FabSwingers.com forum: Am I asking too much?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Basically I really want a good fwb that will explore the swinging world with me. Not asking for a full on relationship but a good friend.

Seems that alot of men (I say men because I am looking for a man) tend to say that's what they want. Get the first fuck and then gone.

Im losing the will to live here. I've shut my profile down and giving meeting a rest cause its genuinely getting me down.

Has anyone else found good fwb on here? Is it possible?

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By *azkinsWoman
over a year ago

leeds

Ive been here a good few years and find exactly the same thing happens.

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract

"Basically I really want a good fwb that will explore the swinging world with me. Not asking for a full on relationship but a good friend.

Seems that alot of men (I say men because I am looking for a man) tend to say that's what they want. Get the first fuck and then gone.

Im losing the will to live here. I've shut my profile down and giving meeting a rest cause its genuinely getting me down.

Has anyone else found good fwb on here? Is it possible? "

I've got 2 just recently met my second one who was introduced to me by a friend on here he is relatively new to swinging but hes amazing so it can happen babe dont give up hope xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ive been here a good few years and find exactly the same thing happens.

Its starting to give me a bit of a complex. They just disappear off the face of the earth.

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By *uperhorny69erWoman
over a year ago

NORTHAMPTON

I would love to find this also but lost faith

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Basically I really want a good fwb that will explore the swinging world with me. Not asking for a full on relationship but a good friend.

Seems that alot of men (I say men because I am looking for a man) tend to say that's what they want. Get the first fuck and then gone.

Im losing the will to live here. I've shut my profile down and giving meeting a rest cause its genuinely getting me down.

Has anyone else found good fwb on here? Is it possible?

I've got 2 just recently met my second one who was introduced to me by a friend on here he is relatively new to swinging but hes amazing so it can happen babe dont give up hope xxx"

I do have a couple that I have met regularly but not ones to explore with. None I can say cmon let's go to a club Or meet another couple with. And no real conversations in between meets.

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

Yes it happens, mine is the male version of me....so works well...don't give up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would love to find this also but lost faith

You're not alone. 3 yrs. But it's fine. Do a lot of things alone. X

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

Stop looking for one... if it's going to happen let it just happen

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Stop looking for one... if it's going to happen let it just happen "

Just don't want any more fuck and goes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes it happens, mine is the male version of me....so works well...don't give up

That's what I want

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract

"Basically I really want a good fwb that will explore the swinging world with me. Not asking for a full on relationship but a good friend.

Seems that alot of men (I say men because I am looking for a man) tend to say that's what they want. Get the first fuck and then gone.

Im losing the will to live here. I've shut my profile down and giving meeting a rest cause its genuinely getting me down.

Has anyone else found good fwb on here? Is it possible?

I've got 2 just recently met my second one who was introduced to me by a friend on here he is relatively new to swinging but hes amazing so it can happen babe dont give up hope xxx

I do have a couple that I have met regularly but not ones to explore with. None I can say cmon let's go to a club Or meet another couple with. And no real conversations in between meets. "

Chat with them get them to open up more convo is the heart of swinging i would only meet men who had same interst as me especially the club scene and social side and I made sure they weren't lying about it lol if they really serious they will make the effort xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stop looking for one... if it's going to happen let it just happen "

This was what I was going to say. I don't know how you select who you're going to meet and how much communication you have before hand but I find generally that the longer you spend on the build up, the more likely they are to be looking for the same. Someone interested in a quick nsa will probably get bored real quick.

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
over a year ago

north of lincoln

Unfortunately most people see this as a Casual sex site. We struggle to find couples and singles that want to be long term friends and also explore the sex side as well. Everyone just wants to meet as quick as possible for sex and then disappear.

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract

"Stop looking for one... if it's going to happen let it just happen

Exactly this

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

The thrill is in the chase for some people.....

It's happened to me a few times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unfortunately most people see this as a Casual sex site. We struggle to find couples and singles that want to be long term friends and also explore the sex side as well. Everyone just wants to meet as quick as possible for sex and then disappear. "

Because for a lot that's exactly what it is. There's nothing wrong with that. They have every right to use the site as a hook up site just as much as those looking for the next big romance.

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By *arkstaffsMan
over a year ago

Rugeley

"Basically I really want a good fwb that will explore the swinging world with me. Not asking for a full on relationship but a good friend.

