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By *ub bbw OP   Woman
over a year ago

oldbury

Hi there

Just looking to find out if anyone else takes it personally when they have had a met not go as it was planned. Recently had a meet or two where I have met as part of a couple with another couple after pic swaps and phone calls to verify who we are etc everyone well up for some fun right to the point of meeting up. Met the couple and chatted then started to play Sir (i am in a dom sub couple) has given permission for me to play with the male and often the woman but when i have approached the male they have just rejcted me and told me your not for me thanks and i just want to watch him with my mrs. I have now taken this personally as i feel it must be me Sir says its not its them but i wonder if any one else has felt down trodden after a meet like this or if its just me being over sensitive. I know im not everyones cup of tea but my pics are honest pics of me and we are up front and honest with everyone on here. Is it me or is it them

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By *ickyfittsMan
over a year ago

newbury

Hi,

I can see from your veri's that you've had plenty of meets where it's gone well - and we all get knocked back from time to time. Hurts your feelings, of course, but you're definitely not alone on that one.

I'm sure there'll be plenty of others who'll love you

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Hi,

I can see from your veri's that you've had plenty of meets where it's gone well - and we all get knocked back from time to time. Hurts your feelings, of course, but you're definitely not alone on that one.

I'm sure there'll be plenty of others who'll love you

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try not to take it personally darlin...i know from experience its not easy to do...but it's their problem not yours. If they want to be like that, then reflect that in their verfication so they are aware, and shout NEXT!! There are plenty of men out there who love us BBW's, more than you realise, so listen to Sir, he knows you best, and just keep on being your sexy self

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont let it get to you

But can i just say that if that ever appended to us as a couple then neither of us would play we would both walk away xx

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

It would be hard not to take that personally as up until the point of meeting you they have not said anything about it being just your Master they want to play with.

I hope that at that point your Master gets up and leaves, making it clear to the other couple how inappropriate their behaviour is.

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By *ub bbw OP   Woman
over a year ago

oldbury


"Hi,

I can see from your veri's that you've had plenty of meets where it's gone well - and we all get knocked back from time to time. Hurts your feelings, of course, but you're definitely not alone on that one.

I'm sure there'll be plenty of others who'll love you

"

Thanks hun there have been but not for a while altho do have a regular play mate who loves me to bots and cant get enough i just need to get over this one

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By *ub bbw OP   Woman
over a year ago

oldbury


"It would be hard not to take that personally as up until the point of meeting you they have not said anything about it being just your Master they want to play with.

I hope that at that point your Master gets up and leaves, making it clear to the other couple how inappropriate their behaviour is. "

No he didnt he continued to play but made sure i had attention from him and knew from him how proud he was of me and how sexy he finds me he wants me if no one else does lol He stopped after and we discussed it he did say if we had been in their house we would have walked. Im secure with him playing without me and i do love watching him but there is only so much of that you can do in a night

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By *ub bbw OP   Woman
over a year ago

oldbury


"Dont let it get to you

But can i just say that if that ever appended to us as a couple then neither of us would play we would both walk away xx"

Thanks soapy

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"It would be hard not to take that personally as up until the point of meeting you they have not said anything about it being just your Master they want to play with.

I hope that at that point your Master gets up and leaves, making it clear to the other couple how inappropriate their behaviour is.

No he didnt he continued to play but made sure i had attention from him and knew from him how proud he was of me and how sexy he finds me he wants me if no one else does lol He stopped after and we discussed it he did say if we had been in their house we would have walked. Im secure with him playing without me and i do love watching him but there is only so much of that you can do in a night"

I'm sorry but I think he was bang out of order, he says he loves you and is proud of you but allows someone to disrespect you in your own home??

It makes no difference whose house you were in, I would.hope that anyone I played as a couple with would respect me enough to chuck someone.like that out

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By *ub bbw OP   Woman
over a year ago

oldbury


"It would be hard not to take that personally as up until the point of meeting you they have not said anything about it being just your Master they want to play with.

I hope that at that point your Master gets up and leaves, making it clear to the other couple how inappropriate their behaviour is.

No he didnt he continued to play but made sure i had attention from him and knew from him how proud he was of me and how sexy he finds me he wants me if no one else does lol He stopped after and we discussed it he did say if we had been in their house we would have walked. Im secure with him playing without me and i do love watching him but there is only so much of that you can do in a night

I'm sorry but I think he was bang out of order, he says he loves you and is proud of you but allows someone to disrespect you in your own home??

