FabSwingers.com forum: Higher or lower standards?

By *ildwanders OP Man
over a year ago

saltburn by the sea

So do people think Fab Swingers makes you raise your standards or lower then in terms of chosen lovers?

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"So do people think Fab Swingers makes you raise your standards or lower then in terms of chosen lovers?

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No. But then I’m not the judgemental type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do we get a brucie bonus if we play our cards right?

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

My 'standards' are the same on here as they are in real life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No different to normal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Basic law of supply and demand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just have one set of standards be it here on another site or out there in the real world. If you change them all the time then you dont have standards at all.

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By *ikeandmollyCouple
over a year ago

swindon

We like who we like in this life or the other, people are people as long as your not a dick then it’s all good.

Molly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As monkey concisely said, supply and demand takes a huge toll on the sexual marketplace of Fab.

Anyone seeking a female has to lower their standards from what they can achieve in any other sphere (this goes for couples as much as single guys) not just in looks but in terms of manners and disrespect.

Anyone seeking a male can command an extremely inflated sexual price for their time. These people think nothing of demanding an athletic body type when they are a double airline seat, an intelligent playmate when they can't even spellcheck their profile and a laundry list of other demands some of which would be unreasonable for a supermodel to demand.

For us, do we lower our standards... Yes but only to their minimum levels. We aren't a free for all but we do pay attention to people we might not otherwise due to market realities.

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By *andy cane321Couple
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Its not really about standards, if we like someone enough to have sex with then we will consider meeting, i think hygiene standards are a higher priority for us, We arn't looking for someone to date or a life partner we here for our own sexual gratification, so as long as we both agree we would have sex with someone then thats enough for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't say my standards lower but I might make a quicker decision on fab than in real life where I would spend some time to chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Raised the standard within me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go for the same kind of guy that I would outside of fab. I like what I like and can’t change that nor do I need to.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"I go for the same kind of guy that I would outside of fab. I like what I like and can’t change that nor do I need to. "

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By *andy cane321Couple
over a year ago

Aylesbury

"I go for the same kind of guy that I would outside of fab. I like what I like and can’t change that nor do I need to. "

Being a single woman or couple on fab with the ratio of men, you really do get the pick of the bunch, it like being a kid in a sweet shop, thi only problem is actually getting to meet them lol, always a barrier somewhere, ie to far, work commitments, cancellation, life in general lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I go for the same kind of guy that I would outside of fab. I like what I like and can’t change that nor do I need to.

You see, I rarely see many that I’m attracted to on here. I don’t get excited like a kid in a sweet shop. Occasionally the odd guy I like the look of comes along.

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

No,if we like the look of someone then we'd give them a chance but we'd have to be attracted to them,we could just fuck for the sake of it

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"No,if we like the look of someone then we'd give them a chance but we'd have to be attracted to them,we could just fuck for the sake of it "

*Couldn't just fuck for the sake of it sorry

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By *andy cane321Couple
over a year ago

Aylesbury

"I go for the same kind of guy that I would outside of fab. I like what I like and can’t change that nor do I need to.

You see, I rarely see many that I’m attracted to on here. I don’t get excited like a kid in a sweet shop. Occasionally the odd guy I like the look of comes along. "

Yes there's also that fact they have to be attractive in the first place, add that to the mix above its really quite difficult to actually get a meet lol

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I meet and get along with people with fairly consistent standards, from whatever source - no need to lower standards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So do people think Fab Swingers makes you raise your standards or lower then in terms of chosen lovers?

Thoughts on a postcard

No but I do think some though never had standards in the first place.

