FabSwingers.com forum: good looks or sexual performance? discuss

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

a question for all to consider. what do you prefer, good look sor sexual performance. i have met some really fit women that most guys would dream of shagging but the sex hasnt been that good. on the other hand i have sen soem women who would not be put in the beauty pile but have good personalities and quite frankly fuck like a demon. personally i would sacrifice the looks for a dirty bird anytime... what dya think?

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"a question for all to consider. what do you prefer, good look sor sexual performance. i have met some really fit women that most guys would dream of shagging but the sex hasnt been that good. on the other hand i have sen soem women who would not be put in the beauty pile but have good personalities and quite frankly fuck like a demon. personally i would sacrifice the looks for a dirty bird anytime... what dya think?

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Did ya fuck the minger doggy style?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite a good topic for discussion...

I would say most (not all) people need a certain element of attraction to someone physically to enjoy the sex, that said I'm an ugly bugger and people only sleep with me because of my reputation for sexual performance

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i never said they were mingers. i agree with other poster that there needs to be some attraction physically but given a stunner with no fizz or a girl next door type who bangs like a sh**house door. which one would you go for. same question applies to the ladies too bu the way.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"i never said they were mingers. i agree with other poster that there needs to be some attraction physically but given a stunner with no fizz or a girl next door type who bangs like a sh**house door. which one would you go for. same question applies to the ladies too bu the way.

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I wouldnt know if they were a good fuck by looking at em..so you dont actually kniw how good they are til they get nekkid....so i will still be shallow and go on looks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

oh femme how shallow. lol....how are the ugly guys like us to get a look in then??

i am no adonis and neither do i have 9 inches and fuck like a duracell bunny but i am considerate lover and have to say never failed to satisfy a sexual partner.

i have had some of the best sex ever with girls who you may not consider to be beauties and the opposite with some really pretty girls. i still have tastes though and wouldnt just fuck anything but prefer the sexual thrill more than the model looks. on the other hand put good looks and a dirty mind together and Hey Presto...

but sadly not usually the case

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"oh femme how shallow. lol....how are the ugly guys like us to get a look in then??

i am no adonis and neither do i have 9 inches and fuck like a duracell bunny but i am considerate lover and have to say never failed to satisfy a sexual partner.

but sadly not usually the case

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I suppose to answer the question properly one would have to define what one describes as "good looking" and a "good shag"....this varies greatly, i have in the past taken far too much notice of "great shag" verifications and been very disappointed.....so realistically i would say i would kiss lots of princes and come across one or two frogs in the process..but i would still choose looks first...its only a shag so why would one not? lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i agree femme. verifications dont always mean anything. what is a good shag to one is a crap one to another. i just go with the flow and some work and others dont. there has to be chemistry between you to heighten the experience. i have had some duff ones and they probably think i am crap shag. its nice finding out though....

keep going for the good looking ones and one day you may find one that shags as well as an ugly git like me...

take care xx

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"i agree femme. verifications dont always mean anything. what is a good shag to one is a crap one to another. i just go with the flow and some work and others dont. there has to be chemistry between you to heighten the experience. i have had some duff ones and they probably think i am crap shag. its nice finding out though....

keep going for the good looking ones and one day you may find one that shags as well as an ugly git like me...

take care xx"
Well as you have no public pics i will have to take your word for it...happy shagging!xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats a really hard one to answer because if i didnt fancy them i wouldnt shag them to know if they was a good fuck or not

So really not sure how to answer that lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

believe me i am an ugly fucker...

but i shall keep shagging all the same. whenever anyone will have me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ahh read that after my first reply

In that case id go for the stunner becase your only as good as the person your shagging so i give everyone 10 out of 10

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By *olfgangvwMan
over a year ago

Mansfield

You don't look at the mantelpiece when stoking the fire!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You don't look at the mantelpiece when stoking the fire!"

i do! i love looking up at a mans face while im sucking his cock

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"You don't look at the mantelpiece when stoking the fire!"
must be central heating then

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"a question for all to consider. Thats a really hard one to answer because if i didnt fancy them i wouldnt shag them to know if they was a good fuck or not