It makes no difference whose house you were in, I would.hope that anyone I played as a couple with would respect me enough to chuck someone.like that out"

We did stop play and i left the room and he discussed it with me in a way its my fault he asked if i wanted him to stop all play but i said no i was ok i enjoy watching him so thought i could handle it plus i didnt want to feel like i had let him down. He has told me he feels bad for this now and knows we should have made them leave but he genuinely thought i was ok i didnt break down till after they left

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi there

Just looking to find out if anyone else takes it personally when they have had a met not go as it was planned. Recently had a meet or two where I have met as part of a couple with another couple after pic swaps and phone calls to verify who we are etc everyone well up for some fun right to the point of meeting up. Met the couple and chatted then started to play Sir (i am in a dom sub couple) has given permission for me to play with the male and often the woman but when i have approached the male they have just rejcted me and told me your not for me thanks and i just want to watch him with my mrs. I have now taken this personally as i feel it must be me Sir says its not its them but i wonder if any one else has felt down trodden after a meet like this or if its just me being over sensitive. I know im not everyones cup of tea but my pics are honest pics of me and we are up front and honest with everyone on here. Is it me or is it them "

i've felt like that a few times, every time its been when i was still married and we'd met other couples, once we met a couple as a couple and when they arrived everyone seemed to get along, well i suppose to chat with we did but when it came to playing the guy just totally ignored me and it ended up the woman having a 3sum with her fella and my ex, i just went down stairs and left them to it, i did feel pissed off because i would have rather him had told me i wasnt for him, i felt like he had lead me on so she could get what she wanted and i didnt want to say anything because i didnt want to spoil their fun

And something pretty much the same another couple we met where the guy had no interest in me at all, he was just giving me a half hearted sympathy fiddle which to be honest was pissing me off as you could tell he didnt want to be doing it, so i told him if he didnt want to play with me he didnt have to and he shot off over to his mrs and joined in with her and my hubby

We even met one couple where the woman from the couple actually kept pushing me away every time i tried to join in so i ended up walking out the room and just leaving them to it as i was sick of being made to feel in the way

It does make you feel, bloody hell am i that bad!

i dont have that any more tho as im now single and only play if i feel happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if i took knock backs personally, i'd have thrown myself off a bridge years ago

you have to realise that whilst some people are more attractive to a wider cross-section, no one is attractive to everyone

concentrate on the ones that do find you attractive rather than the ones that don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I can certainly understand and sympathise with how you feel.

At the point of messaging this couple said you were not for them then fair enough, they are entitled to make that decision and it might have made you feel 'huh they only like him and not me' but after that initial reaction you'd have been ok.

If all the messaging went ok, pics seen etc, and at the initial point of meeting, before play, they said 'we will play with him but not you' again its their prerogative and they have been honest.

But if they have agreed to go to a room with both of you, get undressed and then suddenly say 'right not you love, just want to see my wife with him' then they are cheeky bastards. I'd tell them that we are a couple and that's how we play and I'd walk at that point, both of us. They knew you were a couple before they took their clothes off, they should have made all this known before any play started. Bloody rudeness and I understand how you feel. In fairness and I don't mean offence I'd be upset with your man for going ahead with it and putting their feelings over yours, even if he gave you attention.

It was a bad experience, your out of there now and your ok, so chalk it up to experience and keep smiling x

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By *ub bbw OP   Woman
over a year ago

oldbury


"Hi there

Just looking to find out if anyone else takes it personally when they have had a met not go as it was planned. Recently had a meet or two where I have met as part of a couple with another couple after pic swaps and phone calls to verify who we are etc everyone well up for some fun right to the point of meeting up. Met the couple and chatted then started to play Sir (i am in a dom sub couple) has given permission for me to play with the male and often the woman but when i have approached the male they have just rejcted me and told me your not for me thanks and i just want to watch him with my mrs. I have now taken this personally as i feel it must be me Sir says its not its them but i wonder if any one else has felt down trodden after a meet like this or if its just me being over sensitive. I know im not everyones cup of tea but my pics are honest pics of me and we are up front and honest with everyone on here. Is it me or is it them

i've felt like that a few times, every time its been when i was still married and we'd met other couples, once we met a couple as a couple and when they arrived everyone seemed to get along, well i suppose to chat with we did but when it came to playing the guy just totally ignored me and it ended up the woman having a 3sum with her fella and my ex, i just went down stairs and left them to it, i did feel pissed off because i would have rather him had told me i wasnt for him, i felt like he had lead me on so she could get what she wanted and i didnt want to say anything because i didnt want to spoil their fun