Seems that alot of men (I say men because I am looking for a man) tend to say that's what they want. Get the first fuck and then gone.

Im losing the will to live here. I've shut my profile down and giving meeting a rest cause its genuinely getting me down.

Has anyone else found good fwb on here? Is it possible? "

Exactly the same for me. It seems absolutely impossible to meet someone for regular fun and friendship.

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Yeah, I have one who is awesome. Gets me on every level. We can go weeks without meeting up sometimes but only days without talking. It happens. I promise.

As others have said, take your time getting to know them first and when that click happens...you’ll know.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Stop looking for one... if it's going to happen let it just happen

Example. The last one I thought would be good. We spoke every day all day for about a week. He told me what he wanted and was genuinely excited. We met for a quickie cause that's all I had time for. All was good. Carried on chatting after. Again day in day out. Really excited about what we were gonna get up to. I gave him a week's notice that I had a whole night free and we agreed that we would go halves on a hotel. Decided that we would book on the day because it was cheaper. Got to that morning. All was good. He said he'd look at hotels on his lunch break.

And that was it. Gone. Never to be heard from again. I just don't get it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having this issue too op.

Not sure if it's me expecting too much or what

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Honestly I think, to be here, you need to be able to roll with the punches. Now I say that like I’ve got it all worked out but I haven’t. Had an fwb who disappeared in the new year, no idea what happened and it made me a little sad, not heartbroken sad because I wasn’t in love with him... just sad because I liked him. Haven’t heard a word from him since.

Bumping into someone who will become an fwb is like bumping into someone to fall in love with. Everything has to be on your side that day, but I know it’s likely to be when you’re least looking.

I have so many different relationships forged here I’m not sure what the all are really. I just say “friends”. And I have promised myself the minute those strange relationships we have on here (However long they last) stop making me smile then I’m outta here.

Hide away a bit ... everyone needs some downtime. Then stop looking and enjoy the here and now. Who knows what you may bump into.

V xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Maybe progress a little slower. My fwb has evolved. Starts off with seeing someone a few times then decide if we want to meet up with someone else or a couple. It’s worked so far.

Having a great time exploring with each other. Never set out to be fwb but we are also good friends now as well. We talk about what we want and try to find the right people to meet.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Honestly I think, to be here, you need to be able to roll with the punches. Now I say that like I’ve got it all worked out but I haven’t. Had an fwb who disappeared in the new year, no idea what happened and it made me a little sad, not heartbroken sad because I wasn’t in love with him... just sad because I liked him. Haven’t heard a word from him since.

Bumping into someone who will become an fwb is like bumping into someone to fall in love with. Everything has to be on your side that day, but I know it’s likely to be when you’re least looking.

Hide away a bit ... everyone needs some downtime. Then stop looking and enjoy the here and now. Who knows what you may bump into.

V xxxx "

Yes I think that's where I have got to. I've lost the excitement a little about the meets. I suppose it's cause I know they will get dressed and be gone as soon as they have shot their loads.

You're right though. I dont get upset as such. More angry that another one has done it again and what the fuck did I do wrong this time.

Yeah am taking some down time until I get sick of playing on my ow. Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Having this issue too op.

Not sure if it's me expecting too much or what"

That's what I'm thinking. Am I wanting more than fab can give me?

But I dont want to go back to vanilla.

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman
over a year ago

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Bumping into someone who will become an fwb is like bumping into someone to fall in love with. Everything has to be on your side that day, but I know it’s likely to be when you’re least looking.

Hide away a bit ... everyone needs some downtime. Then stop looking and enjoy the here and now. Who knows what you may bump into.

V xxxx

Yes I think that's where I have got to. I've lost the excitement a little about the meets. I suppose it's cause I know they will get dressed and be gone as soon as they have shot their loads.

You're right though. I dont get upset as such. More angry that another one has done it again and what the fuck did I do wrong this time.

Yeah am taking some down time until I get sick of playing on my ow. Lol "

Dont ever feel that way babe dont let them get you down like that... stand in front of that mirror dust yourself down and say ... their loss another mans gain you will find him xx plz dont give up hope and dont ever think it's you bc it's not xxx

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

There's various factors that play into it OP some you can control, others you can't - of course there will be those that are just looking for one offs, and some of those that will say they're looking for more, then there are those that genuinely are looking for something a little more regular - trouble is you can't always tell for sure until the first time you meet which category they're going to fall into - and even then it might be down to compatibility when you do meet - in other words you have to have the one off to know for sure if there's going to be a second, third, fourth etc.

