FabSwingers.com forum: Why the milf fixation?

By *empsey and hotpiece OP Man
over a year ago

North west

Just wondering why so many younger men are so turned on by women who would be classed as milfs ?

Is it something to do with readily available porn nowadays?

Kim went out with her friends last night and was constantly hit on by young guys, wanting to buy her drinks, telling her how hot she is ( she did look stunning).

I can’t remember being turned on by older women when I was young, or any other guys I knew being that interested either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering why so many younger men are so turned on by women who would be classed as milfs ?

Is it something to do with readily available porn nowadays?

Kim went out with her friends last night and was constantly hit on by young guys, wanting to buy her drinks, telling her how hot she is ( she did look stunning).

I can’t remember being turned on by older women when I was young, or any other guys I knew being that interested either.

If i get messages calling me a milf I delete

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By *empsey and hotpiece OP Man
over a year ago

North west

If i get messages calling me a milf I delete"

Why? It’s not a derogatory term

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would delete too

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By *anTouchThisCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Did you really not have any reaction to Glynis Barber as a young man given your username?

The Graduate suggests this isn't a new phenomenon.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

If she looks stunning men will be attracted to her. That coupled with perceived experience will bring them running.

When I was a younger women, those in their 40s and 50s mostly looked "old" and certainly didn't look sexy, my mum looked bloomin ancient. Many women nowadays don't think that 40 is the cut off point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure, I've always been quite fixated on mature women, I think I find the experience a big turn on, I know women in their 20's & 30's can be well equipped but women in their 40's/50's have been having sex for possibly 20-30 years and that's hot to me.

Also I've worked with the general public since I was a young teen, I find I get on/click easier with older women than girls my own age.

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By *ocodoughnutgirlWoman
over a year ago

Sea of jelly and doughnuts

My mum looks very young for her age and when I was a teenager, young guys would always be hitting on my mum.....

A guy once told me, knowing a women is fertile (not in he wanted to impregnate her) and had kids was a turn... Tapped into his base instinct of carrying on his genes.... Or something like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't call the woman MILF (When I was younger, it now sounds odd from a man my age). My fixation came from an over friendly art teacher who used to put her hand on my inside thigh, when leaning over to look at my work. She would send me into a abnormal heart rhythm. Obsessed with it ever since. Love older glamorous slim ladies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i get messages calling me a milf I delete

Why? It’s not a derogatory term"

As im not a milf.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get much more attention from younger guys than I do guys my own age.

Tbh I seem to relate to them better, guys my age seem old before their time.

Younger guys know how to have fun.

I'm 44 and always being told I don't look 44, or act/dress like a 44 year old.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering why so many younger men are so turned on by women who would be classed as milfs ?

Is it something to do with readily available porn nowadays?

Kim went out with her friends last night and was constantly hit on by young guys, wanting to buy her drinks, telling her how hot she is ( she did look stunning).

I can’t remember being turned on by older women when I was young, or any other guys I knew being that interested either.

I’d take it as a compliment and who doesn’t want drinks bought for them

I think it’s the experience younger guys are attracted to

What’s not to love about being a MIlF?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As an, ahem, older woman, and dare I say, milf, the day younger guys started hitting on me was a revelation. Had the best sex of my life with a young guy off fab, intend to keep repeating as long as possible x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you blame any guy ? Young old or even on his death bed ? She’s the definition on a milf !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t get it either. When I first joined and kept getting messages from men in their 20s I thought it was a wind up! Couldn’t go there though as I’ve got children that age.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Just wondering why so many younger men are so turned on by women who would be classed as milfs ?

Is it something to do with readily available porn nowadays?

Kim went out with her friends last night and was constantly hit on by young guys, wanting to buy her drinks, telling her how hot she is ( she did look stunning).

I can’t remember being turned on by older women when I was young, or any other guys I knew being that interested either.

Might go back to us fancying mates mums when we were discovering girls and women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not sure, I've always been quite fixated on mature women, I think I find the experience a big turn on, I know women in their 20's & 30's can be well equipped but women in their 40's/50's have been having sex for possibly 20-30 years and that's hot to me.

Also I've worked with the general public since I was a young teen, I find I get on/click easier with older women than girls my own age.

This post has already made most of the points of why I'd say younger men can find older women attractive, rather than for more pornographic reasons. I know this is subjective to all and is only based on opinion.

I have seen that attraction though can have a lot to do on cultural influences, with a lot of attitudes changing around sex and people being more liberal I think it has opened doors for acceptance or even subconsciously persuading younger men to pursue older women.

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By *halMan
over a year ago

North West

Sexiness has no age limit......x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The younger man/older woman dynamic has always been a "thing," way before pornography got its grubby mitts on it with all its dehumanising terminology

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

If i get messages calling me a milf I delete

Why? It’s not a derogatory term"

It is, it’s a way of degrading women down to an object for use. If a woman wishes to identify herself as such, fine but it’s a derogatory term used my men to objectify us.

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By *halMan
over a year ago

North West

"The younger man/older woman dynamic has always been a "thing," way before pornography got its grubby mitts on it with all its dehumanising terminology"

I concur 100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always had a thing for mature women , even before porn was readily available . Porn is for wankers , does nothing for me . A sexy mature woman on the other hand,always gets me hot under the collar ,

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By *abrielle247Couple (FF)
over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria

I have received a fair amount of messages that refer to me as a milf and also out at bars, very odd but take it as a compliment.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"My mum looks very young for her age and when I was a teenager, young guys would always be hitting on my mum.....

