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How do people feel about meeting people cheating on husband /wife ,partners

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By *eds1 OP   Man
over a year ago

Salisbury

Just wonder what people think or do they not care as its a swingers site

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By *ornyhornytwoCouple
over a year ago

Bradford

We have met a few people in clubs whos husband ect don't know... We didn't play with them but we don't judge them either. Loads of reasons for it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own. Ive had abusive inboxes, but have met others that are in the same situation as me.

Far too many are judgy the way i see it if its a issue just move on, theres plenty of woman and guys on here doing the same.

I used illicitaffairs but at £160 for 5 weeks on the site its ridiculous so use this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

peoples business is their own, we never really ask but it's pretty obvious for most. We try not to judge. We just find that they can't meet when we can or have to change plans at the last minute, so we don't tend to meet attached people

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

We always ask and would never knowingly meet anyone on here behind someone's back.

Others don't mind

Miss

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By *dinSon99Man
over a year ago

East Northants

I’m not fussed, what goes on behind closed doors is their business. Prefer to be in the picture if it is cheating but not everyone would be willing to say I expect.

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By *inkycatWoman
over a year ago

High Wycombe

I don’t knowingly do it any more after a bad experience where I was harassed by someone’s partner when she found out and ended up having to involve the police...not a great time!

In a club it’s different and I make no judgement, I will play with anyone who takes my fancy, but on here if someone says they’re attached I now politely decline.

Everyone has their own reasons for being here and life as you get older has much more grey between the black and white - but I don’t need any hassle and so it’s a no from me.

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By *rkeb3Man
over a year ago

east Lancashire road

Nothing

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

none of my business to be honest. it wouldn't stop me meeting them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not everything in life is black and white....

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

I think most people on here are in relationship so just turn a blind eye and a deaf ear

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By *harliebbwWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

A little different I know.

But my oh has been chatting to a woman. Find and dandy. My oh says to me if I am at work on this day do you mind if I invite her over. Now the oh has told her I know everything else. If you want to check that's fine. Her reply was no if your lying that's your shit to deal with. Which has pissed me off. As she is coming to my house. Really am pissed she would have the your shit is your problem attitude whilst being in my house.

Quietly boiling and reviewing my right to agree to them using my house.

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By *irl1234xxxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I don’t meet married guys or guys with girlfriends who don’t know about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a pain in the arse. Hurried meets, people buggering off suddenly because their partner is asking where they are, no phone conversation, limited responsiveness, no strong perfume, no marks, no luxuriating in long unhurried meets.

There would have to be a hell of a connection and awesome sex to get past all of that.

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Not my business ...!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t fancy having my head kicked in op.

Though, I’m known to be a serpent in the garden

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By *omvampmMan
over a year ago

gillingham

I'm not here to judge ( no need as theirs plenty here whom will) people have their reasons for all they do I do prefer if people are open and tell me but that's not to judge it's more to reassure that their business is there's I come here and live this life to escape drama of a way to short life and all the stress associated with it. That's just my opinion and others are entitled to there's

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Stafford

I wouldn't knowing meet someone who's here to cheat. I think it's disrespectful to their partner. Many are happy to meet but that's just not me. I've been cheated on before by my ex. I know how it feels when you inevitably find out what's been going on and id prefer not to be part of the problem. I do wish people would state on their profiles that they're here without their partners knowledge though, so the ones who aren't after that don't have to waste their time getting to know someone then that bombshell is dropped.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I wouldn't meet with someone if I was aware that they were cheating.

Though, it's likely happened at clubs.

Others see it as a safe meet, on the basis that they are less likely to be clingy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never if I'm aware of it. I despise cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will never knowingly do it.

I absolutely detest cheating, of any form, for whatever reason.

So I will only meet with single men.

I haven’t been to a club yet, but when I do, I’d be asking in person if they’re single too, if they lie, it’s on them.

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By *oeofsussexMan
over a year ago

Eastbourne

Really doesn’t matter. If it’s all consensual then that’s great. If no-one wants to tell their spouse, that’s their choice. There may be bad reasons why ppl don’t tell their spouses but there can be perfectly good ones too. I think too many people are ‘holier-than-thou’ about it. My wife and I realise we generally have much better sex with other ppl than with each other. She chooses guys she knows well off the internet, I choose that and this site. We are happily married and don’t want to ruin that by competing on the number of shags we get outside the marriage so we don’t tell each other. It makes sense to us and we’re comfortable with that. We don’t discuss our conquests to each other. I’ve a vague idea what she gets up to and I think she has a vague idea about me but we’re cool with that. Everyone’s different! It would be boring if we were all the same!