All you can do is spend time getting to know the person as much as you can before meeting and use your instincts, but be prepared that it might just turn out to be a one off.

Sometimes as well outside circumstances come into play - things change that mean it has to stop or remain a one-off.

Eventually though someone will come along with whom there is a connection and chemistry and what you are both looking for is matched - just the same as it does in any other kind of relationship.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"Basically I really want a good fwb that will explore the swinging world with me. Not asking for a full on relationship but a good friend.

Seems that alot of men (I say men because I am looking for a man) tend to say that's what they want. Get the first fuck and then gone.

Im losing the will to live here. I've shut my profile down and giving meeting a rest cause its genuinely getting me down.

Has anyone else found good fwb on here? Is it possible? "

Of course it possible, you just have to widen your search and open up to new possibilities.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Bumping into someone who will become an fwb is like bumping into someone to fall in love with. Everything has to be on your side that day, but I know it’s likely to be when you’re least looking.

Hide away a bit ... everyone needs some downtime. Then stop looking and enjoy the here and now. Who knows what you may bump into.

V xxxx

Yes I think that's where I have got to. I've lost the excitement a little about the meets. I suppose it's cause I know they will get dressed and be gone as soon as they have shot their loads.

You're right though. I dont get upset as such. More angry that another one has done it again and what the fuck did I do wrong this time.

Yeah am taking some down time until I get sick of playing on my ow. Lol

Mwah thanks lovely. That's what I needed to hear.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Basically I really want a good fwb that will explore the swinging world with me. Not asking for a full on relationship but a good friend.

Seems that alot of men (I say men because I am looking for a man) tend to say that's what they want. Get the first fuck and then gone.

Im losing the will to live here. I've shut my profile down and giving meeting a rest cause its genuinely getting me down.

Has anyone else found good fwb on here? Is it possible?

Of course it possible, you just have to widen your search and open up to new possibilities."

Widen search as in how? Regular isn't gonna live 100 miles away. I'm pretty much open to alot. Pretty open minded. And I can talk for England. Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There's various factors that play into it OP some you can control, others you can't - of course there will be those that are just looking for one offs, and some of those that will say they're looking for more, then there are those that genuinely are looking for something a little more regular - trouble is you can't always tell for sure until the first time you meet which category they're going to fall into - and even then it might be down to compatibility when you do meet - in other words you have to have the one off to know for sure if there's going to be a second, third, fourth etc.

All you can do is spend time getting to know the person as much as you can before meeting and use your instincts, but be prepared that it might just turn out to be a one off.

Sometimes as well outside circumstances come into play - things change that mean it has to stop or remain a one-off.

Eventually though someone will come along with whom there is a connection and chemistry and what you are both looking for is matched - just the same as it does in any other kind of relationship.

So in other words suck it up butter cup. Lol

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

"Basically I really want a good fwb that will explore the swinging world with me. Not asking for a full on relationship but a good friend.

Seems that alot of men (I say men because I am looking for a man) tend to say that's what they want. Get the first fuck and then gone.

Im losing the will to live here. I've shut my profile down and giving meeting a rest cause its genuinely getting me down.

Has anyone else found good fwb on here? Is it possible?

Of course it possible, you just have to widen your search and open up to new possibilities.

Widen search as in how? Regular isn't gonna live 100 miles away. I'm pretty much open to alot. Pretty open minded. And I can talk for England. Lol "

Not so true. My longest “relationship” found here nearly 5 years ago and still going strong is with a man in Leeds.

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in the same boat. I just don't get why they can't just say I want NSA one offs cause the majority of the time I'm totally up for that. But I've had guys try to talk me out of NSA, saying they want more, just regular FB, but then vanish after meets.

Saying that after several months quite a few of them try to re-establish contact when they realise they're not getting it as much with more randomers!

Why does honesty come so difficult?!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the guys on here are fuck and never to return. Inked has told me this about single guys. I think they think that more than one meet equals a relationship. As a single I preferred repeat meets as the sex and play get better especially of you're both greedy. And as a couple we prefer repeat meets with couples and singles. Good luck with your search. Kinky

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm in the same boat. I just don't get why they can't just say I want NSA one offs cause the majority of the time I'm totally up for that. But I've had guys try to talk me out of NSA, saying they want more, just regular FB, but then vanish after meets.