So really not sure how to answer that lol

i know its hard question which is why i asked it

now with you it wouldnt matter cos your fit anyway. methinks you come into the good looks and good shag catagory....i certainly wouldnt fail to turn up if we agreed to meet. i seen you in chat many times and you been responsible for many satisfying self sex sessions. i blew a load over my laptop once and had to get a new keyboard

the guy at the shop ooked at me really funny when he took it apart..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have to find them attractive or i wont meet or fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally we go for people who haven't got their arses wedged up their backsides. Who know how to have a laugh and can be silly and stupid. I find this is a good way to see if people are good in bed or not. There has to be an attraction but I find peoples looks can improve as you get to know the inner them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"a question for all to consider. Thats a really hard one to answer because if i didnt fancy them i wouldnt shag them to know if they was a good fuck or not

So really not sure how to answer that lol

i know its hard question which is why i asked it

the guy at the shop ooked at me really funny when he took it apart.."

are you flirting with me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good looks in my experience, i get more turned on and enjoy it more.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Well, what I find attractive might not be what everyone else finds attractive. In fact its more than likely I'll go for someone more (lets be tactful) unconventional looking. Therefore to me, as long as I have earth-shattering orgasms, whether with fingers, tongue or cock, I don't really care too much what people look like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with the ladies here, I don't know if he's a good shag just from his looks. So obviously I would go with looks and chemistry first. Doesn't have to be an adonis but I have to fancy him.

And I love looking at their faces too, so no way I just close my eyes and enjoy having my brains fucked out by an ugly mutt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You don't look at the mantelpiece when stoking the fire!"

True. I like men with nice hair though, i like to feel it if its nice and soft.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally we go for people who haven't got their arses wedged up their backsides. Who know how to have a laugh and can be silly and stupid. I find this is a good way to see if people are good in bed or not. There has to be an attraction but I find peoples looks can improve as you get to know the inner them.

yes this is true for me it has to be a good mix of looks and personality, ive met guys in the past who have been really good looking but they know it and in my opinion nothing is more off putting than someone who is so self obsessed they forget they are with someone else

But also no matter how nice a person is if theres no attraction its not going to happen

So has to be a good mix of both.....then i find out what they are like in bed

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I agree with the ladies here, I don't know if he's a good shag just from his looks. So obviously I would go with looks and chemistry first. Doesn't have to be an adonis but I have to fancy him.

And I love looking at their faces too, so no way I just close my eyes and enjoy having my brains fucked out by an ugly mutt

that counts me out then

i do have to find someone facially attractive to be honest, its all in the eyes for me. sexy eyes do it everytime. i love to look at a woman when i have sex especially love looking into their eyes when they orgasm. really horny....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"a question for all to consider. Thats a really hard one to answer because if i didnt fancy them i wouldnt shag them to know if they was a good fuck or not

So really not sure how to answer that lol

i know its hard question which is why i asked it

the guy at the shop ooked at me really funny when he took it apart..

are you flirting with me?

eeerrr yes i am..

would love to meet you...i love a lady that gets a little damp shall we say...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

eye contact during any sexual act be is important so its in the eyes for me -

If you need a perfect example of the 'attractive woman' crap shag paradox you just need to watch the Paris Hilton porno tape - a skinny blonde considered by the mainstream to be attractive (I cant stand her, far to skinny and vapid for my liking) who looks like she would rather be anywhere else, no thank you Paris....give me a good lay any day of the week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree with the ladies here, I don't know if he's a good shag just from his looks. So obviously I would go with looks and chemistry first. Doesn't have to be an adonis but I have to fancy him.

And I love looking at their faces too, so no way I just close my eyes and enjoy having my brains fucked out by an ugly mutt

that counts me out then

I didn't talk about you when I mentioned the ugly mutt haha!!

I'm quite sure I close my eyes when I orgasm, so you wouldn't be able to look into my (so they say) very sexy eyes.

the first thing we see is the physical appearance and if I'm attracted to that and I get along with them ... happy days. If he's just handsome but an arrogant twat, no way he's coming close to my Mary lol

A man I don't really find sexy, can become more attractive by making me laugh.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

You are only going to fuck someone that you find attractive anyway,unless you're the any holes a goal type

Whether they turn out to be a good fuck is something you don't know until the deed is done

Sometimes its going to be a pleasant surprise and sometimes its not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"eye contact during any sexual act be is important so its in the eyes for me -

Have to agree with you. A naughty look and a twinkle in the eye can turn me to mush! Couldn't imagine having sex with someone who didn't know how to hold eye contact or someone boss eyed, how off putting would that be. Err, love, I'm over this way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would hazard a guess there are as many shit ugly shags as there are shit good looking shags.

Isn't it all about what you put in though that's where the term "she was responsive" comes from! Ie responsive to how good you were at stimulating her in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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" I didn't talk about you when I mentioned the ugly mutt haha!!

