FabSwingers.com forum: Self evolution thank you fab

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Iv gone from a being what i perceived as a sexually repressed fat guy with no body confidence never expecting to get anywhere just to have some giggles chatting to folks and using forums

To learning a lot about myself gaining body confidence and what i want as in the chemistry thats possible between people as well as other more sexual wants needs have changed and evolved to a different place to where i began last year as iv learned to test myself find what works and open myself up

How have you evolved over your time on here if at all have your needs changed from before you joined

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well that's good OP! As well as meeting lots of interesting people Fab has (and is) helping me define what I need next

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Iv gone from a being what i perceived as a sexually repressed fat guy with no body confidence never expecting to get anywhere just to have some giggles chatting to folks and using forums

How have you evolved over your time on here if at all have your needs changed from before you joined

Fat? Anyway, it’s lovley to hear from somebody who’s gone through a voyage of self-discovery. We’ve done the same - MissJ has discovered she likes men, more than one at a time and I’ve discovered I love to share her and share another guy. Hopefully more to come.

This is an awesome site for testing limits with people who are properly interested in sex (and some of them very good at it too).

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I think that’s amazing, OP.

Fab’s given me the confidence to say no and know that that is ok - I’ve struggled with that in the past; it was always easier to go along, even if I didn’t feel comfortable.

Plus, this place has let me explore my desires, allowing me to grow. I know what I want now and I’m willing to wait to find it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice post OP

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Great Post OP. I've found fab has given me more confidence and has made me realise the type of person I'm looking for.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Anyone else evolving

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Fab has allowed be to tick off a few experiences from from my sexual bucket list.

Having been in long term relationships, which were great but left me feeling I needed more.

I love that I can be explicit open and honest and i hope not judged for it. Even if I am judged I've got to the point that I don't really care.

This is my journey into sexual freedom and I own it and am loving it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'm less judgemental.

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By *cousesubsallyWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere out there

"Iv gone from a being what i perceived as a sexually repressed fat guy with no body confidence never expecting to get anywhere just to have some giggles chatting to folks and using forums

How have you evolved over your time on here if at all have your needs changed from before you joined

It makes me smile to read that, and I’m lucky to have been there for at least the latest part of your evolution xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Iv gone from a being what i perceived as a sexually repressed fat guy with no body confidence never expecting to get anywhere just to have some giggles chatting to folks and using forums

How have you evolved over your time on here if at all have your needs changed from before you joined

It makes me smile to read that, and I’m lucky to have been there for at least the latest part of your evolution xxx"
thank you

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Before I joined fab my body confidence, and self confidence, was really low. The image I had of myself was so different to how others seen me. I've had a year of self discovery that has made me see myself in a more positive way. Plus I've made some great friends on that journey too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in a process of thinking about my sexuality as well as my thoughts around monogamy, fidelity and what kind of relationship I want into the future. Fab is a great place to hear & talk about other people's experiences and sexual preferences in an open way. I don't have that with my regular friends or in the vanilla dating world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great post OP

And actually it's brilliant to see it from a man too. A lot of the time men seem to be saying how awful it is.

For me, I've made some memories and made some friends. I've realised that men aren't as put off by wobbly bits as I once thought and that some fantasies are better than the reality.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Great post OP

And actually it's brilliant to see it from a man too. A lot of the time men seem to be saying how awful it is.

For me, I've made some memories and made some friends. I've realised that men aren't as put off by wobbly bits as I once thought and that some fantasies are better than the reality. "
its far from awful i love it

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

I had been on the scene and on Fabswingers long before I retired, upon reaching retirement I needed a hobby. Why the fook would I chose golf or fishing?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Nobody else?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got some work before I post some more body pics. Not confident enough yet. Maybe that's why I don't take very good pics? Fab is defiantly an experiance!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Boy did i put this in a slow room lol

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By *inn2000Woman
over a year ago

belfast

I have discovered that although I think I am fat and wobbly most others see sexy curves so .... wow!

I have also realised (thanks to the wonderful meets I have had - you know who you are if you are reading this xxxx) that it is possible to be in a solid, loving relationship and still swing so .... double wow!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No body else in a sharing mood?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Died on its arse 1 more shot then let it die

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I had a similar experience to yourself OP when I first joined fab. I was sad, lonely and overweight, I wanted to just connect with someone on a personal level.

Slowly my confidence grew as I realised that I was desirable and people liked me as a person, I found friends and after a while (just like you) I met someone and fell in love.

