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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A lot of the point of fab for me is that I can have adventurous, fairly promiscuous sex with people that I generally have some idea of their sexual history and proclivities. So for me, it’s absolutely NOT fucking ‘randoms’. How random are your fab encounters? If you don’t worry too much about people’s sexual history and preferences, why do you use Fab rather than say, Tinder?

Please try and keep it respectful of different choices.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never do random nor spontaneous meets. For me I have to get to know them first. Has to be a connection or I wouldn't bother

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Our fab encounters are pretty random. Although we like to meet socially and know about their sexual preferences we know very little of their sexual history.

When we were younger both of us would happily fuck "randoms" although we preferred (and still do) to call them people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't you find that years ago it was much safer to meet randomly or spontaneously tho....I find now that too many idiots have joined making people more warey

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Don't you find that years ago it was much safer to meet randomly or spontaneously tho....I find now that too many idiots have joined making people more warey "

I (female) wouldn't take the risks I used to, not because it was any safer before but because I actually realise just how daft some of the things i used to do were. Back in the late 70s and 80s we just used to meet people in bars and clubs though, the net didn't exist

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

We play randomly in a club, don’t see what the issue is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use fab for the forum's pics and potential clubs to go too. I actually don't meet anyone privately and have everyone blocked from messaging me.

When I am in clubs it's down to show I connect with, be it s single male or a couple. Yes I know I day I'm straight on my profile. But that's only because I currently prefer men over women.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don't you find that years ago it was much safer to meet randomly or spontaneously tho....I find now that too many idiots have joined making people more warey

I (female) wouldn't take the risks I used to, not because it was any safer before but because I actually realise just how daft some of the things i used to do were. Back in the late 70s and 80s we just used to meet people in bars and clubs though, the net didn't exist "

This is the thing. I used to travel extensively with work and I have only once ever in the whole of my life picked someone up in a bar. It wasn’t too long ago and I bottled it completely.

On here, because people come with some information about who they are and have some understanding of how the scene operates, I feel very differently about meeting for sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In truth I don’t really have sexual encounters on Fab, I’m simply not successful enough on here. 3 in 9 years is pretty shit by most people’s standards. But 1 out of the three was random.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"A lot of the point of fab for me is that I can have adventurous, fairly promiscuous sex with people that I generally have some idea of their sexual history and proclivities. So for me, it’s absolutely NOT fucking ‘randoms’. How random are your fab encounters? If you don’t worry too much about people’s sexual history and preferences, why do you use Fab rather than say, Tinder?

Please try and keep it respectful of different choices.

"

The main reason we didn’t use tinder or any other dating / hook up app is that as a couple there wasn’t an option for us to look for fun together on them .

Pretty much all of our meets were ‘random’ as you put it . We never wanted to know much about who we met . Infact towards the end of our playing days we had more fun when we just turned up at a vanilla club or busy bar and my wife would pull there . Just like it used to be before the internet . And just as it is for tens of thousands people every Friday and Saturday night .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A lot of the point of fab for me is that I can have adventurous, fairly promiscuous sex with people that I generally have some idea of their sexual history and proclivities. So for me, it’s absolutely NOT fucking ‘randoms’. How random are your fab encounters? If you don’t worry too much about people’s sexual history and preferences, why do you use Fab rather than say, Tinder?

Please try and keep it respectful of different choices.

The main reason we didn’t use tinder or any other dating / hook up app is that as a couple there wasn’t an option for us to look for fun together on them .

Pretty much all of our meets were ‘random’ as you put it . We never wanted to know much about who we met . Infact towards the end of our playing days we had more fun when we just turned up at a vanilla club or busy bar and my wife would pull there . Just like it used to be before the internet . And just as it is for tens of thousands people every Friday and Saturday night ."

And were those people at the bar as adventurous as you wanted generally?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And to be clear, as it seems the quote marks weren’t enough of a clue, ‘random’ isn’t a term I’d generally use to describe anyone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We play randomly in a club, don’t see what the issue is."

There is no issue to us making different choices.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"We play randomly in a club, don’t see what the issue is.

There is no issue to us making different choices."

Or looking for things you don’t cognitively equate to.

Have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is an interesting question and I think you will get many different responses.

