FabSwingers.com forum: dilemma

By *WO OR THREE OP Couple (MM)
over a year ago

derby

we have been seeing a cpl regular , then out of the blue a singlemale contacted us wanting to meet us for fun with him and his fuckbuddy ,,,after he sent her details ,,,not his mobile address,,,we found it was our friends wife,,,have spoke to her and told her about the info he is sending out ...now this is the DILEMMA she still wants to meet as though nothing has happened but we like her hubby because we are friends ...what would you do ,,,we have said no...are we wrong ???

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By *s1984foruCouple
over a year ago

derby

we have had the same situation ,,,maybe the same cpl xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Situations like this all come down to you and your conscience.

No one can tell you what you should do for the best, the bottom line is......will you kick yourself if you don't or regret it if you do.

XXXX

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By *ibrosMan
over a year ago

harrow

If your friend, the hubby, is unaware that his wife is meeting others,you would be best served steering clear.

If he was to find out, could you stand that information spilling out to your family and friends? Seems to me that is the consideration.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"we have been seeing a cpl regular , then out of the blue a singlemale contacted us wanting to meet us for fun with him and his fuckbuddy ,,,after he sent her details ,,,not his mobile address,,,we found it was our friends wife,,,have spoke to her and told her about the info he is sending out ...now this is the DILEMMA she still wants to meet as though nothing has happened but we like her hubby because we are friends ...what would you do ,,,we have said no...are we wrong ???"

wrong is a moral thing...would we fuck around with the wife of someone we liked behind his back...no, but you clearly dont feel the same as you have to ask...if you feel its ok, no one on here is going to change your mind...

Be very aware though that this kind of situation never stays secret for long,and when the shit hits the fan hubby will know you are swingers...and be in a position to tell the world, if that doesnt make u reconsider...then hey, go for it

The only scenario in which this can work is if, and its a big with she plays separate with hubbys full knowledge and permission.

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By *ouplefunukCouple
over a year ago

North Bristol

I think the hubby knows they are swingers as he has been meeting the op for sex already with his wife, but it appears his wife is also swinging on the side with another guy. That's how I interpreted it anyway.....

I would say if you're asking, you're probably going to do it anyway OP. It's a tough call but one only you can make....

*Her*

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"I think the hubby knows they are swingers as he has been meeting the op for sex already with his wife, but it appears his wife is also swinging on the side with another guy. That's how I interpreted it anyway.....

I would say if you're asking, you're probably going to do it anyway OP. It's a tough call but one only you can make....

*Her*"

Yeah, if he finds out they are meeting on the side i cant imagine him staying quiet, and as the wronged party he can shout to the roof tops

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Situations like this all come down to you and your conscience.

No one can tell you what you should do for the best, the bottom line is......will you kick yourself if you don't or regret it if you do.

XXXX"

My view too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on whether the hubby knows about the wife playing with a fb and whether he is ok with it. If a situation makes you uncomfortable then go with your gut instinct. From a post above, it sounds like it's a common occurence if it is the same couple. Hope it works out whatever you decide to do.

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

So, lemme check I've got this correct - the female half of a couple you've been seeing is also playing with her fuck buddy, right? And her fuck buddy contacted you, which is how you became aware of it, right? And you've spoken to her to make her aware that this happened, right? And she's okay with it and still wants to play with you and her partner (not her fuck buddy) as if nothing's happened, right?

Now, if this wasn't a couple you played with and was just a vanilla couple you were friendly with then I'd say the chances are that the husband is unaware of what's happening. However, if they - as a couple - already swing, then it's quite possible he's aware she has a fuck buddy. After all, he's got no problems with her playing as part of their couple, so it's feasible he doesn't have any issues with her playing with others too.

To me, it would all depend upon whether the woman's partner was aware of this situation or not. When you spoke to her, did you ask if he knew about it? If so, what was her response? If she said he was aware then you could always verify this by implying that you'd mentioned it to him already and look to see what her reaction is. If she's telling the truth then she won't mind... but if she gets upset by that, then you know she wasn't being truthful.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"So, lemme check I've got this correct - the female half of a couple you've been seeing is also playing with her fuck buddy, right? And her fuck buddy contacted you, which is how you became aware of it, right? And you've spoken to her to make her aware that this happened, right? And she's okay with it and still wants to play with you and her partner (not her fuck buddy) as if nothing's happened, right?

No need to be all miss marple about it, simply say you need to check with the hubby that he is ok with it. i always tell bifems or couples i am meeting alone that they are free to chat to kev

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Is a shag really worth all this hassle?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is a shag really worth all this hassle?"

That's my thoughts. Ignoring the morals, assuming hubbie doesn't know it just seems to be invititing a whole load of potential hassle - so why bother?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'd got an fb that Mr didn't know anything about, the last thing I'd be doing is meeting couples with him that I'd met with Mr! like someone said above, check whether the hubby knows and is ok about it but if it makes you uneasy then avoid. Ms

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

Your profile suggests that you have a male friend that can also play and team up with you both and in your meets.

Maybe they have a similiar set up ?

Up the Forest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was us?

Ask the wife if the hubby's no's what she is doing.

If she says no. Well stay out the way, there's plenty more people who would meet on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op, are you struggling for meets? It's only a dilemma if you make it one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems an awful lot of fuss when all you have to do is ask her the question.

non?

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I can only say what I would do.... and I would bin them off.

I may still like the hubby but my opinion of the wife would have fallen through the floor..... I am assuming here she has confirmed her hubby doesn't know and you have been asked to keep it quiet.

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By *reyyaMan
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

"I can only say what I would do.... and I would bin them off.

I may still like the hubby but my opinion of the wife would have fallen through the floor..... I am assuming here she has confirmed her hubby doesn't know and you have been asked to keep it quiet.

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'The Original Polo' has provided the answer to the question in a nutshell...

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

"Is a shag really worth all this hassle?"

This is what I was thinking and it would be no it is'nt

I like things simple and uncomplicated........like me

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"Is a shag really worth all this hassle?

This is what I was thinking and it would be no it is'nt

I like things simple and uncomplicated........like me

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