And something pretty much the same another couple we met where the guy had no interest in me at all, he was just giving me a half hearted sympathy fiddle which to be honest was pissing me off as you could tell he didnt want to be doing it, so i told him if he didnt want to play with me he didnt have to and he shot off over to his mrs and joined in with her and my hubby

We even met one couple where the woman from the couple actually kept pushing me away every time i tried to join in so i ended up walking out the room and just leaving them to it as i was sick of being made to feel in the way

It does make you feel, bloody hell am i that bad!

i dont have that any more tho as im now single and only play if i feel happy "

at least you got a sympathy fiddle i offered to suck his cock and just got told no thanks i want to watch them ive never taken a knockback this bad before but i felt like you that i didnt want to spoil anyones fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"at least you got a sympathy fiddle i offered to suck his cock and just got told no thanks i want to watch them ive never taken a knockback this bad before but i felt like you that i didnt want to spoil anyones fun"

to be honest id sooner someone just say no to me than play with me out of obligation knowing they didnt want to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a horrible thread no wonder you felt upset x

We don't play in first meets to avoid this, we have met a few who's pics were nothing like them and one couple especially where the male half was just a complete arsehole. We do things this way as we are 100% certain that we aren't everyone's type either xx

Try not to let it all get you down too much x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try not to take it personally darlin...i know from experience its not easy to do...but it's their problem not yours. If they want to be like that, then reflect that in their verfication so they are aware, and shout NEXT!! There are plenty of men out there who love us BBW's, more than you realise, so listen to Sir, he knows you best, and just keep on being your sexy self "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I have a re-think of what I've just said.

Its all well and good saying, I wouldn't allow that' etc, when its not happening to us but when you are in that position, in that room, naked with those people, you are vulnerable in a way and you are faced with stopping it all and being accused of being a jealous diva and causing a fuss or just getting on with it and putting a brave face on and kEeping the peace. Its not always easy.

But if you say nothing you end up being hurt for a while afterwards - not always clear cut

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Can I have a re-think of what I've just said.

Its all well and good saying, I wouldn't allow that' etc, when its not happening to us but when you are in that position, in that room, naked with those people, you are vulnerable in a way and you are faced with stopping it all and being accused of being a jealous diva and causing a fuss or just getting on with it and putting a brave face on and kEeping the peace. Its not always easy.

But if you say nothing you end up being hurt for a while afterwards - not always clear cut "

This is why kev and i have a safe word...it is naural for us brits not to want to "make a fuss" and kev knows that i will go with the flow rather than cause a scene, so when we first started meeting off sites rather than just pulling blokes he insisted we have one.It is even useful when having a social pre play meet if one of us doesnt fancy the bloke...which is when kev uses it the most.

We can both use it at any time and it is an indication we need to speak to each other privately.The Op's situation is exactly the kind of thing it was designed for. i have only used it once, when i just wasnt in the mood for my normal group sex and felt inundated....it was a quick, non attention seeking way of telling kev .

Strangely enough i dont have a safe word in bdsm, but it is where the concept comes from.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a 'safe' word is a good idea, but don't really see why you would need one in a regular meet. I would just end it. I'm not interested if a 'scene' or anything occurs, as I wouldn't be meeting them again anyhow.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"I think a 'safe' word is a good idea, but don't really see why you would need one in a regular meet. I would just end it. I'm not interested if a 'scene' or anything occurs, as I wouldn't be meeting them again anyhow."

I think it is most useful for the couple themselves...to ensure they are communicating fully.

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By *lam rockerMan
over a year ago

Tain

sub-bbw

sorry to hear of this. Don't let it put you off.

It's a shame when people don't play properly or behave when playing, especially in someone' else's home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a safe word is an excellent idea for couples to use. The last thing you'd want is one partner of the couple saying 'stop I'm hating this' and the other partner saying 'no its ok, your overreacting'.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"I think a safe word is an excellent idea for couples to use. The last thing you'd want is one partner of the couple saying 'stop I'm hating this' and the other partner saying 'no its ok, your overreacting'. "

Well if that partner wants to go home and sleep on the sofa for the next month he could try it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always meet socially first because no matter how well you get on in messages etc, there's no guarantee there'll be mutual sexual attraction.

