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By *r-Incognito OP   Man
over a year ago

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Hi everyone

Looking for some advice, ive been single now for over a year, but as of late me and my Ex have been getting along awhole lot more and I would like to try again at our relationship. My problem though is this...since joining the site i have seen alot of cuck play from couples and I want to continue to play in the swinging scene. My biggest fetish/fantasy now because of this site is to be a cuck! It turns me on thinking about my Ex getting fucked by another guy infront of me. How do i ease her into this idea? When she finds out about this scene i have joined I literally dont know how she will react. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Tell her what you would like and ask if she would like it too.

What will you do when she refuses?

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By *r-Incognito OP   Man
over a year ago

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"Tell her what you would like and ask if she would like it too.

What will you do when she refuses?"

This is the thing, if we were to give it another go and i mention this. 1. she may kick off when she finds out what ive been upto. 2. Me suggesting that i want her to get involved might ruin everything and she may not want anything to do with me again. I dont think I will be in a situation where she will refuse but still want to get back together. It will be refuse and thats it or she will want to get involved. I really dont know what to do. I dont know wether to just forget about this whole scene and bury my desires

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By *ardinal FangMan
over a year ago

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Ask yourself what she means to you.

If you want her back more than anything then quit here, get back together and put everything into making it work.

Once the relationship is rock solid then consider starting to introduce things if you feel confident that she will respond positively.

If you aren’t convinced she will then ask yourself what is more important to you, her or playing with others.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you want most?.....

A relationship with her

Or

To carry out your fantasy.

If her, then leave and maybe in the near future suggest watching porn together, or tell her you've been watching porn where the lady has more than I've partner.

Take it from there, explain you'd like that and test the waters from there.

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over a year ago

Apologies, the post wasn't posting at all, when it did, it showed three times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ask yourself what she means to you.

If you want her back more than anything then quit here, get back together and put everything into making it work.

Once the relationship is rock solid then consider starting to introduce things if you feel confident that she will respond positively.

If you aren’t convinced she will then ask yourself what is more important to you, her or playing with others. "

Perfect answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely there's a reason she's yoir ex.

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds


"Surely there's a reason she's yoir ex."

Got to agree with you on this one, ex for a reason, yes we don't know the details and it's non of our business but the advice is you split up for a reason even though you are getting on really well now things could take a turn for the worse and end up back to square one. Think long and hard op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Tell her what you would like and ask if she would like it too.

What will you do when she refuses?

This is the thing, if we were to give it another go and i mention this. 1. she may kick off when she finds out what ive been upto. 2. Me suggesting that i want her to get involved might ruin everything and she may not want anything to do with me again. I dont think I will be in a situation where she will refuse but still want to get back together. It will be refuse and thats it or she will want to get involved. I really dont know what to do. I dont know wether to just forget about this whole scene and bury my desires "

Doesn't matter how deeply you bury your desires they always work their way to the surface.

Sit down with your ex. Explain to her how you would like your relationship to be. Listen to her while she does the same. Discuss with each other if there's common ground and the possibility for acceptable compromise. If neither of you are able to do this then your relationship will fail again.

This might seem harsh but I genuinely don't see how any relationship, especially one where you want to swing, can survive without that sort of communication.

Good luck.

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By *r-Incognito OP   Man
over a year ago

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I hear what your all saying, I think near the end of the relationship we just wernt getting on and sex was every blue moon. Whether this was because of our young family im not sure. Ive always been up for trying everything and experimenting but she hasnt and I feel embarrassed or scared of suggesting things. Its not a choice between being with her or playing with others. Its more that i want to be with her and for her to play with others infront of me. Its maybe because I want her to come out of her shell again and be back to how she was at the start possibly. At the start of our relationship it was fun and exciting and she was more willing to try new things but near the end it wasnt like that.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I hear what your all saying, I think near the end of the relationship we just wernt getting on and sex was every blue moon. Whether this was because of our young family im not sure. Ive always been up for trying everything and experimenting but she hasnt and I feel embarrassed or scared of suggesting things. Its not a choice between being with her or playing with others. Its more that i want to be with her and for her to play with others infront of me. Its maybe because I want her to come out of her shell again and be back to how she was at the start possibly. At the start of our relationship it was fun and exciting and she was more willing to try new things but near the end it wasnt like that. "

Ask her how she felt about things at the end of your relationship.

