FabSwingers.com forum: why is it....

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If something in the fantasies and stories comment is classed as being in the "norm".... or lots of people agree with it.. that if you post..

"cant see the fun in that" you get lots of comments saying.. its a fantasy forum... dont post if you dont agree..

If its less mainstream ( just see the impregnate my wife thread) then its perfectly acceptable to not only have comments but for people to actually resort to name calling.

Now I am not moaning before anyone starts.. I just wondered..

I often head straight to the fantasies even if I find most very tame.. and will read and comment, sometimes for... sometimes against..

sometimes maybe just giving a balanced _iew.

So do you think that if you dont agree with someones tales or fantasy in that section that you just shouldnt post?????

Cali

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I think you should be respectful to their fantasy, it is after all, theirs....

no one is asking for it to be anyone elses.

unless they ask for an opinion

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn

I did reply to the above thread, the reaon being, after reading that thread and looking at other posts the OP had started, it was clear this wasn't just a fantasy and that he wanted to do it for real. So when it comes to kids(who dont have a voice) I will say my opinion on the subject.

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By *ath-N-DelCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow area

Have to agree with View...

I avoid that forum because I know I would find it very hard to bite my tongue..

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By *ath-N-DelCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow area

Isn't the whole point of telling your fantasy in the hope that someone could make it reality?

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn

"Isn't the whole point of telling your fantasy in the hope that someone could make it reality?"

In my opinion some fantasy's are best left just that.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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I think I agree with View....two threads have changed route the last couple of days and going onto something else , so it ends up overlooking the OP.

They probably should have had another thread started instead ( as you have done now )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did find the wife staying out alone wrong tbh. Cali you weren't rude in stating your opinion and yet all these people did jump on you. If it was only for fantasties and stories then why did they feel the need to tell you so in the forum and not instead send you a private message. Then again the way the pack descend on others in this forum is horrible and was 1 reason why I took a long break from posting.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

So do you think that if you dont agree with someones tales or fantasy in that section that you just shouldnt post?????

Cali "

There is nothing to agree or disagree with... it's their fantasy.

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By *ath-N-DelCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow area

"Isn't the whole point of telling your fantasy in the hope that someone could make it reality?

In my opinion some fantasy's are best left just that."

Yeah, also my opinion...

Thats why I avoid reading them

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So do you think that if you dont agree with someones tales or fantasy in that section that you just shouldnt post?????

Cali

There is nothing to agree or disagree with... it's their fantasy."

what about when its a story though..

which some are?? and this post was..

cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never visit the 'fantasy' forums, but if what you are saying is that it often ends up being a slanging match (sorry if I'm misunderstanding) why not make the 'Fantasy' threads read only?

I mean... if ya read a short story, you don't have to contact the author for a big discussion do ya? So why so on here?

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn

"Isn't the whole point of telling your fantasy in the hope that someone could make it reality?

In my opinion some fantasy's are best left just that.

Yeah, also my opinion...

Thats why I avoid reading them

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

So do you think that if you dont agree with someones tales or fantasy in that section that you just shouldnt post?????

Cali

There is nothing to agree or disagree with... it's their fantasy.

what about when its a story though..

which some are?? and this post was..

cali "

If it's in the fantasy section I would treat it as just that, regardless of what it is called.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I remember a guy on another site getting ripped to bits for posting a thank you post to a guy in the stories section . The poster tells the story of how he’d shagged the other guy’s wife at work, how she was easy and begging for it. How she was a bit crap and had obviously never had a real man before. There was a lot of laughing in the post and really did look like this was just gloating, mocking and sticking two fingers up at this poor other guy.

Of course when you realise she was part of a cuckold couple and her hubby would have been getting his rocks off reading it…. You start realising why it’s best to leave other people’s fantasy stories alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with the op and it's why "we" wouldn't post in the storie/fantasy forum normally.

If someone has posted a fantasy then I would assume they just wanted to share a fantasy not debate it?

I meen, Why would someone not just move to the next thread if they don't like the one they are in, it's not as though we are cognitive behavioural therapist's and can change someones darkest fantasies now is it!

Anyway, thats what I think.

Tony

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

See I have never seen it on a thread till the one I recently posted on where people say.. its his fantasy dont comment if you dont like it..

as all the ones that normally are my cup of tea are normally full of people slating others.. lol

Hence I asked this here..

And I think even that even therapy wont talk people out of some fantasies.. I know for a fact that mine would get raised eyebrows.. which is why I keep them off swinging forums lol

Although i am one of those that thinks why leave something as a fantasy when you can make it a reality.

cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"See I have never seen it on a thread till the one I recently posted on where people say.. its his fantasy dont comment if you dont like it..

as all the ones that normally are my cup of tea are normally full of people slating others.. lol

Hence I asked this here..

