FabSwingers.com forum: Swinging Etiquette

By *irDandSub OP Couple
over a year ago

southampton

Morning All

Would love to get feedback on this.

We have become good friends both in the swinging world and socially with a couple.

We made contact and had a social with a new couple and then arranged a playdate with them.

We had shared this with our friends.

In the meantime our friends were contacted by the same couple and a social occured and now before we have had our playdate they have played with the couple.

It is our thought that knowing we had made contact and had plans etc then our friends should have waited. Some kind of swinging etiquette.

Or are we being silly, and all is fair in the world of swinging!!!

Cheers in advance.

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By *irewater2018Couple (FF)
over a year ago

Brighton

"Morning All

Would love to get feedback on this.

We have become good friends both in the swinging world and socially with a couple.

We made contact and had a social with a new couple and then arranged a playdate with them.

We had shared this with our friends.

In the meantime our friends were contacted by the same couple and a social occured and now before we have had our playdate they have played with the couple.

It is our thought that knowing we had made contact and had plans etc then our friends should have waited. Some kind of swinging etiquette.

Or are we being silly, and all is fair in the world of swinging!!!

Cheers in advance. "

Sounds to me there is quite a level of emotion attachment?

Wondering how healthy that would be in the long run or am I missing something?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds unhealthy, swinging is just naughty sexy fun, you shouldn’t be getting hung up about all this. People should be free to play with whoever they want, when they want without other play friends getting jealous. Chill out x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup your over thinking things

Nobody has the right on here to say who and when folk can meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this serious?

. So if you couldn't meet for weeks have they got to keep virginal until you can?

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By *irewater2018Couple (FF)
over a year ago

Brighton

Is this off topic but I sometimes get feelings at clubs that after play with a couple or soloer a sense of awkwardness if I or we want to play with others...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's freaky!! We had someone that used to do that. They'd meet the people before we did. So we started saying "oh we're going to meet xyz" just so they would go fuck them.

We had no intention of meeting xyx.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Yes you’re being silly. Meeting people others know is common. I always tell my fab friends if I’ve met someone great so they can make contact too if they’d like. We cannot expect our sexual partners to be only interested in us. That’s verging on over sensitive.

V x

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By *asques and boxersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford and dept16

"Morning All

Would love to get feedback on this.

We have become good friends both in the swinging world and socially with a couple.

We made contact and had a social with a new couple and then arranged a playdate with them.

We had shared this with our friends.

In the meantime our friends were contacted by the same couple and a social occured and now before we have had our playdate they have played with the couple.

It is our thought that knowing we had made contact and had plans etc then our friends should have waited. Some kind of swinging etiquette.

Or are we being silly, and all is fair in the world of swinging!!!

Cheers in advance.

Sounds to me there is quite a level of emotion attachment?

Wondering how healthy that would be in the long run or am I missing something?"

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By *esires of HertsCouple
over a year ago

Herts and London Borders

All's fair in love and war....and swinging

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We're all human beings with feelings. We're all used to a certain etiquette where sex is concerned e.g. you don't have sex with your friends partners or if you know your friend is interested in someone you don't muscle in.

The swinging world is a bit confused when it comes to this because some people genuinely see it as no strings attached and have no feelings at all for their casual sex partners and others do. I also think that people apply different rules to couples and singles expecting couples to accept things single people don't.

I think if you feel miffed about this its perfectly ok but I also think you have to put it in the swinging context not the real world context.

Hope it doesn't affect your friendship

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I can see why it might give you a brief moment of disappointment OP but not to the point where you should be considering if some kind of etiquette has been broken - perhaps diaries aligned better for the other couple than they did for you, perhaps they had already been talking to this other couple but felt awkward about saying so when you mentioned them, perhaps any number of other things.

As Nicecouple say the usual rules of dating etc are easily confused in the swinging world and a level of acceptance that things happen "differently" is what you have to adopt

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By *dores blackmenWoman
over a year ago

incognito mode ;-)

Sometimes you can't always meet someone as quickly as you would like to,in swinging it means they might meet others who are more available before you

If you felt a little put out about this then keep who you are planning to meet quiet

I've always kept quiet about plans to meet someone,I do notice if I leave a verification,someone I know might meet them after,I put it down to I've recommended them in the verification,it's swinging life

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

It’s not the most courteous thing to do and if this was a dating site and one if your friends approached a person you’d been planning to meet then I can see why you’d feel aggrieved. However, this is a swinging site where sharing and swapping is the norm so I don’t think the same rules apply, particularly as you’re both couples and not singles who have become emotionally attached.

Lou x

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By *ovingittwoCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

We find that all the genuine swingers near us nearly all know each other or of each other, it's actually quite a small community so this just seems to happen naturally. Don't sweat about it x

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