FabSwingers.com forum: Still bisexual

By *itguy21066 OP Man
over a year ago

leicester

I know there is a lot of am I bisexual questions on here, but if you only ever have oral with another guy, Never anal does that still make you bisexual?

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

Orally bi. But what about bi fluid? It dosent matter, the " rules or where the lines are. You are what you loins say you are!

I'm pansexul so " out rank" all, I'm just greedy. I'll have sex with any oreantian ( sp). Not smelly or unkempt! But I would not want a relationship with a lesbain. I need a willy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s 2019. You can be whatever you want to be . It really doesn’t matter what you call it.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I haven’t had sex with a man involved for over 2 years so what am I? A non action bisexual? Or have I edged (haha) up towards the straight end of the spectrum? Whatever it is, it’s me and I’m not that bothered. Just adding to the thread.

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

"I know there is a lot of am I bisexual questions on here, but if you only ever have oral with another guy, Never anal does that still make you bisexual?"

If it was an isolated example, you can say it was a bisexual experiment, but you choose to identify as heterosexual

If you are regularly sucking or being sucked, with other men, yes you are bisexual.

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By *itguy21066 OP Man
over a year ago

leicester

Just looking for peoples opinions on how we might be looked at, not to bothered about the pc side of things just wondering out loud, I have had lots of oral with guys and class myself as bi, but I don’t get to concerned about anything.

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By *itguy21066 OP Man
over a year ago

leicester

"I haven’t had sex with a man involved for over 2 years so what am I? A non action bisexual? Or have I edged (haha) up towards the straight end of the spectrum? Whatever it is, it’s me and I’m not that bothered. Just adding to the thread. "

Can I tempt to go back to the bi side !!

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Yes I'd say you are bi curious in that instance ,but as long as you are upfront about it and everyone enjoys it,theres no problem.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know there is a lot of am I bisexual questions on here, but if you only ever have oral with another guy, Never anal does that still make you bisexual?"

Mr has only ever done oral, but definitely considers himself bisexual

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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago

Ramsgate

It seems to me that a lot of guys just like cock. Fewer guys like to snog another bloke and even fewer would consider having a relationship with another guy. I guess that even in 2019 it’s easier to live as a heterosexual. I wonder if there are many bisexual guys who are in a relationship with a man but meet women to satisfy their other sexual needs?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know there is a lot of am I bisexual questions on here, but if you only ever have oral with another guy, Never anal does that still make you bisexual?"

Here's my take on this...

Some guys are bi and never have a sexual experience with another man. Some guys have plenty of sex with other men but aren't bi.

Bisexuality isn't an act. It's a state of mind.

To make an analogy, if you drive a car you have probably at some stage transgressed. Sped, parked illegally or whatever. You broke the law and by definition that would make you a criminal. But do you describe yourself to others as a criminal?

SMSM (Straight Men who have Sex with Men) is a rather unexplored area of psychology which would help a lot of guys get past their confusion if they understood it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never had sex with another guy....yet

Only had oral and wank fun...with some watersports also

But I'd class myself as bisexual...definitely no longer curious

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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago

Ramsgate

"I know there is a lot of am I bisexual questions on here, but if you only ever have oral with another guy, Never anal does that still make you bisexual?

Here's my take on this...

Some guys are bi and never have a sexual experience with another man. Some guys have plenty of sex with other men but aren't bi.

Bisexuality isn't an act. It's a state of mind.

SMSM (Straight Men who have Sex with Men) is a rather unexplored area of psychology which would help a lot of guys get past their confusion if they understood it."

I don’t think that comparing it to something which is illegal is at all helpful. Luckily having sex with a man is no longer illegal (in private) and perish the thought that in an increasingly intolerant society we should return to the fear of being convicted for expressing their desire for men.

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By *omerset tvTV/TS
over a year ago

Weston-super-Mare

Havent had sex for 12 months does that make me a born again virgin? Lol

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I’m only interested in Men when dressed and appearing as a woman. Absolutely no interest in guys when presenting as my Male self. However in my mind I’m still bisexual, the clothes, makeup and wig just puts me in a psychological state that I become more feminine, so due to that I find myself attracted to Men.

Confusing isn’t it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know there is a lot of am I bisexual questions on here, but if you only ever have oral with another guy, Never anal does that still make you bisexual?

Here's my take on this...

Some guys are bi and never have a sexual experience with another man. Some guys have plenty of sex with other men but aren't bi.

Bisexuality isn't an act. It's a state of mind.

SMSM (Straight Men who have Sex with Men) is a rather unexplored area of psychology which would help a lot of guys get past their confusion if they understood it.

I really don't want to get into the difference between an analogy and a comparison. The point I was making is that it is the way you think that defines you not a single act.

If you read what I wrote instead of pouncing on a single word out of context....THAT would be helpful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m only interested in Men when dressed and appearing as a woman. Absolutely no interest in guys when presenting as my Male self. However in my mind I’m still bisexual, the clothes, makeup and wig just puts me in a psychological state that I become more feminine, so due to that I find myself attracted to Men.