Go on, reply, I know some of you are shocked and outraged! lol!

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By *xpressionistMan
over a year ago

ST. ALBANS


"Really doesn’t matter. If it’s all consensual then that’s great. If no-one wants to tell their spouse, that’s their choice. There may be bad reasons why ppl don’t tell their spouses but there can be perfectly good ones too. I think too many people are ‘holier-than-thou’ about it. My wife and I realise we generally have much better sex with other ppl than with each other. She chooses guys she knows well off the internet, I choose that and this site. We are happily married and don’t want to ruin that by competing on the number of shags we get outside the marriage so we don’t tell each other. It makes sense to us and we’re comfortable with that. We don’t discuss our conquests to each other. I’ve a vague idea what she gets up to and I think she has a vague idea about me but we’re cool with that. Everyone’s different! It would be boring if we were all the same!

Go on, reply, I know some of you are shocked and outraged! lol! "

This is how my wife and I used to operate. Even now with my wife not really capable due to illness she encourages me still to carry on. Sometimes she'll ask, other times not. Sex is just sex as far as we're concerned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm married & say so in my profile,some people won't even give me the time of day,others arn't bothered. I've played with married women in the past,some obviously cheating on their husbands others playing with permission. I guess there are as many reasons for peoples situations as there are people on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If never meet a guy who's in a relationship whether the partner knows or not.

I appreciate the guys who are honest enough to say they are in relationships as I can imagine a lot dont. That goes for women as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Really doesn’t matter. If it’s all consensual then that’s great. If no-one wants to tell their spouse, that’s their choice. There may be bad reasons why ppl don’t tell their spouses but there can be perfectly good ones too. I think too many people are ‘holier-than-thou’ about it. My wife and I realise we generally have much better sex with other ppl than with each other. She chooses guys she knows well off the internet, I choose that and this site. We are happily married and don’t want to ruin that by competing on the number of shags we get outside the marriage so we don’t tell each other. It makes sense to us and we’re comfortable with that. We don’t discuss our conquests to each other. I’ve a vague idea what she gets up to and I think she has a vague idea about me but we’re cool with that. Everyone’s different! It would be boring if we were all the same!

Go on, reply, I know some of you are shocked and outraged! lol! "

Are you saying it’s “holier than thou” to have a preference for single men, or are you referring to people who abuse others for their choice & make it their business?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Their is something real naughty about having sex with another man's wife it makes it exciting

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By *oeofsussexMan
over a year ago

Eastbourne


"Really doesn’t matter. If it’s all consensual then that’s great. If no-one wants to tell their spouse, that’s their choice. There may be bad reasons why ppl don’t tell their spouses but there can be perfectly good ones too. I think too many people are ‘holier-than-thou’ about it. My wife and I realise we generally have much better sex with other ppl than with each other. She chooses guys she knows well off the internet, I choose that and this site. We are happily married and don’t want to ruin that by competing on the number of shags we get outside the marriage so we don’t tell each other. It makes sense to us and we’re comfortable with that. We don’t discuss our conquests to each other. I’ve a vague idea what she gets up to and I think she has a vague idea about me but we’re cool with that. Everyone’s different! It would be boring if we were all the same!

Go on, reply, I know some of you are shocked and outraged! lol!

Are you saying it’s “holier than thou” to have a preference for single men, or are you referring to people who abuse others for their choice & make it their business?"

The latter - of course! People who just make a blanket judgement that playing outside marriage is like some kind of crime!

If some women just prefer single men cos it’s less complicated or for whatever reason, fine! But I’ve also met women who much prefer married men to singles!

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By *oeofsussexMan
over a year ago

Eastbourne


"Really doesn’t matter. If it’s all consensual then that’s great. If no-one wants to tell their spouse, that’s their choice. There may be bad reasons why ppl don’t tell their spouses but there can be perfectly good ones too. I think too many people are ‘holier-than-thou’ about it. My wife and I realise we generally have much better sex with other ppl than with each other. She chooses guys she knows well off the internet, I choose that and this site. We are happily married and don’t want to ruin that by competing on the number of shags we get outside the marriage so we don’t tell each other. It makes sense to us and we’re comfortable with that. We don’t discuss our conquests to each other. I’ve a vague idea what she gets up to and I think she has a vague idea about me but we’re cool with that. Everyone’s different! It would be boring if we were all the same!

