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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi, I'm just wondering where I'm going wrong? Been a member of this site for quite a while, and I've never had a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's an example of a message you would send?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Usually with a title of hi, or something relevant to what they have in their profile,

Followed by asking them if they'd like to meet socially, or a question relating to what they're looking for.

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By *eorge n DragonCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

Have a forum search on the subject and see how successful men do.

Expand on profile and stand out from the crowd.

Personalize messages based on people profile.

There is no guaranteed way of getting meets though. Can try socials and clubs.

Personally would lose the negative status. Complaining that people rude makes you sound a bit whingy.

Lose the reference to drugs . majority avoid.

Profile says you just come out of a relationship. Were you here while in one?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks I'll work on that and make some changes, I was but wasn't using the account didn't hide it though (probably should have)

Yeah the rant was knee jerk.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter


"Usually with a title of hi, or something relevant to what they have in their profile,

Followed by asking them if they'd like to meet socially, or a question relating to what they're looking for. "

So just like the hundreds and thousands of messages that fly around this site everyday?

The fact that you have a 'usual' format indicates that you really need to rethink your approach.

Asking to meet socially in the first message might be well received by some, but others might think it too up front. Likewise, asking what they are looking for might indicate that you haven't read peoples profiles.

It's a minefield, but that's a couple of pointers from the receivers perspective.

Drop the line about the relationship. In the nicest possible way no one cares and it's irrelevant. Other than that your profile reads ok and gives a little glimpse into you.

You have made the big step of putting up a face pic, that's always a good sign. Why not add a few more pics to brighten up your profile.

Also you could try making more use of the forum and chatrooms as a way of getting to know people, it is often easier than direct messaging. Likewise, clubs and socials are a great way to get yourself known to people in the area.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for the advice I will have a go at rethinking my strategy, maybe avoid the "do you like bread?" line

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try out the chat rooms as well. Might be easier to make a connection with someone there that could lead to a meet

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By *appytochatMan
over a year ago

Deep in the New Forest

I'd also be prepared to travel. If your on the island then you might have a smaller group of people that might be interested. Unless you find some that are prepared to travel over for a meet. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Good point, common interests etc.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah travelling isn't an issue at all Im always hopping off island

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many reasons people including my self have set type they wanna meet u may not fit that type also thier is like 100men to 1 women on this site so better looking men no offence meant are more likely to get it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, I'm just wondering where I'm going wrong? Been a member of this site for quite a while, and I've never had a reply. "

As you have no verificatios maybe it's worth starting anew.

From a personal perspective we wouldn't meet someone who's been on the site for two years (give or take) and is not verified by a meet. That tells us "only pic collector, not interested in meeting or if met - wasn't verified for a reason". Even so it may not be the case.

Also people change over time. If all pics on the profile are older than a year - we'd give it a pass as well. But that maybe just us.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us it’s the whole what are you looking for sentence it’s pretty obvious it’s what the majority of what everyone looks for on here. Our advice would be to avoid that question entirely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You e not sent us a message, so we don’t know, however our biggest no no is written on our profile clearly. For some reason the biggest amount of message senders either ignore it or don’t read it.

We simply ask that gents don’t send us a dick pic with their message, as the female half of the couple there’s nothing worse than a message saying “ hi send the female round for a pounding” then have a plethora of dick pics!

That said you might not do that

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I agree with the post which says delete profile and start afresh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send cock pics and tell women that you like to donkey punch them while drinking stella and chain smoking that will get you a reply

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole


"Hi, I'm just wondering where I'm going wrong? Been a member of this site for quite a while, and I've never had a reply. "

You live on the Island, so limited players. Plus we're a couple and get around the same hit rate as you. Its not you or your fault.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, I'm just wondering where I'm going wrong? Been a member of this site for quite a while, and I've never had a reply. "

The one black and white Lord Lucanesque photos may not be helping you can put more photos up you know.

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By *ay dMan
over a year ago

huyton


"Hi, I'm just wondering where I'm going wrong? Been a member of this site for quite a while, and I've never had a reply.