A guy once told me, knowing a women is fertile (not in he wanted to impregnate her) and had kids was a turn... Tapped into his base instinct of carrying on his genes.... Or something like that. "

I think this is it in a nutshell; the primal instinct to procreate. Knowing a woman CAN reproduce ie, IS a mother, will attract a male of any age. I know when my wife and I were struggling to conceive, everywhere I looked there seemed to be women pushing prams......

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By *oul BrothaMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy far far away

Well your wife is pretty stunning so people will inevitably be attracted to her.

Also some men find that they can relate to an older women better. Perhaps they like their mentality personality and character more than younger women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The younger man/older woman dynamic has always been a "thing," way before pornography got its grubby mitts on it with all its dehumanising terminology"

The dehumanising terminology?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The younger man/older woman dynamic has always been a "thing," way before pornography got its grubby mitts on it with all its dehumanising terminology

The dehumanising terminology?"

I believe all pornographic categories, eg "matures" MILF" etc are objectifying and therefore dehumanising. Others may disagree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The younger man/older woman dynamic has always been a "thing," way before pornography got its grubby mitts on it with all its dehumanising terminology

The dehumanising terminology?

I believe all pornographic categories, eg "matures" MILF" etc are objectifying and therefore dehumanising. Others may disagree"

Right! I was unsure on what you referring to. I think there's a lot of porn terminology in society now but I think people have historically objectified one another. I agree though that it's a shame people use porn as a benchmark. I just try to not let what others talk about or think offend me unless it's directly aggressive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst I'm not keen on the term MILF, I can certainly understand why younger guys are attracted to women who might be described as one. An attractive older woman, one who is sexually experienced and confident, that's quite a turn on for most guys, if only as a fantasy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes! Always was a turn on when younger. Fit teachers, mates mums...

Now I’m old and older woman is a pensioner!!! Now the younger ones are attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i get messages calling me a milf I delete

Why? It’s not a derogatory term

It is, it’s a way of degrading women down to an object for use. If a woman wishes to identify herself as such, fine but it’s a derogatory term used my men to objectify us."

What about dilf, bbc, vwewg, no bi-guys (whilst the woman herself is bi)

There are categories for everything. Women also get paid significantly more than men for their categories in porn.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i get messages calling me a milf I delete

Why? It’s not a derogatory term

It is, it’s a way of degrading women down to an object for use. If a woman wishes to identify herself as such, fine but it’s a derogatory term used my men to objectify us.

What about dilf, bbc, vwewg, no bi-guys (whilst the woman herself is bi)

There are categories for everything. Women also get paid significantly more than men for their categories in porn. "

Yes I would put all of those terms in the same category although I understand they have passed into common parlance now and can be a useful shorthand (for those arranging events for example). It doesn't mean to say that I like them though. As for the discrepancy in pay between male and female porn stars, well I think that's the only profession you will find the scales tipped in the woman's favour!

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By *appy_hedonistMan
over a year ago

Islington

"Now I’m old and older woman is a pensioner!!! Now the younger ones are attraction."

I've always liked women my own age or older - while young girls aren't as interesting. Luckily for me, I still find older women very sexy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs seems to get a lot of attention from younger men. It doesn't surprise me in the least though.

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By *hatHappensNextCouple
over a year ago

Essex, near basildon

I'm not surprised, she is stunning. My hubby loves it when the younger guys try and hit on me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not surprised, she is stunning. My hubby loves it when the younger guys try and hit on me!"

Right back at ya

, no surprise you get their attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was in my late teens, I remember being very attracted to our next door neighbour who’d now be classed as MILF I’d expect. However she was about the only older lady I found attractive. Seems to me that these days Ladies in their 40s and 50’s take more care of themselves dress younger than they did back then.

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By *cgkcCouple
over a year ago

Hitchin

Let's ask Dr Freud

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let's ask Dr Freud

Best avoiding Freud, go straight to the source: Sophocles - King Oedipus.

I’ve always had an attraction to older women, it has nothing to do with anything Freud assumed. I find them to be more attractive in appearance and mind. Of course women my own age can have both also, Though aesthetically I prefer mature women; so they tip the scales if I were to choose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't get it...though I don't need to.

I do wish people would stop addressing me as a Milf in messages though! I'm only 30 and no one's mother!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was at school, I remember the lads being attracted to Carol Vorderman, I never got it as she seemed ancient to me at the time.

At 39, I hadn't considered myself a MILF until an ex boyfriend said I was now in MILF territory and O was pretty horrified! MILF makes me think of either Bet Lynch or 'Stiffler's Mom' - neituer of which are characters I identify with.

I'm of looking forward to turning 40 soon although with my relative age comes experience and inner confidence of sorts. But there's no way I'm fulfilling some lad's MILF fantasy as being wanted fof what I represent, ie, OLD, doesn't make me feel sexy at all. I always turn the youngsters down, no matter how mature they say they are. A 19 year old propositioned me recently and the thought of him barely out of school and closer to my children's age than mine was a total turn off.

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By *enryotixMan
over a year ago

London

"Let's ask Dr Freud

Best avoiding Freud, go straight to the source: Sophocles - King Oedipus.

I would definitely agree, there is just something that is very alluring about more mature women

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