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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

As a single guy what does swinging mean to you and what do you get out of it? Is it just a way to get sex while you are between relationships or is there more to it than that? As a couple we already have a good sex life so swing just for the extra excitement it brings. If we visit clubs and parties and don't play it doesn't matter as we enjoy the social side too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As has been said by me and several others any number of times before.....

I started for the sex and stayed for the friendships that I had made.

It's great to be among people of like mind and the fact that everyone on here wants good sex and no one is too afraid or prudish to ask for it (ney, damand it!) means that we are all amongst friends....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I started on the scene as a single guy when I was 17 (i used to go to a normal sauna before the days of the many gay saunas) and in the quiet times you got to know who you could play with

They then took me back to play with them and their wives

And introduced me to their friends

So yes at that time it was just about sex

I then married and we swung but it was only with men (she didnt let me see women)

We split over something totally unrelated to swinging and i was single again for a while and yes it was still just sex

Two more long term swinging relationships and nearly thirty years later im now in a position where the sex really doesnt bother me none

I love the social side of swinging and will never leave that (i have no vanilla friends anyway)

So now its not just sex lol

Having said that im not actually single

But as we swing in different ways we keep that separate from the relationship and always will

I still have a bit of fun and still go to saunas

We do occasionally play together with BI men and im happy with the way things are now

So now its just habit pmsl xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm here because married type sex is no longer enough for me, fine now and again. I do enjoy role play, being able to use the whole of the other person(s) body and the whole of my body being used for sexual gratification, and nothing is more exciting than 3 or 4 people naked pleasing and being pleased

It's not the cumming for me, but what we can do with the bodies

Guess I'm cutting coreners by being on here, but I like to think that many people on here are similar, after all, simple sex is easy off a dating site, but might be ages trying to meet a kinky/dirty/pervy type woman

Chat soon fellow kinky/dirty/pervy types

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i am now going to sound like a parrot because georgey almost took the words out of my mouth....

I came here for the sex (who didn't) and stayed for the social side and that opened up a new world to me.... I know that I can go out on a night to a social or a club and have an absolute blast with likeminded people......

okay... this is going to sound really corny now, but the way that i now see swinging is for me that is it the friendships I have made that comes first, and that if anything else happens beyond that then that is very much a bonus.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i am now going to sound like a parrot because georgey almost took the words out of my mouth....

I came here for the sex (who didn't) and stayed for the social side and that opened up a new world to me.... I know that I can go out on a night to a social or a club and have an absolute blast with likeminded people......

okay... this is going to sound really corny now, but the way that i now see swinging is for me that is it the friendships I have made that comes first, and that if anything else happens beyond that then that is very much a bonus....."

I took the words from your mouth as you are one of the regular commentators who I was quoting...... Not corny at all. I met a newbie at the weekend who asked

a) if I was single (yes I replied)

b) why I couldn't get a girlfriend (I don't want one) and

c) why I swang (past participle of swing......?).

My reply to her 3rd question was that it is great to have frineds with bemefits, to be able to go for dinner knowing I'll get a shag, or to go for dinner knowing I won't be pressing for a shag or to get a shag without going for dinner.....

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i get asked the "you're lovely... why don't you have a girlfriend" question in clubs a lot... so my set answer is now this... I am in no rush, and I would rather be happy,single and having a blast... than be in a relationship, unhappy and doing anything behind their backs.....

could i give up the sex side of this tomorrow if i met miss perfect... absolutely in a heartbeat! she would have to understand the social side of this and it is in a way part of me, and part of what attracted her to me in the first place........

but people are going to be different and say different things.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i get asked the "you're lovely... why don't you have a girlfriend" question in clubs a lot... "

Cause ya not bloody daft lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i get asked the "you're lovely... why don't you have a girlfriend" question in clubs a lot... so my set answer is now this... I am in no rush, and I would rather be happy,single and having a blast... than be in a relationship, unhappy and doing anything behind their backs.....

could i give up the sex side of this tomorrow if i met miss perfect... absolutely in a heartbeat! she would have to understand the social side of this and it is in a way part of me, and part of what attracted her to me in the first place........