Like you I have never picked anyone up in a bar beyond being flirty on the dance floor in my student days.

It is popular fantasy, and when I travel I do wonder if others think as I do.

Here at least you can connect a little. which goes a long way.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I have fucked a few "randoms" in the past and it's always turned out pretty well. I can understand why people do it, and I might again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We play randomly in a club, don’t see what the issue is.

There is no issue to us making different choices.

Or looking for things you don’t cognitively equate to.

Have fun."

I’m pretty sure neither of us want to ‘cognitively equate to’ the other, whatever that might mean. Hence there being no issue about people making different choices.

And I do have fun, thank you for your good wishes.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"We play randomly in a club, don’t see what the issue is.

There is no issue to us making different choices.

Or looking for things you don’t cognitively equate to.

Have fun.

I’m pretty sure neither of us want to ‘cognitively equate to’ the other, whatever that might mean. Hence there being no issue about people making different choices.

And I do have fun, thank you for your good wishes."

You are welcome (cognitively)

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"A lot of the point of fab for me is that I can have adventurous, fairly promiscuous sex with people that I generally have some idea of their sexual history and proclivities. So for me, it’s absolutely NOT fucking ‘randoms’. How random are your fab encounters? If you don’t worry too much about people’s sexual history and preferences, why do you use Fab rather than say, Tinder?

Please try and keep it respectful of different choices.

The main reason we didn’t use tinder or any other dating / hook up app is that as a couple there wasn’t an option for us to look for fun together on them .

Pretty much all of our meets were ‘random’ as you put it . We never wanted to know much about who we met . Infact towards the end of our playing days we had more fun when we just turned up at a vanilla club or busy bar and my wife would pull there . Just like it used to be before the internet . And just as it is for tens of thousands people every Friday and Saturday night ."

I think pre internet we simply didn't have the information about people that we do now so that meeting people you knew very little about and having sex with them was the only way to get casual sex. If what our kids say is anything to go by it does still happen.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I think the fastest I have ever met someone through the site (with one exception) is two months and after exchanging a lot of messages and establishing a connection and chemistry, partly that is down to needing that connection and chemistry before being ready to meet and part is down to circumstance.

The one exception to that was a couple I agreed to meet at a club a few weeks after we first started chatting and it so happened the specific club night we went to was happening so it made sense.

I have "met" and played with people a little more spontaneously in clubs but think the face to face element of getting to know people that allows makes it a little different.

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By *igboobstCouple
over a year ago

barrow

We like fucking randoms in clubs it would spoil the mood asking for a sexual CV

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

The main reason we didn’t use tinder or any other dating / hook up app is that as a couple there wasn’t an option for us to look for fun together on them .

Pretty much all of our meets were ‘random’ as you put it . We never wanted to know much about who we met . Infact towards the end of our playing days we had more fun when we just turned up at a vanilla club or busy bar and my wife would pull there . Just like it used to be before the internet . And just as it is for tens of thousands people every Friday and Saturday night .

I think pre internet we simply didn't have the information about people that we do now so that meeting people you knew very little about and having sex with them was the only way to get casual sex. If what our kids say is anything to go by it does still happen."

Of course it still happens and of course tens, probably hundreds, of thousands of people hook up in bars and clubs on a weekend. There seems to be an assumption that I’m arguing that this is bad. I’m simply stating it’s not for me. And if bars and clubs work for you, then why use Fab? Or does Fab actually offer something different? People with similar views on sex and sexuality, with an interest in adventurous, recreational sex... Can there be an expectation that a fab encounter might be better sex than a bar encounter?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"

The main reason we didn’t use tinder or any other dating / hook up app is that as a couple there wasn’t an option for us to look for fun together on them .

Pretty much all of our meets were ‘random’ as you put it . We never wanted to know much about who we met . Infact towards the end of our playing days we had more fun when we just turned up at a vanilla club or busy bar and my wife would pull there . Just like it used to be before the internet . And just as it is for tens of thousands people every Friday and Saturday night .

I think pre internet we simply didn't have the information about people that we do now so that meeting people you knew very little about and having sex with them was the only way to get casual sex. If what our kids say is anything to go by it does still happen.

