FabSwingers.com forum: Cleanliness at meets

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So..I'm someone who likes to be clean both before and after any meet. As like most ppl I work druing the day which means I sometimes meet on the way home (ususally because person is close to work)..is it wrong of me then to request using their shower to freshen up if I'm meeting someone at their place/at their hotel?

I do know some folks arent as bothered but its a personal preference so was wondering how others would feel?

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

If I were meeting someone on the way home from work and had a busy, sweaty day I'd certainly send a message asking if it would be OK to have a quick shower.

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds

I think it’s very considerate, and can’t see why anybody wouldn’t want that ?

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Nothing wrong with that. Always fun if they get in the shower with you too x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I was thinking the same...its just sometimes I feel like the other party must be thinking (why not just go home and shower) ...but yes I do msg first and ask if its ok to freshen up.

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"So..I'm someone who likes to be clean both before and after any meet. As like most ppl I work druing the day which means I sometimes meet on the way home (ususally because person is close to work)..is it wrong of me then to request using their shower to freshen up if I'm meeting someone at their place/at their hotel?

I do know some folks arent as bothered but its a personal preference so was wondering how others would feel?

I wouldn’t let anyone visit my home.

I would expect them to have organised themselves better re timing so they would go home and use their own facilities....

It’s not romantic on a meet them heading straight for the shower.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d ask and then invite them to join me

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Ive always said before a meet they are welcome to use the shower either before or after

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By *ig_Wam_BamCouple
over a year ago

Wigan

Not our thing

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By *onderstuff73mMan
over a year ago

Brum

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.

I always offer people a chance to freshen up, especially if they have travelled a long way. I'm surprised some don't accept the offer.

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By *ournemouthbusinessguyMan
over a year ago

Bournemouth

It's better to ask for a shower than be asked to shower

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I do know some folks arent as bothered but its a personal preference so was wondering how others would feel?

I wouldn’t let anyone visit my home.

I would expect them to have organised themselves better re timing so they would go home and use their own facilities....

It’s not romantic on a meet them heading straight for the shower.....

I should have clarified I dont ask to take a wash every time I meet someone. On pre-planned meets I do wash/freshen up...however as explained at the start some times when a sudden meet is on the cards I will ask.

As for meeting at home...thats a personal choice. Some don't but others do.

As for going home first, not always possible depending on where said meet is and espcially not if it's a sudden meet.

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By *iyuWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I don't think I would be bothered. I always shower before meets and after. Plus if you have a shower at theirs I mean, we can always join you when you're fresh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would ask no problem and expect them to ask too. Due to shifts I may be starting to see one of my regular partners after work so he knows I'll be requiring a shower first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

plus there is always the option for fun in the shower then lol

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By *atcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Suffolk - East Anglia

When we have a meet or go to a party even, I always ask to use their shower if we've left home (and showered) more than an hour. Yes, we like to be shower fresh when playing and we expect the same from whom we're playing with.

I absolutely hate staleness.

So OP, you are quite right, carry on showering.

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By *ames_dieselMan
over a year ago

London

Why not take a dump in their bog, cut your toenails and put on a pair of their socks whilst you’re at it!!

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I do know some folks arent as bothered but its a personal preference so was wondering how others would feel?

I wouldn’t let anyone visit my home.

I would expect them to have organised themselves better re timing so they would go home and use their own facilities....

It’s not romantic on a meet them heading straight for the shower.....

As for meeting at home...thats a personal choice. Some don't but others do.

As for going home first, not always possible depending on where said meet is and espcially not if it's a sudden meet.

OP so you are mainly talking about meeting someone you already know?

So with the sudden meets, you are happy to get a shower at theirs while leaving your wallet exposed while you are in the shower? Surely a security risk is that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why not take a dump in their bog, cut your toenails and put on a pair of their socks whilst you’re at it!! "

Save that for a second meet surely, have you no decorum?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd much prefer someone to ask to use the shower when time has been against them than to discover half way through a meet that they don't know what hygiene is

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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago

Germany / Manchester

I don't think there's anything wrong with requesting to freshen up and feel it demonstrates not only self-respect but also courtesy for the person; you are meeting.

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By *ilkenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I don't see it as wrong at all I wouldn't play with someone who is carrying a days grime and sweat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont meet at my home, but if that were the case, i would just meet them later, so they had time to go home and shower.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do know some folks arent as bothered but its a personal preference so was wondering how others would feel?