And I think even that even therapy wont talk people out of some fantasies.. I know for a fact that mine would get raised eyebrows.. which is why I keep them off swinging forums lol

Although i am one of those that thinks why leave something as a fantasy when you can make it a reality.

cali "

Same reason I wouldn't post my fantasies, some of them might raise quite a few eyebrows lol.. lucky for me though Shaz is understanding and knows why I get such strange thoughts

Tony

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It just to me smarts of double standards.. that if its a popular thing..its okay.. but a bit not so popular.. ( like there was one about a 3sum with mother and daughter once.. and omg did he get slated)

Some things cant be discussed... yet I see a thread on abduction being happily left although to me that is a pretty dangerous thing for people to admit to wanting on a swinging forum..

I am happy to leave it that some things are others fantasies... but it should be across the board then... and all the hateful comments on others fantasies not added...

Cali

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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc

I have only browsed that bit of forums and always just taken them as a persons fantasy.

If I dont like the first post then I wont read it.

I dont think its fair of people to pounce all over someone else's 'fantasy'. But in the impregnating one, the OP asked if it was anyone elses fantasy.

I am tempted to write about mine but feel they could be criticised for being too 'vanilla' or what have you. Maybe one day I will sit there and write one and hopefully those who dont like or find it boring will debate it in another part of forums.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"It just to me smarts of double standards.. that if its a popular thing..its okay.. but a bit not so popular.. ( like there was one about a 3sum with mother and daughter once.. and omg did he get slated)

Some things cant be discussed... yet I see a thread on abduction being happily left although to me that is a pretty dangerous thing for people to admit to wanting on a swinging forum..

I am happy to leave it that some things are others fantasies... but it should be across the board then... and all the hateful comments on others fantasies not added...

Cali "
Cali there are lots of double standards on here...thing is....i bet there are a few women that would take him up on his offer...but it is in the stories and fantasies thread...its not my thing but then again its not everyones fantasy to fuck a priest either...each to their own...but alas it wont be

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have only browsed that bit of forums and always just taken them as a persons fantasy.

If I dont like the first post then I wont read it.

I dont think its fair of people to pounce all over someone else's 'fantasy'. But in the impregnating one, the OP asked if it was anyone elses fantasy.

but the thing is that while people are jumping all over peoples fantasies.. people are not going to share..

Yes the guy did ask.. but really teh comments of "your sick , or its sick" could have been left off.. he didnt ask if it was right or wrong..

neither did the guy about I think it was the two sisters, then the mother and daughter.. I think I could go through there and find loads where the fantasy got forgotten and lost in a tirade of how disgusting or immoral it is..

but what we do by some is classed as immoral, yet its right for us.. I live by the rule as long as its between consenting adults then where is the harm...

Cali

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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc

"I have only browsed that bit of forums and always just taken them as a persons fantasy.

but the thing is that while people are jumping all over peoples fantasies.. people are not going to share..

Yes the guy did ask.. but really teh comments of "your sick , or its sick" could have been left off.. he didnt ask if it was right or wrong..

but what we do by some is classed as immoral, yet its right for us.. I live by the rule as long as its between consenting adults then where is the harm...

Cali "

I understand what youre saying and agreeing with you. Some of the fantasy/story threads don't do it for me, but I woudnt jump all over it, especially in the fantasy/story threads as it is their own fantasy.

However, from what I read on that post, I saw the opening poster had posted it a few times but never replied, so its not really stopping him is it?

As I said before the pouncing does put me off a bit, but then I think if you dont like it dont read it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some" people don't seem to know the difference between reality and fantasy

Tony

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I have a couple of fantasies and they are actual fantasies, not just something I intend to do but haven’t got around to yet… I don’t call those fantasies, they are plans.

I wouldn’t expect anyone else to understand why my fantasies work for me, as they are exclusively mine. All I know is when I shut my eyes to masturbate, they do the trick.

I wouldn’t get any satisfaction from sharing them with other people, so I don’t. I do understand why some people would get a kick out of sharing theirs.

Too many people refer to ‘ideas’ and ‘I’d like to try that’ as fantasies, hence why so many people seem think everyone else must want to live out theirs if they share it.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"I have only browsed that bit of forums and always just taken them as a persons fantasy.

If I dont like the first post then I wont read it.

I dont think its fair of people to pounce all over someone else's 'fantasy'. But in the impregnating one, the OP asked if it was anyone elses fantasy.

but the thing is that while people are jumping all over peoples fantasies.. people are not going to share..

Yes the guy did ask.. but really teh comments of "your sick , or its sick" could have been left off.. he didnt ask if it was right or wrong..

but what we do by some is classed as immoral, yet its right for us.. I live by the rule as long as its between consenting adults then where is the harm...