Of course it still happens and of course tens, probably hundreds, of thousands of people hook up in bars and clubs on a weekend. There seems to be an assumption that I’m arguing that this is bad. I’m simply stating it’s not for me. And if bars and clubs work for you, then why use Fab? Or does Fab actually offer something different? People with similar views on sex and sexuality, with an interest in adventurous, recreational sex... Can there be an expectation that a fab encounter might be better sex than a bar encounter?"

Bars and clubs no longer work for me, I think I said further up that I would find it too risky certainly if I was a single woman.

I think fab offers the possibility of something different because you have the opportunity to find out about a person in a way you wouldn't in a club or bar. Whether the sex would be better is moot it depends on so many factors.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"

The main reason we didn’t use tinder or any other dating / hook up app is that as a couple there wasn’t an option for us to look for fun together on them .

Pretty much all of our meets were ‘random’ as you put it . We never wanted to know much about who we met . Infact towards the end of our playing days we had more fun when we just turned up at a vanilla club or busy bar and my wife would pull there . Just like it used to be before the internet . And just as it is for tens of thousands people every Friday and Saturday night .

I think pre internet we simply didn't have the information about people that we do now so that meeting people you knew very little about and having sex with them was the only way to get casual sex. If what our kids say is anything to go by it does still happen.

Of course it still happens and of course tens, probably hundreds, of thousands of people hook up in bars and clubs on a weekend. There seems to be an assumption that I’m arguing that this is bad. I’m simply stating it’s not for me. And if bars and clubs work for you, then why use Fab? Or does Fab actually offer something different? People with similar views on sex and sexuality, with an interest in adventurous, recreational sex... Can there be an expectation that a fab encounter might be better sex than a bar encounter?

Bars and clubs no longer work for me, I think I said further up that I would find it too risky certainly if I was a single woman.

I think fab offers the possibility of something different because you have the opportunity to find out about a person in a way you wouldn't in a club or bar. Whether the sex would be better is moot it depends on so many factors."

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the beginning my encounters were kind of random, likened to a kid in a sweet shop.

Currently, the complete opposite, which has been the case for a long time.

I invest a lot of time when I want to meet someone and so far that process hasn’t let me down..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never do random nor spontaneous meets. For me I have to get to know them first. Has to be a connection or I wouldn't bother "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

The main reason we didn’t use tinder or any other dating / hook up app is that as a couple there wasn’t an option for us to look for fun together on them .

Pretty much all of our meets were ‘random’ as you put it . We never wanted to know much about who we met . Infact towards the end of our playing days we had more fun when we just turned up at a vanilla club or busy bar and my wife would pull there . Just like it used to be before the internet . And just as it is for tens of thousands people every Friday and Saturday night .

I think pre internet we simply didn't have the information about people that we do now so that meeting people you knew very little about and having sex with them was the only way to get casual sex. If what our kids say is anything to go by it does still happen.

Of course it still happens and of course tens, probably hundreds, of thousands of people hook up in bars and clubs on a weekend. There seems to be an assumption that I’m arguing that this is bad. I’m simply stating it’s not for me. And if bars and clubs work for you, then why use Fab? Or does Fab actually offer something different? People with similar views on sex and sexuality, with an interest in adventurous, recreational sex... Can there be an expectation that a fab encounter might be better sex than a bar encounter?

Bars and clubs no longer work for me, I think I said further up that I would find it too risky certainly if I was a single woman.

I think fab offers the possibility of something different because you have the opportunity to find out about a person in a way you wouldn't in a club or bar. Whether the sex would be better is moot it depends on so many factors."

I certainly wouldn't pic a guy up at a vanilla club for sex.... someone I no nothing about or where he's been. Not for me.

As for fab that's the whole thing about veris. At least if someone did want to meet spontaneously they can read the profile and verifications, giving that extra bit of safety

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On my old profile i had a fair few 'random one offs' they were generally very disappointing.

Regular meets with the same person when theres a connection tends to be fantastic.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Fab hasn't worked for me for years! I haven't had sex in over two!

I can't do randoms, men can't keep up the façade that they are not just looking for fuck and go when they actually are.

I find just now it is full of liars and cheats or just looking for a free prostitute, that is what my messages consist of unfortunately.