Confusing isn’t it

As a guy who is openly bisexual on Fab as well as on Fab Guys, I am constantly coming across guys who find themselves unable to identify with their own sexuality. "I don't feel bi, am not attracted to men, but fantasise about cock". It is too prevalent to not be a largely ignored demographic. Yet it is. We are given the choices of straight, bisexual and gay and when someone doesn't fit into one of those pigeon holes they are accused of being dishonest about their sexuality. It causes a lot of mental anguish for those in this predicament.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

do you really need a label, do define who you are and what you do and dont do.

my personal advice, enjoy life

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By *iyuWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"I know there is a lot of am I bisexual questions on here, but if you only ever have oral with another guy, Never anal does that still make you bisexual?

Here's my take on this...

Some guys are bi and never have a sexual experience with another man. Some guys have plenty of sex with other men but aren't bi.

Bisexuality isn't an act. It's a state of mind.

SMSM (Straight Men who have Sex with Men) is a rather unexplored area of psychology which would help a lot of guys get past their confusion if they understood it."

I wouldn't describe bisexuality as a state of mind. It's a sexual orientation and a legitimate one at that. What this discussion is describing is bi-curious.

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By *eordiedanielCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

It's a thinking thing rather than a body part thing

Don't think it's anything to do with acts. Some gay or bi men don't do penatrative sex. Just don't like it. They are still attracted to masculinity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know there is a lot of am I bisexual questions on here, but if you only ever have oral with another guy, Never anal does that still make you bisexual?

Here's my take on this...

Some guys are bi and never have a sexual experience with another man. Some guys have plenty of sex with other men but aren't bi.

Bisexuality isn't an act. It's a state of mind.

SMSM (Straight Men who have Sex with Men) is a rather unexplored area of psychology which would help a lot of guys get past their confusion if they understood it.

I wouldn't describe bisexuality as a state of mind. It's a sexual orientation and a legitimate one at that. What this discussion is describing is bi-curious. "

Is sexual orientation a series of acts or is it the way one thinks (state of mind)?

It's actually a broad philosophical question. Is it who you are that defines you or is it the things you've done?

Take, for instance, the guy who tries sex with another man and decides it's not for him. If you define him by his acts he's bisexual if you define him by his state of mind he's straight.

The problem is this puritan way of thinking. Once you've done this you're that. Human beings learn through a process of experimentation so acts and deeds really shouldn't be attached to us like Jacob Marley's chains.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Using the standards imlplied here.. Yes you are a 'born again virgin'...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree.. Life is for living...

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

How many cigarettes until you're a smoker? How long must you give up for until you're a non-smoker?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You would be surprised by how many gay relationships don't involve penetrative sex

People assume that gay guys go round rodgering each other senseless, whereas infact, most of their sexual experiences are oral only

So, bearing that in mind, you're not only bi-sexual but also demi-gay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many cigarettes until you're a smoker? How long must you give up for until you're a non-smoker?"

While you're smoking you're a smoker. The moment you put it out you become a non-smoker until you light the next one.

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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago

Ramsgate

"You would be surprised by how many gay relationships don't involve penetrative sex

People assume that gay guys go round rodgering each other senseless, whereas infact, most of their sexual experiences are oral only

So, bearing that in mind, you're not only bi-sexual but also demi-gay

There’s nothing wrong with oral

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

My thoughts are yes, doesn’t matter what sexual acts are done, or how long ago, if you liked it and would likely want to do it again you are bi

Bi curious really is someone that interested but hasn’t engaged as yet

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By *low Sensual GloryholeMan
over a year ago

Stretford

does it really matter WHAT you call it? Who cares anyway?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My thoughts are yes, doesn’t matter what sexual acts are done, or how long ago, if you liked it and would likely want to do it again you are bi

Bi curious really is someone that interested but hasn’t engaged as yet

Exactly this.

I had a salad for lunch. Should I tell everyone that I'm vegetarian till I have fish for dinner?

If I decide never to have meat again, that would be different. Series of acts vs state of mind.

Note: this is not a commentary on dietary choices.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Human interests and personality are each based on a multi-dimensional spectrum, that is not static. Sexuality is likely over several spectra, rather than just one. We each - if we want to - define our sexual orientations, as we perceive them at the time. This would be accurately based on what we like today and what we perceive we may enjoy in the future, even if we've not experienced something.

If we've tried something with one person and didn't like, that experience doesn't sum us up. Maybe we experimented, we weren't ready (if we were to become bi in the future but aren't atm), or it is the wrong person or activity at the time.

Other people may want someone who has had a split second of experience in their lifetime to be absolutely labeled as bi etc - is that justified? I think it's right to define yourself based upon now, your current understanding of yourself. We do evolve, our interests evolve and are better for living in the present.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"does it really matter WHAT you call it? Who cares anyway?"

