FabSwingers.com forum: First time clubbers

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We are going to be attending a club for the first time very soon and we are just wondering how things were on your first time, and what hints and tips you might have for us. Thanks in advance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go with no expectations to play. After 7 years I still do this as you have no idea who will be there, if anyone takes your fancy and if you take their fancy. But if you turn up with a view of just enjoying the evening and see how things go you will enjoy the experience so much more without feeling like you have to do something.

Friendly and chatty helps and being able to speak to strangers

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Go with no expectations to play. After 7 years I still do this as you have no idea who will be there, if anyone takes your fancy and if you take their fancy. But if you turn up with a view of just enjoying the evening and see how things go you will enjoy the experience so much more without feeling like you have to do something.

Friendly and chatty helps and being able to speak to strangers "

Thank you

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

We were nervous our first time though I(Jack) had been to a few clubs before.

We went with no expectations and just to have a nice evening.

We were soon put at ease by the hosts and the friendly people there. I know its not always easy but just smile and try to engage in conversation with people.

Had a few drinks and chatted with some nice people and were soon naked in the pool. Only played with each other that night but in the Dark Room. Was so horny hearing other people around us having sex.

Never looked back since but dont get to clubs as much as we would like.

Have a great time and only do what you are both comfortable with. Jack

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"We are going to be attending a club for the first time very soon and we are just wondering how things were on your first time, and what hints and tips you might have for us. Thanks in advance

My top tip for clubs is: go with the sole intention of talking to people. Don't restrict yourself to people you fancy, talk to anyone and everyone. If you manage the you will be guaranteed a fun night even if you don't play with anyone else.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just relax and go with the flow. Don't go with any expectations except to have a good time. Go at your own pace don't ever feel pressured to play. If you both start out with personal do's and don'ts stick to them.

Have fun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine was about 4 years ago, and what a first time club meet it was, I had fun with a single lady and then later with a young couple on the open beds so a very good first time meet at the Atlantis Club but never looked back since, just love my swinging for club and private meets

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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago

Currently Faraway

"We are going to be attending a club for the first time very soon and we are just wondering how things were on your first time, and what hints and tips you might have for us. Thanks in advance

from my perspective, go to a club that has a jacuzzi (I like them). If nobody fancies you on that night, or if you don’t fancy anybody, you can always enjoy yourselves in the jacuzzi x

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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago

Currently Faraway

"We are going to be attending a club for the first time very soon and we are just wondering how things were on your first time, and what hints and tips you might have for us. Thanks in advance

from my perspective, go to a club that has a jacuzzi (I like them). If nobody fancies you on that night, or if you don’t fancy anybody, you can always enjoy yourselves in the jacuzzi x"

Of course if you find somebody to just engage in a conversation for hours, it doesn’t really matter whether the club is “dry” or “wet”.

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By *uriousTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Definitely go as watchers for your first time. And talk to each other openly and honestly

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By *ornyhornytwoCouple
over a year ago

Bradford

Same as everyone else said. Go with no plans other than to go.. speak to people and have a watch of what goes on... Most the time people will be nice to new people if they seem them on a tour and make sure they have company and stuff x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all the replies, much appreciated

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

Totally agree with the comments here!

On our first visit, our goal was to get through the door, have a look around and a drink. Maybe chat with people then leave.

We were made to feel so comfortable, we ended up naked in the hot tub within 30mins before having a play together in a private room.

Go with no expectations and a solid idea of your hard and soft limits (things you won't do and things you might do, depending on the mood). Nerves are normal too. After 4 years we still get butterflies before a club visit.

Enjoy!

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By *ame-room-no-swapCouple
over a year ago

Taunton

"We are going to be attending a club for the first time very soon and we are just wondering how things were on your first time, and what hints and tips you might have for us. Thanks in advance

Agree with a lot of the above. However , don't wear black underwear, just in case.

It's a pig to find in a darkish room

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

We didn't really know what to expect, but a member of staff showed us around and we saw all sorts going on. After a while we got nude, went into a crowded playroom and fucked, no swapping but we interacted with a fucking couple next to us, the man kissed R and I felt the other woman's tits. All very erotic and great fun!

Our first swap was on our next visit, soft-swing only. We had another soft-swing that night too. A couple more visits and a few more soft-swings then we had our first full swap and haven't looked back since.

Take it easy and go at your own pace and you'll enjoy things more. And talk about what you both felt and thought afterwards. ENJOY!

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

My 1st time I was so nervous!! T had been before as a single man. We went on a party night jusy before Xmas & it was fab! It was a foam party, everyone was in a good mood, no pressure. We only played with each other but was a great starting point

J x

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By *weeny_toddMan
over a year ago

Exeter

Thanks everyone posting we went to fun4all in PDI last year and I think Lisa felt a bit under pressure so I just said c’mon we’ll leave as I could see she was uncomfortable. We’ve spoken about it since and had a really good laugh about it we’ve been going to house clubs/raves all our married life I just said treat it like we’re going clubbing nothing more if something happens fine if not we’d have still had a good time with the two of us.....we’re off again next week to have another go lol

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By *JohnMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"from my perspective, go to a club that has a jacuzzi (I like them). If nobody fancies you on that night, or if you don’t fancy anybody, you can always enjoy yourselves in the jacuzzi x"

For someone like me, who finds crowds and noise difficult, the hot tub is a good place to socialise too. You get a small group of people, and it's usually much quieter than the bar (unless someone's put the bubbles on).

And I'll second the advice about being friendly to everyone, whether you fancy them or not. There's so much more to be got out of a club than just sex. And getting a reputation as a decent and friendly person won't hurt your chances in the future.

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By *ornyhornytwoCouple
over a year ago

Bradford

Agreed. It definitely isn't about just sex. We speak to people every time that we wouldn't play with but are actually nice people. It's a social environment and when your in the hot tub or the bar areas you actually want to speak to people and as such you will get nice verifications and that helps you when it comes to people wanting to know other people's opinions of you.

Everyone speaks in the hot tub. It's one of our favourite places for that.. and you also hear some very funny stories. But yeah the hardest part about a club is going through the door the first time. Most people can't wait to make a return visit and that's mostly because people are mostly very friendly even if your not compatible with them x

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"Agreed. It definitely isn't about just sex. We speak to people every time that we wouldn't play with but are actually nice people. It's a social environment and when your in the hot tub or the bar areas you actually want to speak to people and as such you will get nice verifications and that helps you when it comes to people wanting to know other people's opinions of you.

Agree with this. From are very first bite of the club scene we were smitten. When me and my partner go we always have a great time (that why we can't wait for the next time). Maybe we're not the best swingers because we don't always play with lots of other people. We don't necessarily go for that. We just like to strip off, be free, have laugh and a great time meeting new people. And we always meet some great people and have fun times whatever do. A club is a great night out even without mad rapant orgies or 4 somes. It a place to be yourselves and do what you desire/feel comfortable with together. Sometime you don't always find people you want to play with or things don't pan out that way. But if you just go out with the mindset of just having a fun night out together then any extra fun with others is just that, a Brucie Bonus.

Also the hot tub is a great place to socialise. Being naked with strangers is a great leveller and you find you not strangers for too long.

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