FabSwingers.com forum: Controlling and Creepy

By *irtySekrets OP Couple
over a year ago

Filthy Desires Upon Trent

We had a bit of a weird experience on here last week.

We got talking to a Fem from a couple who then invited Ess to a Wattsapp Group that was for the Girlies only.

There were around a dozen or so women on the Group and it transpired that the reason for it being Women only was for the pleasure of the Fems Male partner. It was all about him. What he wanted and in essence was building a Harem. This was not only disrespectful to the ladies but also the male halves of the other couples

Thinking about it, it was very manipulative and creepy.

Anyone else experienced such a thing?

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

Lol

Most couples I’ve met were driven by the males ..

Most couples profiles on here are manned by the males .. you can tell by there’s approach and grammar ..

Lesson learned I’d say x

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By *wingfellowMan
over a year ago

my own little sanctuary

I have had a few strange happenings with couples and especially group chats. It’s definitely a strange one but sadly as with most dynamics they’re a very intimate and different experience for each and every person. Ergo normality to some is scary to others. My only advice is to consider as many possibilities as you can and proceed or receed accordingly.

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

"We had a bit of a weird experience on here last week.

We got talking to a Fem from a couple who then invited Ess to a Wattsapp Group that was for the Girlies only.

Thinking about it, it was very manipulative and creepy.

Anyone else experienced such a thing?

Doesn’t surprise me, what did you say after you realised, hope you said something

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By *ertnsarahCouple
over a year ago

West Bromwich

"Lol

Most couples I’ve met were driven by the males ..

Most couples profiles on here are manned by the males .. you can tell by there’s approach and grammar ..

Lesson learned I’d say x"

Most maybe, but not all.

Sarah here, I'm definitely the driving force in this aspect of our relationship. Not that Bert's under the thumb, he just needs a little nudge every now & again

We both monitor our profile but I man it, partly because I'm better at spelling & grammar & I enjoy the "admin" (saddo!). Plus I like being nosey!

OP what you've described does sound decidedly creepy!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the women thought it was disrespectful couldn't they leave the group if they wished?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely not all couple's profiles are run by the male. A has access to the account, but is just happy to fab a few pics. All the messaging and searching is done by me (C)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never had anything like that but I do find often when I'm chatting to couples it's usually the male that instigates things.

When I've been in group chats with a couple 90% of the time it's the male that does the talking and that's when I usually back out because it makes it clear to me the woman isn't that interested.

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By *heSofaDestroyersCouple
over a year ago

HereAndThere

We both send messages and are quite active on the account!

We know each other well

And what we like so have chatted to people on that basis!

If you get a sensible message with good grammar you should always assume it’s Mrs sofa and not me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lol

Most couples I’ve met were driven by the males ..

Most couples profiles on here are manned by the males .. you can tell by there’s approach and grammar ..

Lesson learned I’d say x"

Sweeping statement!! Certainly not the case with us... mrsalexi

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Certainly both of us use this account but back to the OP, yes if the women didn't know why they were being invited probably not as upfront as they could have been but as others have said they can easily leave the group too.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I've never experienced anything like that because we never communicate outside fab apart from meeting face to face of course, there's too much potential for things to be not quite as they seem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both use our account and if one's on we show the other what's going on..

Mrs!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How was it disrespectful to the male halves of couples? Did they not know the women were all talking about this one man?

Were all the 'women' real? Could it be a group of men pretending, and you were the only real female?

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By *urvy_bi_honeyWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

I’ve had this before, got chatting to a woman, made it very clear that I only meet 1:1 for girly fun, no male involvement at all. We started chatting on the phone and she started talking about all the things her BF wanted her to do With me and how turned on he was we were chatting - I ended it there and then as I felt very uncomfortable with it. Lesson learned!

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

This couple are extremely successful if they can get 12 women to chat on a WhatsApp group.

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