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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It’s nearly always me who sends the first messaged to couples and single females but I never know what to say I usually start with

“Hey fancy a chat”

Then take it from there do u think that’s a good first line

Mrscxxx

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

I struggle with this too, I generally have a good read of the profile and try to message about something from there, failing that just a bit about me and what I'm looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I struggle with this too, I generally have a good read of the profile and try to message about something from there, failing that just a bit about me and what I'm looking for"

Must prefer this

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


" I usually start with

“Hey fancy a chat”

Then take it from there "

So if they reply "yes" then what do you say ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your doing it all wrong! You need to start with one of the following:

Do you do anal?

Nice tits love, can I cum on them?

Can I make you pregnant?

Do you do bareback?

All of those are guaranteed to get the chick hot and dripping wet for you, you will get a message back within minutes with their address and a full naked pic.

Or you could try trying to speak to people like your not trying to get into their knickers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your doing it all wrong! You need to start with one of the following:

Do you do anal?

Nice tits love, can I cum on them?

Can I make you pregnant?

Do you do bareback?

All of those are guaranteed to get the chick hot and dripping wet for you, you will get a message back within minutes with their address and a full naked pic.

Or you could try trying to speak to people like your not trying to get into their knickers "

This guy knows!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I struggle with this too, I generally have a good read of the profile and try to message about something from there, failing that just a bit about me and what I'm looking for"

Really, I go for the tried and tested copy and pasted introduction, at the end of the day it’s highly unlikely an opening message will persuade some one to meet you

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By *.gerri.xTV/TS
over a year ago

North west

Hi I have spent the last 3 evenings in your garden and touching myself whilst looking at you through the windows.

I really like what I've seen, please get back to me ASAP as your neighbours a bit creepy an keeps watching me.

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By *MBER KENTCouple
over a year ago

folkestone


"Hi I have spent the last 3 evenings in your garden and touching myself whilst looking at you through the windows.

I really like what I've seen, please get back to me ASAP as your neighbours a bit creepy an keeps watching me."

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By *o_eye_deerMan
over a year ago

The South Near That London


"I struggle with this too, I generally have a good read of the profile and try to message about something from there, failing that just a bit about me and what I'm looking for

Really, I go for the tried and tested copy and pasted introduction, at the end of the day it’s highly unlikely an opening message will persuade some one to meet you "

But it might make them more likely to engage in a conversation that could lead to a meet

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

Why don't people have a practice on this forum to gauge what others think of their efforts? Only if people volunteer obviously.

Just a thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s nearly always me who sends the first messaged to couples and single females but I never know what to say I usually start with

“Hey fancy a chat”

Then take it from there do u think that’s a good first line

Mrscxxx "

From what I've read on the forums, I think that line would be classed as lazy by many.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s nearly always me who sends the first messaged to couples and single females but I never know what to say I usually start with

“Hey fancy a chat”

Then take it from there do u think that’s a good first line

Mrscxxx "

no you have to stand out ,so I always look for something quirky on their profile or in the pics and comment on that ,this sort of advice is like gold dust ,donations direct to my inbox please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your doing it all wrong! You need to start with one of the following:

Do you do anal?

Nice tits love, can I cum on them?

Can I make you pregnant?

Do you do bareback?

All of those are guaranteed to get the chick hot and dripping wet for you, you will get a message back within minutes with their address and a full naked pic.

Or you could try trying to speak to people like your not trying to get into their knickers "

I always find

"Yo, hoe. Me like did ting that you doin'. You chat back yeah"

0.04% of the time, it works every time.

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By *he James gangCouple
over a year ago

NEWTOWNABBEY

"Fancy a chat" from guys get them nowhere with us, especially if they've no pics and their profile says straight. Whatever happened to "hello, my name's ?, I love your pics and profile and would be very interested in meeting you". Even if they're fab straight, say your bi in your message. A lot of men think they're entitled to a shag on here by saying "hi". They wonder why they don't get a response, strueth!

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside


"It’s nearly always me who sends the first messaged to couples and single females but I never know what to say I usually start with

“Hey fancy a chat”

Then take it from there do u think that’s a good first line

Mrscxxx "

i look at it this way... if i met someone i fancied in a bar or public place i would say something along those lines, hello my name is Peter, how are you... then if i got a reply id talk more. why some people insist on knowing a million details about the person(s) in the 1st message is beyond me, but each to there own i suppose

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi I have spent the last 3 evenings in your garden and touching myself whilst looking at you through the windows.

I really like what I've seen, please get back to me ASAP as your neighbours a bit creepy an keeps watching me."

Ha love this

Mrscxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone i will endeavour to change it.

Mrscxxx

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole


"Your doing it all wrong! You need to start with one of the following:

Do you do anal?

Nice tits love, can I cum on them?

Can I make you pregnant?

Do you do bareback?

All of those are guaranteed to get the chick hot and dripping wet for you, you will get a message back within minutes with their address and a full naked pic.

Or you could try trying to speak to people like your not trying to get into their knickers "

Yes yes yes ,,,,erm no! But yes, we're humans, I like the :- I'm looking for....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send a cock pic with the words "fuck now"... drives us ladies wild

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Send a cock pic with the words "fuck now"... drives us ladies wild "
wouldnt dream of sending a message like that, never know what to send though!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Send a cock pic with the words "fuck now"... drives us ladies wild "

I knew I was doing it wrong!!

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By *ongMavCouple
over a year ago

Near Newmarket


"Hi I have spent the last 3 evenings in your garden and touching myself whilst looking at you through the windows.

I really like what I've seen, please get back to me ASAP as your neighbours a bit creepy an keeps watching me."

Ahh love this lmao x

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I usually say something like 'I love your profile and see that you are fairly local/looking for similar things to me/are available when I am/hot as (delete as appropriate). Why don't you look at mine and get back to me if you fancy a social'.

I prefer to put the ball in their court so to speak

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Send a cock pic with the words "fuck now"... drives us ladies wild wouldnt dream of sending a message like that, never know what to send though!!!!!

"

A lot of men do.... believe me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Send a cock pic with the words "fuck now"... drives us ladies wild wouldnt dream of sending a message like that, never know what to send though!!!!!

A lot of men do.... believe me "

I’ve had a few myself I don’t particularly like cock pics and hubs definitely doesn’t like looking at other men’s cocks

Mrscxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi I have spent the last 3 evenings in your garden and touching myself whilst looking at you through the windows.

I really like what I've seen, please get back to me ASAP as your neighbours a bit creepy an keeps watching me."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually mention how nice there photos are for starters

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Hi, I like your profile because (if pictures, say something else as well). I think we have (sexual interests) in common. (possibly something else, like the type of meet you like, or if you think you share a sense of humour with the person you're messaging).

I tend not to fancy a chat with people tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no right answer to this. Even if the person you're messaging has spelled out what they want in an opening message (and most don't), there's an excellent chance it won't matter. Just be yourself and take the luck as it comes.

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