We were talking about this recently. The period where you have young children is very difficult for both partners. I know I've already said it but please discuss this with her. From where I'm sitting it sounds like you want her back under your conditions.

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By *oney to the beeWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Either talk to her and see if she is keen or keep quiet and forget about it.

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

Jesus, what’s wrong with just enjoying the reunion

It’s time for romance and fun, focus on enjoying the time together again

Later you can very very very! gently bring this into a conversation one day

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By *r-Incognito OP   Man
over a year ago

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"I hear what your all saying, I think near the end of the relationship we just wernt getting on and sex was every blue moon. Whether this was because of our young family im not sure. Ive always been up for trying everything and experimenting but she hasnt and I feel embarrassed or scared of suggesting things. Its not a choice between being with her or playing with others. Its more that i want to be with her and for her to play with others infront of me. Its maybe because I want her to come out of her shell again and be back to how she was at the start possibly. At the start of our relationship it was fun and exciting and she was more willing to try new things but near the end it wasnt like that.

Ask her how she felt about things at the end of your relationship.

We were talking about this recently. The period where you have young children is very difficult for both partners. I know I've already said it but please discuss this with her. From where I'm sitting it sounds like you want her back under your conditions."

I wouldnt say conditions that just sounds bad. But I know whay youre saying. I think I will just see how it goes with me and her first as she may not even want to get back together. Then a once were settled I will suggest this.. although I dont know how im even going to bring up the topic

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I hear what your all saying, I think near the end of the relationship we just wernt getting on and sex was every blue moon. Whether this was because of our young family im not sure. Ive always been up for trying everything and experimenting but she hasnt and I feel embarrassed or scared of suggesting things. Its not a choice between being with her or playing with others. Its more that i want to be with her and for her to play with others infront of me. Its maybe because I want her to come out of her shell again and be back to how she was at the start possibly. At the start of our relationship it was fun and exciting and she was more willing to try new things but near the end it wasnt like that.

Ask her how she felt about things at the end of your relationship.

We were talking about this recently. The period where you have young children is very difficult for both partners. I know I've already said it but please discuss this with her. From where I'm sitting it sounds like you want her back under your conditions.

I wouldnt say conditions that just sounds bad. But I know whay youre saying. I think I will just see how it goes with me and her first as she may not even want to get back together. Then a once were settled I will suggest this.. although I dont know how im even going to bring up the topic "

Maybe make it a priority to work on communication then. Sexual communication is difficult for all the reasons you state, it doesn't get easier by keeping quiet.

Again, good luck

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

She's your EX.

If she doesn't like what you currently are and what your preferences are then she's NOT for you, move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ask yourself what she means to you.

If you want her back more than anything then quit here, get back together and put everything into making it work.

Once the relationship is rock solid then consider starting to introduce things if you feel confident that she will respond positively.

If you aren’t convinced she will then ask yourself what is more important to you, her or playing with others. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was always told exs are like fireworks.

Once one goes out never ever return to it or itll blow up in your face and leave you with scars for life.

However, communication is the only way you'll get thru this. You need to be bluntly honest with her if you've got any chance at all of this working. Plus u need to put to bed the reasons u split in the first place.

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By *r-Incognito OP   Man
over a year ago

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Thanks for all the advice everyone

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Usually I would say don't rekindle things with an ex unless you are pretty certain things will work out. This is even more important if you have children together....you said you had a young family I think.

As for burying your desires....you're 28, there's no need to think like that just yet!

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