Personally it's easy to play the "victim". There are several threads running at the moment: white guys claiming to be bottom of the food chain, black guys wondering why people don't want to meet them, chubby guys getting in on the whine too...it's easy to look at our own "flaws" and use that as an excuse, when the simple answer is, no one on earth has universal appeal.

Op, I'm not saying that's what you're doing, I can't imagine how you feel, however, I'm surprised also you're partner was prepared to play while you were excluded.

This is supposed to be fun for all, operative word ALL! Unlike others on here I wouldn't sacrifice my happiness for strangers...what's that all about? If I weren't included then I wouldn't hang around.

Don't make excuses for your selfish partner, if you do expect more of the same.

Chin up.

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By *ub bbw OP   Woman
over a year ago

oldbury

I am not playing the victim I just wondered if others have felt bad I seem to have opened up

A lot of mixed responses to this and not all of them positive I know I'm not every ones cup of tea but it's still not nice to be rejected

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am not playing the victim I just wondered if others have felt bad I seem to have opened up

A lot of mixed responses to this and not all of them positive I know I'm not every ones cup of tea but it's still not nice to be rejected"

I didn't say you were a victim, I'm a size 22 and know I wont appeal to everyone.

I've never been in your position, but I play alone and men contact me. Personally, I'd have been more upset with my partner than the other man, but that's my opinion.

When you post on an open forum you will get varying opinions.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Maybe your dom needs to have vetted them a bit more?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i know it's not quite the same, but when i have been to the sauna with my fb, we have a prior agreement that if we get in a threesome situation and it becomes apparent that 1 of us is there 'as an accessory' then we simply open the door and leave the room

no words required - actions speak louder sometimes !

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"Personally, I'd have been more upset with my partner than the other man, but that's my opinion.

"

Unless it had been agreed in advance that I wasnt bothered about whether I played or not, I would have been more annoyed at my partner too. Particularly if we were supposed to be meeting as a 'couple'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Part of the course i think . However i wouldn't let it get to you . Everyone has different tastes . You have to be true to yourself and keep your chin up .

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By *ub bbw OP   Woman
over a year ago

oldbury

Someone knows they are in the dog house over last night beautiful flowers have just been delivered a new dress has been sent by courier and instructions to meet him at a restaurant for dinner tomorrow as he knows I have plans tonight.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Sometimes meets don't go according to plan but that's part and parcel of swinging.

We experienced something similar not long after we started swinging and it wasn't nice at all.

If we ever see that the other is not enjoying themselves, being pushed out etc then we stop the play. I would be really upset with Mr B if he carried on and just thought of himself and vice versa.

Would much rather people be honest and upfront rather than 'take one for the team'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely meet as a couple play as a couple that's a no brainer

so when they contacted she turns to hubby and say's "I want that one" and even though he has no intention of joining in leads everyone up the proverbial garden path Bastard

Name and Shame it's your duty lol

after all there are heaps of single guys out here they could misuse

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By *ucky_LadsCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Kidderminster+ surrounding areas.

wish i had the chance to meet you,your dom ought to take better care of you for sure and it is the guys that don't play with you thjat are missing out and not you!.

xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was kind of rude of them not to outline that before you met, but its his loss in the end.

just take it as a lesson learned and next time before you meet make sure that everyone wants everyone else ( if that is the kind of play you are looking for)

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I would say Sir is wrong... it is not them. If he chooses for you, he should have ensured that the dynamic was more than likely to work.. never guaranteed until you all meet up.

Then any member can change his or her mind.

Without being blamed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"wish i had the chance to meet you,your dom ought to take better care of you for sure and it is the guys that don't play with you thjat are missing out and not you!.

xx"

I'd have to disagree with you: if you don't appeal to someone they're not missing out are they?

It's down to the individuals within a couple to ensure both parties are having fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sorry to hear about your bad meets.

My partner and I always meet the couple for a drink in a pub first, as this gives a chance for more vetting, and checking the other couple are happy. This is their opportunity to say 'no ta', or 'just play with the mr/mrs' etc. So if we then went back to play and there was any excluding going on, play would stop and we/they would be leaving.