Go on, reply, I know some of you are shocked and outraged! lol!

This is how my wife and I used to operate. Even now with my wife not really capable due to illness she encourages me still to carry on. Sometimes she'll ask, other times not. Sex is just sex as far as we're concerned. "

Exactly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A little different I know.

But my oh has been chatting to a woman. Find and dandy. My oh says to me if I am at work on this day do you mind if I invite her over. Now the oh has told her I know everything else. If you want to check that's fine. Her reply was no if your lying that's your shit to deal with. Which has pissed me off. As she is coming to my house. Really am pissed she would have the your shit is your problem attitude whilst being in my house.

Quietly boiling and reviewing my right to agree to them using my house. "

I wouldn't let them. It's disrespectful to go to your house when she doesn't care if you know/ approve or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just wonder what people think or do they not care as its a swingers site"

What do you think swingers are?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We don't meet anybody who has a partner unless that partner is present. We're not interested in why they want to meet alone but choose not to get involved (knowingly)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't do it..got fooled once..i was sooo angry..people choose to lie to partners..i don't..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My rule is not to meet people who are cheating. This is really all I can control. I don't moralise just exercise personal choice.

One of my best swinging friends is completely the opposite. She only meets married men and it suits her life. If the guy gets caught her attitude is "I didn't make him do it, his shit he can deal with it".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You never really know the truth about some of the men you meeting we always said we wouldn't be we probably have met married men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get off on meeting married women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Really doesn’t matter. If it’s all consensual then that’s great. If no-one wants to tell their spouse, that’s their choice. There may be bad reasons why ppl don’t tell their spouses but there can be perfectly good ones too. I think too many people are ‘holier-than-thou’ about it. My wife and I realise we generally have much better sex with other ppl than with each other. She chooses guys she knows well off the internet, I choose that and this site. We are happily married and don’t want to ruin that by competing on the number of shags we get outside the marriage so we don’t tell each other. It makes sense to us and we’re comfortable with that. We don’t discuss our conquests to each other. I’ve a vague idea what she gets up to and I think she has a vague idea about me but we’re cool with that. Everyone’s different! It would be boring if we were all the same!

Go on, reply, I know some of you are shocked and outraged! lol!

Are you saying it’s “holier than thou” to have a preference for single men, or are you referring to people who abuse others for their choice & make it their business?

The latter - of course! People who just make a blanket judgement that playing outside marriage is like some kind of crime!

If some women just prefer single men cos it’s less complicated or for whatever reason, fine! But I’ve also met women who much prefer married men to singles! "

Playing outside marriage in my opinion is very poor.

I can’t stand cheating, I don’t justify it for any reason.

I think it’s vile, I’ve been on the receiving end & I’ve seen how it has broken a couple of my friends.

If that makes me “holier than thou” for not wanting to meet someone who is happy to lie to the one person they’re supposed to love the most, that’s fine.

I won’t abuse anyone who cheats, or call them names, there is never any need for that. But I don’t agree with it at all, and I’ll say so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Really doesn’t matter. If it’s all consensual then that’s great. If no-one wants to tell their spouse, that’s their choice. There may be bad reasons why ppl don’t tell their spouses but there can be perfectly good ones too. I think too many people are ‘holier-than-thou’ about it. My wife and I realise we generally have much better sex with other ppl than with each other. She chooses guys she knows well off the internet, I choose that and this site. We are happily married and don’t want to ruin that by competing on the number of shags we get outside the marriage so we don’t tell each other. It makes sense to us and we’re comfortable with that. We don’t discuss our conquests to each other. I’ve a vague idea what she gets up to and I think she has a vague idea about me but we’re cool with that. Everyone’s different! It would be boring if we were all the same!

Go on, reply, I know some of you are shocked and outraged! lol! "

Nothing to get shocked or outraged over as you are saying it is a consensual arrangement agreed between you and your wife. Commonly referred to as an open marriage. When one person decides to change the rules of the relationship and wilfully hides the truth from their partner then it is a very different thing but this does not seem to apply to you.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"Just wonder what people think or do they not care as its a swingers site"
I care. I won't knowingly do so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m one of those said people in the OP.

I meet how I meet regardless if the person is attached or not. As long we’re on the same wavelength that way then all is good.

Anyone who messages me because they like the thrill of meeting someone attached is an instant turn off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We fine its ok. Love knowing another womans man wants me....

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I would rather not, too many restrictions.

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