Saying that after several months quite a few of them try to re-establish contact when they realise they're not getting it as much with more randomers!

Why does honesty come so difficult?!?"

Exactly. I'd rather be told after a meet there is no connection or they didn't think I was right for a 2nd meet. Not to just disappear. And that one guy who disappeared after weeks of talking. Just be honest ffs. I wear my big girl pants most days. I can take it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Having this issue too op.

Not sure if it's me expecting too much or what

That's what I'm thinking. Am I wanting more than fab can give me?

But I dont want to go back to vanilla. "

I know what you mean, I'm the same.

Met a lovely guy, ticks all my boxes, took chat away from Fab, and onto Facebook. All good, but trying to arrange a meet is like pulling hens teeth. He keeps saying we will soon, I know he works long hours and is looking after a poorly Dad, but hell I have needs goddamnit! And he is fit!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Concentrate more on the friendship. Don't fuck them too quickly. If they put the graft in they are more likely to stay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Concentrate more on the friendship. Don't fuck them too quickly. If they put the graft in they are more likely to stay "

Absolutely this, so true. My last fwb was based on friendships,we don't fuck anymore he relocated but still firm friends.

And still friends with guys I met on Fab years ago (under a different profile) though now it's more coffee meets than sex meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Speaking as a single guy....

Sometimes reality is different from what you build up on the internet....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Speaking as a single guy....

Sometimes reality is different from what you build up on the internet...."

Yeah I get that. Sometimes pics and chat isn't as it seems. But if I change my mind about someone after meeting I'm upfront and honest and will tell that person. I don't just disappear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most of the guys on here are fuck and never to return. Inked has told me this about single guys. I think they think that more than one meet equals a relationship."

Not all of us though

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

All you can do is spend time getting to know the person as much as you can before meeting and use your instincts, but be prepared that it might just turn out to be a one off.

Sometimes as well outside circumstances come into play - things change that mean it has to stop or remain a one-off.

Eventually though someone will come along with whom there is a connection and chemistry and what you are both looking for is matched - just the same as it does in any other kind of relationship.

So in other words suck it up butter cup. Lol "

Not at all - and if that was the inference that came across it wasn't my intention.

But, sadly some people will lie just to get their leg over, some people will tell you exactly what you want to hear and it's not always easy to spot so to an extent, as others have said you do have to learn how to roll with it and accept it, but never ever suck it up - just learn from it as much as you can when it doesn't pan out how you'd ideally like it to - taking your time before meeting is one way to get more of a sense of people, although it doesn't always guarantee anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stop looking for one... if it's going to happen let it just happen

Just don't want any more fuck and goes. "

Change how you go about things then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Speaking as a single guy....

Sometimes reality is different from what you build up on the internet....

Yeah I get that. Sometimes pics and chat isn't as it seems. But if I change my mind about someone after meeting I'm upfront and honest and will tell that person. I don't just disappear.

Exactly! I've had meets and don't want repeats, so I tell the guy that!!

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester

To be honest a regular FWB would be wonderful, okay I wouldn't want us to crowd each other. I would imagine that would be the case with most women, but certainly not just a case of a fuck and vanish.

A relationship rarely happens overnight, I would think it's something that would grow organically, both of you find it happening. It has happened in the past and then later we have moved on but hopefully without too many regrets.

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

I’m giving up too on finding one ... they get the first fuck over with say all the right things then run for the hills .....,

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By *arry WindsorMan
over a year ago

Heaton Park Manchester

"To be honest a regular FWB would be wonderful, okay I wouldn't want us to crowd each other. I would imagine that would be the case with most women, but certainly not just a case of a fuck and vanish.

Absolutely this!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think this is what I need to remember. Its not gonna happen over night.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Stop looking for one... if it's going to happen let it just happen

Just don't want any more fuck and goes.

Change how you go about things then"

Its changing. Believe me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met my Knight off here...

6m on we still good...we do vanilla dates and go clubs too.

It will happen for you

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By *man91Man
over a year ago

Manchester

I am also in the search for someone to meet more regular who I can explore with our fantasies and desires together, so you are not alone. I sometimes have big build ups for meets but then nothing happens, then sudden cut offs or no shows.

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley

"Ive been here a good few years and find exactly the same thing happens.