So to keep my dignity, I'd rather just ignore all the arseholes as they all seem to ignore what I am looking for.

I stay for the forums and that is it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fab hasn't worked for me for years! I haven't had sex in over two!

I can't do randoms, men can't keep up the façade that they are not just looking for fuck and go when they actually are.

I find just now it is full of liars and cheats or just looking for a free prostitute, that is what my messages consist of unfortunately.

So to keep my dignity, I'd rather just ignore all the arseholes as they all seem to ignore what I am looking for.

I stay for the forums and that is it."

Sorry to hear that.... not good at all. The guy above your message does the same as me.I Stick to the people I've met over the years. I have a handful of guys on here that are also friends. So it's not just about regular sex but going out for a drink or just chatting on the phone.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Fab hasn't worked for me for years! I haven't had sex in over two!

I can't do randoms, men can't keep up the façade that they are not just looking for fuck and go when they actually are.

I find just now it is full of liars and cheats or just looking for a free prostitute, that is what my messages consist of unfortunately.

So to keep my dignity, I'd rather just ignore all the arseholes as they all seem to ignore what I am looking for.

I stay for the forums and that is it.

Sorry to hear that.... not good at all. The guy above your message does the same as me.I Stick to the people I've met over the years. I have a handful of guys on here that are also friends. So it's not just about regular sex but going out for a drink or just chatting on the phone. "

I have been here for 10+ years, the past five, in my area has been dire for me.

I used to arrange socials that the men would agree to, then the next day I would get messages that were along the line ' I shall just come round to yours then '

As soon as I say no, they then fuck off lol

Different areas show different character traits I find, unfortunately mine is one still in the dark ages!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fab hasn't worked for me for years! I haven't had sex in over two!

I can't do randoms, men can't keep up the façade that they are not just looking for fuck and go when they actually are.

I find just now it is full of liars and cheats or just looking for a free prostitute, that is what my messages consist of unfortunately.

So to keep my dignity, I'd rather just ignore all the arseholes as they all seem to ignore what I am looking for.

I stay for the forums and that is it.

Sorry to hear that.... not good at all. The guy above your message does the same as me.I Stick to the people I've met over the years. I have a handful of guys on here that are also friends. So it's not just about regular sex but going out for a drink or just chatting on the phone.

I have been here for 10+ years, the past five, in my area has been dire for me.

I used to arrange socials that the men would agree to, then the next day I would get messages that were along the line ' I shall just come round to yours then '

As soon as I say no, they then fuck off lol

Different areas show different character traits I find, unfortunately mine is one still in the dark ages! "

I've heard others say similar that different areas have different traits. Come and move to Birmingham lol x

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Fab hasn't worked for me for years! I haven't had sex in over two!

I can't do randoms, men can't keep up the façade that they are not just looking for fuck and go when they actually are.

I find just now it is full of liars and cheats or just looking for a free prostitute, that is what my messages consist of unfortunately.

So to keep my dignity, I'd rather just ignore all the arseholes as they all seem to ignore what I am looking for.

I stay for the forums and that is it.

Sorry to hear that.... not good at all. The guy above your message does the same as me.I Stick to the people I've met over the years. I have a handful of guys on here that are also friends. So it's not just about regular sex but going out for a drink or just chatting on the phone.

I have been here for 10+ years, the past five, in my area has been dire for me.

I used to arrange socials that the men would agree to, then the next day I would get messages that were along the line ' I shall just come round to yours then '

As soon as I say no, they then fuck off lol

Different areas show different character traits I find, unfortunately mine is one still in the dark ages!

I've heard others say similar that different areas have different traits. Come and move to Birmingham lol x"

If I ever win the lottery, I will be looking into moving lol x

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"A lot of the point of fab for me is that I can have adventurous, fairly promiscuous sex with people that I generally have some idea of their sexual history and proclivities. So for me, it’s absolutely NOT fucking ‘randoms’. How random are your fab encounters? If you don’t worry too much about people’s sexual history and preferences, why do you use Fab rather than say, Tinder?

Please try and keep it respectful of different choices.

The main reason we didn’t use tinder or any other dating / hook up app is that as a couple there wasn’t an option for us to look for fun together on them .

