as apposed to just wanting to get in your knickers gives you a much better feeling of self worth and you dont get that on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is fab good or bad for your self esteem? Discuss."

Short term yes, long term no. It flatters egos, women who look in the mirror and don't really like what they see are flattered by the attention they get on here, men telling them they are beautiful. Long term the reality sinks in and that's many men will say anything to get a fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeah ive come along way, im not ashamed to say ive lived a sheltered life due to me being so big till i hit 30 (25 stone +) then dropped to 14 stone when i was 31 and even got myself built up a bit too.

ive always used to think i was proper rubbish with ladies, i never used to bother anyone, tell anyone i liked them coz i think they wernt interested and wudnt want the attention from me, which to be fair they probs didnt, so in my 20s after i split from my engagement i let it get to me and didnt have much fun at all

but since i joined after loosing it all as a couple then playing on my own after we were thourgh its actually really made me very comfortable with myself sexually. and ive done pretty much every fantasy or thing ive ever thought and dreamed of while sitting on the sidelines (probs while watching watching porn haha)

so yeah its helped me quite alot,

i can imagine depending how thick skinned you are and how much du-dilliegence you put in your meets it can be a bitter/sweet pill to take, one meet can be great but only takes one demoralising meet to put you off for a while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your self esteem depends on many questions:

Is your job worthwhile? Do others respect what you do? Do you?

Do you believe you are successful?

How do you see yourself (your self image)?

How do you feel about your strengths and weaknesses?

Are you comparing yourself to others and ignoring the unique value that you have?

What do you think of your social status?

How do you relate to others?

Can you make your own decisions? A lack of choices leads to low self esteem ..

I think if this site helps some to get self esteem its good but its should come from other things in life too ..

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By *ibrosMan
over a year ago

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