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First date with a none swinger

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By *litterbabe OP   Woman
over a year ago

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Recently I happened to meet somebody and they have asked me to go out on a date with them.

As I am very much into the swinging lifestyle, I was totally honest about my feelings on being non monogamous and I suggested a club for our potential date.

I wonder if anybody else has done something similar and how it went.

I know that how life is, anything could happen between now and when we are hoping to go out, (sometime in the next week), communication could end up drying up or excuses could be made, but as it stands at the moment, this is the plan.

His expectations are in line with how a club and the night is likely to be.

He didn't seem at all intimidated by my suggestion, if you asked a lady out and she suggested a swinging club, would you feel that that is somewhat intimidating or intriguing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it would be intriguing to a lot of women. I think youd have to gauge the conversations leading up to it, to see what the likely response is.

Sometimes you get unlikely responses!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would definitely make me like her a lot. There's something about meeting someone who is on the same wave length that excites me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this is an excellent idea. No pretence or later explaining... Would it work the other way round do you think? I'd always resigned myself to either having vanilla relationships that never really last as I am not being myself or being single.

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By *litterbabe OP   Woman
over a year ago

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My lifestyle is a big part of me that I have no intention of giving up so I thought it was important to be transparent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My lifestyle is a big part of me that I have no intention of giving up so I thought it was important to be transparent. "

If he's for you then he will happily enjoy oh with. Have a wonderful evening xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Recently I happened to meet somebody and they have asked me to go out on a date with them.

As I am very much into the swinging lifestyle, I was totally honest about my feelings on being non monogamous and I suggested a club for our potential date.

I wonder if anybody else has done something similar and how it went.

I know that how life is, anything could happen between now and when we are hoping to go out, (sometime in the next week), communication could end up drying up or excuses could be made, but as it stands at the moment, this is the plan.

His expectations are in line with how a club and the night is likely to be.

He didn't seem at all intimidated by my suggestion, if you asked a lady out and she suggested a swinging club, would you feel that that is somewhat intimidating or intriguing?"

If I was vanilla and he wasn't and asked to a club on a 1st date it would freak me out, but at the same time he's being honest with who he is.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Ooh I don't think I would suggest a first date at a swingers club. I would probably just prefer a meal and/or a few drinks in a quiet pub so we could chat and get to know each other a little.

I would much prefer to build the relationship before we started swinging together if we met out in the real world. I would definitely bring up swinging on the first date though. I would want to be completely open and honest about this part of my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes open honest and straight to the point is the best way to be hun.....best of luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I met someone off the site there's no way I'd tell them about any of this. It's my secret.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would tell them, but in my own time. Maybe discuss with them how they view sex and monogamy before I said anything. Don't think I would want a non-lifestyle partner though. But I'm not prepared to go back to vanilla, so if he wasn't up for it, that would signal the end of any relationship. I'm very happy for my life the way it is atm, so not bothered about a partner.

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