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"Why do people act so surprised when they are inundated with messages? It comes with the territory lol Just accept it !!" Or block the lot so you don't get any messages at all. So peaceful. So lovely | |||
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"Why do people act so surprised when they are inundated with messages? It comes with the territory lol Just accept it !!" I dont think women are aware when they initially join fab, that it's like that though. It can be a surprise. | |||
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"... Because I know I'm not all that, and why on earth am I that interesting to people? I've accepted it, but it was an enormous shock. " I’m actually pretty flabbergasted why you think that as there must be a certain level of confidence just to join the site ? | |||
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"Why do people act so surprised when they are inundated with messages? It comes with the territory lol Just accept it !! I dont think women are aware when they initially join fab, that it's like that though. It can be a surprise. " At least I can say I am always learning did not realise that | |||
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"Why do people act so surprised when they are inundated with messages? It comes with the territory lol Just accept it !! I dont think women are aware when they initially join fab, that it's like that though. It can be a surprise. " This. I wasn’t prepared for it when I joined, it was a shock, I hid my profile as soon as I knew how to. | |||
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"... Because I know I'm not all that, and why on earth am I that interesting to people? I've accepted it, but it was an enormous shock. I’m actually pretty flabbergasted why you think that as there must be a certain level of confidence just to join the site ?" Ha. No. I came in fairly blind. Had no idea the amount of attention I'd get. I didn't know I'd get any, just was going to give it a go. Even now, it's like yeah, I've had about 18 months of this, and it still blows my mind. I'm not all that. | |||
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"Playmates say they get an avalanche of messages if they post a new photo or a status update as a single woman or even if they go online. It must be off putting for anyone joining especially when the quality of most messages is poor. " Ugh, yes. I'm watched, sometimes hounded, for my every move. | |||
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"You can use filters to stop this,I do on my single profile Miss" I use filters to the extent that works for me. | |||
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"They do??, Fuck. I'm obviously doing something really wrong or I accidentally selected that I was a man, because I've never been inundated ![]() Suspect some people actually read your profile lol | |||
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"There are lots of guys who just blast messages to everyone, its not flattering at all, just casting their net wide hoping for a bite. Its surprising only for a short while until you read the messages and realise that 90% of them are the usual: Hi, how are you? You're not too far away? I'd lick that pussy for hours. And the hundreds of other thoughtless messages xx" Do they actually say that?? | |||
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"They do??, Fuck. I'm obviously doing something really wrong or I accidentally selected that I was a man, because I've never been inundated ![]() Perhaps saying you only accept messages of hot, black people reduces the amount? | |||
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"They do??, Fuck. I'm obviously doing something really wrong or I accidentally selected that I was a man, because I've never been inundated ![]() Are you suggesting that people do read profiles after all? You know that goes against the general consensus don't you? ![]() ![]() | |||
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"That’s what happens when the site is approximately 90% populated with men. " I personally don’t think it is, just an urban myth. You go to a clubs the balance isn’t that bad. However the site might have 90% of players. Just an observation. | |||
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"I think it is a surprise for newbie ladies, they get 100's, absolutely innundated. Tho I think the surprise is more the desparation of some men. Even ladies with no pics get innundated. As someone how has rejoined a few times you see the pattern. Always the same faces cropping up. It really is sad that these men act like vultures on newbies. If they backed off maybe more ladies would stay. " Totally agree, two of my friends were literally driven off the site before they had a chance to set filters and put pics on. It was like a feeding frenzy with men and couples as the sharks. I've experienced the same on rejoining. | |||
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"Anyone ever get; You're soooo beautiful.... You really turn me on... I love your boobs... etc, etc, etc Then when you repeatedly turn them down, You fat old slag....!!!!" Frequently lol. Followed by, I didn't want to meet you anyway or I can have my Puck of hot women. (then why message me in the first place then lol?!) | |||
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"That’s what happens when the site is approximately 90% populated with men. I personally don’t think it is, just an urban myth. You go to a clubs the balance isn’t that bad. However the site might have 90% of players. Just an observation." Could that be because the gender balance within clubs is more actively managed? | |||