Ultimately for all of its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, fab can be a great tool for personal growth. I wouldn't be the person that I am today without it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d have never known what tea bagging is Pat, if I’d joined here, so thank you for that and I think your a lovely person too....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I had a similar experience to yourself OP when I first joined fab. I was sad, lonely and overweight, I wanted to just connect with someone on a personal level.

Slowly my confidence grew as I realised that I was desirable and people liked me as a person, I found friends and after a while (just like you) I met someone and fell in love.

Ultimately for all of its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, fab can be a great tool for personal growth. I wouldn't be the person that I am today without it. "
absolutly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a similar experience to yourself OP when I first joined fab. I was sad, lonely and overweight, I wanted to just connect with someone on a personal level.

Slowly my confidence grew as I realised that I was desirable and people liked me as a person, I found friends and after a while (just like you) I met someone and fell in love.

Ultimately for all of its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, fab can be a great tool for personal growth. I wouldn't be the person that I am today without it. absolutly

Max Ehrmann part quoted on fab. I like that.

Me I'm still evolving opposable thumbs

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I had a similar experience to yourself OP when I first joined fab. I was sad, lonely and overweight, I wanted to just connect with someone on a personal level.

Slowly my confidence grew as I realised that I was desirable and people liked me as a person, I found friends and after a while (just like you) I met someone and fell in love.

Ultimately for all of its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, fab can be a great tool for personal growth. I wouldn't be the person that I am today without it. "

There are lots of lonely people and to see a happy ending is truly warming. Best wishes for your realtionship.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Iv gone from a being what i perceived as a sexually repressed fat guy with no body confidence never expecting to get anywhere just to have some giggles chatting to folks and using forums

How have you evolved over your time on here if at all have your needs changed from before you joined

I hope ypu continue to grow and enjoy your journey, you sound like you have come along way and that's inspiring x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Iv gone from a being what i perceived as a sexually repressed fat guy with no body confidence never expecting to get anywhere just to have some giggles chatting to folks and using forums

How have you evolved over your time on here if at all have your needs changed from before you joined

I hope ypu continue to grow and enjoy your journey, you sound like you have come along way and that's inspiring x"
thanks i intend to im far from the finished article

hope u find what u need

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Bump ur rump

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're not fat OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My needs have definitely changed over my time on Fab.

I went from a kid in a sweet shop syndrome to not meeting very often as it wasn't doing it for me anymore.

I'm not sure what I want now.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You're not fat OP

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i know that now its what i used to think tho fab has helped me see whats right in front of me

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By *ert n BerylCouple
over a year ago

middlesbrough

I, female half, in the 18 months I’ve been going to clubs, have learnt the following -

- a massive amount of body confidence!

- confidence in myself

- that sex can be fun and last more than 5 minutes including taking clothes off lol

- how to relax and really enjoy sex

- that I love sharing my hubby

- that I love the fact he shares me

- I’ve learnt the real value and depth of the word trust!

- that I have a bi side

- that I can saturate a bed lol

There are so many things about the lifestyle that help people grow, but outsiders think it’s just about fucking, it’s not!

A xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've slowly accepted by bi side enough to be honest about it.

I've found the main part of the site rarely works for my personality and that I'm better suited to this part (Where I can play and express myself).

That all the original desires and hopes still stack up. There are people like me, that share my view on wanting a little intimacy and sincere warmth along with the sex.

My hopes are as high as they've ever been, only now I'm way more confident in myself.

Not boring.

Not overweight, having a six pack isn't required.

Being short isn't the hurdle I thought it was.

People are actually really friendly, funny and helpful in the forum.

Just be myself, avoid unessercarry confrontation and play with the people who like me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah that's a lovely post

Fab has allowed me to discuss and play out kinks that always made me feel different. Meeting people who think the same has allowed me to realise what's important and I've learnt to understand that it's just a small part of who I am and that's OK.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Its like getting blood out of a stone

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Last chance saloon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great post PMF though I can’t understand for one minute how you can call yourself fat !!! I have evolved in as much as though I still can’t like what I see in the mirror I’m starting to accept and feel great that some people like what they see !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Great post PMF though I can’t understand for one minute how you can call yourself fat !!! I have evolved in as much as though I still can’t like what I see in the mirror I’m starting to accept and feel great that some people like what they see ! "
as i said i dont see that now but did

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Any more evolvers

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