I'm quite sure I close my eyes when I orgasm, so you wouldn't be able to look into my (so they say) very sexy eyes.

A man I don't really find sexy, can become more attractive by making me laugh.

try keeping your eyes open next time especially if you can come together. it really is the sexiest thing. your pupils dilate and your eyes sparkle when you orgasm.... try it..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

try keeping your eyes open next time especially if you can come together. it really is the sexiest thing. your pupils dilate and your eyes sparkle when you orgasm.... try it..

I will try it! I thought they roll to the back of my head lol

Btw... I'm glad that the boys still consider having fun with the not so perfect ladies like me. Otherwise picky girls like me would never get laid

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

try keeping your eyes open next time especially if you can come together. it really is the sexiest thing. your pupils dilate and your eyes sparkle when you orgasm.... try it..

I will try it! I thought they roll to the back of my head lol

Btw... I'm glad that the boys still consider having fun with the not so perfect ladies like me. Otherwise picky girls like me would never get laid

looking at your pics i think you have the assets to attract a lot of guys... oh how shallow of me

you take care

remember its in the eyes... really horny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

eye contact can drive me crazy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's only something I could really decide about someone after the event, but to be honest then with perfect hindisght, I would be selecting the person to ask back who I had the best time with, and that would be regardless of any attribute other than purely that.

Initially it's an unknown

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"eye contact can drive me crazy

me too

maybe our eyes could make contact one day...

to test out the theory only of course...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its a bit more than that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont actually think theres such a thing as a shit shag i think its more whats compatable for you

I have walked away from some meets thinking i was crap because i just didnt click with who i was with, you can only do what you do and depending on how the other persons responds will be the differance between you being a top athlete shagger and walking away shaking your head

It takes two people to make a good session also takes two to make a bad one

I just see a bad session as meeting someone who i wasnt sexually compatable with not as meeting someone whos crap in bed

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

I have yet to meet someone that gives me good sex. ..only had 3

none have been spectacular.

Strikes me all men think they Gods gift. Would rather speak to another women to find out their opinion . I think looks less important we all see something different in each other that pleases. good job cos im no oil painting well maybe picasso would see something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have yet to meet someone that gives me good sex. ..only had 3

none have been spectacular.

Im firmly of the belief that if you dont learn something new from each person you fuck your not doing it right. Everyone is different everyone like slightly different things - sexual communication is key - one of the things you can tell form the eyes is if what your doing is ok, good or mind blowing, learning what makes your partner curl her(or his) toes makes it all the more fun for both of you - I get off on making a woman cum - that is always my goal when it comes to sex and fooling around so if your not getting off on it I am not....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have yet to meet someone that gives me good sex. ..only had 3

none have been spectacular.

its always a complicated thing tho letting your sexual partner know what you like

I have met a few guys off here who just have not done it for me and when i have tried to suggest they try something else or politely told them im not enjoying what they are doing they have got very offended and some have actually stopped all together

Remember this is swinging lots of people dont want to hear they are doing it wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its always a complicated thing tho letting your sexual partner know what you like

Remember this is swinging lots of people dont want to hear they are doing it wrong"

Some swingers want to just cum, some want to enjoy sex with like minded individuals (or groups

) Im in the 2nd category, I can imagine those with a fragile ego or a false sense of confidence in their abilities may become offended if you told them that what they are doing just isn't right for you - I think the tricky part is knowing then you are with someone who will learn from your direction and suggestion (a giver) and when your with a taker - but your right its not always easy to make that distinction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have yet to meet someone that gives me good sex. ..only had 3

none have been spectacular.

its always a complicated thing tho letting your sexual partner know what you like

Remember this is swinging lots of people dont want to hear they are doing it wrong"

thing is the way they're doing it may have worked for one woman and they stick to it and think they know what they're doing. Communication is really the key here. I find it very useful to talk beforehand what we like, it makes things easier.

I've had all kinds of experiences. From plain awful to mind blowing. But in this swinger world there's not really time to get to know each other better to improve... unless you build up a fuck buddy relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have yet to meet someone that gives me good sex. ..only had 3

none have been spectacular.

its always a complicated thing tho letting your sexual partner know what you like

Remember this is swinging lots of people dont want to hear they are doing it wrong

definitely not 'one method fits all'

and you're right the feedback evolves with time, it's not something you're always going to get with a one off NSA meeting. I think we all like it our own favourite ways really...

