FabSwingers.com forum: Moths Wings Burn On A Flame

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ive not as yet dipped my toe as far as playing with another couple,there have been a few ive been tempted by,but it never really happened.I do get quite a few couples viewing my profile,but i once told something by a female part of a couple before she bid me best wishes.She said that most male parts of a couple wouldnt let their wifes play anywhere me because,in her opinion, it was clear that most of my veris were from people a bit smitten with me, and as such it was seen almost as " a little dangerous" to let a partner too close. Is this really part and parcel of how couples feel. If it was just " oh yeah great shag,had me dripping like a fucked fridge" and such other somewhat "cold" references would the other part of the couple feel less defensive. Im not trying to offend anyone one here thats in a couple, just trying to understand a little better maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all. First rule of swinging as a couple is total trust in each other. Add to that the fact that most take Verri's with a pinch of salt anyway and your problem doesn't exist.

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By *ohjaneCouple
over a year ago

south staffs

Nope, I agree with Terry and June.

If a couple suffers from insecurity to the point where positive prose from someone they don't know can put them off meeting a person, then maybe they have some talking and re-thinking to do before continuing on a swinging site.

Just my penny's worth.

Jane x

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"Nope, I agree with Terry and June.

Just my penny's worth.

Jane x"

Yup...one thing about your veris, i never like to see the same ppl repeating over and over again...but thats my personal opinion.

We have quite a few repeats, but one veri from each person we meet...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

that would depend, there are veris i dont show, as in reality there was no connection for me, so someone can say " oh cant wait to meet again and get to grips with him " (as i always meet socailly first)but i wouldnt out that up as its just flaunting somebodys feeling that its never going to any further with, otherwise it could just look like a long list that goes on forever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

for us it wouldnt be a problem playign with someone who has really good verifications from people who clearly like them,, it means your obviously a nice, respectful and well repected man.

some couples are obviously a bit insecure... but do you want to play with people like that anyway ? i know i wouldnt.

if you want to meet with couples then go for it.. nothing wrong with being a well liked guy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to say, just looked at your profile out of curiosity, and well.... congratulations, can you please stay on the Forums to deal with all the single guys who can't get a meet

You could probably make a living out of seminars

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"that would depend, there are veris i dont show, as in reality there was no connection for me, so someone can say " oh cant wait to meet again and get to grips with him " (as i always meet socailly first)but i wouldnt out that up as its just flaunting somebodys feeling that its never going to any further with, otherwise it could just look like a long list that goes on forever"

Up to u hun, it ,to me just seems a bit...

Most on there are from the same 3 women, since they left a veri we know they had fun...putting up repeats just comes across as look at me...byt its your profile

And whats wrong with a long list that goes on forever ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

many thanks Mrs Medford

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like someone else said, I'm not keen on the repeat veri - it smacks a little of marking of territory ("He may meet you but it's me he's meeting regularly").

May I suggest though that any veri issue may be eclipsed by another you raise in your main profile - not having a go but just saying you may find a number of people who just walk on by after that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

and they would well be in their right Ms Brighton, that is their choice. I hide nothing on my profile, i just try to be as upfront aspossible,What i am asking is not really related to my profile more to do with the question raised about verifications, Its purpose is not a " whhh-hooh look at me", but trying to get an understanding of how couples feel or react

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By *inkershoes69Woman
over a year ago

maidstone

one thing put me off your veris, only read one the word "honest" x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"and they would well be in their right Ms Brighton, that is their choice. I hide nothing on my profile, i just try to be as upfront aspossible,What i am asking is not really related to my profile more to do with the question raised about verifications, Its purpose is not a " whhh-hooh look at me", but trying to get an understanding of how couples feel or react"

I know it was mainly a question about how couples feel about verifications, wasn't having a go like I said, was just commenting as you mentioned that meeting a couple hadn't happened for you although several had looked at your profile. So it just came to mind.

Oh, and look again at the name

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Well I am not too bothered when there are repeat veris, having had a few myself (although I do try and have one offs between regulars

) but I'm not sure that many regular swinging couples would have a problem with the lady falling in love. Sure, it happens, and there is a post on the forums about that very subject, but to be honest the best people to ask about why you might not get meets is not the woman who might want to keep you to herself, but the couples you struggle to meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

ah my apologies,i maybe need to join hornydyslexicswingers.com

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ah my apologies,i maybe need to join hornydyslexicswingers.com"

Nay drama

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

sorry, just to clarify,ive not been bombarding couples for meets and being turned down,to try and put it delicatly ,ive " sniffed" a few that ticked a lot of my boxes, but its never really come together, for some of the reasons ive stated

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over a year ago

I think its how you feel around the couple that matters more than one womans comment about how some couples are and how they play

Some you will feel a natural ease around and some you won't its the same with anyone that you choose to meet

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"sorry, just to clarify,ive not been bombarding couples for meets and being turned down,to try and put it delicatly ,ive " sniffed" a few that ticked a lot of my boxes, but its never really come together, for some of the reasons ive stated"

I'll agree that couples are hard to meet, mainly because there are two people to please!

What you might have to worry about is if the bloke falls for you.

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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago

from a town near you

i dont mind repeat veriys,there has to be a connection and a repeat veriy shows there was.im not a couple though so probably not the one to ask

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i must say i have to agree, if i see just the one veri, i do sometimes think, yeah they said its was good but they may not have felt it worthy of a return visit.If somebody just had a list of veris off just one other id just think" move in together" but otherwise its a sign of somebody wishing to reitterate their feelings

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