Apparently enough people to generate a daily thread on the subject.

But yeah. I agree. When I watched Bohemian Rhapsody I was devastated to learn how conflicted Freddy Mercury was. It's so sad that a person so talented had so much focus placed on his sexuality.

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

"Orally bi. But what about bi fluid? It dosent matter, the " rules or where the lines are. You are what you loins say you are!

I'm pansexul so " out rank" all, I'm just greedy. I'll have sex with any oreantian ( sp). Not smelly or unkempt! But I would not want a relationship with a lesbain. I need a willy

Wow who knew sexual orientation had ranks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know there is a lot of am I bisexual questions on here, but if you only ever have oral with another guy, Never anal does that still make you bisexual?"

Love that question! I've asked myself this so often - but have given up now! The only thing I know is that I am not only straight and not only gay. Sometimes I read guys profiles who say that they are completely straight, 'as straight as a ruler' I cannot identify with them, I understand them completely, and funnily enough I also have a twang of envy - how much simpler would my life be if I was JUST straight! But I suspect that this is just a case of grass always greener....

So to me, the rest is just semantics, where does a throbbing cock have to be inserted, or how a juicy pussy be eaten before you have to label yourself bisexual, or any other terms, is just a waste of time.

I understand the need to belong to some sort of sexual identity group, let's make that group universal. I've been out with a hard core straight mate, been out on the pull with him, got laid MFMF, it never occured to me to reach out for my mates dick - I knew he wouldn't want that, and I didn't feel like I was missing something. What was very intimate (and to me sexy) was that I had a great intimate connection with him while fucking the girls - and a great connection with the girls too. We were just a group of people with different sexual orientations having a common ground, through working out what individually rocks our boat.

Isn't that all we need to know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Orally bi. But what about bi fluid? It dosent matter, the " rules or where the lines are. You are what you loins say you are!

I'm pansexul so " out rank" all, I'm just greedy. I'll have sex with any oreantian ( sp). Not smelly or unkempt! But I would not want a relationship with a lesbain. I need a willy

Wow who knew sexual orientation had ranks.

Is that a general observation without making any major point on any private issues?

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By *itguy21066 OP Man
over a year ago

leicester

Wow some opinions there, I should say I do watch a fair bit of gay porn too !!! Lol now where does that put me now ?

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By *ydrewMan
over a year ago

forest

I'm going to label myself as sexual. Lots of things turn me on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow some opinions there, I should say I do watch a fair bit of gay porn too !!! Lol now where does that put me now ?"

Are you so keen to pin a label to it?

Just enjoy what you enjoy and be happy

I'm sure that 99% of folk wouldn't really be arsed as long as you are happy with your choices

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I think Bussy hit the nail on the head further up - there are many gay men who don't do anal - does that make them not gay?

The *only* right answer to the question of how to label yourself on here is to label yourself however you want, but be honest about it and don't do it to get round others preferences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My thoughts are yes, doesn’t matter what sexual acts are done, or how long ago, if you liked it and would likely want to do it again you are bi

Bi curious really is someone that interested but hasn’t engaged as yet

Ok, I have had 3somes in the past with women. It was a spur of the moment and we all played. I don’t fancy women and I’m not aroused by them but I was aroused by the situation and that the guy was loving it. What does that make me? I wouldn’t choose to play with a woman as the thought doesn’t do anything for me but I would go with the flow if it happened providing the guy was excited by it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My thoughts are yes, doesn’t matter what sexual acts are done, or how long ago, if you liked it and would likely want to do it again you are bi

Bi curious really is someone that interested but hasn’t engaged as yet

Situationally bi. Labels are difficult, we go up and down the spectrum from straight to gay. I class myself as straight, but I am orally bi in some mmf situations. No attraction to men but have labeled myself as bu so any couples are aware of this.

Labels are needed for searches, but don't do e a human being up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suck cock but I’m not into anal stuff, with men or women. Does that make me less bi? Kissing is dependent on the moment.

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

"Orally bi. But what about bi fluid? It dosent matter, the " rules or where the lines are. You are what you loins say you are!

I'm pansexul so " out rank" all, I'm just greedy. I'll have sex with any oreantian ( sp). Not smelly or unkempt! But I would not want a relationship with a lesbain. I need a willy

Wow who knew sexual orientation had ranks.

Is that a general observation without making any major point on any private issues?

It was called sarcasm and it really doesn't need a point but it was based o on that post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Orally bi. But what about bi fluid? It dosent matter, the " rules or where the lines are. You are what you loins say you are!

I'm pansexul so " out rank" all, I'm just greedy. I'll have sex with any oreantian ( sp). Not smelly or unkempt! But I would not want a relationship with a lesbain. I need a willy

Wow who knew sexual orientation had ranks.

Is that a general observation without making any major point on any private issues?

It was called sarcasm and it really doesn't need a point but it was based o on that post "

General, major, private, rank....

Oh never mind. If you have to explain it....

I wasn't being serious.

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