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By *idlandscouple99 OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Mids, North East

Were meeting for MFM for Mrs fantasy that's sorted

Also looking for same room couples to start the group stuff off ,looking to eventually full swing but

Wife dead on me only playing with her whilst she gets to play with others

Any other couples had this situation been able to resolve it

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

When we first started swinging I wasn't sure I wanted to meet couples because I didn't want to see Mr N with another woman so we agreed on threesomes. After a couple of meets and more discussion I agreed to try it and was fine with it. I'm not your wife though and she might never be ok with it. It's not an equal opportunities thing, people are ok with certain things and not others and sometimes it feels unfair but it would also be unfair to expect someone to go along with something they didn't want to. You'll get people saying she's selfish but I don't think it's a case of that.

All I can suggest is further discussion and if its going to cause problems between you call a halt to it. Swinging is supposed to be fun.

Good luck

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

It's all about open and honest communication and finding mutually agreed boundaries that apply to both of you.

Has your wife said why she wouldn't be comfortable with you playing with others?

Ultimately if she's not and you can't find a middle ground you have to decide whether you can accept what she's comfortable with or whether swinging is the lifestyle for you both.

It really should be a case of you both being happy or not doing it at all

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"Were meeting for MFM for Mrs fantasy that's sorted

Also looking for same room couples to start the group stuff off ,looking to eventually full swing but

Wife dead on me only playing with her whilst she gets to play with others

Any other couples had this situation been able to resolve it "

We come across this situation not for us as at all. Sounds selfish tbh plus could spell drama

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I don't think this is the right place for anyone who has jealousy problems.

Also ,I wouldn't dream of telling Jack he couldn't play with a woman,its only fair we both play or none of us do.

Does she see she's been unfair?

If it was me in this situation ,I'd talk and if she won't compromise I'd consider taking a break from here altogether.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It needs to be discussed in an open way. Swinging we have found is an individual journey as well as a couple journey. But our rule is that both of us need to be happy or we don't play. Sometimes that means individually we don't get what we want but as a couple it shows respect and value to the other partner. Male

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By *orth South DivideCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

I understand the full swap dilemma she is having (I had that too initially) but no play is very hard on you if you want to play.

If it is a red line then unless you are 100% happy with MMF and no more, then your swinging days as a couple are limited.

Different couples have different dynamics and it is really important that everyone is on the same page.

We avoid couples where it's too one sided unless they are very clear that cuckold is their thing. Otherwise as a couple we're left feeling that there is an imbalance in what we get from a meet and we're happiest when we've all had a great night.

N female xx

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By *idlandscouple99 OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Mids, North East

We have had long talks were a very close couple just looking for people who have had this situation this is both on post not just Mr thanks for your reply

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By *idlandscouple99 OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Mids, North East

We have had long talks were a very close couple just looking for people who have had this situation this is both on post not just Mr thanks for your reply

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