Actually I find the same thing as a guy A lot of the women are flakey as well.

I think everyone is here for their own reasons, and NSA fucks are just a part of it, others want more.

OP keep trying and you will find a fuck buddy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We cannot know what tomorrow will bring....

But if we lose hope then it will always disappoint.

No relationship starts out as anything more than an initial meet and if both want the same then just taking it one step at a time. Fb/fwb/friend/lover they all start with a single leap of trust and hope. Sometimes we fall, but then we just have to get up, accept the world as it is, and one day if we are really lucky we may find that unique other that changes our world...

Good luck OP. Dreams are always worth chasing....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're not asking too much. Many have found a fwb. Some have more than one therefore it is possible. There is no time limit.

"We cannot know what tomorrow will bring....

But if we lose hope then it will always disappoint.

Good luck OP. Dreams are always worth chasing...."

Blimey! You need to come out of your cave more often because that was a bloody good post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest the sex can't have been very good. Don't knows many men that wouldn't want good sex in a casual form

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Basically I really want a good fwb that will explore the swinging world with me. Not asking for a full on relationship but a good friend.

Seems that alot of men (I say men because I am looking for a man) tend to say that's what they want. Get the first fuck and then gone.

Im losing the will to live here. I've shut my profile down and giving meeting a rest cause its genuinely getting me down.

Has anyone else found good fwb on here? Is it possible? "

Well I have been looking for this for about 5 years and I am still looking.

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract

"To be honest the sex can't have been very good. Don't knows many men that wouldn't want good sex in a casual form "

That's a bit harsh x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can not get (fucked) full stop.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Basically I really want a good fwb that will explore the swinging world with me. Not asking for a full on relationship but a good friend.

Seems that alot of men (I say men because I am looking for a man) tend to say that's what they want. Get the first fuck and then gone.

Im losing the will to live here. I've shut my profile down and giving meeting a rest cause its genuinely getting me down.

Has anyone else found good fwb on here? Is it possible? "

Yes you are. Maybe because you give it up easy? Therefore men have what they want and that means they're no longer interested. As others have said, focus on the friendship instead of the sexual stuff. Make a man realise they have to tick that box before they go any further.

Too many women on here are quick to jump on the single men are all idiots bandwagon. The majority spoil it for the few, but whilst the women and couples let them, they carry on.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Every "relationship" has to start somewhere.

I remember years ago, and I am talking years (I was still at home) going on a first date with a guy who had the wedding venue booked before the end of the meal. I never saw him again: too much too soon.

My point is, could it be in your quest for a fwb you're coming on too strong: not allowing things to develop? There are preditory men on here who can zone in on the "vulnerable", say all the right things to get their dick wet then...poof!! Off into the ether.

Slow your roll. Get to know the person, talk, laugh, relax and don't think "he's the one" from the off. Enjoy being in someone's company and before you know it...

Good luck.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We cannot know what tomorrow will bring....

But if we lose hope then it will always disappoint.

Good luck OP. Dreams are always worth chasing...."

Yep you are so right.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To be honest the sex can't have been very good. Don't knows many men that wouldn't want good sex in a casual form "

Ever heard the saying if you got nothing nice to say don't say anything at all?

And FYI I'm a good fuck even if I do say so myself.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"To be honest the sex can't have been very good. Don't knows many men that wouldn't want good sex in a casual form "

Meow!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Every "relationship" has to start somewhere.

Slow your roll. Get to know the person, talk, laugh, relax and don't think "he's the one" from the off. Enjoy being in someone's company and before you know it...

Good luck."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

OK thanks for all your replies people.

I think you're all right. I gotta slow down and go with the flow more. More socials I think. If a guy is really interested then he will wait. And then see what happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be honest the sex can't have been very good. Don't knows many men that wouldn't want good sex in a casual form "

Wow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes she is utterly wonderful chemistry off the charts

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"We cannot know what tomorrow will bring....

But if we lose hope then it will always disappoint.

Good luck OP. Dreams are always worth chasing...."

Thought of the day..

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Ive been here a good few years and find exactly the same thing happens.

Its starting to give me a bit of a complex. They just disappear off the face of the earth. "

It's because they've got what they want, a quick fuck. Do the friends part first and insist on a few socials only. The ones that have disappeared will come back cos they have no luck elsewhere. I've experienced this and refused to see them again as they lied about what they wanted. Good luck OP, there are some nice guys here, so it is possible. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ive been here a good few years and find exactly the same thing happens.