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"Anyone ever get; You're soooo beautiful.... You really turn me on... I love your boobs... etc, etc, etc Then when you repeatedly turn them down, You fat old slag....!!!!" What the heck !!!! Sounds awful Politeness has been lost on them | |||
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"There are lots of guys who just blast messages to everyone, its not flattering at all, just casting their net wide hoping for a bite. Its surprising only for a short while until you read the messages and realise that 90% of them are the usual: Hi, how are you? You're not too far away? I'd lick that pussy for hours. And the hundreds of other thoughtless messages xx Do they actually say that??" Find a female friend who will show you the rubbish that gets sent to her in box in one 24 hr period. It will be a real eye opener. You may also then have a better understanding of the low level irritation demonstrated by a lot of women on the site. | |||
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"Why do people act so surprised when they are inundated with messages? It comes with the territory lol Just accept it !! I dont think women are aware when they initially join fab, that it's like that though. It can be a surprise. This. I wasn’t prepared for it when I joined, it was a shock, I hid my profile as soon as I knew how to. " Years ago I'd repeatedly asked Admin to put a block of messaging to ladies joining for at least 72 hrs, to allow them to adjust. All my meets kept saying exactly what you have said. Ironically it was ladies more than men that didn't like the idea each time I suggested it in suggestions, usually the same ones too. I've often come to the conclusion women are their own worst enemies when it comes to messages. | |||
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"Why do people act so surprised when they are inundated with messages? It comes with the territory lol Just accept it !!" Possibly because they find it hard to believe that so many men are that desperate OP? | |||
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"That’s what happens when the site is approximately 90% populated with men. " It's stats like that which don't help the uneducated either. Simply not true, yes there are more guys but no where near that %. Maybe 50/60 % more. Remember also far more men leave fab than ladies so there is a better recycling for them. | |||
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"And that’s before you even get to the ‘can I suck your tampon/breed you/paint you like an avocado/stick a glass paperweight up your hoohah’ nonsense, which is frankly, light relief." This made me giggle. My top messages recently have been.... Would you fart in my mouth? Would you have a poo in work? Can I send a video of me pushing a toilet brush in my arse? How much? You're fucking ugly anyway Charmers ![]() | |||
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"And that’s before you even get to the ‘can I suck your tampon/breed you/paint you like an avocado/stick a glass paperweight up your hoohah’ nonsense, which is frankly, light relief. This made me giggle. My top messages recently have been.... Would you fart in my mouth? Would you have a poo in work? Can I send a video of me pushing a toilet brush in my arse? How much? You're fucking ugly anyway Charmers ![]() Smooth ![]() | |||
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"And that’s before you even get to the ‘can I suck your tampon/breed you/paint you like an avocado/stick a glass paperweight up your hoohah’ nonsense, which is frankly, light relief." ![]() | |||
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"That’s what happens when the site is approximately 90% populated with men. It's stats like that which don't help the uneducated either. Simply not true, yes there are more guys but no where near that %. Maybe 50/60 % more. Remember also far more men leave fab than ladies so there is a better recycling for them." Nah disagree. I’m hardly uneducated to make that claim. I’ve used that figure from a cumulation of ladies post stating and I quote ‘I’ve had 3000 profile views and 300 messages in a day’. Now I’ve no reason to doubt those figures it would seem reasonable to hypothesis that the population within this group his heavily biased towards men. I agree with Tigerli1y that clubs are monitored so there’s an even spread ensuring the evenings experience is varied and caters for all. This could well give the appearance to the uninitiated that there’s an even spread. | |||
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"Why do people act so surprised when they are inundated with messages? It comes with the territory lol Just accept it !! I dont think women are aware when they initially join fab, that it's like that though. It can be a surprise. This. I wasn’t prepared for it when I joined, it was a shock, I hid my profile as soon as I knew how to. Years ago I'd repeatedly asked Admin to put a block of messaging to ladies joining for at least 72 hrs, to allow them to adjust. All my meets kept saying exactly what you have said. Ironically it was ladies more than men that didn't like the idea each time I suggested it in suggestions, usually the same ones too. I've often come to the conclusion women are their own worst enemies when it comes to messages." ![]() | |||
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"And that’s before you even get to the ‘can I suck your tampon/breed you/paint you like an avocado/stick a glass paperweight up your hoohah’ nonsense, which is frankly, light relief. This made me giggle. My top messages recently have been.... Would you fart in my mouth? Would you have a poo in work? Can I send a video of me pushing a toilet brush in my arse? How much? You're fucking ugly anyway Charmers ![]() You’re getting the cream of the crop! ( ![]() | |||
