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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

On average, how many messages to new people you are interested in do you have to send to get one reply? Any estimates?

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

A couple, I suppose, although I don't really think in those terms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what ! you guys get replies

i thought it was just a one way communication

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usualy most of my messages get a reply even if it is a no thanks

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By *litstimulousMan
over a year ago

Swindon

Well I only send one if it gets read and I have no reply their ignorant twats and not worth knowing. If they're fit they probably have 3 hrs of messages to filter so I don't harrass them and delete the message after a week.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I NEVER send first messages

I'm no raving beauty nor do I have the body of Adonis

Admittedly, my profile has more detail and more pics usually (it's deliberately left sparse atm)

Despite this I still receive messages and some of these convert into meets

My expectation of a meet from here is minimal, my entitlement to one even less so

Fab is, by far, not my only means of getting to know 'like minded' people

I am well aware that men outnumber women and couples here by some number

Just because male patronage is high and standards and expectations amongst those we seek are sometimes idealistic at best and unrealistic at worse, does not necessarily translate to the average guy having no chance of a meet.

Many guys are here for a wank or a perve, for others it provides the opportunity to be a sexual Walter Mitty. They have no real interest in meeting.

Then we have the guys that come with 'complications' - again, highly unlikely to translate a chat to a meet

Then we have the guys out for a quickie and not interested in a social or knowing those they are meeting

By the time you have ruled these groups out, the playing field is far more level than you might think

Average guys DO get meets, but it takes a measured approach, a genuine will and ability to meet, a good understanding and appreciation of others, an ability to communicate and respect and, admittedly a certain amount of chance and luck

So whether you send a message or whether you are responding to one you have received, concentrate not on the numbers of messages, but their content, their message, their intended recipient and the will to go through with converting these to a physical meet

Moreover an understanding that an agreement to meet can be called off, can go wrong and may not necessarily translate to sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

FFS you would bore the woman asleep before you got a chance to fuck her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"FFS you would bore the woman asleep before you got a chance to fuck her "

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"FFS you would bore the woman asleep before you got a chance to fuck her "

I did go on a bit then didn't I ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I genrrally have a reply rate around 75 80% since i started

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally don't send first messages. With the number of messages the ladies on here get, I'd just be wasting my time..

I'd say since I joined the site, I've probably sent less initial messages than I have fingers and had two/three responses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On average, how many messages to new people you are interested in do you have to send to get one reply? Any estimates?"

Roughly give or take a few about a thousand

Treble it with no profile pics

And your pal Arthur said it would be like shooting fanny in a barrel......

Shoot Arthur I say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I NEVER send first messages

I'm no raving beauty nor do I have the body of Adonis

Admittedly, my profile has more detail and more pics usually (it's deliberately left sparse atm)

Despite this I still receive messages and some of these convert into meets

My expectation of a meet from here is minimal, my entitlement to one even less so

Fab is, by far, not my only means of getting to know 'like minded' people

I am well aware that men outnumber women and couples here by some number

Just because male patronage is high and standards and expectations amongst those we seek are sometimes idealistic at best and unrealistic at worse, does not necessarily translate to the average guy having no chance of a meet.

Many guys are here for a wank or a perve, for others it provides the opportunity to be a sexual Walter Mitty. They have no real interest in meeting.

Then we have the guys that come with 'complications' - again, highly unlikely to translate a chat to a meet

Then we have the guys out for a quickie and not interested in a social or knowing those they are meeting

By the time you have ruled these groups out, the playing field is far more level than you might think

Average guys DO get meets, but it takes a measured approach, a genuine will and ability to meet, a good understanding and appreciation of others, an ability to communicate and respect and, admittedly a certain amount of chance and luck

So whether you send a message or whether you are responding to one you have received, concentrate not on the numbers of messages, but their content, their message, their intended recipient and the will to go through with converting these to a physical meet

Moreover an understanding that an agreement to meet can be called off, can go wrong and may not necessarily translate to sex"

3 of my fab friends are asking if you fuck as long as you talk my friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I NEVER send first messages

I'm no raving beauty nor do I have the body of Adonis

Admittedly, my profile has more detail and more pics usually (it's deliberately left sparse atm)

Despite this I still receive messages and some of these convert into meets

My expectation of a meet from here is minimal, my entitlement to one even less so

Fab is, by far, not my only means of getting to know 'like minded' people

I am well aware that men outnumber women and couples here by some number

Just because male patronage is high and standards and expectations amongst those we seek are sometimes idealistic at best and unrealistic at worse, does not necessarily translate to the average guy having no chance of a meet.

Many guys are here for a wank or a perve, for others it provides the opportunity to be a sexual Walter Mitty. They have no real interest in meeting.