Cali "

To be honest I am finding it hard to figure out what you are getting at as you seem to be contradicting yourself.

You have started a thread saying why shouldn't you discuss peoples fantasies in the fantasy thread and tell them that you don't agree with them.... and then you say in the first sentance of this quote that while people are jumping all over peoples fantasies.. people are not going to share.

As I say...you seem to be contradicting yourself.

If you really mean your last line of " as long as it is between consenting adults then where is the harm, you wouldn't have been commenting on that thread about how they are playing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Because I have commented on a fantasy thread as I found it hard to fathom why someone would do that for real..

and got told.. its a fantasy.. you dont need to comment..

yet on another thread.. it was a free for all..

So I was looking for clarification..

its simple if you read whats been said..

My last comment was in response to things that had been said.. but I dont see something that someone actually does as a fantasy.. as its then a reality..

Cali

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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So what you mean is you are still annoyed that people disagreed with the thought of having a baby through a cream pie session so this is a roundabout way of having a pop at those people? ( which where quite a few )

I will tell you the difference in the two threads.

The pregnancy one was started as a man with a fantasy....along the way ( and without going back to read it ) but someone turned it into a discussion on making someone pregnant for real, which then turned the conversation to a reality discussion.

That discussion would have been better on another thread instead as the discussion had turned to a reality subject as don't forget, as far as we know, the OP was talking about a fantasy and wasn't looking to impregnate anyone for real.

The comments you made on someone elses fantasy thread was to question how they like to play and why you probably got the comments you did.

Don't take people disagreeing with what you said personally....they just don't have the same _iews as you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So what you mean is you are still annoyed that people disagreed with the thought of having a baby through a cream pie session so this is a roundabout way of having a pop at those people? ( which where quite a few )

I will tell you the difference in the two threads.

The comments you made on someone elses fantasy thread was to question how they like to play and why you probably got the comments you did.

Don't take people disagreeing with what you said personally....they just don't have the same _iews as you."

no as I stated in this thread its not just that..

I dont care what people think of my _iews on impregnation.. as they are my _iews.. what I care about is the total double standards..

This thread was about if on those sorts of threads.. critiques of the fantasy are allowed.. or if as people have told me when I commented.. if you dont like it.. go start a new thread.. WHICH I actually did..

cali

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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Going by what people answered you on that thread, it seems they were in agreement that they didn't think it was right....on this thread there are a few saying the same, so I suppose you have your answer.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Going by what people answered you on that thread, it seems they were in agreement that they didn't think it was right....on this thread there are a few saying the same, so I suppose you have your answer."

yes that people shouldnt comment on others fantasies.. So I will if I get a query do what I have.. which is start a new thread..

and if I dont like it not rain on someone elses kink..

Cali

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

If it's put out there on a forum people are free to comment. If you don't like that dont post!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thing most people should learn is that everyone has an opinion that they are entitled to. I didn't find the way Cali replied on that thread as being forceful about her opinion when compared to the way people replied on the impregnation thread and yet a lot of people were aggressive about how that part of the forum wasn't for discussion.

In my opinion they should have done that in private or left it to a mod to handle. Then again this is something that has been seen time and time again and for a community of "open minded" individuals is really quite astounding.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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PS...just for clarity, it isn't against rules to comment on any thread as long as it is within the rules.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

"If it's put out there on a forum people are free to comment. If you don't like that dont post! "

Kind of sums up how I feel on the subject too.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well now we know

Masterq81

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

I just don't see the point in a "I wouldn't enjoy that" reply, unless you have a really serious objection on moral or health grounds. Why feel the need to state what you don't enjoy? It seems pointless.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"If it's put out there on a forum people are free to comment. If you don't like that dont post! "

I disagree with that comment as it stands.

This forum and the Lounge are described as forums to discuss, the Stories and Fantasies forum is not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If it's put out there on a forum people are free to comment. If you don't like that dont post!

I disagree with that comment as it stands.

This forum and the Lounge are described as forums to discuss, the Stories and Fantasies forum is not.

which was what I was asking.....

And now I know.. and if I read something on there that makes me think WTF... which some things do..

I will just skip..and stick to putting a mmmm to the things I think are great.

Cali

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

"If it's put out there on a forum people are free to comment. If you don't like that dont post!

I disagree with that comment as it stands.

This forum and the Lounge are described as forums to discuss, the Stories and Fantasies forum is not.

But....surely if Admin never wanted replies on their Stories and Fantasies threads they would take away the ability to reply?....by keeping it on they are inviting replies.

