FabSwingers.com forum: How many times do you decline before blocking?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

One my bug bears is fabbers that contact me and try to "fit" into what I am looking for after I have declined and said no, or they keep nagging, maybe in the hope I will change my mind. I have a saying, once is happenstance, twice is circumstance, three times is taking the piss.

No should mean no and although there are a selection of fabbers who will accept a no straight away, I wondered how other people deal with pushy swingers.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

If someone messages us again when we havent responded we block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One my bug bears is fabbers that contact me and try to "fit" into what I am looking for after I have declined and said no, or they keep nagging, maybe in the hope I will change my mind. I have a saying, once is happenstance, twice is circumstance, three times is taking the piss.

No should mean no and although there are a selection of fabbers who will accept a no straight away, I wondered how other people deal with pushy swingers.

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has to be 13

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By *icked_tongueMan
over a year ago

Bolton

If someone actually replies to my message I just think it's a happy, happy day

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

In general terms I operate on a three strikes rule. That moves up to two in the case of pestering (trying again within a day or two, particularly if it's within an hour or minutes), or one if there's just no way (like, if their pictures show I'd never be attracted to this person).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't reply if I'm not interested. Keeps things very simple.

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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago

Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire

No should mean no and although there are a selection of fabbers who will accept a no straight away, I wondered how other people deal with pushy swingers.

No means no, if I get a message saying, thanks but no thanks, I thank the lady for the message and leave her alone.

Same with ladies that do not respond to my messages.

I have found that Men and TV/TS are far more persistent so I block them.

Helped me get a bit of an insight into what the ladies go through.

Some people are very immature

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I particularly don't understand the messages saying "not your type then?" or "c'mon gimme a chance!" within two or three minutes of deleting their first message.

On careful contemplation over this vast expanse of time, I've changed my mind. Pleading is so goddamn sexy, I must have you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I particularly don't understand the messages saying "not your type then?" or "c'mon gimme a chance!" within two or three minutes of deleting their first message.

On careful contemplation over this vast expanse of time, I've changed my mind. Pleading is so goddamn sexy, I must have you.

Totally this, along with "I see you've read my message" then try and entice you with a cock pic, yeah that'll do it for sure!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't reply if I'm not interested. Keeps things very simple. "

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I particularly don't understand the messages saying "not your type then?" or "c'mon gimme a chance!" within two or three minutes of deleting their first message.

On careful contemplation over this vast expanse of time, I've changed my mind. Pleading is so goddamn sexy, I must have you.

Totally this, along with "I see you've read my message" then try and entice you with a cock pic, yeah that'll do it for sure!

Or before I discovered stealth mode: you've looked at my profile! I can accom now, (actual address and phone number)!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I don't reply if I'm not interested. Keeps things very simple.

I read this as, how many repeat messages do you put up with before blocking?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

On careful contemplation over this vast expanse of time, I've changed my mind. Pleading is so goddamn sexy, I must have you.

That is defo another way of looking at it, and not one I had considered before.

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By *opman1111Man
over a year ago

belfast

If I mail someone and they don’t reply then I block them for two reasons, 1 they obviously aren’t interested and 2 it’s so I don’t mail them again by mistake

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Once. If they ask again we just block.

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By *awpleasureMan
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield

"If I mail someone and they don’t reply then I block them for two reasons, 1 they obviously aren’t interested and 2 it’s so I don’t mail them again by mistake "

I tend to go with this rule. However, it has been known for a couple to message me on a new profile, who've previously deleted me when I messaged their old one. Some people block delete as they have too many.

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By *piritsonfabCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

I never block, and almost always reply. Only if the message is really shit with a shit profile do I delete without a reply.

I even reply to the "wanna fuck" messages with "sure, we'll be at such and such club later...come join us".... Funnily enough they never show up lol

Maybe I have way too much time on my hands

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't reply if I'm not interested. Keeps things very simple.

I read this as, how many repeat messages do you put up with before blocking? "

Sorry I don't understand. Are you referring to the above post or the OP's post?

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham

No should mean no and although there are a selection of fabbers who will accept a no straight away, I wondered how other people deal with pushy swingers.

Persistence in this scenario is just a lack of dignity with a dollop of desperation thrown in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only block them if they take it badly and start being abusive. I don't mind chatting to anyone.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I don't reply if I'm not interested. Keeps things very simple.

I read this as, how many repeat messages do you put up with before blocking?

Sorry I don't understand. Are you referring to the above post or the OP's post? "

The OP.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

"I particularly don't understand the messages saying "not your type then?" or "c'mon gimme a chance!" within two or three minutes of deleting their first message.

On careful contemplation over this vast expanse of time, I've changed my mind. Pleading is so goddamn sexy, I must have you.

Haha totally. Yes you’re exactly what I’m looking for, that’s why I deleted you. Did that not come across?!

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Depends on their tone, if they're pushy then I'll block at the 2nd message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't reply if I'm not interested. Keeps things very simple.

I read this as, how many repeat messages do you put up with before blocking?

Sorry I don't understand. Are you referring to the above post or the OP's post?

The OP. "

She said after you've declined and said no. I don't reply and say no, hence no further nagging replies asking me why I declined.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I don't reply if I'm not interested. Keeps things very simple.

I read this as, how many repeat messages do you put up with before blocking?

Sorry I don't understand. Are you referring to the above post or the OP's post?

The OP.

She said after you've declined and said no. I don't reply and say no, hence no further nagging replies asking me why I declined. "

I don't either, and sometimes get them anyway. I delete, delete the second (unless it's rude), block on the third.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't reply if I'm not interested. Keeps things very simple.

I read this as, how many repeat messages do you put up with before blocking?