Then we have the guys that come with 'complications' - again, highly unlikely to translate a chat to a meet

Then we have the guys out for a quickie and not interested in a social or knowing those they are meeting

By the time you have ruled these groups out, the playing field is far more level than you might think

Average guys DO get meets, but it takes a measured approach, a genuine will and ability to meet, a good understanding and appreciation of others, an ability to communicate and respect and, admittedly a certain amount of chance and luck

So whether you send a message or whether you are responding to one you have received, concentrate not on the numbers of messages, but their content, their message, their intended recipient and the will to go through with converting these to a physical meet

Moreover an understanding that an agreement to meet can be called off, can go wrong and may not necessarily translate to sex"

Thats a lot of words to say very little

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I only send one if it gets read and I have no reply their ignorant twats and not worth knowing. If they're fit they probably have 3 hrs of messages to filter so I don't harrass them and delete the message after a week. "

Erm, calling women twats won’t help. They may have read your message, looked at your profile, decided you’re not for them. They don’t owe you a response, just because you messaged them.

Also, your definition of “fit” is subjective. The women who get 3hrs of messages to filter may not be the ones you deem attractive, and may actually include the women you’re calling twats, as they may get inundated with messages from men who find them attractive. The “fit” ones might just be ignoring you anyway, even if they’ve only had a handful of messages.

So it’s the age old crap of “fit” women get excused and everyone else is an ignorant twat, if they don’t respond to a man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On average, how many messages to new people you are interested in do you have to send to get one reply? Any estimates?"

OP, know you specified guys, before anyone gets upset that a woman responded, but it is a forum post, and maybe the issue isn’t the amount of messages sent, but the content of the message and the profile of the sender.

Some guys do very well, because they have attractive profiles, and if their forum posts are anything to go by, are polite and articulate. Not necessarily the clichéd Adonis, but a genuinely nice guy xx

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle


"....

So it’s the age old crap of “fit” women get excused and everyone else is an ignorant twat, if they don’t respond to a man "

It looks like you've just started your journey in his shoes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"....

So it’s the age old crap of “fit” women get excused and everyone else is an ignorant twat, if they don’t respond to a man

It looks like you've just started your journey in his shoes."

Apologies, but you’ll have to elaborate on that. What do you mean? xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I used to write thought out messages for each individual profile, I found most messages would get deleted. Pffft ...

Then I designed a new method of my very own blanket message I send to all lol. Just change the name and probably a couple bits which suggest I have keenly viewed the profile.

The success rate of replies has improved drastically and it saves a lot of time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is like: it's perfectly fine if you talk to God, but if he replys, you're fucking crazy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I NEVER send first messages

I'm no raving beauty nor do I have the body of Adonis

Admittedly, my profile has more detail and more pics usually (it's deliberately left sparse atm)

Despite this I still receive messages and some of these convert into meets

My expectation of a meet from here is minimal, my entitlement to one even less so

Fab is, by far, not my only means of getting to know 'like minded' people

I am well aware that men outnumber women and couples here by some number

Just because male patronage is high and standards and expectations amongst those we seek are sometimes idealistic at best and unrealistic at worse, does not necessarily translate to the average guy having no chance of a meet.

Many guys are here for a wank or a perve, for others it provides the opportunity to be a sexual Walter Mitty. They have no real interest in meeting.

Then we have the guys that come with 'complications' - again, highly unlikely to translate a chat to a meet

Then we have the guys out for a quickie and not interested in a social or knowing those they are meeting

By the time you have ruled these groups out, the playing field is far more level than you might think

Average guys DO get meets, but it takes a measured approach, a genuine will and ability to meet, a good understanding and appreciation of others, an ability to communicate and respect and, admittedly a certain amount of chance and luck

So whether you send a message or whether you are responding to one you have received, concentrate not on the numbers of messages, but their content, their message, their intended recipient and the will to go through with converting these to a physical meet

Moreover an understanding that an agreement to meet can be called off, can go wrong and may not necessarily translate to sex

3 of my fab friends are asking if you fuck as long as you talk my friend "

Yup

it stops me going on with meself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I NEVER send first messages

I'm no raving beauty nor do I have the body of Adonis

Admittedly, my profile has more detail and more pics usually (it's deliberately left sparse atm)

Despite this I still receive messages and some of these convert into meets

My expectation of a meet from here is minimal, my entitlement to one even less so

Fab is, by far, not my only means of getting to know 'like minded' people

I am well aware that men outnumber women and couples here by some number

Just because male patronage is high and standards and expectations amongst those we seek are sometimes idealistic at best and unrealistic at worse, does not necessarily translate to the average guy having no chance of a meet.

Many guys are here for a wank or a perve, for others it provides the opportunity to be a sexual Walter Mitty. They have no real interest in meeting.