The one black and white Lord Lucanesque photos may not be helping you can put more photos up you know. "

Im the same what am i doing wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, I'm just wondering where I'm going wrong? Been a member of this site for quite a while, and I've never had a reply.

The one black and white Lord Lucanesque photos may not be helping you can put more photos up you know.

Im the same what am i doing wrong "

As a female I find your profile a bit boring, also you’ve only got a couple of pics that don’t reveal much.

Put in it what you can offer me?

What do you like to do?

Do you go to clubs.

Look at your profile as your shop window. Would you shop there?

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By *ay dMan
over a year ago

huyton


"Hi, I'm just wondering where I'm going wrong? Been a member of this site for quite a while, and I've never had a reply.

The one black and white Lord Lucanesque photos may not be helping you can put more photos up you know.

Im the same what am i doing wrong

As a female I find your profile a bit boring, also you’ve only got a couple of pics that don’t reveal much.

Put in it what you can offer me?

What do you like to do?

Do you go to clubs.

Look at your profile as your shop window. Would you shop there? "

Good advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bar having just the one profile photo. Your profile reads as if you're the sort of man most women in the forum claim to want messaging them. In as far as how you prefer to go about things. You want to build a slow connection and have it become something more intimate and regular than just a fuck and go? That's good and not something you should really have to change. The Forum isn't reflective of wider Fab though.

I find expressing that desire on your profile tends to scare the shit out of everyone else. People assume you are needy, emotionally unstable, desperate for affection or lonely. The rest of Fab seem to be looking for the polar opposite (in my experience). Someone attractive enough to fuck, then the freedom to fuck them off.

Then you have the competition. A vast array of different men with intriguing personalitys, good looks, varying layers of complexity, fantastic figures, scholars and poets with massive members. Pretty boys with the gift of the gab are in plentiful supply.

Any profile with the slightest whiff of femininity tend to get super picky about who they choose to talk to, let alone fuck. Their inbox takes a battering. If you write "Hi" "Hello" Its just going to read the same as every other piece of digital shit clogging up the system. Be original.

The Best sex I've ever had wasn't found on this site, not even close. Not Fabguys or Flife, nor any other sex orientated site. It happened on Plenty of Fish. There are more women in your local area on PoF for a start. You get a good idea of what they look like, face and body. Not the same old boring lingerie shot either.. AND they actually bother filling in their profiles sometimes, giving you a slight something to message them about.

The Forum is quite a good resource to help you with your sex life. If you can put up with some of the aggro. You can also make friends here, if you post interesting questions or interact on a regular basis.

It's hardcore and not for the faint hearted. Good luck

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By *ay dMan
over a year ago

huyton


"Bar having just the one profile photo. Your profile reads as if you're the sort of man most women in the forum claim to want messaging them. In as far as how you prefer to go about things. You want to build a slow connection and have it become something more intimate and regular than just a fuck and go? That's good and not something you should really have to change. The Forum isn't reflective of wider Fab though.

I find expressing that desire on your profile tends to scare the shit out of everyone else. People assume you are needy, emotionally unstable, desperate for affection or lonely. The rest of Fab seem to be looking for the polar opposite (in my experience). Someone attractive enough to fuck, then the freedom to fuck them off.

Then you have the competition. A vast array of different men with intriguing personalitys, good looks, varying layers of complexity, fantastic figures, scholars and poets with massive members. Pretty boys with the gift of the gab are in plentiful supply.

Any profile with the slightest whiff of femininity tend to get super picky about who they choose to talk to, let alone fuck. Their inbox takes a battering. If you write "Hi" "Hello" Its just going to read the same as every other piece of digital shit clogging up the system. Be original.

The Best sex I've ever had wasn't found on this site, not even close. Not Fabguys or Flife, nor any other sex orientated site. It happened on Plenty of Fish. There are more women in your local area on PoF for a start. You get a good idea of what they look like, face and body. Not the same old boring lingerie shot either.. AND they actually bother filling in their profiles sometimes, giving you a slight something to message them about.

The Forum is quite a good resource to help you with your sex life. If you can put up with some of the aggro. You can also make friends here, if you post interesting questions or interact on a regular basis.

It's hardcore and not for the faint hearted. Good luck "

Thanx

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