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"That’s what happens when the site is approximately 90% populated with men. It's stats like that which don't help the uneducated either. Simply not true, yes there are more guys but no where near that %. Maybe 50/60 % more. Remember also far more men leave fab than ladies so there is a better recycling for them. Nah disagree. I’m hardly uneducated to make that claim. I’ve used that figure from a cumulation of ladies post stating and I quote ‘I’ve had 3000 profile views and 300 messages in a day’. Now I’ve no reason to doubt those figures it would seem reasonable to hypothesis that the population within this group his heavily biased towards men. I agree with Tigerli1y that clubs are monitored so there’s an even spread ensuring the evenings experience is varied and caters for all. This could well give the appearance to the uninitiated that there’s an even spread. " Just did a search for men aged 39 to 41 within 5 miles of me, with public photos. 296 results. The same search for women seeking men yielded 28 results. | |||
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"And that’s before you even get to the ‘can I suck your tampon/breed you/paint you like an avocado/stick a glass paperweight up your hoohah’ nonsense, which is frankly, light relief. ![]() Christ alive! Those are some epic messages. I'm living in the wrong place! ![]() | |||
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"That’s what happens when the site is approximately 90% populated with men. It's stats like that which don't help the uneducated either. Simply not true, yes there are more guys but no where near that %. Maybe 50/60 % more. Remember also far more men leave fab than ladies so there is a better recycling for them. Nah disagree. I’m hardly uneducated to make that claim. I’ve used that figure from a cumulation of ladies post stating and I quote ‘I’ve had 3000 profile views and 300 messages in a day’. Now I’ve no reason to doubt those figures it would seem reasonable to hypothesis that the population within this group his heavily biased towards men. I agree with Tigerli1y that clubs are monitored so there’s an even spread ensuring the evenings experience is varied and caters for all. This could well give the appearance to the uninitiated that there’s an even spread. Just did a search for men aged 39 to 41 within 5 miles of me, with public photos. 296 results. The same search for women seeking men yielded 28 results." So that’s 90.6% men and 9.4% women. I think that’s pretty much proven our case ![]() | |||
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"And that’s before you even get to the ‘can I suck your tampon/breed you/paint you like an avocado/stick a glass paperweight up your hoohah’ nonsense, which is frankly, light relief. ![]() ![]() Did you not read PinupPro’s selection? | |||
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"Though i have had the breeding one. I'm currently on my fifth child ![]() ![]() I said I would go for it. He was very pleased, but disappeared when I wanted detail about the funding for private school and university. | |||
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"That’s what happens when the site is approximately 90% populated with men. It's stats like that which don't help the uneducated either. Simply not true, yes there are more guys but no where near that %. Maybe 50/60 % more. Remember also far more men leave fab than ladies so there is a better recycling for them. Nah disagree. I’m hardly uneducated to make that claim. I’ve used that figure from a cumulation of ladies post stating and I quote ‘I’ve had 3000 profile views and 300 messages in a day’. Now I’ve no reason to doubt those figures it would seem reasonable to hypothesis that the population within this group his heavily biased towards men. I agree with Tigerli1y that clubs are monitored so there’s an even spread ensuring the evenings experience is varied and caters for all. This could well give the appearance to the uninitiated that there’s an even spread. Just did a search for men aged 39 to 41 within 5 miles of me, with public photos. 296 results. The same search for women seeking men yielded 28 results. So that’s 90.6% men and 9.4% women. I think that’s pretty much proven our case ![]() It might vary with other age groups but I think it’s pretty indicative. (Totally not going to spend the evening searching by age range and plotting it in Excel.,) ![]() | |||
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"And that’s before you even get to the ‘can I suck your tampon/breed you/paint you like an avocado/stick a glass paperweight up your hoohah’ nonsense, which is frankly, light relief. ![]() ![]() I just did. Where do these people come from? ![]() | |||
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"Though i have had the breeding one. I'm currently on my fifth child ![]() ![]() Some are such cheapskates on here..... | |||
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"Though i have had the breeding one. I'm currently on my fifth child ![]() ![]() Ooh. I had one who wanted sole custody. I'm not a fucking brood mare... | |||
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"That’s what happens when the site is approximately 90% populated with men. It's stats like that which don't help the uneducated either. Simply not true, yes there are more guys but no where near that %. Maybe 50/60 % more. Remember also far more men leave fab than ladies so there is a better recycling for them." Nope, guys outnumber women by about 9 or 10 to 1. So a test found out when searching the number of guys nearby compared to ladies at many different points across the UK, in fact the ratio was about 12 to 1, but the number of couples brought the average down to about 9. But once you knock off the fake profiles which are mainly female ones, then a figure of around 10 to 1 would be reached. B | |||
