FabSwingers.com forum: Being stood out

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Second time this happened now, and I’m a bit Annoyed! After booking hotel room last minute being driven by desire of mmmf meet and arranging two other male from the site one lets us down.

Did this ever happened to you guys? What do you do in situations like that. One one other time before we ment to meet just one guy. Waited in the hotel room and 5 min after scheduled time he text that he won’t come.

You chat to them, send your photos and make arrangements and after all that do they just satisfy them selves and that’s enough? Not fair on others.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Annoying, but it happens a lot it seems. At least you have each other, a hotel room and a few sexy hours together

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By *ldestswingerintownMan
over a year ago

Lancaster

I've been stood up more times than I've had hot dinners! Women seem really enthusiastic, respond positively to messages - then come the arranged meeting and they don't show up. Perhaps it's a failure of nerve, but I'm sure there's a whole population of fantasists out there on Fab that seem to just enjoy making the arrangements and have no real intention of turning up - it gives them some kind of kick, I think.

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

Make the most of the hotel room and the one guy who has turned up.... crack on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive been stood up twice by the same woman, shes now blocked. Id never stand someone up its disrespectful.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

It hasn't happened to me often, but I know it's frustrating.

If I've not heard from them the same day I presume it ain't going to happen.

Some people talk the talk but cant walk the walk.

Day use hotels are good as you can cancel the same day if plans fall through.

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By *aul smith999Man
over a year ago

cheshunt

I to have had a lot of letdowns . It feels like people on this site want to waste others time. I am losing faith in this site .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes and few sexy photos. Thank good the other guy was reliable.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Don’t get me wrong most of our dates turns up and we have great time. But this going on, I don’t understand. I have him blocked now also the previous man. I would never think a woman could not turn up that is weird. If I as a woman decided to swing or have sex with someone I wouldn’t change my mind last minute.

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

Don't forget to report the profiles.

"Arranged meet, did not turn up"

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

"Second time this happened now, and I’m a bit Annoyed! After booking hotel room last minute being driven by desire of mmmf meet and arranging two other male from the site one lets us down.

You chat to them, send your photos and make arrangements and after all that do they just satisfy them selves and that’s enough? Not fair on others. "

Happens to us all the time! Couples are the worst. But single men are let downs too. We either look whos on and near by. Or juat have fun ourselves.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes it is good to meet people there and then rather than make arrangements. Especially with one you don’t know. With friends or someone that you know it’s easier and they turn up.

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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast

Touch wood never been let down bit did have a close call with a complete fruit bat.....wish she hadn't turned up...

3hrs of hell and fake smiles

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

"Don't forget to report the profiles.

"Arranged meet, did not turn up""

What will that do?

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"Touch wood never been let down bit did have a close call with a complete fruit bat.....wish she hadn't turned up...

3hrs of hell and fake smiles"

Why did you waste three hours if you weren't compatable? One reason why I usually do a coffee social, if there's an issue I can leave once I've drained my cup!

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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast

Sat and listened to her, clearly has some problems and we left on good social terms and hopefully she managed to get things off her chest (not literally)...and feel that no click /spark but wasn't a blatant rejection...

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

"Don't forget to report the profiles.

"Arranged meet, did not turn up"

What will that do?"

If the profile has multiple reports on him/her, admin may suspend the account.

That's the most we can do. We can't name and shame.

That's what provided by this site. Might as well use it.

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

"Sat and listened to her, clearly has some problems and we left on good social terms and hopefully she managed to get things off her chest (not literally)...and feel that no click /spark but wasn't a blatant rejection...

You are a nice guy and she more than likely needed someone just to talk to

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By *otnew16Man
over a year ago

Dartford

Not been given the opportunity too often, but would never let people down. If a lady/ couple is prepared to meet then I’ll be there!

Some people are just ignorant/selfish or both!

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

"Don't forget to report the profiles.

"Arranged meet, did not turn up"

What will that do?

If the profile has multiple reports on him/her, admin may suspend the account.

That's the most we can do. We can't name and shame.

That's what provided by this site. Might as well use it."

It would be good if they actually had rules like that, 2 no shows and you will have your profile deleted, or they actually offered to pay for the hotel in instances like that I’m sure the couple would have been more than happy to just go home and say fair do but not out of pocket

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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast

Just normal thing to do, text each other abliet slow and not instantly as to slow move away ....

Clearly she had been very hurt or treated badly in the past...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been stood up more times than I've had hot dinners! Women seem really enthusiastic, respond positively to messages - then come the arranged meeting and they don't show up. Perhaps it's a failure of nerve, but I'm sure there's a whole population of fantasists out there on Fab that seem to just enjoy making the arrangements and have no real intention of turning up - it gives them some kind of kick, I think. "

Those “woman” were probably men

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

There was a suggestion under Site Feedback forum if I'm not mistaken, quite recently, where someone suggested that reported profiles, has a sign displayed on their profile to warn other users. I thought that was a good suggestion but it got brushed off with a rather commanding "Admin is dealing on it".

So, I just back off and keep quiet.

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

* correction: the correct words are " Admin have already a system in place for repeat offenders".

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/feedback/875612

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

"* correction: the correct words are " Admin have already a system in place for repeat offenders".

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/feedback/875612"

I can’t find the fab rules

All I’ve seen is on safety don’t book hotels travel to meet strangers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had it twice just wasted both our time and money so annoying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you sure they are real? Verifications aside I always insist on seeing on camera and interacting (in case a video) in order to confirm they are actually real. If they are that does not mean they are reliable but if they are not it saves you being stood up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two weeks ago - after exchanged many messages, phone calls and texts etc, I made arrangements to meet MF couple, took time off, booked hotel near Sheffield CC, paid for it on basis we go 50/50 and despite assurances that same day, they never turned up, ignored my text/messages and now deleted profile

add to that

I am Bi and occasionally if nice Bi couple along like these two, its frustrating grrrrrrrr

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By *astyEricMan
over a year ago

Hull

"Two weeks ago - after exchanged many messages, phone calls and texts etc, I made arrangements to meet MF couple, took time off, booked hotel near Sheffield CC, paid for it on basis we go 50/50 and despite assurances that same day, they never turned up, ignored my text/messages and now deleted profile

add to that

I am Bi and occasionally if nice Bi couple along like these two, its frustrating grrrrrrrr

Welcome in the club

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By *linyMan
over a year ago

Manchester/London

I’ve been stood up a few times both as a single male and also as a party host. With parties we always tried allowed for a 25% no show and arrange a social before hand to make sure the group dynamic was right and people were genuine.

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