We also have a safe word/sign to let eachother know there is a problem during play.

I hope this is useful. I dont think u should beat urself up about how u were treated. Perhaps changing how u both swing would prevent future bad behaviour from meets?

*big hugs* x

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By *ub bbw OP   Woman
over a year ago

oldbury


"I would say Sir is wrong... it is not them. If he chooses for you, he should have ensured that the dynamic was more than likely to work.. never guaranteed until you all meet up.

Then any member can change his or her mind.

Without being blamed."

He didn't choose for me this was a meet we both agreed on it was the other woman who changed the dynamic she asked of she could bring him and when we asked to chat to him we did and all parties were in agreement that we would play we did sit and chat first and then play was instigated by her then he pulled the plug on any play

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"I would say Sir is wrong... it is not them. If he chooses for you, he should have ensured that the dynamic was more than likely to work.. never guaranteed until you all meet up.

Then any member can change his or her mind.

Without being blamed.

He didn't choose for me this was a meet we both agreed on it was the other woman who changed the dynamic she asked of she could bring him and when we asked to chat to him we did and all parties were in agreement that we would play we did sit and chat first and then play was instigated by her then he pulled the plug on any play "

cool

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"wish i had the chance to meet you,your dom ought to take better care of you for sure and it is the guys that don't play with you thjat are missing out and not you!.

xx

I'd have to disagree with you: if you don't appeal to someone they're not missing out are they?

It's down to the individuals within a couple to ensure both parties are having fun. "

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By *ucky_LadsCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Kidderminster+ surrounding areas.


"It's down to the individuals within a couple to ensure both parties are having fun. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would say Sir is wrong... it is not them. If he chooses for you, he should have ensured that the dynamic was more than likely to work.. never guaranteed until you all meet up.

Then any member can change his or her mind.

Without being blamed.

He didn't choose for me this was a meet we both agreed on it was the other woman who changed the dynamic she asked of she could bring him and when we asked to chat to him we did and all parties were in agreement that we would play we did sit and chat first and then play was instigated by her then he pulled the plug on any play "

That's not the impression you gave in your OP!

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Ok although I do feel for you you did put yourself on a vulnerable situation. Big assumption but I'm presuming that said 'sir' is a fb or such and not your partner and that you didn't have a social with this couple on a separate night. If you play as a couple when you arent a couple, don't have a pure social in advance and invite people you haven't met before to play in your house this is a risk you run. As this is not the first time it has happened and it upsets you so much you may want to re_iew how and who you meet? Just my opinion but a wise man once said that doing the same thing in the same way and expecting a different result is the definition of madness. Lol

Seriously though, someone for everyone. No point if you're not enjoying it!

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Apologies for silly icons at end of post! Damn new phone!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok although I do feel for you you did put yourself on a vulnerable situation. Big assumption but I'm presuming that said 'sir' is a fb or such and not your partner and that you didn't have a social with this couple on a separate night. If you play as a couple when you arent a couple, don't have a pure social in advance and invite people you haven't met before to play in your house this is a risk you run. As this is not the first time it has happened and it upsets you so much you may want to re_iew how and who you meet? Just my opinion but a wise man once said that doing the same thing in the same way and expecting a different result is the definition of madness. Lol

Seriously though, someone for everyone. No point if you're not enjoying it! "

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

If we were meeting couples and playing as a couple...if one half of either couple didn't want to play then we would call it off....it isn't worth arranging a foursome if it is going to end up a threesome.

If your "sir" didn't stop the play knowing you would be feeling bad then I think you need to look at his actions more than anyone else.

When we have meets, we don't have a safe word as such....it is just a look from me to the OH that he knows there is something I am not happy with.... happily I have only used it once but his knowing I wasn't happy with something was enough to stop play.

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By *littylikka69Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

it has got to work and be fun for all four or it just ain't working at all.

something drastically wrong with op's communications with dom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feel bad for the OP, what a horrible situation to be in, that's something that puts me off meeting couples, I worry too much that I would be the booby prize so to speak.

However, if you are in a close committed relationship it is unacceptable to carry on playing when your partner has been humiliated in their own home. No idea of the type of relationship the OP has but I would have left the bedroom and ,walked straight out the front door if I had been put into that situation.