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"Though i have had the breeding one. I'm currently on my fifth child ![]() ![]() Hahaha! Really? He just wanted your genes.. | |||
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"Though i have had the breeding one. I'm currently on my fifth child ![]() ![]() God he can have them. They're shit. | |||
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"And that’s before you even get to the ‘can I suck your tampon/breed you/paint you like an avocado/stick a glass paperweight up your hoohah’ nonsense, which is frankly, light relief. This made me giggle. My top messages recently have been.... Would you fart in my mouth? Would you have a poo in work? Can I send a video of me pushing a toilet brush in my arse? How much? You're fucking ugly anyway Charmers ![]() What the f@@k !!! | |||
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"And that’s before you even get to the ‘can I suck your tampon/breed you/paint you like an avocado/stick a glass paperweight up your hoohah’ nonsense, which is frankly, light relief. This made me giggle. My top messages recently have been.... Would you fart in my mouth? Would you have a poo in work? Can I send a video of me pushing a toilet brush in my arse? How much? You're fucking ugly anyway Charmers ![]() I've seen things you people wouldn't believe... | |||
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"And that’s before you even get to the ‘can I suck your tampon/breed you/paint you like an avocado/stick a glass paperweight up your hoohah’ nonsense, which is frankly, light relief. This made me giggle. My top messages recently have been.... Would you fart in my mouth? Would you have a poo in work? Can I send a video of me pushing a toilet brush in my arse? How much? You're fucking ugly anyway Charmers ![]() Spill the beans you’ve perked my interest lol | |||
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"And that’s before you even get to the ‘can I suck your tampon/breed you/paint you like an avocado/stick a glass paperweight up your hoohah’ nonsense, which is frankly, light relief. This made me giggle. My top messages recently have been.... Would you fart in my mouth? Would you have a poo in work? Can I send a video of me pushing a toilet brush in my arse? How much? You're fucking ugly anyway Charmers ![]() It's a quote from a movie. | |||
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"And that’s before you even get to the ‘can I suck your tampon/breed you/paint you like an avocado/stick a glass paperweight up your hoohah’ nonsense, which is frankly, light relief. This made me giggle. My top messages recently have been.... Would you fart in my mouth? Would you have a poo in work? Can I send a video of me pushing a toilet brush in my arse? How much? You're fucking ugly anyway Charmers ![]() Ive had mr 'would u poo at work' message me on a number of occasions. Not sure if i look if im a poo at work kinda gal lol | |||
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"It can be majorly surprising when you have a blank profile and no pics to start with, that you still get hundreds of messages from men keen to meet, just goes to show alot arent fussy as long as they get their dick wet. That was a major learning curve." Or they're hoping you don't have a public photo but will send one if they getg a response? | |||
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"It can be majorly surprising when you have a blank profile and no pics to start with, that you still get hundreds of messages from men keen to meet, just goes to show alot arent fussy as long as they get their dick wet. That was a major learning curve. Or they're hoping you don't have a public photo but will send one if they getg a response? " It’s far more likely that they’re a bit desperate and aren’t at all fussy on the woman behind the blank profile. | |||
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"It can be majorly surprising when you have a blank profile and no pics to start with, that you still get hundreds of messages from men keen to meet, just goes to show alot arent fussy as long as they get their dick wet. That was a major learning curve. Or they're hoping you don't have a public photo but will send one if they getg a response? It’s far more likely that they’re a bit desperate and aren’t at all fussy on the woman behind the blank profile. " Even when we had single guys unblocked, we still only got about 10 messages a week ![]() | |||
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"And that’s before you even get to the ‘can I suck your tampon/breed you/paint you like an avocado/stick a glass paperweight up your hoohah’ nonsense, which is frankly, light relief. This made me giggle. My top messages recently have been.... Would you fart in my mouth? Would you have a poo in work? Can I send a video of me pushing a toilet brush in my arse? How much? You're fucking ugly anyway Charmers ![]() It pops up on a regular basis (same guy). Perhaps he's a researcher for Family Fortunes? | |||
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"And that’s before you even get to the ‘can I suck your tampon/breed you/paint you like an avocado/stick a glass paperweight up your hoohah’ nonsense, which is frankly, light relief. This made me giggle. My top messages recently have been.... Would you fart in my mouth? Would you have a poo in work? Can I send a video of me pushing a toilet brush in my arse? How much? You're fucking ugly anyway Charmers ![]() Our survey says uh-uhhh ![]() | |||
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