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By *nsatiable firebirdWoman
over a year ago

LEEDS

Some fantasies seem taboo whilst others do not. Dont knock it until you try it is my motto. Some push boundries whilst others dont. Trying a fantasy for real is exciting to that individual but also since fulfilling it another fantasy comes to the thresh hold until that gets fulfilled and so on. There are some people that dont take them to reality but just because the reader of a post doesnt agree or would never partake in such a fantasy doesnt mean to say the post holders are wrong.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Some fantasies seem taboo whilst others do not. Dont knock it until you try it is my motto. Some push boundries whilst others dont. Trying a fantasy for real is exciting to that individual but also since fulfilling it another fantasy comes to the thresh hold until that gets fulfilled and so on. There are some people that dont take them to reality but just because the reader of a post doesnt agree or would never partake in such a fantasy doesnt mean to say the post holders are wrong. "

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

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"If it's put out there on a forum people are free to comment. If you don't like that dont post!

I disagree with that comment as it stands.

This forum and the Lounge are described as forums to discuss, the Stories and Fantasies forum is not.

But....surely if Admin never wanted replies on their Stories and Fantasies threads they would take away the ability to reply?....by keeping it on they are inviting replies.

It's stories and fantasies for fucks sake... why the hell does anyone feel the need to comment other than to build on the story/fantasy or show their appreciation for the poster taking the time to write it.

It's not real life.

They are not asking for advice.

Their not asking for opinions.

If people think it's a crap fantasy or story, they should go and write a better one.

Is it too much to ask that people show some feckin' respect for the 'intent' of the actual forum which stories and fantasies are posted in?

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

To be honest I hadn't before tonight ever browsed the Stories and Fantasies forum....but after doing so this evening it seems to me that many of the threads are neither stories nor fantasies.....but instead folks asking what others think on a certain fantasy subject....therefore openly asking for replies from other members.

Some other sites don't offer the facility to reply on their stories and fantasies section....maybe that's what is needed on here?

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"To be honest I hadn't before tonight ever browsed the Stories and Fantasies forum....but after doing so this evening it seems to me that many of the threads are neither stories nor fantasies.....but instead folks asking what others think on a certain fantasy subject....therefore openly asking for replies from other members.

Some other sites don't offer the facility to reply on their stories and fantasies section....maybe that's what is needed on here?"

I think the only down side is the OP and others will not be able to add to a story type post. I have seen many a story on other sites grow on a daily and weekly basis.

And again people who enjoy (get off on) discussing their fantasy with people who share a similar kink will lose out.

I have to admit I don't go in there.... as you may have noticed I like discussion forums.

I would imagine if people have chosen the forum they post in correctly, then a fantasy post asking for input would be actually looking for people to contribute to building the fantasy... not to decide if the fanstasy should or shouldn't float the OP's boat.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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Normally people like others to comment about their stories.

Sadly even those threads have turned into a row lately and posts have been removed...but I am still not sure it is a good idea to lock people out from commenting.

Part of Polo's post was spot on for me...respect is the key ( and a requirement to be able to post)...and if people can't show any, how can they expect any back.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Looks like we all lived happily ever after......

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"If it's put out there on a forum people are free to comment. If you don't like that dont post!

I disagree with that comment as it stands.

This forum and the Lounge are described as forums to discuss, the Stories and Fantasies forum is not.

If that were the case surely the facility to comment wouldn't be available?

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"If it's put out there on a forum people are free to comment. If you don't like that dont post!

I disagree with that comment as it stands.

This forum and the Lounge are described as forums to discuss, the Stories and Fantasies forum is not.

If that were the case surely the facility to comment wouldn't be available? "

It's not really a matter of 'if that were the case'... it is the case.

The Lounge: The lounge is for general chat and discussion

Swingers Chat: This is the place to discuss anything and everything about swinging

Stories and Fantasies: Let us all know about things you've done or fantasies you've got. Make sure you go into all the sordid details! "

As for making it a read only forum.... here's a reply I made earlier....

I think the only down side is the OP and others will not be able to add to a story type post. I have seen many a story on other sites grow on a daily and weekly basis.

And again people who enjoy (get off on) discussing their fantasy with people who share a similar kink will lose out.

I have to admit I don't go in there.... as you may have noticed I like discussion forums.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"Looks like we all lived happily ever after......

What a great ending

( as in when the story finishes it is normally the last line in the story and a great ending )

I did answer this but took it off again as it was took the wrong way, but, there was nothing wrong with my post and it was just carrying on in the same vein as you so I am putting it back on.

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By *anonfire28Man
over a year ago

southend

I will be your fantasy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have to agree with View...

I avoid that forum because I know I would find it very hard to bite my tongue..

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avoid it because oddly..reading the sexual fantasties of others holds little interest...i know, strange.

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