Its starting to give me a bit of a complex. They just disappear off the face of the earth.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We cannot know what tomorrow will bring....

But if we lose hope then it will always disappoint.

Good luck OP. Dreams are always worth chasing....

Thought of the day..

Definitely.

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By *ime for fun guyMan
over a year ago

Wherever you want

"The thrill is in the chase for some people.....

It's happened to me a few times. "

This is very true. Many people just like the chase. Not sure what can be done about it as even chatting for longer won’t guarantee you’ll find what you’re looking for. You could possibly insist on a social first and maybe a visit to a club together to see if they are really open to what you want.

All we can do is make sure our profiles are clear what we’re looking for.

Good luck and I hope you find a good friend for fun.

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By *untimes6969Man
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Real life can get in the way but finding a 'connection' is so important plus discussing what both parties are looking for - imagine it's an interview! When I first started, I was advised 'it's bit like dating but without all the bullshit' - which is true to an extent but the normal 'checks and measures' are important as you find out about the person and their situation, hopes and needs! Take your time - slowly slowly catch a monkey - NSA or any relationship gets better with time plus making a special friend too to share experiences plus life situations too!

Good luck and keep up the hard work, as when you find the right person - Woo Hoo!

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By *hboobloverMan
over a year ago

Haywards Heath

It's very difficult trying to find that person to be honest.

Hang in there and I'm sure it will happen one day.

I'm in the same boat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stop looking for one... if it's going to happen let it just happen "

This is so true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Still looking...beginning to lose the will to live..lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've found 1. They do exist. But very hard to find.

I'm on the search for 1 more but it's proving very hard indeed stick with it lovely xx

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By *ig9incherforuMan
over a year ago

Welwyn

Most men will take advantage of a woman... Fuck and move on that's what they are here for

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By *ts_me1990Man
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

Sadly this site is full of shallow men that puts the half decent ones in bad light

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By *ig9incherforuMan
over a year ago

Welwyn

"Sadly this site is full of shallow men that puts the half decent ones in bad light "

Agreed I'm not one of those

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally can relate, the lines get blurred and people

Get pushy. Im happy for a lady friend also (nw)

- apply within if interested hahahahah

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over a year ago

"Basically I really want a good fwb that will explore the swinging world with me. Not asking for a full on relationship but a good friend.

Seems that alot of men (I say men because I am looking for a man) tend to say that's what they want. Get the first fuck and then gone.

Im losing the will to live here. I've shut my profile down and giving meeting a rest cause its genuinely getting me down.

Has anyone else found good fwb on here? Is it possible? "

I am looking for the same things . I'm picky . Most men on here hate my profile and get abuse because of it . In told I should fck every guy that messages me because this is a sex site .

Good luck op I hope you and me find this golden male unicorn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The best way to find a good fwb In my opinion (male half) would be to meet socially first before play maybe at a club then can really see what the guys like..I have a few lady friends who when i was single used to go to clubs or parties with and we where just friends..never played but socially got on well...think it's all about if you press all the right buttons for each other sexually me and the ladies didn't but didn't stop us being friends.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Totally can relate, the lines get blurred and people

Get pushy. Im happy for a lady friend also (nw)

- apply within if interested hahahahah"

Ha ha I wouldn't mind a naughty lady friend but not bi enough to meet a lady one on one. A bi female I can share cock with on a regular basis would be good. Ha ha

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Sadly this site is full of shallow men that puts the half decent ones in bad light "

I don't understand this.

Not everyone is here for the same thing. Some prefer fuck and go. Some prefer repeat meets. Some have a specific type, others don't care.

Just because someone has a preference, it doesn't make them shallow. Shallow is banded about too much on this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single guy on here, I have had regular fwb and had breaks from the site when I have been in vanilla relationships. I prefer regular meets and getting to know a woman, rather than Shah everything on the site. There are hundreds of guys out there looking for regular fwb.

I put my fab life in a box, separate from the vanilla world and the fwb situation can blur into a relationship, which may scare some guys off. So need to be very clear. In your profile about what you want and how it will progress.

Good luck and I am sure you will find a fwb to explore with.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Interestingly I have an FWB that is part of my real life ... ie friends have met him and so has my daughter. We’ve known each other a long time and are great friends. But that didn’t happen for a few years.

