FabSwingers.com forum: The oddest meet

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I invited a lady over this evening who I had been flirting with for a few weeks. She had been very suggestive and naughty leading up to it.

Anyway having a nice time chatting and watching a film. We start to get a bit handsy and have a little play. Each step of the way I made sure I had her consent (can never be too careful). We both enjoyed ourselves and she left to go home saying she would text me when she got home.

Later on I checked how she was, and noticed she had removed me from a social media site. I asked her if everything was ok, however she then proceeded to block me off everything (phone, whatsapp etc).

Cannot for the life of me work out what I did to warrant such a abrupt response.

Anyway has anyone else had an odd experience like that?!

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By *harliebluestockingsCouple
over a year ago

london

Thankfully not

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Dont beat yourself up about it op. Im sure you did nothing wrong but there are some strange people about who you will never work out as much as you try

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally put this down to ladies having more than one guy on the go at once. I am sure men will do it as well. Chatting to multiple people, meeting them and deciding which one(s) they want to keep. It's more common on vanilla sites though, (which is where I have experienced it).

Don't take it personally, anyone who treats people like this is not worth being with anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I generally put this down to ladies having more than one guy on the go at once. I am sure men will do it as well. Chatting to multiple people, meeting them and deciding which one(s) they want to keep. It's more common on vanilla sites though, (which is where I have experienced it).

Don't take it personally, anyone who treats people like this is not worth being with anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Wouldn’t say I take it personally. I’m very confident I acted appropriately. Just disappointed a message to say they’re not interested went a miss. I’m pretty sure I’m nice haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I invited a lady over this evening who I had been flirting with for a few weeks. She had been very suggestive and naughty leading up to it.

Later on I checked how she was, and noticed she had removed me from a social media site. I asked her if everything was ok, however she then proceeded to block me off everything (phone, whatsapp etc).

Cannot for the life of me work out what I did to warrant such a abrupt response.

Anyway has anyone else had an odd experience like that?!

Yes it’s happened to me with one or three chaps but I think oh well I enjoyed it while it lasted, clearly I was a stepping stone for them and when they contact me months later, I tell them I sorry they appear to have dementia and to find an off and fuck it.

It happens, but never forget your own worth x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wouldn’t say I take it personally. I’m very confident I acted appropriately. Just disappointed a message to say they’re not interested went a miss. I’m pretty sure I’m nice haha"

As it was your home she should have grown a set and said look it was nice meeting but...

Just courtesy which clearly is so lacking

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Not to be harsh but she obviously wasn't interested.. plenty more out there xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not to be harsh but she obviously wasn't interested.. plenty more out there xx"

When they have your penis in their hand and starts kissing you, I think it’s fair to be confused at the mixed signals lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dont beat yourself up about it op. Im sure you did nothing wrong but there are some strange people about who you will never work out as much as you try"

Daily occurrence on here for me x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I won't comment directly on the situation you describe op because the lady hasn't contributed her view of the situation.

However we've met guys who then leave the site without a word. I think it's as well to remember that to many people we mean very little.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not to be harsh but she obviously wasn't interested.. plenty more out there xx

When they have your penis in their hand and starts kissing you, I think it’s fair to be confused at the mixed signals lol"

Exactly that... I do sympathise... there was a guy that was snogging my face off but then said oh no I can’t have sex with you I just miss a woman’s company

French kissing is a little beyond companionship, mate. Keep your hands to yourself, night

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

"Not to be harsh but she obviously wasn't interested.. plenty more out there xx

When they have your penis in their hand and starts kissing you, I think it’s fair to be confused at the mixed signals lol"
agree. That's women for u x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not to be harsh but she obviously wasn't interested.. plenty more out there xx

When they have your penis in their hand and starts kissing you, I think it’s fair to be confused at the mixed signals lolagree. That's women for u x"

Some not all

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

U don't buy a suit without trying it on x

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

"Not to be harsh but she obviously wasn't interested.. plenty more out there xx

When they have your penis in their hand and starts kissing you, I think it’s fair to be confused at the mixed signals lolagree. That's women for u x

Of course

Some not all

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I won't comment directly on the situation you describe op because the lady hasn't contributed her view of the situation.

However we've met guys who then leave the site without a word. I think it's as well to remember that to many people we mean very little."

For me is not the lack of interest. Peoples right to not be interested. It’s my opinion an explanation was warranted on what appeared to be a good meet.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Not to be harsh but she obviously wasn't interested.. plenty more out there xx

When they have your penis in their hand and starts kissing you, I think it’s fair to be confused at the mixed signals lol"

It's not mixed signals really. You had sex, she left and doesn't want to see you again. Some people have a one meet only rule.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not to be harsh but she obviously wasn't interested.. plenty more out there xx

When they have your penis in their hand and starts kissing you, I think it’s fair to be confused at the mixed signals lol

It's not mixed signals really. You had sex, she left and doesn't want to see you again. Some people have a one meet only rule."

But courtesy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I won't comment directly on the situation you describe op because the lady hasn't contributed her view of the situation.

However we've met guys who then leave the site without a word. I think it's as well to remember that to many people we mean very little.

For me is not the lack of interest. Peoples right to not be interested. It’s my opinion an explanation was warranted on what appeared to be a good meet."