I am always looking to meet while I am working as a delivery driver , I’m not a smelly unclean guy so would thing it’s ok not to have to have showered immediately before meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont meet at my home, but if that were the case, i would just meet them later, so they had time to go home and shower. "

I will add, that if they are someone I've gotten to know. The situation would be different and they could happily use my shower, upon arrival

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I'd have that conversation first.

I have done this a couple of times.

It wasn't a problem. I recently had a candle lit bath ran for me accompanied by a glass of wine whist relaxing in the bath. Now that was agood night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has anyone woke up in the morning and ended up having sex with there partner ?

Did you both get up and have a shower before you have sex or Was it spontaneous ?

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By *ames_dieselMan
over a year ago

London

"Why not take a dump in their bog, cut your toenails and put on a pair of their socks whilst you’re at it!!

Save that for a second meet surely, have you no decorum?

Then really make yourself comfortable. Perhaps take a short nap, 20 minutes of home pilates and make a sandwich...ahhh home at last!

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Some of us have long commutes. For me, nipping home for a shower in order to meet someone near my place of work would defeat the purpose of meeting near work by introducing a two and a half hour round trip.

I get the impression OP is in a similar situation.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I do know some folks arent as bothered but its a personal preference so was wondering how others would feel?

Why I don't meet people after work or who travel far to me. I don't want stinky people and I'm not providing washing facilities!

Afterwards, they can freshen up before leaving after I've dirtied them!

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

Op I can't se why that would be a problem. I'd prefer someone to shower than not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do know some folks arent as bothered but its a personal preference so was wondering how others would feel?

I wouldn’t let anyone visit my home.

I would expect them to have organised themselves better re timing so they would go home and use their own facilities....

It’s not romantic on a meet them heading straight for the shower.....

As for meeting at home...thats a personal choice. Some don't but others do.

As for going home first, not always possible depending on where said meet is and espcially not if it's a sudden meet.

OP so you are mainly talking about meeting someone you already know?

So with the sudden meets, you are happy to get a shower at theirs while leaving your wallet exposed while you are in the shower? Surely a security risk is that? "

You know you can take your belongings into a bathroom and lock the door.

He might not get a second chance if he smells of sweaty arse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do know some folks arent as bothered but its a personal preference so was wondering how others would feel?

Why I don't meet people after work or who travel far to me. I don't want stinky people and I'm not providing washing facilities!

Afterwards, they can freshen up before leaving after I've dirtied them!

Is your water on a meter?

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I do know some folks arent as bothered but its a personal preference so was wondering how others would feel?

I wouldn’t let anyone visit my home.

I would expect them to have organised themselves better re timing so they would go home and use their own facilities....

It’s not romantic on a meet them heading straight for the shower.....

As for meeting at home...thats a personal choice. Some don't but others do.

As for going home first, not always possible depending on where said meet is and espcially not if it's a sudden meet.

OP so you are mainly talking about meeting someone you already know?

So with the sudden meets, you are happy to get a shower at theirs while leaving your wallet exposed while you are in the shower? Surely a security risk is that?

You know you can take your belongings into a bathroom and lock the door.

He might not get a second chance if he smells of sweaty arse."

There may not be a lock on the door and even if the bag was in the bathroom with him he is in the shower. I do know someone this happened to.....

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

We've had many a meet where the chap is on way home. We don't mind at all them asking to take a shower, before we play.

It's not unheard of for them to request another before they leave. So not to smell of my perfume ect.

I would rather they request a shower than not!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone woke up in the morning and ended up having sex with there partner ?

Did you both get up and have a shower before you have sex or Was it spontaneous ? "

I think in that situation it would be shower after for me, you'd lose some of the snuggliness otherwise

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

I do know some folks arent as bothered but its a personal preference so was wondering how others would feel?

I'm liking your thinking it's a very subtle way of hinting that they also shower first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's better to ask for a shower than be asked to shower

This

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

I always ask for a shower even though I am clean as nothing beats a clean fresh shower smell

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

Why not just go home and return looking and smelling great

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By *ap AdgeMan
over a year ago

Wirral

have never been refused a shower and even invited them in to join me nothing better than being clean and fresh and smelling nice too ??

Sometimes I might have my own big bath sheet towel too

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By *ap AdgeMan
over a year ago

Wirral

have never been refused a shower and even invited them in to join me nothing better than being clean and fresh and smelling nice too ??

Sometimes I might have my own big bath sheet towel too

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'd expect people to be freshly cleaned for a meet and generally to make their own arrangements. It's feasible to shower at your gym or you could visit a public swimming pool, to shower, if you weren't a gym member. I don't rule out people showering at mine but it's generally better if people arrive and are good to go, for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all... I'd get in with them

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