but people are going to be different and say different things..... "

i get that all the time, but i am looking for a girlfriend though,

always get lasses asking me why im single, like they cant work it out coz i shudnt be or something! and im thinking well why arnt you trying to snap me up then lol!

i'll find someone in the end, but made loads of friends doing this that i see regulary and even if i settled down with someone who wouldnt entertain this i'd still keep in touch and see them as some are really good friends.

and i learnt from playing as a couple that the part i used to like most was just two couples chilling out, having a laugh and drink getting to know each other and becoming friends, the social side is often alot superioir i think in the swinging world than just with regular friends or going to visit say your lasses mate and her boyfriend for the night.

theres a much more eagerness to get close and get to know each other and share expeirences and make new friends without boundaries and if you keep in touch and stay friends then sometimes them relationships can be extra special i think even if the sex gets removed from them.

ive got a few couples and single girls who are good friends of me that ive made through this and some are up there and even better friends than people in the regular world outside of swinging.

they more than sex out there for it definetally. but still thats good too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

but really if i just wanted sex alone then wud still be good without the site, i just find its better sex and better friends often doing it this way than just meeting people from dating or nights out

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By *uginMan
over a year ago

Here and There

The question was aimed at single guys; that is those members who are not married or in a committed relationship. Those who are in a relationship are clearly seeking something they are not getting in that relationship whether it be physical or emotional. For singletons like me the presence on FAB is two fold; firstly you do meet some great people in this life style but there are some who are clearly being cared for in the community. Secondly sometimes(not always) the sex is just FAB no pun intended! I use FAB for friendship and fun! Simples!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im not going for the whole swinging angle. i signed up to try and find 1 on 1 casual flings with my fantasy women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well im not male but i am single and im here for the sex, pure and simple lol

making frinds is not important to me, im happy just meeting for one offs infact i find them more exiting

If i do meet someone and get on enough to met again all well and good but its not esensual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i swing bcus i love meeting ladies who dress to please mmm find it such a turn to be sat chatting to a lady in a pub or bar knowing how shes dressed + what mite happening later ? most ladies 2day wear jeans or trousers ( boring lol ) if 9 tall leggy blondes walked by me in a pub wearing jeans, it wud be the 10th shorter lady in skirt + nylons that wud catch my eye if you know what i mean lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The question was aimed at single guys; that is those members who are not married or in a committed relationship. Those who are in a relationship are clearly seeking something they are not getting in that relationship whether it be physical or emotional. "

Im sorry but that last sentence is just total crap mate

You obviously think that and thats your right

But boy you couldnt be further from the truth with that one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The question was aimed at single guys; that is those members who are not married or in a committed relationship. Those who are in a relationship are clearly seeking something they are not getting in that relationship whether it be physical or emotional.

Im sorry but that last sentence is just total crap mate

You obviously think that and thats your right

But boy you couldnt be further from the truth with that one "

Not entirely certain that is true.

Bi people can't be getting sex with all the people that they want in a monogomous relationship.....

People who like 3somes won't get that from a monogomous relationship.

These, you understand, are pragmatic disagreements, rather than negative ones. I am not sure whether the chap above was being quite so prosaic, but I am being........

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By *uginMan
over a year ago

Here and There


"The question was aimed at single guys; that is those members who are not married or in a committed relationship. Those who are in a relationship are clearly seeking something they are not getting in that relationship whether it be physical or emotional.

Im sorry but that last sentence is just total crap mate

You obviously think that and thats your right

But boy you couldnt be further from the truth with that one "

It is my right thanks.

I would just prerequiste my words with "for the most part, there are exceptions"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The question was aimed at single guys; that is those members who are not married or in a committed relationship. Those who are in a relationship are clearly seeking something they are not getting in that relationship whether it be physical or emotional.

Im sorry but that last sentence is just total crap mate

You obviously think that and thats your right

But boy you couldnt be further from the truth with that one

Not entirely certain that is true.

Bi people can't be getting sex with all the people that they want in a monogomous relationship.....

People who like 3somes won't get that from a monogomous relationship.

These, you understand, are pragmatic disagreements, rather than negative ones. I am not sure whether the chap above was being quite so prosaic, but I am being........"