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By *attooedBBWWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

I have the same standards for meets, but I’ve lowered for things like parties and gangbangs as it’s less of a one on one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My standards are sky-high wherever I am

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter

I'm either attracted to someone or I'm not. I'd rather have a wank and go to sleep than stick my bits in someone I'm not attracted to just so I could say I got laid... I don't understand people whose sex drive leads them to sex with people/objects they would normally find repulsive...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm either attracted to someone or I'm not. I'd rather have a wank and go to sleep than stick my bits in someone I'm not attracted to just so I could say I got laid... I don't understand people whose sex drive leads them to sex with people/objects they would normally find repulsive... "

Sex drive can make the unattractive attractive for a short period of time :- )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My 'standards' are the same on here as they are in real life. "

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter

Sex drive can make the unattractive attractive for a short period of time :- )"

For some, maybe. But for me if the chemistry works then that is attraction. Someone doesn't need to be an oil painting to have animal magnetism, x-factor or whatever you want to call it. But then again surely that is the whole point of casual sex - you can enjoy it for its own sake without worrying what the kids will end up looking and acting like. Obviously if I was choosing a life partner to have kids with, I'd be looking for a very different set of attributes from casual partners, FWBs etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same standards as real life!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive always been a fussy bastard, hence why im nearing 43 and still single.

Ive only ever had 2 relationships in my life too.

Unfortunately for me, i cannot attract those on Fab that i really fancy and therefore have accepted meets with women/couples i wouldn't normally go for in real life.

Somewhat sad but it is what it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *piritsonfabCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

That's an interesting question. I tend to find it's more down to how their hands feel on me and their manner - which I wouldn't realistically find out anywhere else other than a club!!

I have surprised myself a lot in the past few weeks with really hot encounters with people I wouldn't have said were "my type". But their hands on me felt great and I had a hot time

So....not sure if that's anything to do with standards or just being open to new things. Cleanliness and smelliness is a must though obvs. They don't need to be intelligent or have my world views in order to feel good, and I may never see them again....so....

Longer term friends yes we'd have to be somewhat similar to click enough for more than a one off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My 'standards' are the same on here as they are in real life. "
This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not dropping my standard for anyone. I may be desperate but a shit shag is worse than no shag.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I find the "I have to lower my standards here" thing quite daft. People do realise that sex isn't compulsory or necessary for survival, right? If you don't like someone, don't meet them. (and yes, I'm a woman and can choose fairly freely, but I did join fully prepared to not find anyone I was happy with and give up after awhile. I had no idea what this was about!)

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

My standards are the same regardless of what is on offer, I know what I want and also what I deserve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lower since the things i'm looking for here are different than the things i'm looking for in a relationship

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

Same as in "real life", wouldn't have sex with a moose just because it's got a cock ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's made me review my preferences, I don't know whether that's the same thing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive always been a fussy bastard, hence why im nearing 43 and still single.

Ive only ever had 2 relationships in my life too.

Unfortunately for me, i cannot attract those on Fab that i really fancy and therefore have accepted meets with women/couples i wouldn't normally go for in real life.

Somewhat sad but it is what it is.

Honest but brutal to anyone that you have met and read this.

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

I raise my standards to unrealistic levels and punch way above my weight on Fab with some delightful ladies. Some would say they are perfect in every way. In real life and in relationships I often go as low as my stomach can stand. Usually I end up with the neurotic spawn of satan. If my fab meets have read this, good. If my exes have read this, even better!

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By *piritsonfabCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I raise my standards to unrealistic levels and punch way above my weight on Fab with some delightful ladies. Some would say they are perfect in every way. In real life and in relationships I often go as low as my stomach can stand. Usually I end up with the neurotic spawn of satan. If my fab meets have read this, good. If my exes have read this, even better!

Lol

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

Being on Fabs makes no difference to my "standards"...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive always been a fussy bastard, hence why im nearing 43 and still single.

Ive only ever had 2 relationships in my life too.

Unfortunately for me, i cannot attract those on Fab that i really fancy and therefore have accepted meets with women/couples i wouldn't normally go for in real life.

Somewhat sad but it is what it is.

Honest but brutal to anyone that you have met and read this. "

I dont beat around the bush. Im an honest guy. Simply answering and putting my situation forward to a genuine post

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

"As monkey concisely said, supply and demand takes a huge toll on the sexual marketplace of Fab.

For us, do we lower our standards... Yes but only to their minimum levels. We aren't a free for all but we do pay attention to people we might not otherwise due to market realities."

Fucking hell. If anyone meeting me feels like they’re lowering their standards they’d seriously get short shrift. I shall never fail to be flabbergasted by some people’s opinion of the women of fab.

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My 'standards' are the same on here as they are in real life. "

im atracted to humour in life and fab

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