Others stay separate.

Relationships change all the time and they have to start at the beginning.

V x

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"Basically I really want a good fwb that will explore the swinging world with me. Not asking for a full on relationship but a good friend.

Seems that alot of men (I say men because I am looking for a man) tend to say that's what they want. Get the first fuck and then gone.

Im losing the will to live here. I've shut my profile down and giving meeting a rest cause its genuinely getting me down.

Has anyone else found good fwb on here? Is it possible? "

If you want a friend try taking a woman .

Or just go to your local club the guy's in clubs are worth a hundred of the fab guy's..

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over a year ago

"Basically I really want a good fwb that will explore the swinging world with me. Not asking for a full on relationship but a good friend.

Seems that alot of men (I say men because I am looking for a man) tend to say that's what they want. Get the first fuck and then gone.

Im losing the will to live here. I've shut my profile down and giving meeting a rest cause its genuinely getting me down.

Has anyone else found good fwb on here? Is it possible?

If you want a friend try taking a woman .

Or just go to your local club the guy's in clubs are worth a hundred of the fab guy's.."

I haven't got any local clubs as such. They all about an hours drive away in each direction. Our only club closed down a few years ago.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Sadly this site is full of shallow men that puts the half decent ones in bad light "

No they put themselves in a bad light. No one else.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"Basically I really want a good fwb that will explore the swinging world with me. Not asking for a full on relationship but a good friend.

Seems that alot of men (I say men because I am looking for a man) tend to say that's what they want. Get the first fuck and then gone.

Im losing the will to live here. I've shut my profile down and giving meeting a rest cause its genuinely getting me down.

Has anyone else found good fwb on here? Is it possible?

If you want a friend try taking a woman .

Or just go to your local club the guy's in clubs are worth a hundred of the fab guy's..

I haven't got any local clubs as such. They all about an hours drive away in each direction. Our only club closed down a few years ago. "

To us that would be prefer no running in to them in Tesco..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Basically I really want a good fwb that will explore the swinging world with me. Not asking for a full on relationship but a good friend.

Seems that alot of men (I say men because I am looking for a man) tend to say that's what they want. Get the first fuck and then gone.

Im losing the will to live here. I've shut my profile down and giving meeting a rest cause its genuinely getting me down.

Has anyone else found good fwb on here? Is it possible?

If you want a friend try taking a woman .

Or just go to your local club the guy's in clubs are worth a hundred of the fab guy's..

I haven't got any local clubs as such. They all about an hours drive away in each direction. Our only club closed down a few years ago.

To us that would be prefer no running in to them in Tesco.."

Ha ha very true.

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over a year ago

"Basically I really want a good fwb that will explore the swinging world with me. Not asking for a full on relationship but a good friend.

Seems that alot of men (I say men because I am looking for a man) tend to say that's what they want. Get the first fuck and then gone.

Im losing the will to live here. I've shut my profile down and giving meeting a rest cause its genuinely getting me down.

Has anyone else found good fwb on here? Is it possible?

If you want a friend try taking a woman .

Or just go to your local club the guy's in clubs are worth a hundred of the fab guy's.."

I beg your pudding

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm close to giving up too

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over a year ago

"Basically I really want a good fwb that will explore the swinging world with me. Not asking for a full on relationship but a good friend.

Seems that alot of men (I say men because I am looking for a man) tend to say that's what they want. Get the first fuck and then gone.

Im losing the will to live here. I've shut my profile down and giving meeting a rest cause its genuinely getting me down.

Has anyone else found good fwb on here? Is it possible?

If you want a friend try taking a woman .

Or just go to your local club the guy's in clubs are worth a hundred of the fab guy's..

I haven't got any local clubs as such. They all about an hours drive away in each direction. Our only club closed down a few years ago.

To us that would be prefer no running in to them in Tesco.."

I work in a Tesco and quite often have customers that i recognise from here.

Had a few offers from the so-called vanilla customers too

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over a year ago

"Basically I really want a good fwb that will explore the swinging world with me. Not asking for a full on relationship but a good friend.

Seems that alot of men (I say men because I am looking for a man) tend to say that's what they want. Get the first fuck and then gone.

Im losing the will to live here. I've shut my profile down and giving meeting a rest cause its genuinely getting me down.