Ok yes i can see your point on the physical and agree entirely on that

My OH hasnt got a cock fa instance and im bi

But im pretty sick to be honest of people who come into swinging thinking that the couples in it cannot be in loving and committed relationships and there must be something missing

I love my girl to death and would die for her if necessary

And most swinging couples i know think the same

Yes in hindsight i had a knee jerk reaction without thinking

But only this week ive had a vanilla that knows i swing saying that i couldnt possibly be in love

So as you can imagine i read that post the same way

And except in this instance i should have read it better xx

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By *ap AdgeMan
over a year ago

Wirral

Learning more and more about sex and to be good in bed and having erotic lustfull sex. Too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a single guy what does swinging mean to you and what do you get out of it? Is it just a way to get sex while you are between relationships or is there more to it than that? As a couple we already have a good sex life so swing just for the extra excitement it brings. If we visit clubs and parties and don't play it doesn't matter as we enjoy the social side too. "

being a single parent i use it for the social side mainly any sex from it is a bonus!

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By *ayman2002Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

I can’t speak for all the single dad’s out there but for me it started out as a means to enjoy sex without having the time to spend on a conventional relationship. Now it’s still about enjoying great sex but it’s evolved equally into the social aspect of swinging too. Getting to know people. Being able to just sit down and have a chat or a drink on occasions without it necessarily leading to anything. That whole non-pressurised sexual availability is very liberating and suits my needs well.

Ask anyone I’ve met or talk to. They’ll tell you I talk a lot on here!! That’s because I enjoy knowing people as much as potentially seeing them naked!

So what I get out of swinging is social interaction in a limited timeframe. Great sex. And hopefully a few friends along the way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok yes i can see your point on the physical and agree entirely on that

My OH hasnt got a cock fa instance and im bi

But im pretty sick to be honest of people who come into swinging thinking that the couples in it cannot be in loving and committed relationships and there must be something missing

I love my girl to death and would die for her if necessary

And most swinging couples i know think the same

Yes in hindsight i had a knee jerk reaction without thinking

But only this week ive had a vanilla that knows i swing saying that i couldnt possibly be in love

So as you can imagine i read that post the same way

And except in this instance i should have read it better xx "

And rightly so, Soapy.

No, my comment was not on the strength of your relationship (I would suspect that Swinging relationships are probably the strongest as not only does one not cheat on your partner, but you also share a hobby, as it were). but purely on the imediate dynamic.

That and I am a pedantic git!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your new avatar is also very amusing btw soapy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a single guy what does swinging mean to you and what do you get out of it? Is it just a way to get sex while you are between relationships or is there more to it than that? As a couple we already have a good sex life so swing just for the extra excitement it brings. If we visit clubs and parties and don't play it doesn't matter as we enjoy the social side too. "

Its a word, one of many that describes non monogamous sex. Personally I think it is often used negatively by couples trying to dissuade single males from swinging so they have more chance of snaring the single females.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me being widowed, I do not want at the moment another relationship. So it is the sex for me. After my first social, definitely the social side aswell aslong as my liver holds out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont get terribly much in the outside world... So yeah, it is a place for me to get sex. Also have found a fantastic regular who i get on with fantastically.

Still looking to boost myself into 3sums, parties etc. But its all about the experience really

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As a single guy what does swinging mean to you and what do you get out of it? Is it just a way to get sex while you are between relationships or is there more to it than that? As a couple we already have a good sex life so swing just for the extra excitement it brings. If we visit clubs and parties and don't play it doesn't matter as we enjoy the social side too.

Its a word, one of many that describes non monogamous sex. Personally I think it is often used negatively by couples trying to dissuade single males from swinging so they have more chance of snaring the single females. "

Us couples would never do that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i swing bcus i love meeting ladies who dress to please mmm find it such a turn to be sat chatting to a lady in a pub or bar knowing how shes dressed + what mite happening later ? most ladies 2day wear jeans or trousers ( boring lol ) if 9 tall leggy blondes walked by me in a pub wearing jeans, it wud be the 10th shorter lady in skirt + nylons that wud catch my eye if you know what i mean lol "

But the lady in jeans could be wearing a very sexy basque underneath

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