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By *ucky_LadsCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Kidderminster+ surrounding areas.

i do feel for her as she was badly let down by her dom who should never have continued playing if she was left out!,a very bad move in my opinion,

it is after all supposed to be fun for all.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"i do feel for her as she was badly let down by her dom who should never have continued playing if she was left out!,a very bad move in my opinion,

it is after all supposed to be fun for all.

"

unless he was deliberately using humiliation i tend to agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" when i have approached the male they have just rejcted me and told me your not for me thanks and i just want to watch him with my mrs."

That would be a dealbreaker for either of us, whichever way around that was. As far as I'm concerned, one out all out, their loss.

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont let it get to you

But can i just say that if that ever appended to us as a couple then neither of us would play we would both walk away xx"
Wouldn't have thought there was any other option.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know it's been said already but if that was me, I'd be rethinking my choice of Dom. A dom is supposed to protect his sub at all costs just as she puts all her effort in for him. I would have kicked his arse out the door faster than anything, as the whole thing sounds extremely disrespectful.

No amount of flowers or dresses would forgive that, but if thats what floats your boat...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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at least you got a sympathy fiddle i offered to suck his cock and just got told no thanks i want to watch them ive never taken a knockback this bad before but i felt like you that i didnt want to spoil anyones fun"
Sorry..sorry for your troubles, and sorry cause when it comes to sub-dom, i'm less than a novice, so i'm no doubt speaking from a position of naivety...but next time? SPOIL EVERYONES FUN!!! xx

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By *ub bbw OP   Woman
over a year ago

oldbury

It's not a bad choice in Dom it was me being a stubborn cow and deciding not to say anything he has humiliated me before and made me watch which just turned me on even more but this time felt different I have a very good relationship with him in and out the bedroom so it was part my fault for not calling it off he has now changed the way we will play in future with other people so this never happens again

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"It's not a bad choice in Dom it was me being a stubborn cow and deciding not to say anything he has humiliated me before and made me watch which just turned me on even more but this time felt different I have a very good relationship with him in and out the bedroom so it was part my fault for not calling it off he has now changed the way we will play in future with other people so this never happens again "

glad you have got it sorted, not sure I am getting why you have gone from feeling like someone from a reject bin to part ownership of the issue and all in 24 hours but glad you feel you have a way forward.

good luck for the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi there

Just looking to find out if anyone else takes it personally when they have had a met not go as it was planned. Recently had a meet or two where I have met as part of a couple with another couple after pic swaps and phone calls to verify who we are etc everyone well up for some fun right to the point of meeting up. Met the couple and chatted then started to play Sir (i am in a dom sub couple) has given permission for me to play with the male and often the woman but when i have approached the male they have just rejcted me and told me your not for me thanks and i just want to watch him with my mrs. I have now taken this personally as i feel it must be me Sir says its not its them but i wonder if any one else has felt down trodden after a meet like this or if its just me being over sensitive. I know im not everyones cup of tea but my pics are honest pics of me and we are up front and honest with everyone on here. Is it me or is it them

i've felt like that a few times, every time its been when i was still married and we'd met other couples, once we met a couple as a couple and when they arrived everyone seemed to get along, well i suppose to chat with we did but when it came to playing the guy just totally ignored me and it ended up the woman having a 3sum with her fella and my ex, i just went down stairs and left them to it, i did feel pissed off because i would have rather him had told me i wasnt for him, i felt like he had lead me on so she could get what she wanted and i didnt want to say anything because i didnt want to spoil their fun

And something pretty much the same another couple we met where the guy had no interest in me at all, he was just giving me a half hearted sympathy fiddle which to be honest was pissing me off as you could tell he didnt want to be doing it, so i told him if he didnt want to play with me he didnt have to and he shot off over to his mrs and joined in with her and my hubby

We even met one couple where the woman from the couple actually kept pushing me away every time i tried to join in so i ended up walking out the room and just leaving them to it as i was sick of being made to feel in the way

It does make you feel, bloody hell am i that bad!

i dont have that any more tho as im now single and only play if i feel happy "

If its your partner they wanted then why did they not ask a single bloke?

Theres enough of them on here

I know theres been meets where they only want the female half of the couple and the male has been pushed out.

We have come across this a few times and have just made excuses and left.

It says on our profile we are a couple and play together so thats what we do. xxx

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