Pretty much all of our meets were ‘random’ as you put it . We never wanted to know much about who we met . Infact towards the end of our playing days we had more fun when we just turned up at a vanilla club or busy bar and my wife would pull there . Just like it used to be before the internet . And just as it is for tens of thousands people every Friday and Saturday night .

And were those people at the bar as adventurous as you wanted generally? "

Sorry , haven’t been on here till now .

Not always they weren’t , but on occasion they were . It depended on how adventurous the guys or women were who copped off with my wife . Sometimes they would find as quiet spot and it was really horny . If they had a hotel we would all go back and it would be perfect .

But on other occasions it would be awkward when my wife said that her husband was about watching etc... half the people would get put off by that .

But it was the not knowing how it would pan out that made it exciting .

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I like the swinging scene, been on it for many years and the mix of people meets my needs. I didn't put all my eggs in one basket, to sustain variety. I also have fb's that go on for years. Fab has a great environment and group of people including social aspects that don't exist on simple hook up sites. No need to knock what works.

I didn't typically do random, usually gaining good connections and understanding of partners.

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By *oeofsussexMan
over a year ago

Eastbourne

Random is never entirely random! But getting on with a woman in real life that leads to great sex, after 2 years or just 2 minutes, is always going to be fun. It’s the quality of the partner and the sex, not the amount of their backstory you know that’s important! I can screw a friend of 12 years or screw a girl in a bar who I’ve only just met. They can both be amazingly sexy and mind-blowing and balls-bustingly erotic encounters!

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By *uralRobMan
over a year ago

Ludlow

Being random and spontaneous is all part of the fun. Not looking for dating. Live a little , risky , push boundaries no harm done provided you feel comfortable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The other day after chatting in a forum with another fabber, we quickly exchanged hot messages and hours later this stunning lady was watching me masturbating over her on kik.

We’ve arranged to meet now, I know nothing of her previous, nor do I intend to. I’m damn excited about meeting her and we chat regularly.

I find this incredibly hot and sexy, you may see it as meeting a random.

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By *rkeb3Man
over a year ago

east Lancashire road


"I use fab for the forum's pics and potential clubs to go too. I actually don't meet anyone privately and have everyone blocked from messaging me.

When I am in clubs it's down to show I connect with, be it s single male or a couple. Yes I know I day I'm straight on my profile. But that's only because I currently prefer men over women.

"
so cose u don't play private makes u safe and how can u tell someone is safe just by talking to them in a club ?

This is absolutely shocking

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By *reenEyesScotlandWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I'll fuck randoms in a club, a lot of the time there me and my husband (and the guys/girls I guess) are just looking for some fun nsa sex. We do meet people there who become more than randoms. If we're meeting though I put in a lot more effort to get to know someone, if it's coming to the point of an extended meet there needs to be a real connection for me. Randoms can be fun though!

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I have met guys after not much chat, just enough to get a feel for them. I've met others that I have spoken to over time. I think sometimes you can talk too much and less said can be more. I'm not looking for anything more than a great time so as long as it's safe I'm good with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love the excitement of randoms.hard to plan to far in advance for us with family and work.only the other week we was in the pub and some guy kept looking at R’s big boobs so I said to her if u wanna fuck him go and tell him.that she did.we ended up back at his place.turns us both on a lot.we get a proper buzz from it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I like randoms. I rarely have interest in knowing much about people I meet for sex. Other than easy banter I really give zero fucks about peoples sex experience. What football they like or how annoying half term is for them etc

For me this site is purely casual random sex. Rarely I will meet people again anyway . Not here to make friends I am here just to have nsa sex from time to time .

May sound blunt but it’s to point .

Everyone uses it differently and to the best that suits them . Some want to try be friends know xyz etc all good to stick in your comfort zones.

Though let’s not forget this isn’t a match dating site it’s built around sex as the underlying focus

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By *eading28Man
over a year ago

Reading


"We love the excitement of randoms.hard to plan to far in advance for us with family and work.only the other week we was in the pub and some guy kept looking at R’s big boobs so I said to her if u wanna fuck him go and tell him.that she did.we ended up back at his place.turns us both on a lot.we get a proper buzz from it."

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