Then we have the guys that come with 'complications' - again, highly unlikely to translate a chat to a meet

Then we have the guys out for a quickie and not interested in a social or knowing those they are meeting

By the time you have ruled these groups out, the playing field is far more level than you might think

Average guys DO get meets, but it takes a measured approach, a genuine will and ability to meet, a good understanding and appreciation of others, an ability to communicate and respect and, admittedly a certain amount of chance and luck

So whether you send a message or whether you are responding to one you have received, concentrate not on the numbers of messages, but their content, their message, their intended recipient and the will to go through with converting these to a physical meet

Moreover an understanding that an agreement to meet can be called off, can go wrong and may not necessarily translate to sex"

The playing field, once levelled, is indeed even.

It's always the ones rolling off it who are pissed off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say 20 Mayb but it’s the nature of the beast I suppose if you go to a club and mingle you would start getting into some clicks and start networking

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Well I only send one if it gets read and I have no reply their ignorant twats and not worth knowing. If they're fit they probably have 3 hrs of messages to filter so I don't harrass them and delete the message after a week. "

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By *illy GunnMan
over a year ago

Leeds

Reading a profile fully first will save a lot of time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I read profiles all the time but when I tex them I still got get a reply

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By *uckfunCouple
over a year ago

North Coast

Delete and block anything that starts ‘do you have any pics’ or ‘I’m in your area, fancy meeting now’

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Bussy absolutely nailed it further up - it's got nothing to do with the number of messages you send either, and EVERYTHING to do with the content of not only the message but your profile too - get both of those wrong and don't expect a reply regardless of how many you send.

In my time here I've sent probably 6 "cold" messages to people I've not interacted with (e.g. the forums or at group socials) in some way before and in all but one of those cases I had a reply.

What a lot of people (and it's mostly guys) fail to understand about the site is that it's not an instant pass to sex, or just because someone has posted semi-naked pictures of themselves that they're "up for it" with anyone that messages them - that couldn't be further from the truth.

What *is* key is having the right approach, attitude and expectations coupled with a decent profile and pics and the guys that get those things right are the ones who actually find the fabled "number imbalance" is actually a lot more evenly balanced than you might think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I NEVER send first messages

I'm no raving beauty nor do I have the body of Adonis

Admittedly, my profile has more detail and more pics usually (it's deliberately left sparse atm)

Despite this I still receive messages and some of these convert into meets

My expectation of a meet from here is minimal, my entitlement to one even less so

Fab is, by far, not my only means of getting to know 'like minded' people

I am well aware that men outnumber women and couples here by some number

Just because male patronage is high and standards and expectations amongst those we seek are sometimes idealistic at best and unrealistic at worse, does not necessarily translate to the average guy having no chance of a meet.

Many guys are here for a wank or a perve, for others it provides the opportunity to be a sexual Walter Mitty. They have no real interest in meeting.

Then we have the guys that come with 'complications' - again, highly unlikely to translate a chat to a meet

Then we have the guys out for a quickie and not interested in a social or knowing those they are meeting

By the time you have ruled these groups out, the playing field is far more level than you might think

Average guys DO get meets, but it takes a measured approach, a genuine will and ability to meet, a good understanding and appreciation of others, an ability to communicate and respect and, admittedly a certain amount of chance and luck

So whether you send a message or whether you are responding to one you have received, concentrate not on the numbers of messages, but their content, their message, their intended recipient and the will to go through with converting these to a physical meet

Moreover an understanding that an agreement to meet can be called off, can go wrong and may not necessarily translate to sex

The playing field, once levelled, is indeed even.

It's always the ones rolling off it who are pissed off. "

Fat joke?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""Well I only send one if it gets read and I have no reply their ignorant twats and not worth knowing. If they're fit they probably have 3 hrs of messages to filter so I don't harrass them and delete the message after a week. "

Erm, calling women twats won’t help. They may have read your message, looked at your profile, decided you’re not for them. They don’t owe you a response, just because you messaged them.

Also, your definition of “fit” is subjective. The women who get 3hrs of messages to filter may not be the ones you deem attractive, and may actually include the women you’re calling twats, as they may get inundated with messages from men who find them attractive. The “fit” ones might just be ignoring you anyway, even if they’ve only had a handful of messages.

So it’s the age old crap of “fit” women get excused and everyone else is an ignorant twat, if they don’t respond to a man "

our thoughts exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally don't bother alot sending messages first now , most are deleted anyway. Does make me laugh when women state they want original messages , the volume you would have to do would take hours.

I just read the profile and judge if I fit there bill. I might not get alot of meets , but it saves alot of time.