Has anyone else found good fwb on here? Is it possible? "

Following this as I’ve been quite lucky in the sense I’ve stayed platonic friends with a few good people.

Not quite found the right dynamic for me yet

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over a year ago

Not read through so I'm probably repeating what some may have already said and if so apologies....but here's my take after 5 years on and off here.

I only look for a potential repeat meet long term partner and have never looked anything else. If I like a profile and their pics but see they've hundreds of veris then I consciously move on. For me rightly or wrongly it says a few things to me who only looks for a FB/fwb....

1. They're very popular and chance of getting a meet is low, chance of a repeat meet is lower and no chance of her becoming a regular. She gets too distracted,

2. If a guy can get repeat meets ladies most definitely can simply by statistics of choice and meets. It's easier for them at socials, clubs and parties as guys will circle round and couples who generally tend to like regulars are mostly looking for a single lady.

3. The forum is a good place to chat, it has no regional filter and you may connect with someone from Mars or Venus in my case and it'll never happen (so I also filter out forumites, unless I'm traveling and I'll send a message if they like 'Oldies' like me. The chances are slim as now we're moving out of the regular meets zone (that said I've had two 'regulars' over near Manchester and Liverpool whom I'd meet over there 5 or 6X a year and they visited me a few times too.

Nothing is guaranteed here. We can search a long time and what we look for may pop up any time unexpectedly.

I'd say most singles when starting use it as a sex site and then after ticking off a few fantasies when that becomes the same ol' they look for a bit more meaningful sex rather than fuck n go (yes, ladies often fuck n go too with so much window shopping to be had and greener grass).

Those who have been around a long time without realising it give off messages maybe negatively without knowing.

For me as a single guy if a lady deletes without replying she's closed the door permanently as per fab rules and by the way forums keep going on about it too. I block and move on so as not to keep 'wishing' on their profile and just get down about it. There are many new ones joining and some rejoining with different filters that it's not an issue having a large block list. Then I may delete for a while and rejoin with a clean slate.

My regulars become friends one going back 4 yes now and we still meet on occasions and sometimes just for chatting about life.

I've not met anyone new on this profile and not too hopeful with most of fab having filter cut offs well below 55 for oldies #unableto getitupandkeepitup like me.

I do surprise myself ever so often though

There's always hope OP.

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over a year ago

"Not read through so I'm probably repeating what some may have already said and if so apologies....but here's my take after 5 years on and off here.

1. They're very popular and chance of getting a meet is low, chance of a repeat meet is lower and no chance of her becoming a regular. She gets too distracted,

Nothing is guaranteed here. We can search a long time and what we look for may pop up any time unexpectedly.

Those who have been around a long time without realising it give off messages maybe negatively without knowing.

My regulars become friends one going back 4 yes now and we still meet on occasions and sometimes just for chatting about life.

I've not met anyone new on this profile and not too hopeful with most of fab having filter cut offs well below 55 for oldies #unableto getitupandkeepitup like me.

I do surprise myself ever so often though

There's always hope OP.

Brilliant profile can’t see you having a problem

I get what you mean about the popularity competition though and I’m the same as soon as I see open pics of someone I may think hmm engaging in sexual activity

Not prudish obviously but we all know what goes on, we don’t all need to see it

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over a year ago

"Not read through so I'm probably repeating what some may have already said and if so apologies....but here's my take after 5 years on and off here.

1. They're very popular and chance of getting a meet is low, chance of a repeat meet is lower and no chance of her becoming a regular. She gets too distracted,

Nothing is guaranteed here. We can search a long time and what we look for may pop up any time unexpectedly.

Those who have been around a long time without realising it give off messages maybe negatively without knowing.

My regulars become friends one going back 4 yes now and we still meet on occasions and sometimes just for chatting about life.

I've not met anyone new on this profile and not too hopeful with most of fab having filter cut offs well below 55 for oldies #unableto getitupandkeepitup like me.

I do surprise myself ever so often though

There's always hope OP.

Brilliant profile can’t see you having a problem

I get what you mean about the popularity competition though and I’m the same as soon as I see open pics of someone I may think hmm engaging in sexual activity

Not prudish obviously but we all know what goes on, we don’t all need to see it

xx "

Thank you. Yours isnt too shabby either.

Take a lot more than that though. Age reversal or lying to get under age filters lol. I've to rely on ladies messaging me... and that could get them arrested

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