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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

so your talking to someone and every things going well you have exchanged photos and messages and looking to meet and then you see something that instantly puts you off!

do you tell them why or just leave it ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

make another excuse?

maybe if its something innocuous then just tell them.

if its something thats quite sensitive, then may be best not to mention that and use another reason (totm or they dont do what you want, maybe.

no reason to point out someones failings just because they dont float your boat.

they could be very well aware of what it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if it puts you off, then i suppose it's best to let them know that. i would hate to be given the run around. however, saying that, i have in the past been put off by something, but tried to keep the friendship without letting them know i wasn't interested in meeting...i wasn't brave enough to say as i thought it might upset them. honesty is the best, but hardest thing to do

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

we never arranged a meet! but i would have if i wasnt put off by it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we never arranged a meet! but i would have if i wasnt put off by it x"

what was the put off? x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"we never arranged a meet! but i would have if i wasnt put off by it x

what was the put off? x"

bareback sex

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

and no hes no longer on the site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we never arranged a meet! but i would have if i wasnt put off by it x

what was the put off? x

bareback sex "

ah yeah, that puts us off so dont worry.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"we never arranged a meet! but i would have if i wasnt put off by it x

what was the put off? x

bareback sex "

i would mention that cos it is on our profile,(safe sex only) .If it was a personal thing...looks or something i would make a polite excuse to save their feelings.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i did say that i was no longer interested in meeting and when he enquired why i explained that his latest verification put me off

"he said well we all cant be fussy"

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"so your talking to someone and every things going well you have exchanged photos and messages and looking to meet and then you see something that instantly puts you off!

do you tell them why or just leave it ?"

Well if its not personal no harm in telling them

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

One of my bugbears is when I'm chatting and arranging a possible meet and they ask if I can bring a female friend. I will always tell them thats put me off and see what they say, but it does mean I am very unlikely to meet them after that.

I should be enough for any red-blooded male!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

depends on what it was that put me off

Of course i would tell them straight away i was no longer interested in meeting but depending on what the reason was would depends if i told them way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of my bugbears is when I'm chatting and arranging a possible meet and they ask if I can bring a female friend. I will always tell them thats put me off and see what they say, but it does mean I am very unlikely to meet them after that.

I should be enough for any red-blooded male!! "

what puts me off is when im talking to a guy and they suggest going to a club together and then they say.....we can go our own way once inside

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"One of my bugbears is when I'm chatting and arranging a possible meet and they ask if I can bring a female friend. I will always tell them thats put me off and see what they say, but it does mean I am very unlikely to meet them after that.

I should be enough for any red-blooded male!!

what puts me off is when im talking to a guy and they suggest going to a club together and then they say.....we can go our own way once inside "

Oh I don't mind that, but if he's got in on a couples membership because of me I expect the first shag!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of my bugbears is when I'm chatting and arranging a possible meet and they ask if I can bring a female friend. I will always tell them thats put me off and see what they say, but it does mean I am very unlikely to meet them after that.

I should be enough for any red-blooded male!!

what puts me off is when im talking to a guy and they suggest going to a club together and then they say.....we can go our own way once inside

Oh I don't mind that, but if he's got in on a couples membership because of me I expect the first shag! "

I dont mind if its someone i know and i go as a couple and we play together and then do our own thing but when im talking to someone i have never met and they say that just makes me feel they are just using me to get in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you'll have to teach me.....instant turn off, but i tend to let it die a death rather than tell them!!

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By *woBiTwoCouple
over a year ago

north manchester

We were getting on well with a couple until we exchanged more pics, and they (she) responded that as Mrs 2bi had a tiny 'runway' of pubes (about 2" long x 1/2 " wide, just a decoration really) she wouldn't be able to meet or play with us. Personal taste and all that. (Had they been REALLY special, then Mrs would have offered to shave the rug off completely, but they weren't, so c'est la vie)

No probs - we would rather know why, however vague or personal, but we'd never lose sleep about it. So if you do want to duck out on us, please feel free to tell us why.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We were getting on well with a couple until we exchanged more pics, and they (she) responded that as Mrs 2bi had a tiny 'runway' of pubes (about 2" long x 1/2 " wide, just a decoration really) she wouldn't be able to meet or play with us. Personal taste and all that. (Had they been REALLY special, then Mrs would have offered to shave the rug off completely, but they weren't, so c'est la vie)

No probs - we would rather know why, however vague or personal, but we'd never lose sleep about it. So if you do want to duck out on us, please feel free to tell us why. "

ive had people mail me and ask me if i would remove my piercing if we met

My reply is always no, i have no problem with people not liking genital piercings, nor have i a problem with them not wanting to meet me because of it what i do have a problem with is people asking me to remove it, if you dont like me for any reason dont meet but me dont expect me to change to suit you

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"i did say that i was no longer interested in meeting and when he enquired why i explained that his latest verification put me off

"he said well we all cant be fussy""

classic...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mick arranged a meet with a couple just a few days ago I saw her on cam even spoke to her on the phone but I didn't check the profile assumed Mick had done that.I checked later and found the couple both wanted to play with me but Mick wasn't allowed to touch her.So we had to send them a nice message cancelling the meet and we did explain why.Mick is now banned from arranging meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always meet 1st for a coffee then arrange another meet if I want to play, long winded I know but as worked well for me in the past.

Usually if I've taken the time to exchange messages on here exchange numbers etc then it's a good chance I will meet as that all seems pointless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know it isn't easy to just say a polite no thank you ! Thinking it will cause offence but i do believe honesty is best .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know it isn't easy to just say a polite no thank you ! Thinking it will cause offence but i do believe honesty is best . "

Why is it so hard to to say a polite ?

We are all grown ups and I would expect we can all handle rejection .

I prefer to be told straight up instead of being ignored which is the case with many fems on here , that's just me

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"so your talking to someone and every things going well you have exchanged photos and messages and looking to meet and then you see something that instantly puts you off!

do you tell them why or just leave it ?"
Id tell em..honesty is best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I have already made arrangements when they send a photo of themselves and I didn't fancy them, I would still go ahead with the meet but know I wouldn't meet them again, luckily this hasn't happened often as the meet gets cancelled by them, or I decide that I really can't be bothered to meet them and text them to say I can't make it. I don't make arrangements to meet them again. Sometimes, in my defense, the photo isn't that good so I can't always tell until I meet them in person

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i was honest with him and made me laugh when he claimed he cant be fussy on here as hes a single man and would go bareback

hence why i was put off and no i didnt meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we would be polite and try to let them down nicely if it was something that could not be helped.

however if it was something they have lied or decieved us about, we would be straight to the point, before blocking and moving on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

got a new one

text speak and shit spelling

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