I’m stunned at the people saying that this is acceptable... are manners really THAT rare?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I won't comment directly on the situation you describe op because the lady hasn't contributed her view of the situation.

However we've met guys who then leave the site without a word. I think it's as well to remember that to many people we mean very little.

For me is not the lack of interest. Peoples right to not be interested. It’s my opinion an explanation was warranted on what appeared to be a good meet."

Yes and I'd agree in general.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Not to be harsh but she obviously wasn't interested.. plenty more out there xx

When they have your penis in their hand and starts kissing you, I think it’s fair to be confused at the mixed signals lol

It's not mixed signals really. You had sex, she left and doesn't want to see you again. Some people have a one meet only rule.

But courtesy? "

Courtesy is another matter altogether.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I won't comment directly on the situation you describe op because the lady hasn't contributed her view of the situation.

However we've met guys who then leave the site without a word. I think it's as well to remember that to many people we mean very little.

For me is not the lack of interest. Peoples right to not be interested. It’s my opinion an explanation was warranted on what appeared to be a good meet.

I’m stunned at the people saying that this is acceptable... are manners really THAT rare? "

I'm not saying it's acceptable. I'm saying it happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not to be harsh but she obviously wasn't interested.. plenty more out there xx

When they have your penis in their hand and starts kissing you, I think it’s fair to be confused at the mixed signals lol

It's not mixed signals really. You had sex, she left and doesn't want to see you again. Some people have a one meet only rule.

But courtesy?

Courtesy is another matter altogether. "

No it really isn’t... I’d never disrespect someone like that... the truth may hurt but vanishing without a trace is just shitty cowardice

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I won't comment directly on the situation you describe op because the lady hasn't contributed her view of the situation.

However we've met guys who then leave the site without a word. I think it's as well to remember that to many people we mean very little.

For me is not the lack of interest. Peoples right to not be interested. It’s my opinion an explanation was warranted on what appeared to be a good meet.

I’m stunned at the people saying that this is acceptable... are manners really THAT rare? "

Manners are gone Ellie apparently lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And that’s just about summed it all up for me...

Everyone wants to play adult games with a childish mind.

Fuck this for a game of soldiers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And that’s just about summed it all up for me...

Everyone wants to play adult games with a childish mind.

Fuck this for a game of soldiers

unfortunately seems to be the case far too often I'm afraid.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Maybe wasn't single or just changed her mind

Its not a nice thing to do either way op..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Suck it up and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe a bit of a player and doesn't want the next one finding out plenty people do it once the had what they wanted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There could be a multitude of reasons... Don't sweat it. It's not you, it's her.

Just move on mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same happened to me with a local MF couple.He did not play,was happy to let her and me have fun in another room.She evidently enjoyed it, trying to bite me etc.Gave me a nice hug and kiss when I left but I was later blocked.Perhaps he got jealous !

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

People are strange beings! I had a guy a few years ago, after having a few meets he totally insulted me, didn't understand what he said or did wrong, (maybe didn't remember what he said, no idea) but still trying to pursue me 2 years later!

No idea why people don't understand that they have been a total cunt and there is no going back from it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Suck it up and move on "

You’re hard mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it's courteous or mannerly to share stories like this on an open forum

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By *evonshireboyMan
over a year ago

North Devon

Why not? He hasn't named and shamed. Pointing out that ghosting is a shitty thing to do is not discourteous

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By *arakiss12TV/TS
over a year ago

Bedford

Her partner found her phone, she got busted.

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Had it happen a couple of times but, but after all these years I think it goes with the nature of the game. Had people give e good verifications and vuice versa but I have never seen again. There have been some I would like to have done, but clearly not bothered about some others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe she did enjoy it but decided she didn't want to repeat it and didn't want to have an awkward conversation.

I'm not saying it's right but unfortunately it is what it is.

onwards and upwards.

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

There could be a few factors ...

She enjoyed the meet but is actually attached and decided she’s not going to risk it

She didn’t enjoy it as much as the impression she gave you on the night and is easier than having to tell you

She’s a ‘only meet once’ kinda girl

She’s a fucking nutjob and you’ve had a good meet and a lucky escape

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't think it's courteous or mannerly to share stories like this on an open forum "

Then we might as well scrap forums altogether then

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By *n_thy_kneesMan
over a year ago

Ipswich

Maybe she didn't like verbally being asked for consent. Just a possibility. Forget her and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens she obviously didn't want further communication that's everyone's choice so best put it behind you and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well let's just say I (the female) ran away across a road and he chased me almost getting run over so he could kiss me bye. He never got his kiss. The husband and his wife were on the other side x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

All I’m saying is, it’s odd. All these comments saying she’s not interested. I know that!! Lol. What’s wrong with saying I’m not interested

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

"I invited a lady over this evening who I had been flirting with for a few weeks. She had been very suggestive and naughty leading up to it.

Later on I checked how she was, and noticed she had removed me from a social media site. I asked her if everything was ok, however she then proceeded to block me off everything (phone, whatsapp etc).

Cannot for the life of me work out what I did to warrant such a abrupt response.

Anyway has anyone else had an odd experience like that?!

Well at least you got to that stage well done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not to be harsh but she obviously wasn't interested.. plenty more out there xx

When they have your penis in their hand and starts kissing you, I think it’s fair to be confused at the mixed signals lol"

Or she decided not to go any further

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