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to be fair you cant really know what someones like (apart from taking their verifcations at face value) to know what they like in bed and how dirty

to be fair on a website like this, most of the women that play are quite open to alot of things and arnt usually that shy at not doing stuff that maybe some girlfriends might say no to!

and gotta agree with the lass above, its more what your compatible with, see im quite ruff n ready, go for ages, really like to test someone to see how much of me i can take. they lots of lasses ive been with that love this and usually get really great comments afterwards or they shocked in a good way.

but then ive also been with one lass of a dating site who just wanted nsa and she said thats everything she had always been looking for in a man, and after i gave her it she looked completeley shocked and shaken and didnt stay the night as planned lol!

now i know i gave her my a game then! but like the lady above says we wernt compatible. i just wished she never bigged it up then i would of done my usually and saved that in the tank till ive tested the waters to how far they like to go haha!

same with other people, like alot of my mates hate a lass who will just lie there and let the guy do all the work, but for me i love something like this letting me take charge and not moving around all the time as sometimes it can put me off what im trying to do!

horses for courses everyones different! some like a quick 5-10 min thumble, some like it soft, some like it rough, some are greedy and dont wanna stop!

one persons shit fuck is anothers fantasy! fact!

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By *aughtydesiresCouple
over a year ago

North West

In swing, certainly, the first visual contact is important and for me, if there isn't a minimal attraction, base on he's look, attitude, posture, whatever.. I will not go further, therefore all the other qualities will remain hidden..That doesn't mean that we are looking for Adonis/Aphrodite or models in here. I don't know, maybe is a women thing, but I have like a sixth sense that tells me if someone will be compatible with me and if that one will give me a good shag or not. Otherwise, the best aphrodisiac ever is love, but, at least for me is not the case in here, and certainly is not what we are looking for in swinging. To conclude .. looks is important, for us the visual contact and the first impression being the ground and the starting point for everything else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The answer is it all depends. Ideally it has to be good sex, but there has to be some sort of initial attraction of some sort, be it amazing personality (being witty and intelligent are very attractive to me) or good looks. All I ask is that my partners look after their bodies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As already stated you need to be attracted 1st before you can find out if someone is a good shag. Even if you did try and have sex with someone you didn't fancy the problem is you wouldn't enjoy it. Question to ask should really be is it looks you go for or a good personality?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As already stated you need to be attracted 1st before you can find out if someone is a good shag. Even if you did try and have sex with someone you didn't fancy the problem is you wouldn't enjoy it. Question to ask should really be is it looks you go for or a good personality?"

I have had sex with people i didnt fancy and did enjoy it, just prefer to have it with men i do fancy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well a pretty face doesn't mean your a good fuck !

I just like people to make the best of themselves and more turned off how they present themselves rather than drop dead pretty..had amazing sex with a lovely lady a few years ago ( at a club)who had a great figure but was quite mumsy and plain and was fantastic sexually and never to be forgotten...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not good looking and I don't perform very well .

Variety is the spice of life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am not good looking and I don't perform very well .

Variety is the spice of life

On some days , I do scrub up quite well and perform to a consistent mediocrity

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

Well im totally gorgeous and an amazing shag - in fact the only teensy little thing that detracts from my complete and utter perfection is my excessive modesty and a slight tendency to put myself down.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hmm not fussed about average looks just give me the body of a goddess

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley

Seeing that I am blind prefer them to smell nice than look stunning but a good sense of humor really helps too

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley

"Well im totally gorgeous and an amazing shag - in fact the only teensy little thing that detracts from my complete and utter perfection is my excessive modesty and a slight tendency to put myself down.....

And the song goes " oh lord it's hard to be humble when you are prefect in everyway" lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seeing that I am blind prefer them to smell nice than look stunning but a good sense of humor really helps too"

thats me out

x no sense of hunour

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Would never sleep with someone I didn't find attractive so I suppose my answer would be, I'd need both

Lins

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now that I have read the original post , properly , my answer ...

I am very easily pleased so I demand to have BOTH !!!

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By *waymanMan
over a year ago

newcastle

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Personally, I'd be too worried about why there isn't a spring on the shithouse door to put up a good performance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A good or bad fuck isn't always down to the other person.

Some people get the best out of others.

;-)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a bad fuck isnt always the blame of one person could be nerves or he/she doesnt do it for you or they get boring

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yer right, works for men too.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

What if you go for the sexual performance and ignore the looks, only to find they lied about being good in bed... then you end up having crap sex with a minger.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Looks... if they do turn out to be crap in bed and least you can look at them whilst you wank.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looks... if they do turn out to be crap in bed and least you can look at them whilst you wank."

killed me

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