If you don't expect alot , you can't be dissapointed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I NEVER send first messages

I'm no raving beauty nor do I have the body of Adonis

Admittedly, my profile has more detail and more pics usually (it's deliberately left sparse atm)

Despite this I still receive messages and some of these convert into meets

My expectation of a meet from here is minimal, my entitlement to one even less so

Fab is, by far, not my only means of getting to know 'like minded' people

I am well aware that men outnumber women and couples here by some number

Just because male patronage is high and standards and expectations amongst those we seek are sometimes idealistic at best and unrealistic at worse, does not necessarily translate to the average guy having no chance of a meet.

Many guys are here for a wank or a perve, for others it provides the opportunity to be a sexual Walter Mitty. They have no real interest in meeting.

Then we have the guys that come with 'complications' - again, highly unlikely to translate a chat to a meet

Then we have the guys out for a quickie and not interested in a social or knowing those they are meeting

By the time you have ruled these groups out, the playing field is far more level than you might think

Average guys DO get meets, but it takes a measured approach, a genuine will and ability to meet, a good understanding and appreciation of others, an ability to communicate and respect and, admittedly a certain amount of chance and luck

So whether you send a message or whether you are responding to one you have received, concentrate not on the numbers of messages, but their content, their message, their intended recipient and the will to go through with converting these to a physical meet

Moreover an understanding that an agreement to meet can be called off, can go wrong and may not necessarily translate to sex

The playing field, once levelled, is indeed even.

It's always the ones rolling off it who are pissed off.

Fat joke?"

Ha! But no.

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By *eriousGuyABCMan
over a year ago

( WEST OF ) Chippenham ish

Most ladies and couples probably get at least dozens but more often hundreds of messages off guys etc. What I've learnt is to not expect any replies, then it's a nice surprise when someone actually bothers. It's usually a no thanks anyway so ...

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By *J RHEAMan
over a year ago

S West

I reckon you send 15, get 5-6 replies, then end up conversing properly with 2.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get very few replies probably less than 10 percent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what type of messages you are sending . If its a good thought out message I may reply but most we get are like 'hey' 'up to anything tonight ?' Lazy messages , theres also 2 of us to appeal to so makes it harder for the sender I guess

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By *J RHEAMan
over a year ago

S West

See even writing a well thought out message will usually get no response. It's pointless.

Some women have fuck all on their profiles to message them about anyway.

I usually send an opening question, then compliment their pics, or something about their profile IF they have pics or text. Sometimes then the text is a rant anyway.

Why women don't block men, and do the messaging themselves to avoid stupid questions I don't know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"See even writing a well thought out message will usually get no response. It's pointless.

Some women have fuck all on their profiles to message them about anyway.

I usually send an opening question, then compliment their pics, or something about their profile IF they have pics or text. Sometimes then the text is a rant anyway.

Why women don't block men, and do the messaging themselves to avoid stupid questions I don't know."

Would you rather have

a) an inbox bulging with messages from people wanting to fuck you

Or

b) an empty inbox with no replies from the people you sent messages to.

That's why many women prefer a).

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By *J RHEAMan
over a year ago

S West

It works both ways Ms Heels, I have an empty inbox from no women replying. As do alot of men. However if you leave your inbox open to all you can't moan about the shite getting through. I had to block single men from messaging me.

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By *J RHEAMan
over a year ago

S West

Your profile for example, you have a picture of a shuuttlecock, a request to put damp gusset, what are men supposed to message you with?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

0, I use reverse psychology to get them to message me first instead

P.S. It's not a very successful tactic

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By *eriousGuyABCMan
over a year ago

( WEST OF ) Chippenham ish


"See even writing a well thought out message will usually get no response. It's pointless.

Some women have fuck all on their profiles to message them about anyway.

I usually send an opening question, then compliment their pics, or something about their profile IF they have pics or text. Sometimes then the text is a rant anyway.

Why women don't block men, and do the messaging themselves to avoid stupid questions I don't know."

As I've said on another similar thread. Men run the real world but most definately women run the online websites like this. They have the goods, make the rules and the hoops we have to jump through !

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"FFS you would bore the woman asleep before you got a chance to fuck her

I did go on a bit then didn't I ?"

Maybe you did, but if guys actually read it they may learn something , but that would require effort on their part, and it's much easier to moan about women never replying to them.

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By *J RHEAMan
over a year ago

S West

I'm not jumping through any fucking hoops lol, probably why I get sod all response!

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"On average, how many messages to new people you are interested in do you have to send to get one reply? Any estimates?"

Where m = message and t = tries

M X T is = to the hypotenuse triangle you take that number divide by the number you first thought of, round it by the number of ladies on here, given that number is greater then the brain cells of homo sapien then T must = the number you originally for off.

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