Sorry I don't understand. Are you referring to the above post or the OP's post?

The OP.

She said after you've declined and said no. I don't reply and say no, hence no further nagging replies asking me why I declined.

I don't either, and sometimes get them anyway. I delete, delete the second (unless it's rude), block on the third. "

I was answering the OP's specific question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Second or third message blocked. If they message a second time after no response definite block. My favourite is 'its only an hour on the motorway' when I tell them there too far. If I continue that conversation it's at least 8 messages back and forth before I still block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never blocked so far ,a not my type message has been enough so far but not had that many messages

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Second or third message blocked. If they message a second time after no response definite block. My favourite is 'its only an hour on the motorway' when I tell them there too far. If I continue that conversation it's at least 8 messages back and forth before I still block. "

I had someone message me when I uploaded my first profile picture. From, let's say south of London (it was, but I'm not going to be specific). He wanted to meet me. Because of my profile picture (an upskirt one almost identical to the one I have now). I should have told him where I bought the clothes and suggested someone more local.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's a guy, no chances I just block them, get idiots messaging me on kik every now and again despite me having guys blocked on here.

Never been in a position to decline an invite from a woman so I can't say, but i'd probably give it 2, depends why they get rejected. If it's due to distance, there's no saying they aren't round my end in the future so there'd be no reason to block them for that alone.

I usually just block people who instantly delete my message, so I don't see them on my feed, no point when they aren't interested.

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

No should mean no and although there are a selection of fabbers who will accept a no straight away, I wondered how other people deal with pushy swingers.

i try to block everyone who isnt interested in meeting me to save wasting there and my time so after 1 message i suppose

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By *aughty island coupleCouple
over a year ago

Portland dorset

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Stafford

They get told once politely. A second time very abruptly and then blocked.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"If it's a guy, no chances I just block them, get idiots messaging me on kik every now and again despite me having guys blocked on here.

I usually just block people who instantly delete my message, so I don't see them on my feed, no point when they aren't interested. "

I often instantly delete messages because they're lazy and not thought through. If I were truly uninterested under any circumstances I'd block.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I usually just delete if I'm not interested. Most single men don't message again so no need to block. Couples on the other hand I find that be far more pushy. Many send several follow up messages afterwards and I do block now after the third one.

If I'm not interested nothing they say in subsequent messages will persuade me!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I usually just delete if I'm not interested. Most single men don't message again so no need to block. Couples on the other hand I find that be far more pushy. Many send several follow up messages afterwards and I do block now after the third one.

If I'm not interested nothing they say in subsequent messages will persuade me!"

Whereas I might be interested if the first message is up to scratch.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

I always stick to the Rule of 3 unless its a major pain in my arse or damn right rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Easy solution

Filter out everyone, search yourself, end of problems, we are here all week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it's a guy, no chances I just block them, get idiots messaging me on kik every now and again despite me having guys blocked on here.

I usually just block people who instantly delete my message, so I don't see them on my feed, no point when they aren't interested.

I often instantly delete messages because they're lazy and not thought through. If I were truly uninterested under any circumstances I'd block. "

Oh sure, I imagine women get a lot of "ey wanna smash" messages, I put effort into mine so I figured if they aint interested in what I say in my first message, would only annoy them if I tried again, so I dont bother.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't reply if I'm not interested. Keeps things very simple.

I read this as, how many repeat messages do you put up with before blocking? "

I wouldn't notice because I don't reply. I don't read the message if I don't like the profile so I don't bother blocking usually.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I don't reply if I'm not interested. Keeps things very simple.

I read this as, how many repeat messages do you put up with before blocking?

I wouldn't notice because I don't reply. I don't read the message if I don't like the profile so I don't bother blocking usually. "

I look if the picture looks familiar, and block if there's a string of similar unanswered messages.

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By *tace 309TV/TS
over a year ago

durham

No should mean no and although there are a selection of fabbers who will accept a no straight away, I wondered how other people deal with pushy swingers.

No means no, if I get a message saying, thanks but no thanks, I thank the lady for the message and leave her alone.

Same with ladies that do not respond to my messages.

I have found that Men and TV/TS are far more persistent so I block them.

Helped me get a bit of an insight into what the ladies go through.

Some people are very immature "
we t girls get this problem as well you know.

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By *etite HandfulWoman
over a year ago

Chester

It depends I would say a couple but then I just ignore or delete if someone is pestering and let friends know they have issues and best avoided.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Second time they ask I block

Can't be doing with naggers

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't reply if I'm not interested. Keeps things very simple.

This I dont follow surely it would invite more messages as you might of missed the first one because of volume or you could be intrested in the future. I delete messages after I've sent them but if you responed with not intrested I would block so I dont send any more.

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

If I get a repeat message when I’ve ether deleted or replied with a no thanks I always block.

If they can’t accept a no to a message, how can I trust them to accept no in an intimate setting?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't reply if I'm not interested. Keeps things very simple.

I don't care how many messages someone sends. I really wouldn't notice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reply to all first messages. I never block, can't see the point as they can just start a new profile. No need to reply again after I said no. Feels like I'd be trying to make them beg if I kept replying.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I say "Nice but not for me "once. Then I delete and don't respond to any other messages.

I rarely block.

Works for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont tend to block I just don't reply anymore unless they do something stupid like trying to contact other people I have met, then it is a firm goodbye (block)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish I had the chance to decline lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never, unless they're abusive, disrespectful or rude!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If I get a repeat message when I’ve ether deleted or replied with a no thanks I always block.

If they can’t accept a no to a message, how can I trust them to accept no in an intimate setting?"

Yes that's a very good point.

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